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An Apology - Building And Creating A Better Shark Pool (1 Viewer)

Joe Bryant

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From the Aaron Rodgers thread.

@massraider
Hey @Hot Sauce Guy I hope you learned a valuable lesson here about giving a thoughtful and thorough answer to a question.

And before the inevitable, thanks, that's fascinating, whatever do you mean? question, here's my answer:

He laid out points for exactly why he thought it was trolling, none of which are shocking. What did he get? Ignore every point, and condescendingly explain that not everyone who disagrees is trolling.

Which is not what he said, is it? Like the original posts he was referring to, it's opinion assigned to people.

This entire routine--everyone who has a bad word to say Rodgers is not thinking clearly, they are blinded by hate that has nothing to do with football, and only a few of us free thinkers are able to objectively evaluate him--is unbelievably smug.

Sorry, what's that? No one actually said the above statement? Am I assigning a position to people?

Apologies, that must be annoying.

@Hot Sauce Guy
And they wonder why so many good contributors have left this site. It’s a ****ing mystery I tell ya!
:doh:

First, thanks for the posts above. If I'm being honest, as someone who tries too much to please, they're hard to hear. But necessary. I may not agree with them. But what I think doesn't matter. If these folks have these opinions, I've done something wrong.

I have people tell me I'm dumb for paying to host a forum and allowing posts like that. I have the opposite thought in I think it's the right way to do business. At the risk of being way too dramatic, it's a little like allowing folks to burn a flag. One should always be allowed to state how they feel about things. Whether it's a government or something as trivial as how a fantasy football site is run.

Clearly, I have been wrong in how I contributed to the thread. I apologize and stand corrected.

My job is to create a forum and community where people can have fun discussing fantasy football. I've obviously been missing the mark there and I apologize.

Let's get back on track in creating and continuing a strong community.

Thanks and let's keep building this thing. 🙏

If you have thoughts on how we can make this forum better, please share here. Either way, thanks for being part of what I think is the best fantasy football forum out there.

J
 
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I don't know what all you posted that drew those comments, I haven't read a whole lot of the thread. But whether those replies were called for or not, that is a cool thing of you to say, considering you have the option to be spiteful and go handing out temporary bans if you wanted.
 
have no idea what all that was about....and I can't imagine policing a site like this....lot of testosterone up in here (sorry ladies) and people (like me) who think they are right 99% of the time...so there will be issues...I know I've crossed the "be excellent" line a few times mostly in an "I told you so" way when I was right and wanted everybody to know it.....and caught a couple of suspensions...but I try to remember all the way back in the fax machines days when the message of being excellent was the same as it is today....
 
We are not pros, at least not most of us. I get a vibe from staff that will engage, that feels a little dismissive or a little on the pious side. Now that is not always. Most responses are courteous and more respectful, other times I can clearly see a bias and a want to quelsh responses that don't fit the narrative of the enlightened. That would be okay if we were allowed the same latitude. On our end it's all supposition and hearsay that we go on. Who's to say Schefter didn't get a crappy burrito and then decides to take it out on Fields? We have to take things at face value here, and go from there. As such wild theories and accusations are thrown about and that makes this place a unique space to work out what is and isn't. I for one think as Joe has stated this is one of the best or even THE best Fantasy Football boards out there. If that is what we all want then let's all move forward in this vision while realizing there is not just one true way to get there.
 
From what I could discern, the problem wasn't so much stating one's stance so much as re-stating and again and pushing it without any excellence. Maybe, in addition to the admonition to "be excellent to each other", the question should also be addressed from the negative POV, with stated consequences. (Maybe include an example of overstating and douching).
 
In general most forums have been in a slow decline. The format has been usurped by twitter, reddit, or discord.

This one has not declined as many as most and in general the level of trolling and arguing here is lower than average when compared to most sites.

If trolling chased people away reddit, twitter, etc would have fallen apart years ago.
 
