Can we discuss pet peeves here? (2 Viewers)

[Terminalxylem]

My wife waits until the last minute to get ready to go out.
After 45 mins of getting ready, she comes down from the bedrooms and when her foot hits the bottom step I'm expected to have my coat, my hat, phone and wallet and be ready to go ...
Otherwise, if I take 60 seconds to gather the above, it's MY fault we're late.

This is a regular occurrence in our household, minus the stairs and coat. Makes me want to go on a kefir bender.

 

[Dan Lambskin]

I can confidently argue that I have stronger hands than most. At minimum, I have above average hand strength.

I have to use all my mitt strength to open the bags that come from weed dispensaries. I used to just end up breaking them so now I cut them open with scissors and dump the contents into a glass jar.

Some of them are damn near impossible

 

[Terminalxylem]

In regard to going to formal events like say a wedding, graduation, a party of some sort, etc. I'm going to admit to something here I would never tell my wife, but I absolutely LOVE and ADORE the fact that we're always late to something. I hate being the first to arrive, I generally don't want to go to whatever event is going on so if we're late, it's more time I get to spend with my wife and less time I have to waste at some event I would rather not be at which almost always involves wearing something formal and being uncomfortable, too cold, too hot, etc. sitting in an uncomfortable chair for too long of an amount of time. So even though I'm ready and waiting on her, secretly, I'm over the moon we're probably going to be late. I'm not being sarcastic; I'm being completely honest here; I absolutely despise formal events with every fiber of my being.

I’ve told my wife I loathe all “events”. She seems to get ready a little more quickly for them though

Also, if there’s an opportunity to help clean/pack up after it’s over, invariably “we” volunteer.

 

[Terminalxylem]

I absolutely despise formal events with every fiber of my being.

I concur

I wouldn’t be surprised if the majority of people feel this way, yet we go through these charades.

 

[Cowboysfan8]

My wife waits until the last minute to get ready to go out.
After 45 mins of getting ready, she comes down from the bedrooms and when her foot hits the bottom step I'm expected to have my coat, my hat, phone and wallet and be ready to go ...
Otherwise, if I take 60 seconds to gather the above, it's MY fault we're late.

I've been married for almost 30 years; I guess I just assumed this was the norm for the majority of us?

From what I read here, it seems likely

I’m lucky. My wife doesn’t take forever to get ready, never has

 

[DA RAIDERS]

My wife is always early. I’ve learned to adapt.

We hate all “events” as well. Just got back from a family reunion in RI. I did not want to go(my family) it only reinforced my position. The worst

 

[Terminalxylem]

My wife waits until the last minute to get ready to go out.
After 45 mins of getting ready, she comes down from the bedrooms and when her foot hits the bottom step I'm expected to have my coat, my hat, phone and wallet and be ready to go ...
Otherwise, if I take 60 seconds to gather the above, it's MY fault we're late.

I've been married for almost 30 years; I guess I just assumed this was the norm for the majority of us?

From what I read here, it seems likely

I’m lucky. My wife doesn’t take forever to get ready, never has

I once dated a woman who took no more than 15 minutes to get ready, for anything. She was uncomfortable with make-up, and didn’t care much about prepping her hair and outfits. Fortunately, she was pretty enough to get away with it.

I’ve also dated the other side of the spectrum, with an hour+ primping required to go to the grocery store.

My wife falls somewhere in the middle.

Personally, I recoil a bit when a woman is too well “put together”, as it just screams high maintenance +/- insecurity,

 

[Mrs. Rannous]

Personally, I recoil a bit when a woman is too well “put together”, as it just screams high maintenance +/- insecurity,

Do you have the same reaction men who look put together?

People do that for lots of reasons. My dad liked to look good so he bought good clothes.

 

[Terminalxylem]

Personally, I recoil a bit when a woman is too well “put together”, as it just screams high maintenance +/- insecurity,

Do you have the same reaction men who look put together?

