Extended family funerals: do you attend from long distance no matter w (1 Viewer)

[the moops]

I hope your flight is delayed

Got in 30 minutes early. But if it makes you feel better I got kneed in the back the entire way.

You know im just kidding with you, right? but welcome back to this stupid cold ### state

 

[tommyGunZ]

Woz also pointed out that his grandma has been in extremely poor health for awhile now. This wasn't a surprise.

The whole "you'll hate yourself for the rest of your life" for missing a funeral is a bit much.

I can't even fathom being upset that I missed a funeral, unless I skipped it for some stupid reason like I had just had a fight with the person. I can't imagine being upset that somebody else missed a funeral, unless it was because they went to a movie or something.

If I had to put the cost of attending her funeral on a credit card, my frugal Grandma would have been mad at me for attending. I would have received a lengthy lecture about it.

its been said like 30 times in this thread but...you don't go to a funeral for the dead grandmother. you go cause your dad lost his mom

Yeah this was essentially it. Since I started this thread I made two phone calls. Called my uncle to get info on wedding and get his thoughts. He's a practical guy and easy to talk to. He suggested foregoing the fall trip to come out. I then talked to my dad and tried to get some emotion from him (this is very difficult). Did the whole skype thing. It became abundantly clear it'll help him that I'm there. So here in McCarrran I sit.

Yep - if Dad needs u there, it's a no brainer.

 

[xulf]

I hope your flight is delayed

Got in 30 minutes early. But if it makes you feel better I got kneed in the back the entire way.

Stop reclining all the way back on a 6+ footer...

 

[Zow]

Spirit airlines seats don't have recliners.

And it's incredibly cold here.

 

[xulf]

Spirit airlines seats don't have recliners.

And it's incredibly cold here.

You should have punched the dude in the face then.

 

[Zow]

Service finished. It was small so I handled multiple duties. Dad stated numerous times he was very glad I was there. Most positive emotion I've ever seen from him.

Glad I'm here. But #### the cold.

 

[Statcruncher]

I was in week 7 of Basic Training when my paternal grandmother died. I had two options:

A) Skip the funeral to complete the 8th and last week of Basic Training then visit family after graduation.

B) Pay $800 for a plane ticket to catch the funeral and when I return have to start Basic Training all over from week #1.

My grandmother and I weren't overly close and everyone in the family unanimously told me not to come to the funeral. That was almost 30 years ago and I still regret choosing A.

 

[Zow]

Update: actual burial lasted about ten minutes. God bless Minnesota and their fake burials due to frozen ground.

Family just left though. Was a very small service so each person that was there counted for a lot. Everyone is in greats spirits. Glad I went.

 

[LinusMarr]

Update: actual burial lasted about ten minutes. God bless Minnesota and their fake burials due to frozen ground.

Family just left though. Was a very small service so each person that was there counted for a lot. Everyone is in greats spirits. Glad I went.

Now get your lazy ### back to work!!

 

[The_Man]

Update: actual burial lasted about ten minutes. God bless Minnesota and their fake burials due to frozen ground.

Family just left though. Was a very small service so each person that was there counted for a lot. Everyone is in greats spirits. Glad I went.

Congratulations on gaining another piece of experience-based knowledge - also known as wisdom. I'm glad you went, glad it was meaningful, and glad that you could pick up this piece of wisdom by taking an action that you feel good about, rather than one you regret.

 

[McGarnicle]

I can't believe you flew all the way up there for that.

 

[The Hank]

I can't believe you flew all the way up there for that.

You Monster.

 

[tommyGunZ]

I was in week 7 of Basic Training when my paternal grandmother died. I had two options:

A) Skip the funeral to complete the 8th and last week of Basic Training then visit family after graduation.

B) Pay $800 for a plane ticket to catch the funeral and when I return have to start Basic Training all over from week #1.

My grandmother and I weren't overly close and everyone in the family unanimously told me not to come to the funeral. That was almost 30 years ago and I still regret choosing A.

Why? Was your Grandmother alone at the funeral?

Funerals blow.

 

[belljr]

I can't believe he fell for the ffa schtick of saying he should go.

 

[Statcruncher]

I was in week 7 of Basic Training when my paternal grandmother died. I had two options:

A) Skip the funeral to complete the 8th and last week of Basic Training then visit family after graduation.

B) Pay $800 for a plane ticket to catch the funeral and when I return have to start Basic Training all over from week #1.

My grandmother and I weren't overly close and everyone in the family unanimously told me not to come to the funeral. That was almost 30 years ago and I still regret choosing A.

Why? Was your Grandmother alone at the funeral?

Funerals blow.

No, everyone else was there but me. At the time another 8 weeks of basic and $800 looked huge to me as an 18 year old. Since the day I made the choice I've felt guilty but as I've aged I'm realizing more how important some things are and how meaningless others are. I chose very poorly.

 

[McGarnicle]

It's really not a big deal. You've seen one corpse in a box, you've seen 'em all. I personally have never gotten much out of funerals.

 

[tommyGunZ]

I was in week 7 of Basic Training when my paternal grandmother died. I had two options:

A) Skip the funeral to complete the 8th and last week of Basic Training then visit family after graduation.

B) Pay $800 for a plane ticket to catch the funeral and when I return have to start Basic Training all over from week #1.

My grandmother and I weren't overly close and everyone in the family unanimously told me not to come to the funeral. That was almost 30 years ago and I still regret choosing A.

Why? Was your Grandmother alone at the funeral?

Funerals blow.

No, everyone else was there but me. At the time another 8 weeks of basic and $800 looked huge to me as an 18 year old. Since the day I made the choice I've felt guilty but as I've aged I'm realizing more how important some things are and how meaningless others are. I chose very poorly.

Similarly, as I've aged, I've begun to realize how meaningless ceremonial events are.

You're good peoples statcruncher - if you're still obsessing over a missed funeral 20 years later, your grandfather and grandmother would be furious.