There’s a lot of reasons people leave a forum. I think @Joe Bryant has done a pretty good job moderating this thing to his liking. Sure, it’s a bit much at times, but I’m not so sure people are leaving because the fantasy football talk is moderated too heavily. Now, getting rid of the yoga pants thread? Different story.

I personally like the moderation. There’s nothing worse than a bunch of back and forth personal attacks when wading through a thread. Maybe you could ease up a tad, but please don’t let this thing slide into the abyss.
 
I’m amazed that any adult on this forum would have their feelings hurt because someone disagrees with them or trolls to illicit a response.

Like anyone who has posted on this site for a number of years, I have had negative back and forth’s but nothing that would cause me to hit the report or the ignore button. I do have a good laugh when posters declare themselves “free or right thinking”. Jesus, get over yourself.

But I can disagree with almost anyone and still enjoy reading their relevant and thoughtful posts 😎
 
From what I could discern, the problem wasn't so much stating one's stance so much as re-stating and again and pushing it without any excellence. Maybe, in addition to the admonition to "be excellent to each other", the question should also be addressed from the negative POV, with stated consequences. (Maybe include an example of overstating and douching).
Well said.
 
I was disappointed at the closing of the Politics Forum because I basically enjoyed most of the conversations i had there. it is clear now that it was the right decision at the time. It still is. The closing of that forum really did eliminate a lot of the snark and general ill will that had been festering here on the boards as I felt it spilled over into other forum categories. I appreciate that it was closed. It was a gutsy call that likely lost FBG some quality forum posters and/or subscribers. The specific benefit I have personally noticed is that I can now have respectful conversations with some fellow Eagles fans whom I did NOT agree with politically. @Joe Bryant ,thanks for letting me express how I feel. I appreciate the ability to do so.

As for the Shark Pool and any/all non-excellent posts......I just choose to ignore them and scroll on. No reporting. No commenting. I do not have a desire to inform anyone about their faulty posts. I do not have a desire to police these boards at this period of time in my life. (I cannot say the same about myself 15+ years ago when I first became very active on this site.) I simply desire to have unique conversations regarding my all-time favorite sport, its teams, its players and its coaches. I wish there were many less instances of non-excellence but, I do not believe they can be completely eradicated. I really have no worthwhile suggestions as to how to curb the quantity of non-excellent posts. All I know for sure is that as I've aged I've become much less concerned with, or bothered by, personal slights directed at me. Skin gets thicker with age.

We are all basically anonymous here. I think that anonymity allows some of us to lower our decency standards because we know we are basically free of real world consequences that might otherwise affect us negatively. A short banning or suspension? Yeah, no. No real world pain felt as no real world consequences. Folks would think twice if they actually paid for the right to join these boards and converse with others. I truly understand why Joe is extremely reluctant to charge a fee for the right to use these boards but, I think if folks actually pay real money for something they would be very reluctant to jeopardize that and would spend a little more time considering the excellence of their posts. I guess that would be my suggestion. Start charging a fee. It is a useless suggestion that will most likely go nowhere, I will admit.
 
I’m amazed that any adult on this forum would have their feelings hurt because someone disagrees with them or trolls to illicit a response.
This is not directed at efactor I'm just choosing to highlight this concept and jump in here because I think it's crucial. But these are just general comments not directed at anyone.

It isn't (necessarily) about having feelings hurt. Think of what it's like when you're sitting somewhere pleasant outside with nice weather but there are a couple flies buzzing around your head. No matter how hard you try to either wave them away, or how much you try to ignore them, they still buzz and buzz and ultimately annoy enough that you must do something new to deal with it.
Well, I don't wanna get up off my cushiony patio chair when the spring sunshine is perfect. Learning to ignore them without response is not bad in this analogy but ultimately we know that those flies are just like forum trolls. What happens is you end up getting up and either moving the chair (leaving the forum) or getting fly strips or something (moderators).