People do that for lots of reasons. My dad liked to look good so he bought good clothes.

Yes

ETA I understand it is not great to stereotype, but I’m just wasting time while my car is being serviced…so maybe I’m maintenance sensitive atm

ETA2 I’m also not scrutinizing men the same way I do women. Women who are “made up” invite my primitive gaze, but then my brain reminds me the price of superficial beauty.

 

[ChiefD]

I see a lot of “me” people up in here

 

[parasaurolophus]

I wouldn’t be surprised if the majority of people feel this way, yet we go through these charades.

Those women you mentioned earlier? They love em.

 

[Dan Lambskin]

Daily texts and calls reminding me to vote

 

[Gatorade]

space for a second fridge in the garage?

Yes, that is for the wine and ice cream

 

[Snoopy]

Daily texts and calls reminding me to vote

....for their candidate.

 

[Drunken knight]

space for a second fridge in the garage?

Yes, that is for the wine and ice cream

most beverages, wine, back up items (milk, eggs), and bulk freezer items

 

[Gally]

space for a second fridge in the garage?

Yes, that is for the wine and ice cream

most beverages, wine, back up items (milk, eggs), and bulk freezer items

There is a reason why the garage fridge is also known as the "Beer Fridge"

 

[mr. furley]

when people who have been working on a new product or process roll that new item out to a host of people that have not seen, have not touched, or have not experienced the new product/process in any way until this very moment.... get frustrated/upset/short with the audience for not understanding the thing they have been working on for months/a year.

"this is really easy and intuitive. i don't know why you aren't picking it up."

well, sugar#### it's because you've put 1000 hours in to working on this project and we're seeing it today for the very first time. you're running through this demo at the speed of light because of your familiarity with the process, not giving any of us a second to understand what's happening, and we need to start using it on Monday.

 

[dino259]

Daily texts and calls reminding me to vote

....for their candidate.

Wondering what the youtube ads are going to be in 3 weeks. Maybe different in different states but I am sick of hearing about Tammy Baldwin.

 

[Instinctive]

I really enjoy formal things if I like the other people there and the food is good. An opportunity to put on a tux, look like James Bond, tie a dope tie...I don't really wanna do it more than 3-4 times a year but I do like it when it comes around.

 

[Dan Lambskin]

when people who have been working on a new product or process roll that new item out to a host of people that have not seen, have not touched, or have not experienced the new product/process in any way until this very moment.... get frustrated/upset/short with the audience for not understanding the thing they have been working on for months/a year.

"this is really easy and intuitive. i don't know why you aren't picking it up."

well, sugar#### it's because you've put 1000 hours in to working on this project and we're seeing it today for the very first time. you're running through this demo at the speed of light because of your familiarity with the process, not giving any of us a second to understand what's happening, and we need to start using it on Monday.

If it’s not as easy and intuitive as they thought then they’ve done a bad job

 

[Mrs. Rannous]

Daily texts and calls reminding me to vote

....for their candidate.

Wondering what the youtube ads are going to be in 3 weeks. Maybe different in different states but I am sick of hearing about Tammy Baldwin.

What are you moaning about? I have to look at Ted Cruz.

 

[Terminalxylem]

I really enjoy formal things if I like the other people there and the food is good. An opportunity to put on a tux, look like James Bond, tie a dope tie...I don't really wanna do it more than 3-4 times a year but I do like it when it comes around.

I figured somebody liked formality, but I wonder how common guys like you are?

Since moving to the islands 20+ years ago, I’ve worn a suit and tie exactly once: my wedding. That’s one time too many, as far as I’m concerned.

Don’t get me wrong - I like good food (don’t care about company). But a strict dress code instantly puts a restaurant on my no-fly list.

 

[Instinctive]

I really enjoy formal things if I like the other people there and the food is good. An opportunity to put on a tux, look like James Bond, tie a dope tie...I don't really wanna do it more than 3-4 times a year but I do like it when it comes around.

