Like I bother to learn their names.If I am dealing with females during my job I call them by their name like Good morning Liz, Kara...if I don`t know all their names I just say Good morning..and that's it
I make it a point to learn and remember all the people names I deal with.Like I bother to learn their names.
This is the problem. At some point, someone got offended so they started using a different term. Then others got offended so they started using another different term. Before long, there were 10 different terms and a large group was offended by each of those terms. The problem isn't the term. It's the people getting offended.The author and anyone else having a problem with this are welcome to get together and come up with an agreed-upon word they can be called that is equivalent to "guys". That's what we're looking for here. It's not the fault of men that "guys" has aged appropriately in recent decades while "gals" hasn't.
Most women under retirement age would say "he is the best looking guy I ever kissed". And most men would say "she is the best looking girl I ever kissed". #### off to anyone who tries to imply that a 30 year old saying that is a pedophile because he must be talking about someone underage.
That 30 year old guy would get laughed at by women of all ages if he was talking about kissing "some gal".
I find that period offensive to women in this #metoo era.Here is the list of things that don’t offend someone
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dames, dolls, skirts etc all kind of make some sense in terms of the word.We’re still ok with “skirts” and “broads” though, right?
It's my board. I try to have topics I think are interesting.Dam JB..giving Tim a run for his money on topic starting as of late.
I'm befuddled by this thread. I believe you were sincere in this question, but you acknowledged there are virtually no women here, so how did you expect to get a good answer? Although I know you didn't intend it this way, it could be viewed as more patronizing than the word "girl" to ask a board full of men what women think about an experience that is specifically female.My question - what is the word women would prefer we use?
That's nice, babe. But the men are having a conversation here.I'm befuddled by this thread. I believe you were sincere in this question, but you acknowledged there are virtually no women here, so how did you expect to get a good answer? Although I know you didn't intend it this way, it could be viewed as more patronizing than the word "girl" to ask a board full of men what women think about an experience that is specifically female.
As a result, the thread has gone as one would expect. Are you learning what you'd hoped? It seems like naturally you're getting a whole lot of male perspective instead. I assume you know women IRL and do not have a Pencian restriction on interacting with them. Have you talked with them as well? There are some excellent posts from people who understand nuance and context, but I don't think you can get the woman's perspective here, even if there were such a thing.
I haven't read the article because I suspect it's the kind of click-bait that would irritate me. I'm surprised to find that it appears that some people weren't aware this was an issue. I went to an extremely liberal women's college, so I guess I was exposed to it much earlier than most. And I've been calling groups of people of whatever gender "guys" since the 90s and didn't know that was considered unusual.
I have female friends who would be all over the spectrum on this question. For me, it's about context. The work interaction someone described was a good example of this; in that context I would have had the same reaction that it was being used to demean. In most situations "girl" at work is going to be inappropriate; we're past the "I'll have my girl call your girl" days. On the other hand, being greeted in a restaurant or a social situation with "girls" doesn't bother me.
I generally don't use the term "girls" because I know it does bother some people, and I don't have a goal to offend or more importantly to tell anyone else what they should be offended by. I'd rather make people comfortable and happy, and this applies in the context of terminology for gay/lesbian, trans, racial minorities, etc. It's really not as difficult as some people are making it out to be. Most situations can be addressed with a neutral or with no word at all.
Signed,
Toots
Sorry, I shouldn't worry my pretty little head about it.That's nice, babe. But the men are having a conversation here.
Now, how can we be better in the way we treat women? Do any other guys have any suggestions?
I know that. I was stating "ladies" struck me as a bit off but I would defer to the female collective. Not sure her view reflects the majority.Disagree.
Odd post, considering you were responding to a woman expressing that she'd prefer "ladies".
Thanks. I thought acknowledging we were mostly guys here was the respectful thing to do. I copied and pasted the same message (less the 'we're mostly guys' thing) to my facebook. And I asked several women in real life. Believe it or not, I have life outside FBG.I'm befuddled by this thread. I believe you were sincere in this question, but you acknowledged there are virtually no women here, so how did you expect to get a good answer? Although I know you didn't intend it this way, it could be viewed as more patronizing than the word "girl" to ask a board full of men what women think about an experience that is specifically female.
As a result, the thread has gone as one would expect. Are you learning what you'd hoped? It seems like naturally you're getting a whole lot of male perspective instead. I assume you know women IRL and do not have a Pencian restriction on interacting with them. Have you talked with them as well? There are some excellent posts from people who understand nuance and context, but I don't think you can get the woman's perspective here, even if there were such a thing.
