I may be in the minority here, but I think you should use this situation to your advantage for awhile.....I think you should use the guilt factor here and parlay it into doing every nasty thing you ever wanted to do to your wife in the bedroom, garage, etc.....you should make it so walking and even sitting down is somewhat painful for her.....all the while you are planning your exit but giving the impression that you are hanging in there...she should be assuming the position every time you walk in the room......think Pavlov's dogs.......this could also include any lady friends that she may have etc....meaning you are upset and want to work things out, but "honey, maybe we explore some of the reasons we are unhappy together"...."lets get some of this out in the open and out of our system, then start over".....I think she will fall for it, because ultimatley she wants to bang other people too...so plan your escape, but get yours while you still can.....then after you have explored every orphus she has with everything hanging on your garage wall, you tell her you don't think it's going ro work and you put your exit plan into place....i feel for your kids here, and divorce is tough, but at least for a couple of months they will see you guys happy since you'll be banging her like a screen door in a hurricane......
On a serious note, this is almost exactly how I ended up divorcing my first wife, except it was correspondence via fax and snail mail instead of email and internet chat.I HIGHLY advise using your temporary access to everything to make copies of everything possible. Then change the passwords so that only you can access them. Then get out. I have heard of lots of situations like this (my friend ended up breaking up with his fiancee over the same crap), and not once has it ever worked out.I love my kids too, but I would never raise them in an environment like the one you have going on. The more dirt you have on her the better your chances of getting more custody.
lots of good ideas here
And I agree with you that he should be able to kick her ### out, but it it just doesn't work that way. However, when I said "walk away" I meant from the relationship. In no way shape or form should he leave the house if he wants a chance at keeping it. Once he's out it's a million times harder to ever get it back.
