Blackmail - serious question (1 Viewer)

[Judge Smails]

Scam. Block

 

[Judge Smails]

Do you typically get hot noods when the scammers initiate the conversation?

I may need to make a profile.

No. Most dating apps don’t even allow you to send pics. I think Bumble is the only one out of the 3 popular apps (Hinge, Bumble and Tinder)

Hinge is the only one I like. Bumble sucks and Tinder is 90% fake profiles and scammers.

If they are sending you nudes or anything overly provocative from the jump, they are 99% of the time scammers

If they try to get you over to WhatsApp, it’s an instant delete. Crypto scammers for sure.

99% of the time if it’s a hot Asian girl profile, don’t even bother. Left swipe and move on. Scammer.

That’s what I mean. I don’t care if it’s a scam. I’m not sending them anything. At least not of me. Sounds like a party.

All the nonsense happens off the apps. The inside app convo is used to get you comfortable and promises of pics or whatever after you send your number.

Most of the time after you send your number you don’t even hear from them. They just unmatch and likely sell your number to outside sources to spam text you.

I’d never give out my number. Always ask for their number for you to text them. Even then they still might be shady.

After a while you start to notice little things in your app convo to know if they are real or not. If their English is broken, abort. If they are instantly sexual, abort. If they speak in totally proper tones and weird run on sentences, abort. Real women are more casual in their words, use emojis, etc (you can just tell)

Reminds me of that story you told me in Vegas where you THOUGHT you could tell but really couldn’t

 

[culdeus]

I havent started a post, but i have read and commented since then.

Have you liked any of my posts? If not why not

 

[Van Dyman]

I dont have friend list displayable on FB. i dont know where they got them from. Like I said, 2 of the first names were my parents and they were deceased long before FB was around

There are tons of sites out there where you can pay to try find info on someone. Google your own name and you may be surprised what is available.

You don't even have to pay for basic information like possible former addresses and people at those addresses that might be related to you. I imagine the OP gave them his name and at least the town he lives in. Just put your name and town in a site like fastpeoplesearch.com and you might be surprised how much info you see right away without paying a dime.

ETA: you don't even necessarily need the name and town... just put the cell number in that site (under search, hit the phone tab at top) and all that info might come up - at least my wife's number did, while mine still only shows previous owner's of the number

This is pretty eye opening.
I typed in my work number and my name, work address, home address, cell #, and all previous phone #'s came up ... going back about 3 decades.
Along with every person in my family, some extended family, and a few people that I don't know. Kinda scary knowing this much info can be had with just a work phone number.

I'm finding this a useful tool to learn more about your neighbors ... since it lists your neighbors as well.
How old they are, where they use to live, how much they paid for their house, etc.
I'm diving deep into this rabbit hole.

that site is crazy!

Right!!!. I put my celly cell in and got a ton of correct info about me. I also saw a bunch of email addresses that were supposedly mine, but ones that I never had. Those are probably all email addresses created by scammers.

DANG! I put my old cell phone number in, from a former employer, and it brought up all my current and old information. Numbers, old addresses, relatives, in-laws. Holy cow.

 

[Chemical X]

i’ve seen this happen a lot and i’ve set up a small business helping people out of this same predicament. if you can send me a $50 amazon gift card i’ll make this whole thing go away.

 

[Mrs. Rannous]

I dont have friend list displayable on FB. i dont know where they got them from. Like I said, 2 of the first names were my parents and they were deceased long before FB was around

There are tons of sites out there where you can pay to try find info on someone. Google your own name and you may be surprised what is available.

You don't even have to pay for basic information like possible former addresses and people at those addresses that might be related to you. I imagine the OP gave them his name and at least the town he lives in. Just put your name and town in a site like fastpeoplesearch.com and you might be surprised how much info you see right away without paying a dime.