I figured somebody liked formality, but I wonder how common guys like you are?

Since moving to the islands 20+ years ago, I’ve worn a suit and tie exactly once: my wedding. That’s one time too many, as far as I’m concerned.

Don’t get me wrong - I like good food (don’t care about company). But a strict dress code instantly puts a restaurant on my no-fly list.

I'm probably a somewhat unique case. I really like doing it because it's cool and special, very rarely (like 3 times/year).

I wouldn't confuse that with all the time. I never wear pants to golf, always golf shorts. I basically wear basketball shorts for 95% of my waking hours, especially now on pat leave.

I imagine you're on the extreme end of the spectrum.

 

[DA RAIDERS]

I really enjoy formal things if I like the other people there and the food is good. An opportunity to put on a tux, look like James Bond, tie a dope tie...I don't really wanna do it more than 3-4 times a year but I do like it when it comes around.

I figured somebody liked formality, but I wonder how common guys like you are?

Since moving to the islands 20+ years ago, I’ve worn a suit and tie exactly once: my wedding. That’s one time too many, as far as I’m concerned.

Don’t get me wrong - I like good food (don’t care about company). But a strict dress code instantly puts a restaurant on my no-fly list.

I'm probably a somewhat unique case. I really like doing it because it's cool and special, very rarely (like 3 times/year).

I wouldn't confuse that with all the time. I never wear pants to golf, always golf shorts. I basically wear basketball shorts for 95% of my waking hours, especially now on pat leave.

I imagine you're on the extreme end of the spectrum.

i'm with term. i live in a beach town in SoCal. i might have worn a suit 5 times in the 23 years since i moved here. and one of those was my wedding. a couple of job interviews. that's about it. went to west point this summer for a wedding in the chapel on campus. chose linen pants and vest with a dress shirt.. no tie. i think i was the only one without a tie. and it was SWELTERINGLY hot in the chapel. we have a new saying, sweating like jeremy in church i didn't think he was going to make it through the ceremony.

 

[Terminalxylem]

I really enjoy formal things if I like the other people there and the food is good. An opportunity to put on a tux, look like James Bond, tie a dope tie...I don't really wanna do it more than 3-4 times a year but I do like it when it comes around.

I figured somebody liked formality, but I wonder how common guys like you are?

Since moving to the islands 20+ years ago, I’ve worn a suit and tie exactly once: my wedding. That’s one time too many, as far as I’m concerned.

Don’t get me wrong - I like good food (don’t care about company). But a strict dress code instantly puts a restaurant on my no-fly list.

I imagine you're on the extreme end of the spectrum.

I’m genuinely curious. I suspect city-dwellers are more into dressing up for stuff, but “island style” is extremely casual.

 

[Terminalxylem]

I really enjoy formal things if I like the other people there and the food is good. An opportunity to put on a tux, look like James Bond, tie a dope tie...I don't really wanna do it more than 3-4 times a year but I do like it when it comes around.

I figured somebody liked formality, but I wonder how common guys like you are?

Since moving to the islands 20+ years ago, I’ve worn a suit and tie exactly once: my wedding. That’s one time too many, as far as I’m concerned.

Don’t get me wrong - I like good food (don’t care about company). But a strict dress code instantly puts a restaurant on my no-fly list.

I'm probably a somewhat unique case. I really like doing it because it's cool and special, very rarely (like 3 times/year).

I wouldn't confuse that with all the time. I never wear pants to golf, always golf shorts. I basically wear basketball shorts for 95% of my waking hours, especially now on pat leave.

I imagine you're on the extreme end of the spectrum.

i'm with term. i live in a beach town in SoCal. i might have worn a suit 5 times in the 23 years since i moved here. and one of those was my wedding. a couple of job interviews. that's about it. went to west point this summer for a wedding in the chapel on campus. chose linen pants and vest with a dress shirt.. no tie. i think i was the only one without a tie. and it was SWELTERINGLY hot in the chapel. we have a new saying, sweating like jeremy in church i didn't think he was going to make it through the ceremony.