But here is the take home message : nobody is offended or has feelings hurt by the flies, it's just obnoxious, annoying, pestering behavior and there is no excuse for it. Folks that behave like this like to hide behind a veneer of "don't be soft, you're too easily offended" when in reality that behavior is abhorrent

Otherwise the main thing I wanted to say is that I do believe that moderation is necessary and that one must enforce their rules in their own house. Free speech comes with consequences. If you're a guest in my house you have every right in the world to talk **** to me, but I also have every right in the world to ask you to leave. That's how that works. This is why I mute people and press ignore. Not because I'm offended or my feelings are hurt but because I don't like flies in my house and I don't really like them in other people's houses either.

I'm not sure if the argument was that heavier moderation was driving posters away or that looser moderation was driving posters away. I think I've heard both lol. I agree that forums in general have declined. Troll behavior has 100% driven people away from all kinds of online spaces, though. There is a bit of survivorship bias going on with only getting opinions and thoughts from active members, but what else are you going to do? Thanks for asking @Joe Bryant not sure any of my thoughts are helpful but there they are.
 
I think there were a few people “driven away” during the Political Forum era (what a fiasco, lol), but nobody is leaving FBG now due to under-moderation.

I think it’s possible Joe gets some DMs threatening to find another forum if this or that doesn’t change, but that’s what people do. FBG is as tightly regulated as anywhere. If you like forums to be moderated, this is the place.

Joe has a business to run and he’s going to cater to what demographic pays the bills. If the overwhelmingly vast majority of people wanted a looser ship, that’s what he would have to do to keep the same volume.
 
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I’m amazed that any adult on this forum would have their feelings hurt because someone disagrees with them or trolls to illicit a response.

Like anyone who has posted on this site for a number of years, I have had negative back and forth’s but nothing that would cause me to hit the report or the ignore button. I do have a good laugh when posters declare themselves “free or right thinking”. Jesus, get over yourself.

But I can disagree with almost anyone and still enjoy reading their relevant and thoughtful posts 😎
Pretty much my thoughts, exactly. I’ve never once turned someone in or blocked somebody. Give me a break, lol.

I’m here essentially for info. I can parse out what I like and don’t like.
 
I'm not sure if the argument was that heavier moderation was driving posters away or that looser moderation was driving posters away.
From what I gathered the complaints were not the amount (or lack) of moderation driving people away. The complaints were that while the behavior was the same, those with Opinion A were allowed to go on while those with Opinion B were moderated.
 
Is this real?

If I don't like something, I just don't read it. And I have no second thoughts about it. My views are different for a specific reason, which makes me less sensitive, I suppose. Treat people as you would want to be treated. It is easy. Everyone has an opinion, and that is fine with me. I respect that, and that is why I'm here. If you purposely troll and want to hurt people, then that is on you, and I feel for you. I can not be hurt emotionally or in any other way on a forum because it is a forum. This is for you, Joe. I appreciate your apology, and I understand what you're saying here, but it's disheartening to me that you felt compelled to post such a message. Please do not take my post the wrong way, it is not meant as a slam to you. It reveals the type of person you are, and that is a good and sincere.

And if you are a troll or want to argue and hurt another person with your opinions and views, well, know this: you have no idea that some people are here to escape real-life issues and real-life personal problems that are so completely devastating and beyond comprehension and I'm not talking about me or maybe I'am. As I mentioned earlier, I cannot be hurt; however, I do miss a world where people can have an opinion but also be respectful to other human beings.

It is a forum!!!!... It is meant for entertainment. "Rant Over"

"These are not the droids you are looking for".
 
Joe, I appreciate both your sincerity and openness regarding ways to improve the quality of the forum experience.

Personally, I'm of the opinion that you can adopt a bi-modal policy of 100% tolerance in the FFA forum and a 0% tolerance in the Shark Pool with respect to how people choose to behave, but then again I'm idealistic and don't want to accept the proposition that bad behavior in the former will lead to erosion of the latter. I'm partial to complete tolerance in the FFA because it enables people telling their real truth and revealing who they are, whereas zero tolerance in the shark pool keeps the focus on fantasy football as it should be.

Regardless, you don't need to apologize for the state of affairs in the forum community; that's primarily on the participants and their individual accountabilities. People choose how they behave, and they choose whether to comply with simple rules.
 