ETA: you don't even necessarily need the name and town... just put the cell number in that site (under search, hit the phone tab at top) and all that info might come up - at least my wife's number did, while mine still only shows previous owner's of the number

This is pretty eye opening.
I typed in my work number and my name, work address, home address, cell #, and all previous phone #'s came up ... going back about 3 decades.
Along with every person in my family, some extended family, and a few people that I don't know. Kinda scary knowing this much info can be had with just a work phone number.

I'm finding this a useful tool to learn more about your neighbors ... since it lists your neighbors as well.
How old they are, where they use to live, how much they paid for their house, etc.
I'm diving deep into this rabbit hole.

Your county's tax page has some interesting info. At least the ones here do. Time to spy on the neighbors.

 

[Desert_Power]

Sad that there are teenagers offing themselves because of situations like this.

It's heartbreaking.

I know someone who got involved in something similar.

21 year old guy.

He was on a dating app and things were going well with a "girl". She asked if they could take it offline and asked for his cell number.

He gave his cell # to "her". Then "she" immediately sent the guy nude pictures with a message saying, "Here are the pics you asked for."

A few hours later the "girl's dad" called saying he found the guys number on his "16 year old daughter's" phone and she's gone off the rails sending photos to guys.

And that now the guy has child pornography on his phone and he's calling the police and hangs up.

An hour later the "police" call and say a father has reported that the guy has nude pictures of his daughter on his phone and she's 16 and they want to talk to him.

An hour later, the "dad" calls and says he's going to ground the daughter for a month but he's calmed down now and may not press charges if the guy can venmo him $5,000 and then he can drop everything.

Sure, we might see this as a scam.

And some people have others to talk to like this forum.

Most people know not to send pics of themselves.

But I know lots of people who would give their cell phone # to a girl.

And that's all it took to start the scam.

The guy I know is ok and got through it but he thought he was in serious trouble for a while.

It's easily to look at it rationally when it isn't happening to you. In the moment, your body is going to react with some many stress/fear hormones it is nearly impossible to think straight. I hate that this stuff is going on and think social media companies should be made to more actively prevent it.

 

[Sand]

Sad that there are teenagers offing themselves because of situations like this.

It's heartbreaking.

I know someone who got involved in something similar.

21 year old guy.

He was on a dating app and things were going well with a "girl". She asked if they could take it offline and asked for his cell number.

He gave his cell # to "her". Then "she" immediately sent the guy nude pictures with a message saying, "Here are the pics you asked for."

A few hours later the "girl's dad" called saying he found the guys number on his "16 year old daughter's" phone and she's gone off the rails sending photos to guys.

And that now the guy has child pornography on his phone and he's calling the police and hangs up.

An hour later the "police" call and say a father has reported that the guy has nude pictures of his daughter on his phone and she's 16 and they want to talk to him.

An hour later, the "dad" calls and says he's going to ground the daughter for a month but he's calmed down now and may not press charges if the guy can venmo him $5,000 and then he can drop everything.

Sure, we might see this as a scam.

And some people have others to talk to like this forum.

Most people know not to send pics of themselves.

But I know lots of people who would give their cell phone # to a girl.

And that's all it took to start the scam.

The guy I know is ok and got through it but he thought he was in serious trouble for a while.

This is pure, unadulterated evil at work.

 

[Uruk-Hai]

That fastpeoplesearch site has my father & I mixed together (I'm a Jr) - some of his old addresses, some of mine (same with old phone #s). But it does have his birth year, not mine. And maybe one of the reasons I don't get many spam texts/calls is that it also has his death year

 

[WDIK2]

That fastpeoplesearch site has my father & I mixed together (I'm a Jr) - some of his old addresses, some of mine (same with old phone #s). But it does have his birth year, not mine. And maybe one of the reasons I don't get many spam texts/calls is that it also has his death year

It has my middle initial wrong. It lists my grandma who died in 1998. It also lists my ex-wife's new inlaws.