Yeah, there’s also a lot more formality on the east coast. Never see ties here, and it’s too hot for jackets.

 

[Anarchy99]

I've been working on a project for a client and needed more information, so I reached out electronically and asked for answers to 10 not difficult questions. Client responded by sending me a dozen files and said I should be able to find answers there. I browsed the files and none of the information was in there. I followed up and said that information wasn't in the files. Client responded by sending everything but the kitchen sink . . . reports, reviews, correspondence, internal memos, newspaper articles, links, marketing materials, spreadsheets, forms, screen shots, the whole shebang. Now I have hundreds of pages of stuff to sift through (many of which are pictures of handwritten notes that I can barely read). I replied and said it would take less time for both of us if the questions provided were simply answered. It would take 10 minutes. I was told that they don't have 10 minutes to answer the questions. But apparently, I have time to download, print, and read hundreds of pages of stuff that I already know doesn't have the info I need. (This is a flat rate project, meaning there will be no additional money if it takes 10 extra hours.)

 

[Dan Lambskin]

I've been working on a project for a client and needed more information, so I reached out electronically and asked for answers to 10 not difficult questions. Client responded by sending me a dozen files and said I should be able to find answers there. I browsed the files and none of the information was in there. I followed up and said that information wasn't in the files. Client responded by sending everything but the kitchen sink . . . reports, reviews, correspondence, internal memos, newspaper articles, links, marketing materials, spreadsheets, forms, screen shots, the whole shebang. Now I have hundreds of pages of stuff to sift through (many of which are pictures of handwritten notes that I can barely read). I replied and said it would take less time for both of us if the questions provided were simply answered. It would take 10 minutes. I was told that they don't have 10 minutes to answer the questions. But apparently, I have time to download, print, and read hundreds of pages of stuff that I already know doesn't have the info I need. (This is a flat rate project, meaning there will be no additional money if it takes 10 extra hours.)

Can you back out and give them a refund?

 

[Andy Dufresne]

I've been working on a project for a client and needed more information, so I reached out electronically and asked for answers to 10 not difficult questions. Client responded by sending me a dozen files and said I should be able to find answers there. I browsed the files and none of the information was in there. I followed up and said that information wasn't in the files. Client responded by sending everything but the kitchen sink . . . reports, reviews, correspondence, internal memos, newspaper articles, links, marketing materials, spreadsheets, forms, screen shots, the whole shebang. Now I have hundreds of pages of stuff to sift through (many of which are pictures of handwritten notes that I can barely read). I replied and said it would take less time for both of us if the questions provided were simply answered. It would take 10 minutes. I was told that they don't have 10 minutes to answer the questions. But apparently, I have time to download, print, and read hundreds of pages of stuff that I already know doesn't have the info I need. (This is a flat rate project, meaning there will be no additional money if it takes 10 extra hours.)

Send 10 emails - one for each question.

 

[Anarchy99]

Can you back out and give them a refund?

I suppose I could, but they need my work product to give to another client ASAP and they would not be able to engage someone else and get the project done to submit something. It's likely in my best interest to just do the best I can and finish with the info I have rather than get a reputation of bailing on someone.

 

[Anarchy99]

Send 10 emails - one for each question.

I've sent several emails with attempts to make it even easier for them to answer. It didn't make any difference.

 

[Dan Lambskin]

Can you back out and give them a refund?

I suppose I could, but they need my work product to give to another client ASAP and they would not be able to engage someone else and get the project done to submit something. It's likely in my best interest to just do the best I can and finish with the info I have rather than get a reputation of bailing on someone.