I appreciate the fly analogy from @barackdhouse. For me, though, the wealth of information, fact-based analysis, and opinion of "amateur experts" on Fantasy Football (specifically dynasty content) outweighs any annoyance that the flies bring. The sheer concentration of that info here beats out any of the other social media platforms where I have to wade through tons of other BS to find what I need. I fully understand that I may be one of those flies at times, but I'm always trying to be better!
 
95% of "trolling" is sincere miscommunication.
Sincere miscommunication is a really big deal.

Trolling is something else.

Mix the two together and we have a party.

There are a couple posters who come into the Eagles thread who just like to take pot shots at the other posters and add nothing to the discussion. I generally ignore them, but when other posters respond, now those of us who ignore these trolls have to wade through pages of back and forth in order to get to honest discussion that we're seeking. I love your fly analogy, sometimes you can't just sit back and ignore the fly or it ruins your day (thread).
 
95% of "trolling" is sincere miscommunication.
Sincere miscommunication is a really big deal.

Trolling is something else.

Mix the two together and we have a party.

There are a couple posters who come into the Eagles thread who just like to take pot shots at the other posters and add nothing to the discussion. I generally ignore them, but when other posters respond, now those of us who ignore these trolls have to wade through pages of back and forth in order to get to honest discussion that we're seeking. I love your fly analogy, sometimes you can't just sit back and ignore the fly or it ruins your day (thread).

Dude, you guys really gotta stop with the gaslighting.

There’s a couple of you that do this. It’s obvious to everyone that you’re doing it.
 
Thank y’all for the very kind words and the PMs.

I want to be super clear though, the posts I quoted in my original post here were directed to me with regard to the last few pages of the Aaron Rodgers thread with how annoying I was and how I was driving people away from the forum.

As a forum overall, I think we do a pretty good job of limiting trolling. And we define trolling as insincere comments posted just to get a reaction out of the other side.

Any forum will have some of that. We ask folks to try and have thick skin and understand different viewpoints and if you see something that is clearly over the line with someone posting things it seems clear they don’t mean just to get a reaction, we ask folks to report so we can address. That process normally works pretty well.

Please do not pull any discussion from that thread over here, but, I want it to be clear I was apologizing for me.
 
95% of "trolling" is sincere miscommunication.
Sincere miscommunication is a really big deal.

Trolling is something else.

Mix the two together and we have a party.

There are a couple posters who come into the Eagles thread who just like to take pot shots at the other posters and add nothing to the discussion. I generally ignore them, but when other posters respond, now those of us who ignore these trolls have to wade through pages of back and forth in order to get to honest discussion that we're seeking. I love your fly analogy, sometimes you can't just sit back and ignore the fly or it ruins your day (thread).

Dude, you guys really gotta stop with the gaslighting.

There’s a couple of you that do this. It’s obvious to everyone that you’re doing it.

The Cowboys - Eagles postings are understandably tense. It’s easy to see why given the rivalry and passionate fan bases.

Both sides bear responsibility there. (While of course, each side claims it’s totally the “other” side. ;) ) Please let’s not veer off to that in this thread.
 
I've enjoyed Joe's increased participation in starting threads and stimulating conversation. I think that's there has been more of this in the last year or maybe I just wasn't paying enough attention.

Thank you GB.

I’ve enjoyed it as well for the most part and it’s been intentional as I love the Forums. And I love the community. And of course, there are more options than ever for fantasy football discussion. Including our own Footballguys discord which is very popular. The forums have always been an integral part of what we do and I believe it’s super important to try and have them be as good as they can be.
 
95% of "trolling" is sincere miscommunication.

Absolutely GB.

And I think one can take it further. In a written forum like this, I believe the vast majority of posts seen as “negative” or “attacking” are massively over blown compared to the writers intent.

It’s human nature for most people to over index on valuing and protecting their ideas.

So they read into the post often times meaning far beyond the actual meaning.

I’ve seen this over and over on our forms here and in other places with written communication.

I’ve done it regularly where I’ll misinterpret a message. And I regularly have my messages misinterpreted.