 

[JAA]

no texts yet, dont know if they just got bored when i didnt send the money yesterday, they plan on contacting later, decided to send pics or just moved on from me. To answer many of you, i am sorry i did it and i dont plan on doing it again

Dont plan on doing what again? Sending d pics using your cell phone or using a dating site when your wife isnt watching?

 

[QuizGuy66]

Shark move is to pay the ransom in coupons right?

-QG

 

[QuizGuy66]

Basically it feels like the only safe thing is to never answer the phone. I prescreen any unknown number which is tedious and annoying. A lot of best advice from other sharks in the thread on the f'real side
-QG

 

[Dr_Zaius]

Your county's tax page has some interesting info. At least the ones here do. Time to spy on the neighbors.

About 20 years ago my county made deeds publicly searchable by last name with no account or any other registration needed. At work we spent part of the morning looking up the value of the houses of all of the executives. I think that system lasted about 2 weeks before the county realized it wasn't a very good idea.

 

[bcat01]

Your county's tax page has some interesting info. At least the ones here do. Time to spy on the neighbors.

About 20 years ago my county made deeds publicly searchable by last name with no account or any other registration needed. At work we spent part of the morning looking up the value of the houses of all of the executives. I think that system lasted about 2 weeks before the county realized it wasn't a very good idea.

Ohio has this in every county.

 

[Osaurus]

Shark move is to pay the ransom in coupons right?

-QG

This ain’t magic football dues

 

[QuizGuy66]

Shark move is to pay the ransom in coupons right?

-QG

This ain’t magic football dues

(I am on team don't let them get their hooks in deeper - paying em will do nothing but embolden them further)
-QG

 

[Bossman]

Basically it feels like the only safe thing is to never answer the phone. I prescreen any unknown number which is tedious and annoying. A lot of best advice from other sharks in the thread on the f'real side
-QG

Now you can just enter the unknown number into the search box at fastpeoplesearch and get the goods on whoever is calling you.
This is so great!

 

[bigbottom]

Basically it feels like the only safe thing is to never answer the phone. I prescreen any unknown number which is tedious and annoying. A lot of best advice from other sharks in the thread on the f'real side
-QG

Doesn’t everyone do this? I’d never answer a call from an unknown number.

 

[Bossman]

Basically it feels like the only safe thing is to never answer the phone. I prescreen any unknown number which is tedious and annoying. A lot of best advice from other sharks in the thread on the f'real side
-QG

Doesn’t everyone do this? I’d never answer a call from an unknown number.

yeah, I rarely answer even if I know the person.
I thought that's what voicemail was for.

 

[JAA]

Shark move is to pay the ransom in coupons right?

-QG

wheatpennies, duh!

 

[JAA]

so friday wrap up? Everyone bring their pullman blankets!

 

[dkp993]

Basically it feels like the only safe thing is to never answer the phone. I prescreen any unknown number which is tedious and annoying. A lot of best advice from other sharks in the thread on the f'real side
-QG

Doesn’t everyone do this? I’d never answer a call from an unknown number.

100%. I literally never answer an unknown number, man 50% of the time I don’t answer a known number.

 

[nirad3]

Basically it feels like the only safe thing is to never answer the phone. I prescreen any unknown number which is tedious and annoying. A lot of best advice from other sharks in the thread on the f'real side
-QG

Doesn’t everyone do this? I’d never answer a call from an unknown number.

100%. I literally never answer an unknown number, man 50% of the time I don’t answer a known number.

Same. In fact, on my iPhone I have all unknown numbers completely silenced so I don't even have an opportunity to answer them even if I wanted to (which I obviously don't). If it's important, they'll leave a message.

 

[BLOCKED_PUNT]

Shark move is to pay the ransom in coupons right?

-QG

wheatpennies, duh!

some of those wheat pennies are actully worth a good chunk of change

 

[Long Ball Larry]

Basically it feels like the only safe thing is to never answer the phone. I prescreen any unknown number which is tedious and annoying. A lot of best advice from other sharks in the thread on the f'real side
-QG

Doesn’t everyone do this? I’d never answer a call from an unknown number.