Yeah I guess you just have to press on, but I have a coworker like that and it drives me nuts
I need something I just get told it’s in this folder or drive, but if they need something and I send a file or tell them it’s in a drive, they demand a clear summary

 

[Anarchy99]

Yeah I guess you just have to press on, but I have a coworker like that and it drives me nuts
I need something I just get told it’s in this folder or drive, but if they need something and I send a file or tell them it’s in a drive, they demand a clear summary

I have similar communication issues with my wife. We have a wedding to go to this weekend (involving her family), which we were made aware of 18 months ago. I recently asked for more details (now that the event is here). She said she told me everything I needed to know over a year ago. I pointed out that that was ages ago, and I didn't remember the details. She mentioned there was a link on the invitation (that I had never seen) where I could find all the information (even though I did not have the invitation).

I still don't know when or where the wedding is, but she asked my what time we have to leave to get to our hotel by a certain time to be able to make our dinner reservations. I reiterated that I still didn't know where we are going, what hotel we are staying at, and what restaurant we are going to. She responded, "OMG! You are so clueless! How can you be so in the dark about everything! Everyone else knows the plan!" I figure that chances are good I will find out where we are going at some point, seeing how I am the one driving.

 

[Andy Dufresne]

Yeah I guess you just have to press on, but I have a coworker like that and it drives me nuts
I need something I just get told it’s in this folder or drive, but if they need something and I send a file or tell them it’s in a drive, they demand a clear summary

I have similar communication issues with my wife. We have a wedding to go to this weekend (involving her family), which we were made aware of 18 months ago. I recently asked for more details (now that the event is here). She said she told me everything I needed to know over a year ago. I pointed out that that was ages ago, and I didn't remember the details. She mentioned there was a link on the invitation (that I had never seen) where I could find all the information (even though I did not have the invitation).

I still don't know when or where the wedding is, but she asked my what time we have to leave to get to our hotel by a certain time to be able to make our dinner reservations. I reiterated that I still didn't know where we are going, what hotel we are staying at, and what restaurant we are going to. She responded, "OMG! You are so clueless! How can you be so in the dark about everything! Everyone else knows the plan!" I figure that chances are good I will find out where we are going at some point, seeing how I am the one driving.

She better be a great...cook.

 

[Joe Schmo]

Now that we're all back in office(yay?) please be considerate and understand the esprit de corps and team building doesn't include phone/zoom/teams meetings on speaker at full volume with your office door open so all can be privy to your wonderous communication skills. That goes for all three of you on the same call in different spots throughout the office which allows the voices to echo-echo-echo.

Heathens

 

[Gally]

Send 10 emails - one for each question.

I've sent several emails with attempts to make it even easier for them to answer. It didn't make any difference.

I this point I would just make up the answers myself and go with that.

 

[belljr]

I'm convinced COVID or something else has done something where people just don't fn read anymore. I have a text thread where someone will post information and it never fails the next day someone in that thread will ask a question that was clearly spelled out in the original post. And I'm not talking deep research type stuff. Makes me stabby

 

[arrow1]

I've been working on a project for a client and needed more information, so I reached out electronically and asked for answers to 10 not difficult questions. Client responded by sending me a dozen files and said I should be able to find answers there. I browsed the files and none of the information was in there. I followed up and said that information wasn't in the files. Client responded by sending everything but the kitchen sink . . . reports, reviews, correspondence, internal memos, newspaper articles, links, marketing materials, spreadsheets, forms, screen shots, the whole shebang. Now I have hundreds of pages of stuff to sift through (many of which are pictures of handwritten notes that I can barely read). I replied and said it would take less time for both of us if the questions provided were simply answered. It would take 10 minutes. I was told that they don't have 10 minutes to answer the questions. But apparently, I have time to download, print, and read hundreds of pages of stuff that I already know doesn't have the info I need. (This is a flat rate project, meaning there will be no additional money if it takes 10 extra hours.)

oof

 

[jhib]

Cashew chicken that has like 3 cashews in the whole dish

 

[Scoresman]

Cashew chicken that has like 3 cashews in the whole dish

This actually sounds like my ideal cashew chicken.