It’s why I think the most important rule of any forum should be “assume the best“ of the other person. And to not take posts so personally. As very likely the writer cares way less about your position than you likely think they do.
 
I’m amazed that any adult on this forum would have their feelings hurt because someone disagrees with them or trolls to illicit a response.
This is not directed at efactor I'm just choosing to highlight this concept and jump in here because I think it's crucial. But these are just general comments not directed at anyone.

It isn't (necessarily) about having feelings hurt. Think of what it's like when you're sitting somewhere pleasant outside with nice weather but there are a couple flies buzzing around your head. No matter how hard you try to either wave them away, or how much you try to ignore them, they still buzz and buzz and ultimately annoy enough that you must do something new to deal with it.
Well, I don't wanna get up off my cushiony patio chair when the spring sunshine is perfect. Learning to ignore them without response is not bad in this analogy but ultimately we know that those flies are just like forum trolls. What happens is you end up getting up and either moving the chair (leaving the forum) or getting fly strips or something (moderators).

But here is the take home message : nobody is offended or has feelings hurt by the flies, it's just obnoxious, annoying, pestering behavior and there is no excuse for it. Folks that behave like this like to hide behind a veneer of "don't be soft, you're too easily offended" when in reality that behavior is abhorrent

Otherwise the main thing I wanted to say is that I do believe that moderation is necessary and that one must enforce their rules in their own house. Free speech comes with consequences. If you're a guest in my house you have every right in the world to talk **** to me, but I also have every right in the world to ask you to leave. That's how that works. This is why I mute people and press ignore. Not because I'm offended or my feelings are hurt but because I don't like flies in my house and I don't really like them in other people's houses either.

I'm not sure if the argument was that heavier moderation was driving posters away or that looser moderation was driving posters away. I think I've heard both lol. I agree that forums in general have declined. Troll behavior has 100% driven people away from all kinds of online spaces, though. There is a bit of survivorship bias going on with only getting opinions and thoughts from active members, but what else are you going to do? Thanks for asking @Joe Bryant not sure any of my thoughts are helpful but there they are.
Great post. Your attitude is similar to mine. I use the ignore button liberally because life is too short to put up with trolls and my experience here is greatly enhanced by not seeing their posts.

(Though I almost never use the report button unless I see something way, way, WAY over the line.)
 
95% of "trolling" is sincere miscommunication.
Sincere miscommunication is a really big deal.

Trolling is something else.

Mix the two together and we have a party.

There are a couple posters who come into the Eagles thread who just like to take pot shots at the other posters and add nothing to the discussion. I generally ignore them, but when other posters respond, now those of us who ignore these trolls have to wade through pages of back and forth in order to get to honest discussion that we're seeking. I love your fly analogy, sometimes you can't just sit back and ignore the fly or it ruins your day (thread).

Dude, you guys really gotta stop with the gaslighting.

There’s a couple of you that do this. It’s obvious to everyone that you’re doing it.

The Cowboys - Eagles postings are understandably tense. It’s easy to see why given the rivalry and passionate fan bases.

Both sides bear responsibility there. (While of course, each side claims it’s totally the “other” side. ;) ) Please let’s not veer off to that in this thread.

That's fair, but it would be nice if your moderators would go into those threads and remove posts from those people and clean it up. It's annoying.
 
We are not pros, at least not most of us. I get a vibe from staff that will engage, that feels a little dismissive or a little on the pious side. Now that is not always. Most responses are courteous and more respectful, other times I can clearly see a bias and a want to quelsh responses that don't fit the narrative of the enlightened. That would be okay if we were allowed the same latitude.

That's a good point and something we try to watch for. There should be equal latitude on both sides. If you see that not happening, please shoot me a PM or use the report button. Thank you.
 