I haven't read the article because I suspect it's the kind of click-bait that would irritate me. I'm surprised to find that it appears that some people weren't aware this was an issue. I went to an extremely liberal women's college, so I guess I was exposed to it much earlier than most. And I've been calling groups of people of whatever gender "guys" since the 90s and didn't know that was considered unusual.
I have female friends who would be all over the spectrum on this question. For me, it's about context. The work interaction someone described was a good example of this; in that context I would have had the same reaction that it was being used to demean. In most situations "girl" at work is going to be inappropriate; we're past the "I'll have my girl call your girl" days. On the other hand, being greeted in a restaurant or a social situation with "girls" doesn't bother me.
I generally don't use the term "girls" because I know it does bother some people, and I don't have a goal to offend or more importantly to tell anyone else what they should be offended by. I'd rather make people comfortable and happy, and this applies in the context of terminology for gay/lesbian, trans, racial minorities, etc. It's really not as difficult as some people are making it out to be. Most situations can be addressed with a neutral or with no word at all.
Signed,
Toots
I know you weren’t; no apology necessary. I wanted to make you aware of that since you were seeking genuine feedback.Thanks. I thought acknowledging we were mostly guys here was the respectful thing to do. I copied and pasted the same message (less the 'we're mostly guys' thing) to my facebook. And I asked several women in real life. Believe it or not, I have life outside FBG.
Wasn't trying to be patronizing at all and I apologize it seemed that way.
So dumb.Terrible click bait article.
I'm pissed i clicked on the link.
When I was a bartender in college, this is what I used no matter the age.I would like “ladies”. I don’t love girls. But I wouldn’t get mad. I agree gals sounds stupid.
sapp is known for being cheapWarren Sapp sure was a few years back. Stiffed a waitress on a big bill and left a note about how grown men don't want to be called boys. I thought that was as dumb as this article.
Dollshttps://www.bustle.com/articles/182414-why-we-need-to-stop-calling-women-girls
I do this but I can understand the point of the article. My question - what is the word women would prefer we use? (realizing there are few women here) Basically, what's the female equal to "guys"? "Gals" sounds dumb. Maybe there isn't one? Maybe just say "you"? Open to ideas here.
Most situations can be addressed with a neutral or with no word at all.
Good take.I'm befuddled by this thread. I believe you were sincere in this question, but you acknowledged there are virtually no women here, so how did you expect to get a good answer? Although I know you didn't intend it this way, it could be viewed as more patronizing than the word "girl" to ask a board full of men what women think about an experience that is specifically female.
As a result, the thread has gone as one would expect. Are you learning what you'd hoped? It seems like naturally you're getting a whole lot of male perspective instead. I assume you know women IRL and do not have a Pencian restriction on interacting with them. Have you talked with them as well? There are some excellent posts from people who understand nuance and context, but I don't think you can get the woman's perspective here, even if there were such a thing.
I haven't read the article because I suspect it's the kind of click-bait that would irritate me. I'm surprised to find that it appears that some people weren't aware this was an issue. I went to an extremely liberal women's college, so I guess I was exposed to it much earlier than most. And I've been calling groups of people of whatever gender "guys" since the 90s and didn't know that was considered unusual.
I have female friends who would be all over the spectrum on this question. For me, it's about context. The work interaction someone described was a good example of this; in that context I would have had the same reaction that it was being used to demean. In most situations "girl" at work is going to be inappropriate; we're past the "I'll have my girl call your girl" days. On the other hand, being greeted in a restaurant or a social situation with "girls" doesn't bother me.
I generally don't use the term "girls" because I know it does bother some people, and I don't have a goal to offend or more importantly to tell anyone else what they should be offended by. I'd rather make people comfortable and happy, and this applies in the context of terminology for gay/lesbian, trans, racial minorities, etc. It's really not as difficult as some people are making it out to be. Most situations can be addressed with a neutral or with no word at all.
Signed,
Toots
Sorry, I shouldn't worry my pretty little head about it.
i call women miss just about most of the timei think it shows respect and i had a woman tell me that calling a woman missus instead of miss was telling them they were old and that was not cool and she said miss was better so that is what i do what are your thoughts on that i also use lady and ladies a lot and no one has ever told me that was wrong so please give me some feedback thanks kristahan take that to the bankI'm befuddled by this thread. I believe you were sincere in this question, but you acknowledged there are virtually no women here, so how did you expect to get a good answer? Although I know you didn't intend it this way, it could be viewed as more patronizing than the word "girl" to ask a board full of men what women think about an experience that is specifically female.
