When do kids understand death? I'm talking about age-wise. Here's the background on my question:About 2 years ago, a fairly young girl from my town, who I had never met went to New York City to go shopping with her boyfriend (might've been husband, not sure if they were married, but they had a baby together) Anyways, while in New York, someone comes up to the car they were in and shoots her in the head and shoots the guy in his leg and then runs off. The girl died and the guy was treated for his injury. Ends up, the boyfriend had set it up to have her killed and make it appear to be a random car jacking gone bad. So now he is in jail. Their son who was not yet 2 years old when this happened now has no Mother and his father is in jail. That little boy is being raised by his grandmother and grandfather, I kinda know the grandfather. Ends up that the little boy is in Little 'Zooks pre-school class. So I exchange pleasantries with the grandfather each day but I never bring up anything about what happened. I feel horrible for this little boy. He seems like a sweet kid, on Monday as I was leaving I said hello to grandfather and he said hi and then he told the kid to say to Gadzooks. The kid says hi and then tells me that I look like a weatherman. I'm not sure if that's a compliment or not, but I let it go. Now for the last 3 days this little kid sees me at class and says "hey whats the weather today?" and then I say "oh I think it's gonna be cloudy with a chance of meatballs". Everyone laughs. I think this is going to continue every day this year now.Anyways, today I picked up Little 'Zooks and he mentioned something about that boy calling me a weatherman, and I asked him if he knew what the boy's name was and he couldn't remember. But then he says, "I know his Mommy's name". Now, I wasn't sure what to say since the boy's Mommy was murdered 2 years ago. So he then tells me that the boys' Mommy's name is "Memie". Obviously that's a reference to "grandmother". I didn't correct him and tell him that she is actually his grandmother because I didn't think Little 'Zooks (just turned 5) would understand the whole situation and would ask a lot of questions that I wouldn't know how to answer. At what age would it be appropriate to explain that type of thing to a kid? I worry for that little boy because I'm sure at some point as he gets older and kids in school talk about their parents and what they do for work, he's going to have to tell about how his father is in jail because he had his mother killed. I seriously just want to hug this kid whenever I see him because I feel so bad for him. Jeez, I'm worried about how to explain his "situation" to my son, I couldn't imagine how his grandparents explained or how they are going to explain to him why he doesn't have a mommy and daddy like the other kids.