 

[ChiefD]

People at a convenience store who go to fill up their soda but only fill it about 85% full, leaving about an inch worth of cup space available for more drink. And that's the widest part of the cup!

I just want to look at them and say:

"do you enjoy getting robbed by the store?"

 

[arrow1]

People at a convenience store who go to fill up their soda but only fill it about 85% full, leaving about an inch worth of cup space available for more drink. And that's the widest part of the cup!

I just want to look at them and say:

"do you enjoy getting robbed by the store?"

or fill it to the brim, drink 1/4 of it while standing in front of the bank of spigots, refill it, and repeat 2-3 times without moving.

 

[Gally]

People at a convenience store who go to fill up their soda but only fill it about 85% full, leaving about an inch worth of cup space available for more drink. And that's the widest part of the cup!

I just want to look at them and say:

"do you enjoy getting robbed by the store?"

or fill it to the brim, drink 1/4 of it while standing in front of the bank of spigots, refill it, and repeat 2-3 times without moving.

those people are making up for the people that don't fill up all the way.

 

[ChiefD]

People at a convenience store who go to fill up their soda but only fill it about 85% full, leaving about an inch worth of cup space available for more drink. And that's the widest part of the cup!

I just want to look at them and say:

"do you enjoy getting robbed by the store?"

or fill it to the brim, drink 1/4 of it while standing in front of the bank of spigots, refill it, and repeat 2-3 times without moving.

Yeah, I think I posted that pet peeve on here about 100 pages ago.

 

[Snoopy]

People at a convenience store who go to fill up their soda but only fill it about 85% full, leaving about an inch worth of cup space available for more drink. And that's the widest part of the cup!

I just want to look at them and say:

"do you enjoy getting robbed by the store?"

Or fill it to the very top with ice then fill in the voids with the soda.

 

[mr. furley]

I'm convinced COVID or something else has done something where people just don't fn read anymore. I have a text thread where someone will post information and it never fails the next day someone in that thread will ask a question that was clearly spelled out in the original post. And I'm not talking deep research type stuff. Makes me stabby

oh my god, i made that same recipe last week! probably needed more salt but it was a big hit with the family.

 

[Keith R]

Send 10 emails - one for each question.

I've sent several emails with attempts to make it even easier for them to answer. It didn't make any difference.

I this point I would just make up the answers myself and go with that.

Just email the numbskull the answers you made up, and I'll bet he provides you with the right answers quickly and concisely.

 

[Drunken knight]

People at a convenience store who go to fill up their soda but only fill it about 85% full, leaving about an inch worth of cup space available for more drink. And that's the widest part of the cup!

I just want to look at them and say:

"do you enjoy getting robbed by the store?"

or fill it to the brim, drink 1/4 of it while standing in front of the bank of spigots, refill it, and repeat 2-3 times without moving.

I vaguely remember one of our fbg brothers bragging about holding on to a fast food beverage cup, using it on random days to return to get free refills.

 

[ChiefD]

I'm convinced COVID or something else has done something where people just don't fn read anymore. I have a text thread where someone will post information and it never fails the next day someone in that thread will ask a question that was clearly spelled out in the original post. And I'm not talking deep research type stuff. Makes me stabby

oh my god, i made that same recipe last week! probably needed more salt but it was a big hit with the family

glad you mentioned that. i forgot we were going to that. thanks for the directions to the rink.

 

[3C's]

I'm convinced COVID or something else has done something where people just don't fn read anymore. I have a text thread where someone will post information and it never fails the next day someone in that thread will ask a question that was clearly spelled out in the original post. And I'm not talking deep research type stuff. Makes me stabby

oh my god, i made that same recipe last week! probably needed more salt but it was a big hit with the family.

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