It's just interesting to me that you casually dismiss anything and everything from medical studies to anecdotes of what others have actually experienced, and put forth as an argument that something hasn't happened to you personally (or your son doesn't do that...) so it must not be likely. Strange. Based on your previous boasts of running with the wrong crowd and getting in brawls I would've guessed if you had a son he may be a handful. Like father like son may not always be the case, so kudos to you for raising him well.
Actually Busted started with the anecdotes, I just match him as a counter argument.. He said that most of the teenagers he knows act this way.. I find that very hard to believe, but an anecdote non the less..Thank you for the kudos.. He is a good kid..
As for what is typical, who knows. Where and when are you talking about? I grew up in the Southwest in the 80's. Back then it was not uncommon at all for people to bring weed to school. I had friends who would go to school dosing. I hung out with a dude who was the age of a college sophomore (though still trying to graduate) and dealt drugs for my girlfriend's dad. He was transferred from another High School to mine when he was caught with an automatic weapon in his locker. Two years after I graduated the place put up steel fences and brought in metal detectors.
So would you say this kids represent the majority of teenagers? I think not..Would you say they were on the right path? Surly you wouldn't..Would you say their actions should have been cause for concern?
Telling us the kid was caught with automatic weapons isn't helping your argument..
Is this typical? Probably not. But tagging, or in my case just writing all over ####, is pretty much a right of passage. Weed? I'd guess over 50% of High School age indulge, or at least give it a try. For someone who's obviously had some interesting life experience I'd have thought youd have found that stuff pretty tame. Its not like he had a record.
I do understand that these things happen. I was in this crowd, and I know where it leads. I made it through, but many of my friends didn't.. I got a girl pregnant at a very young age and it changed my life.. Plenty of my old friends went on to do time..We were all on the wrong path.. See, the experiences I have don't help your argument, because I know what goes through the minds of kids on this path.. Punching an adult for little to no reason wasn't beyond the pail for many of the folks I hung out with.I apologize in advance here, but a couple more anecdotes for you.. An old friend of mine was being followed around the halls at school by one of the school administrators just before lunch. The shop teacher would monitor the halls. My friend had a hall pass but had been know to skip class. The teacher tried to stop him and he continued walking. When he got to the stairs, the teacher attempted to detain him by grabbing his pant leg as he was several stairs higher than the teacher. He turned around and punched the teacher in the nose. The teacher proceeded to drag him back down the stairs by his legs..All he had to do is show the teacher his hall pass..
Have no clue where this guy is now.. We stopped hanging out just shortly after that as he stopped coming to school and lived to far away for me to trek. I heard he might work for Wallace Newman which is one of those companies that will come pick up your old junk for a fee, and that he's one of the resident pot dealers in the area we used to hang in..On another occasion, a friend of mine lifted a candy man cassette tape from a store called Gold Circle (I think that was the name, store was bought out by Target, similar store).. When we got outside, the loss prevention fella confronted my buddy. My buddy pop-ed him and we took off running.. This guy ended up bad into drugs, heavy stuff.. Needles, and glass pipes.. Been in and out of jails and rehabs up to about 2 years ago when he gave his life to god and got his first legit fill time job in a warehouse loading and unloading trucks.. I'd check in on him often after I heard he was on the straight and narrow and in recovery.. Unfortunately the previous years had taken a toll.. I last saw him at his funeral about 6 months ago, he died of a heart attack, alone, in his apartment. First place of his own ever.. He had only been there for about 2 months.I tell these stories because this discussion of old digs reminds me of old situations.. I have a million more.. Shootings, losing friends to stabbings, and gun shots.. Some provoked it, some didn't.. One of the greatest guys I knew, was cool with everyone, had his head blown off with a shot gun by an unknown, for no reason at all other than just being on the wrong side of town.. The other guy in the car said the assailant walked up out of nowhere, fired, and took off running.. No robbery.. nothing.. Another friend was calling to one pay phone at the gas station, from the pay phone at the grocery across the parking lot, pranking people.. Called a black guy the n word, and got his throat slit 30mins later..I'm lucky to have moved on when I did.. But drugs, school suspensions, skipping school, parties, alcohol, fighting.. That's the path we were on.. It's not a good path.. and certainly harbors bad attitude and trouble..