100%. I literally never answer an unknown number, man 50% of the time I don’t answer a known number.

Same. In fact, on my iPhone I have all unknown numbers completely silenced so I don't even have an opportunity to answer them even if I wanted to (which I obviously don't). If it's important, they'll leave a message.

Where is this setting?

 

[3C's]

Shark move is to pay the ransom in coupons right?

-QG

wheatpennies, duh!

some of those wheat pennies are actully worth a good chunk of change

Checked all of mine...not even worth the effort to take them to a coin shop.

 

[NewlyRetired]

Where is this setting?

To turn on Silence Unknown Callers, go to Settings > Phone, then scroll down, tap Silence Unknown Callers, and turn on the feature. Calls from unknown numbers are silenced and sent to your voicemail, and appear in your recent calls list

 

[BLOCKED_PUNT]

I’m so glad phones didn’t exist when I was younger

not just phones...but I've often thought that I'm lucky that I don't have to navigate the dating scene in this day and age.

 

[The General]

I’m so glad phones didn’t exist when I was younger

not just phones...but I've often thought that I'm lucky that I don't have to navigate the dating scene in this day and age.

Things do seem to be pretty intense these days.

 

[Terminalxylem]

I dont have friend list displayable on FB. i dont know where they got them from. Like I said, 2 of the first names were my parents and they were deceased long before FB was around

There are tons of sites out there where you can pay to try find info on someone. Google your own name and you may be surprised what is available.

You don't even have to pay for basic information like possible former addresses and people at those addresses that might be related to you. I imagine the OP gave them his name and at least the town he lives in. Just put your name and town in a site like fastpeoplesearch.com and you might be surprised how much info you see right away without paying a dime.

ETA: you don't even necessarily need the name and town... just put the cell number in that site (under search, hit the phone tab at top) and all that info might come up - at least my wife's number did, while mine still only shows previous owner's of the number

This is pretty eye opening.
I typed in my work number and my name, work address, home address, cell #, and all previous phone #'s came up ... going back about 3 decades.
Along with every person in my family, some extended family, and a few people that I don't know. Kinda scary knowing this much info can be had with just a work phone number.

I'm finding this a useful tool to learn more about your neighbors ... since it lists your neighbors as well.
How old they are, where they use to live, how much they paid for their house, etc.
I'm diving deep into this rabbit hole.

that site is crazy!

Yeah, it’s weird what info you can and can’t find. It lists my last address as current, even though I moved 20 years ago. No record of my current wife or phone number, and most of the related searches are my ex-wife’s family.

 

[Rustoleum]

I dont have friend list displayable on FB. i dont know where they got them from. Like I said, 2 of the first names were my parents and they were deceased long before FB was around

There are tons of sites out there where you can pay to try find info on someone. Google your own name and you may be surprised what is available.

You don't even have to pay for basic information like possible former addresses and people at those addresses that might be related to you. I imagine the OP gave them his name and at least the town he lives in. Just put your name and town in a site like fastpeoplesearch.com and you might be surprised how much info you see right away without paying a dime.

ETA: you don't even necessarily need the name and town... just put the cell number in that site (under search, hit the phone tab at top) and all that info might come up - at least my wife's number did, while mine still only shows previous owner's of the number

This is pretty eye opening.
I typed in my work number and my name, work address, home address, cell #, and all previous phone #'s came up ... going back about 3 decades.
Along with every person in my family, some extended family, and a few people that I don't know. Kinda scary knowing this much info can be had with just a work phone number.

I'm finding this a useful tool to learn more about your neighbors ... since it lists your neighbors as well.
How old they are, where they use to live, how much they paid for their house, etc.
I'm diving deep into this rabbit hole.

that site is crazy!

Yeah, it’s weird what info you can and can’t find. It lists my last address as current, even though I moved 20 years ago. No record of my current wife or phone number, and most of the related searches are my ex-wife’s family.