I've found that entering retirement this spring requires some adjustments to what I want to consume online. The first thing I've done is quit reading so much news and current events that are so negative. I used to read something and tell my wife and she would reply, "why are you reading that crap?". I realized she is right. Why do I subject myself to stuff that just makes me stressed and anxious? The same thing applies here. I'm making a concerted effort not to get into back and forth stressful discussion here. Like someone said above, "life is too short". I want to have a peaceful state of mind in my golden years and something as trivial as getting into uneasy discussions here just isn't that important.
 
I've found that entering retirement this spring requires some adjustments to what I want to consume online. The first thing I've done is quit reading so much news and current events that are so negative. I used to read something and tell my wife and she would reply, "why are you reading that crap?". I realized she is right. Why do I subject myself to stuff that just makes me stressed and anxious? The same thing applies here. I'm making a concerted effort not to get into back and forth stressful discussion here. Like someone said above, "life is too short". I want to have a peaceful state of mind in my golden years and something as trivial as getting into uneasy discussions here just isn't that important.
A kinder, gentler Hightops? 😎

Your wife is a very wise person 👍
 
I've enjoyed Joe's increased participation in starting threads and stimulating conversation. I think that's there has been more of this in the last year or maybe I just wasn't paying enough attention.
Edit: Sorry JohnnyU this is verbose (my specialty) so scroll to the last line for the TLDR.

I think this point by moonlight played into some of what happened yesterday in the Rodgers post.

While I largely agreed with Joe's points he was bringing up in that thread, it was obvious some didn't. And to me, the fact that it was Joe making those points, challenging other's opinions (in what I feel was a respectful and productive way), exacerbated things. And, from my point of view, a few posters made it clear in their responses and tone that's how they felt. They didn't like that the creator/main moderator of the boards was disagreeing with and challenging their opinions. Again, that's my opinion and read of the situation; I'm open to being wrong but also don't really care to debate with people who feel slighted by my read of the situation as it's not going to change how I feel. Instead, I'll bring it back to myself in an older example of what I feel was basically the same thing transpiring.

I was on the "opposing" side of Joe not too long ago in the Caleb Williams thread. And while I don't think I'd change anything I said or feel differently now about the opinions I put forth; in retrospect I do think I responded differently and had different expectations of Joe than I would have had for just about any other board member. I think subconsciously I thought Joe should be held to some higher imaginary standard (ironically the point some were making about Rodgers being that he plays QB and not any other position) because he basically runs the boards. But to Moonlight's point, I also really like Joe's increased activity on the boards the past year or so from more of a "user" standpoint. You can tell he really has a love for this stuff, as well as this site and the boards; it's only natural he'd want to be an active participant. I don't know a great solution outside basically having an anonymous account he uses as "normie" and his Joe account he uses as a board runner and moderator. Even this doesn't quite seem fair, but I do think would resolve some issues where people (again, including myself in the past) have gotten a bit indignant, for lack of a better word, at being in a situation where you're in a heated disagreement with someone who obviously has a lot more power in a situation then the rest of those involved.

From a more macro view on the overall aspect of moderation; agree with many of the other posters in this thread. I don't think anyone has left these boards due to over/under moderation. And I believe the moderation here is excellent; so any insinuation that posters have left here because of moderation or lack thereof resulting in "trolls" running rampant is, IMO, unfounded. It's much more likely that there always existed some less-than-excellent posters stirring the pot, and some posters may have just become fed up over time. But that's a constant; there have always been some "buzzing flies" to a previous posters great analogy, and always will be. It's what comes with an anonymous online message board where people are largely given the freedom to share whatever opinions they want if done so in a respectful way (acknowledging we all likely have different definitions and standards for what constitutes respectful). I say this as someone who most definitely did leave and stop participating all together in what I'd figure is the biggest "competitor" to this forum as far as dynasty football message boards attached to a site that provides fantasy content. FBG doesn't come close to comparing to that place, where despite a much higher moderator presence and participation, IMO it was basically Twitter/Facebook-esque in terms of trolling/disrespect/purposeful ignorance.

