You say they packaged up this larger than life mob boss and in once scene reduced him to a normal guy with a family and health problems, etc. I don't agree with that. The whole series was about a mob boss who has a family and health problems, etc. He was a paradox from the get go. I didn't need a scene with him in the diner to realize what he was. I had countless scenes with him and Dr. Melfi fleshing out what his life was truly like and how he had to walk a line between dark side and light.
I think you misunderstood me. I totally agree with you on all that. That was the point of the whole show, and every season you learned a little more about Tony, or his wife, his daughter, his son, Christopher, Paulie, etc. The thing the final episode did that the rest of the show couldn't do - even when Tony went into the hospital at the end of one of the seasons - was make you realize the gravity of knowing that at any moment, no matter how mundane, it could all end. Just getting together for a bite to eat with his family - something you and I take for granted - you see this guy walk to the bathroom, and you wonder. They couldn't show that to you in the middle of season one, because you'd never believe that they'd kill the title character. They got you to believe that they'd kill off other characters on the show, and they were one of the first shows that actually did it. But they'd never kill off Tony. But in the series finale, you believed they might do it. And so the moment was real in a way that all the other scenes from all the episodes in all the other seasons never really was. It was a brilliant way to acknowledge the flaw of the medium - the fact that while we'll all suspend disbelief, there are
rules in a series like this, and one of those rules is that
you don't kill off Tony Soprano - and use the final episode to fill in that blank. So while they'd shown you all the weird mundane moments in this fascinating person's life, this was the first and only opportunity to show you that final piece of the puzzle. I might have been more entertained by another ending, but I think the way they used the final episode was a complete success in the arc of the show.