She’s a foreign spy. It’s the only rational conclusion.

 

[TennesseeJed]

I’m so glad phones didn’t exist when I was younger

Let me guess - polaroids through the mail?

 

[culdeus]

Offdee knowledge here is next level on dating apps

I've been fooled (briefly) by people that somehow know my name and send texts like. "Hey culdeus, missed you at the meeting this morning everything ok?"

It's not just dating apps that pull this. And everyone has your info and all your nudes.

 

[TennesseeJed]

And everyone has your info and all your nudes.

That probably explains why I don't get texts anymore...

 

[northern exposure]

Basically it feels like the only safe thing is to never answer the phone. I prescreen any unknown number which is tedious and annoying. A lot of best advice from other sharks in the thread on the f'real side
-QG

Doesn’t everyone do this? I’d never answer a call from an unknown number.

100%. I literally never answer an unknown number, man 50% of the time I don’t answer a known number.

Same. In fact, on my iPhone I have all unknown numbers completely silenced so I don't even have an opportunity to answer them even if I wanted to (which I obviously don't). If it's important, they'll leave a message.

You would think the if it's important, they'll leave a message rule would still be in place. But, it seems to depend on the person. I'm in Sales and I have some customers that call me and leave a message. Others call me (from known or unknown numbers), don't leave a message and then call again and berate me because I didn't call them back.

We hired a new salesperson who is around 30. He phones me at least once a day (most days it is multiple times) because he doesn't know what to do in a situation. If I don't answer his call, he never leaves a message. I told him that no message from him means "it's not important, call me back when you can" to me.
He never leaves a message whether it is important or not. I know he doesn't want to phone our Boss because then he'll have to admit he doesn't know something.
He's been doing the job about 2 months and my Boss commented the other day that he's really hit the ground running because he never hears from him. I replied "I wish I could say the same!"

 

[JAA]

RIP OP

 

[FBG Moderator]

Shoe me your

Don't

 

[Mrs. Rannous]

That fastpeoplesearch site has my father & I mixed together (I'm a Jr) - some of his old addresses, some of mine (same with old phone #s). But it does have his birth year, not mine. And maybe one of the reasons I don't get many spam texts/calls is that it also has his death year

It has me confused with my late MIL. We have the same first initial. I get mail for her. And my late FIL.

 

[Beef Ravioli Part 2]

This is schtick, right?

 

[Beef Ravioli Part 2]

@Mitchell0618 you still alive?

 

[Oracle]

@Mitchell0618 you still alive?

Bump

 

[arrow1]

 

[Mitchell0618]

they sent 4 texts and 2 calls, i then blocked and nothing since

 

[Bossman]

they sent 4 texts and 2 calls, i then blocked and nothing since

How about a Friday Follow Up?
Did they follow thru on the threat? .... posting stuff on social media?

 

[culdeus]

Hope you didn't have ATT mobile

 

[Mitchell0618]

no word since that day

 

[supermike80]

no texts yet, dont know if they just got bored when i didnt send the money yesterday, they plan on contacting later, decided to send pics or just moved on from me. To answer many of you, i am sorry i did it and i dont plan on doing it again

All good man. You will find a lot of people on this board are judgmental and fail to discuss what you wanna discuss. And that is the blackmail scam. I agree with most, ignore it completely. It's most likely a scam and if you send $$, you will end up sending more and more. Why would they stop?
If it happens that they truly expose you..then you will have to have a serious conversation with your wife.

 

[STEADYMOBBIN 22]

Ran into a buddy who said this exact same thing happened to him except they threatened to show him furiously exercising while watching certain videos on his phone.

He told the company who he works for that he apologetically does this and the entire IT laughed at him and just said to ignore it.

 

[3C's]

I got one of thoseb types of emails once way back but I knew it was a scam and also that they didn't have anything since there was nothing for them to have so I replied "go ahead". Nothing happened of course but I'm sure they get more than enough people to keep them in business.