Moderation is a spectrum; and we'll all fall at different preferences along that spectrum. There are times I'll wish there was more, there are times I'll wish there were less (so glad to have laugh reacts back); but I think the healthy way to view that is serenity prayer it. Do what you can to impact it with the tools you are given, and let go what's out of your control. Use the report function, start a discussion thread on the matter, message Joe privately, heck message the person that's drawing your ire privately. I've found, even with online anonymity, people will quickly change tone and show a different level of insight when approached privately rather than put on blast in the middle of a forum thread. Basic human psychology.

The fact Joe even started this thread speaks to the overall positive health of this forum as a whole. The things that arose in the Rodgers thread have always been here, and always will be. It's the tradeoff of the framework that gives us all the good stuff we have on the boards. People, including myself, need to take a little more ownership over our own actions and behaviors and stop always putting it on others, whether it's Joe, or the boards, or other specific posters. Use the tools available, and if all else fails, disconnect for a bit. Close the page and come back when you can control your emotions better; stop expecting/demanding the person you're arguing with to do that, as again, that is outside your control. The flies aren't going to stop buzzing your head, as they are flies and that's what they do. And, probably more importantly, what you see as flies, not everyone else does. Accept that your reality is not everyone else's; so Joe/FBG does not have some obligation to cater everything here to your individual ideals, regardless of how "right" you think you are in a matter.

I have to remind myself certain things daily, and one of my favorites I think applies here as well "Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one." And resolve yourself that that is enough; that no one owes you anything, even for being that "good man".
 
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I want to be super clear though, the posts I quoted in my original post here were directed to me with regard to the last few pages of the Aaron Rodgers thread with how annoying I was and how I was driving people away from the forum.
I didn't take their posts as a direct attack on you personally at all, JB. And I am sorry those posts got to you that way.

HSG & mass are good dudes and I am pretty sure they are both big fans of yours and your site. All the evidence points that way and a couple posts out of tens of thousands shouldn't draw that into question.

I also think HSG's premise is entirely inaccurate. People leave MBs for lots of reasons and, I imagine many of the posters HSG is referring to probably just lost interest in fantasy football and MBs overall as they got older.

Let's be real, most of the guys HSG is talking about leaving are old enough to get On Golden Pond references for goodness sake. So they probably just decided to focus more on their grandchildren, movinng into homes with single level floor plans and took up mall walking.

I sincerely doubt any of them left because the forum is under moderated or another poster drive them away.
 
I've enjoyed Joe's increased participation in starting threads and stimulating conversation. I think that's there has been more of this in the last year or maybe I just wasn't paying enough attention.
Edit: Sorry JohnnyU this is verbose (my specialty) so scroll to the last line for the TLDR.

I think this point by moonlight played into some of what happened yesterday in the Rodgers post.

While I largely agreed with Joe's points he was bringing up in that thread, it was obvious some didn't. And to me, the fact that it was Joe making those points, challenging other's opinions (in what I feel was a respectful and productive way), exacerbated things. And, from my point of view, a few posters made it clear in their responses and tone that's how they felt. They didn't like that the creator/main moderator of the boards was disagreeing with and challenging their opinions. Again, that's my opinion and read of the situation; I'm open to being wrong but also don't really care to debate with people who feel slighted by my read of the situation as it's not going to change how I feel. Instead, I'll bring it back to myself in an older example of what I feel was basically the same thing transpiring.

I was on the "opposing" side of Joe not too long ago in the Caleb Williams thread. And while I don't think I'd change anything I said or feel differently now about the opinions I put forth; in retrospect I do think I responded differently and had different expectations of Joe than I would have had for just about any other board member. I think subconsciously I thought Joe should be held to some higher imaginary standard (ironically the point some were making about Rodgers being that he plays QB and not any other position) because he basically runs the boards. But to Moonlight's point, I also really like Joe's increased activity on the boards the past year or so from more of a "user" standpoint. You can tell he really has a love for this stuff, as well as this site and the boards; it's only natural he'd want to be an active participant. I don't know a great solution outside basically having an anonymous account he uses as "normie" and his Joe account he uses as a board runner and moderator. Even this doesn't quite seem fair, but I do think would resolve some issues where people (again, including myself in the past) have gotten a bit indignant, for lack of a better word, at being in a situation where you're in a heated disagreement with someone who obviously has a lot more power in a situation then the rest of those involved.