As a result, the thread has gone as one would expect. Are you learning what you'd hoped? It seems like naturally you're getting a whole lot of male perspective instead. I assume you know women IRL and do not have a Pencian restriction on interacting with them. Have you talked with them as well? There are some excellent posts from people who understand nuance and context, but I don't think you can get the woman's perspective here, even if there were such a thing.
I haven't read the article because I suspect it's the kind of click-bait that would irritate me. I'm surprised to find that it appears that some people weren't aware this was an issue. I went to an extremely liberal women's college, so I guess I was exposed to it much earlier than most. And I've been calling groups of people of whatever gender "guys" since the 90s and didn't know that was considered unusual.
I have female friends who would be all over the spectrum on this question. For me, it's about context. The work interaction someone described was a good example of this; in that context I would have had the same reaction that it was being used to demean. In most situations "girl" at work is going to be inappropriate; we're past the "I'll have my girl call your girl" days. On the other hand, being greeted in a restaurant or a social situation with "girls" doesn't bother me.
I generally don't use the term "girls" because I know it does bother some people, and I don't have a goal to offend or more importantly to tell anyone else what they should be offended by. I'd rather make people comfortable and happy, and this applies in the context of terminology for gay/lesbian, trans, racial minorities, etc. It's really not as difficult as some people are making it out to be. Most situations can be addressed with a neutral or with no word at all.
Signed,
Toots
Thoughts? The generation of faux outrage over pretty much anything is firmly upon us. Not really sorry if you take offense to something as petty as this. I wouldn't do it at work but if after work we are out someplace I'm amoungst friends I'm pretty sure I've said exactly that, "what can I get your girls?" If I don't know you I'd probably say "ladies" instead because I'm not a total male chauvinist pig but if you get pissed at one, you should get pissed at the other.https://www.bustle.com/articles/182414-why-we-need-to-stop-calling-women-girls
I do this but I can understand the point of the article. My question - what is the word women would prefer we use? (realizing there are few women here) Basically, what's the female equal to "guys"? "Gals" sounds dumb. Maybe there isn't one? Maybe just say "you"? Open to ideas here.
This is my go to for this type of situation. Secondary response would actually be “guys” - I use that for generic groups of people."What can I get you ladies?"
"Miss" is a nice, polite term that seems suitable for any situation, especially coming from the ol' SWC'er. I can't see how anyone would mind "ladies," either. Most importantly, "brochacho" works for any person.i call women miss just about most of the timei think it shows respect and i had a woman tell me that calling a woman missus instead of miss was telling them they were old and that was not cool and she said miss was better so that is what i do what are your thoughts on that i also use lady and ladies a lot and no one has ever told me that was wrong so please give me some feedback thanks kristahan take that to the bank
It's not about you.When I'm out with other males I've gotten "What can I get you boys?" Should I be offended?
I was literally going to quote your post and write, I agree toots.I'm befuddled by this thread. I believe you were sincere in this question, but you acknowledged there are virtually no women here, so how did you expect to get a good answer? Although I know you didn't intend it this way, it could be viewed as more patronizing than the word "girl" to ask a board full of men what women think about an experience that is specifically female.
As a result, the thread has gone as one would expect. Are you learning what you'd hoped? It seems like naturally you're getting a whole lot of male perspective instead. I assume you know women IRL and do not have a Pencian restriction on interacting with them. Have you talked with them as well? There are some excellent posts from people who understand nuance and context, but I don't think you can get the woman's perspective here, even if there were such a thing.
I haven't read the article because I suspect it's the kind of click-bait that would irritate me. I'm surprised to find that it appears that some people weren't aware this was an issue. I went to an extremely liberal women's college, so I guess I was exposed to it much earlier than most. And I've been calling groups of people of whatever gender "guys" since the 90s and didn't know that was considered unusual.
I have female friends who would be all over the spectrum on this question. For me, it's about context. The work interaction someone described was a good example of this; in that context I would have had the same reaction that it was being used to demean. In most situations "girl" at work is going to be inappropriate; we're past the "I'll have my girl call your girl" days. On the other hand, being greeted in a restaurant or a social situation with "girls" doesn't bother me.
I generally don't use the term "girls" because I know it does bother some people, and I don't have a goal to offend or more importantly to tell anyone else what they should be offended by. I'd rather make people comfortable and happy, and this applies in the context of terminology for gay/lesbian, trans, racial minorities, etc. It's really not as difficult as some people are making it out to be. Most situations can be addressed with a neutral or with no word at all.
Signed,
Toots
Yes. Because it's 2019 and by God you simply HAVE TO be offended about everythingWhen I'm out with other males I've gotten "What can I get you boys?" Should I be offended?