From a more macro view on the overall aspect of moderation; agree with many of the other posters in this thread. I don't think anyone has left these boards due to over/under moderation. And I believe the moderation here is excellent; so any insinuation that posters have left here because of moderation or lack thereof resulting in "trolls" running rampant is, IMO, unfounded. It's much more likely that there always existed some less-than-excellent posters stirring the pot, and some posters may have just become fed up over time. But that's a constant; there have always been some "buzzing flies" to a previous posters great analogy, and always will be. It's what comes with an anonymous online message board where people are largely given the freedom to share whatever opinions they want if done so in a respectful way (acknowledging we all likely have different definitions and standards for what constitutes respectful). I say this as someone who most definitely did leave and stop participating all together in what I'd figure is the biggest "competitor" to this forum as far as dynasty football message boards attached to a site that provides fantasy content. FBG doesn't come close to comparing to that place, where despite a much higher moderator presence and participation, IMO it was basically Twitter/Facebook-esque in terms of trolling/disrespect/purposeful ignorance.

Moderation is a spectrum; and we'll all fall at different preferences along that spectrum. There are times I'll wish there was more, there are times I'll wish there were less (so glad to have laugh reacts back); but I think the healthy way to view that is serenity prayer it. Do what you can to impact it with the tools you are given, and let go what's out of your control. Use the report function, start a discussion thread on the matter, message Joe privately, heck message the person that's drawing your ire privately. I've found, even with online anonymity, people will quickly change tone and show a different level of insight when approached privately rather than put on blast in the middle of a forum thread. Basic human psychology.

The fact Joe even started this thread speaks to the overall positive health of this forum as a whole. The things that arose in the Rodgers thread have always been here, and always will be. It's the tradeoff of the framework that gives us all the good stuff we have on the boards. People, including myself, need to take a little more ownership over our own actions and behaviors and stop always putting it on others, whether it's Joe, or the boards, or other specific posters. Use the tools available, and if all else fails, disconnect for a bit. Close the page and come back when you can control your emotions better; stop expecting/demanding the person you're arguing with to do that, as again, that is outside your control. The flies aren't going to stop buzzing your head, as they are flies and that's what they do. And, probably more importantly, what you see as flies, not everyone else does. Accept that your reality is not everyone else's; so Joe/FBG does not have some obligation to cater everything here to your individual ideals, regardless of how "right" you think you are in a matter.

I have to remind myself certain things daily, and one of my favorites I think applies here as well "Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one." And resolve yourself that that is enough; that no one owes you anything, even for being that "good man".

Thank you GB. That's a thoughtful and insightful post and you captured a ton of stuff I've been trying to convey and said it much better than I have. Thanks.

I think there is absolutley some dynamic there in play as site owner and a disconnect as I see folks here as peers on the same level. But it's a good reminder that I need to be cognizant and empathetic there. Thanks.
 
I want to be super clear though, the posts I quoted in my original post here were directed to me with regard to the last few pages of the Aaron Rodgers thread with how annoying I was and how I was driving people away from the forum.
I didn't take their posts as a direct attack on you personally at all, JB. And I am sorry those posts got to you that way.

HSG & mass are good dudes and I am pretty sure they are both big fans of yours and your site. All the evidence points that way and a couple posts out of tens of thousands shouldn't draw that into question.

I also think HSG's premise is entirely inaccurate. People leave MBs for lots of reasons and, I imagine many of the posters HSG is referring to probably just lost interest in fantasy football and MBs overall as they got older.

Let's be real, most of the guys HSG is talking about leaving are old enough to get On Golden Pond references for goodness sake. So they probably just decided to focus more on their grandchildren, movinng into homes with single level floor plans and took up mall walking.

I sincerely doubt any of them left because the forum is under moderated or another poster drive them away.
I’m totally moving into a home with a single level floor plan once my son is out of the house. Hopefully I’ll still be on these boards, though.
 

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