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[cosjobs]

OK.

Tl;dr version for the ADD crowd: Two Fridays ago I went and had a few beers after work with my buddy Jim. He gets a DUI that night. Due to a history of problems with alcohol his wife is kicking him out and probably moving ahead with a divorce. I was 99% kidding that it is my fault in any way but it still sucks to know that I might have be able to do something to prevent it.

Long version to follow possibly.

Did you invite him? -2 points

Did you buy him a drink or drinks? -2 points per drink

Did you offer him a ride home? +2 points

Did you suggest a cab? +1 point

Did you try and take his keys? +1 point

Total the above.

-5+ = you are a bad person and should be consumed with guilt

-3-4 = you are of marginal moral fiber

-1-2 = meh

0 = unlikely

+1 or more = that's not why we're here

 

[Officer Pete Malloy]

OK.

Tl;dr version for the ADD crowd: Two Fridays ago I went and had a few beers after work with my buddy Jim. He gets a DUI that night. Due to a history of problems with alcohol his wife is kicking him out and probably moving ahead with a divorce. I was 99% kidding that it is my fault in any way but it still sucks to know that I might have be able to do something to prevent it.

Long version to follow possibly.

Did you invite him? -2 points

Did you buy him a drink or drinks? -2 points per drink

Did you offer him a ride home? +2 points

Did you suggest a cab? +1 point

Did you try and take his keys? +1 point

Total the above.

-5+ = you are a bad person and should be consumed with guilt

-3-4 = you are of marginal moral fiber

-1-2 = meh

0 = unlikely

+1 or more = that's not why we're here

*He invited me.

*I did not buy him a drink

*I did not offer him a ride home/offer a cab/take his keys because he did not appear to be that buzzed. Obviously, in hindsight, I should have. We were only there for less than 2 hours and I did not keep track of how many beers he had or the ABV.

I also left the establishment ahead of him. We walked out together but he stopped to talk to a group of guys we had met earlier. When I drove off he was standing outside talking. There is a chance he went back into the breach. I have not asked him about that.

Bottom line if I could go back in time I wouldn't have let him drive. But I can't. I feel terrible about what happened but I'm not blaming myself. He's a grown-### man.

 

[Hawks64]

Another Valium consumed. Watching the first season of Homeland eating some pizza.

 

[General Malaise]

Can buy bottles of beer and wine at the Portland airport. After security so it's easy to bring home with you.

And NO TAXES! TAKE THAT WASHINGTON!

 

[General Malaise]

That sucks, Tanner. I have to think with his wife's reaction that he was probably engaging in a little self-sabotage to eject from this one....you know, force her hand. Obviously, I don't think he set out to get a DUI, but I'm guessing she's the reason he asked you to the bar and the reason he didn't go immediately home. I know a guy who engaged in self-sabotage to eject from a miserable marriage. At least, that's what his therapist told him. Cool guy. Really handsome. Smooth, like a glass of Cutty Shark.

 

[General Malaise]

Aaron, what happened to all the trip updates via text? Was worried you and your family became a lost hikers or something.

 

[Officer Pete Malloy]

That sucks, Tanner. I have to think with his wife's reaction that he was probably engaging in a little self-sabotage to eject from this one....you know, force her hand. Obviously, I don't think he set out to get a DUI, but I'm guessing she's the reason he asked you to the bar and the reason he didn't go immediately home. I know a guy who engaged in self-sabotage to eject from a miserable marriage. At least, that's what his therapist told him. Cool guy. Really handsome. Smooth, like a glass of Cutty Shark.

Yeah...there is a very long back-story about him, his wife, and his drinking. Not an alcoholic but makes stupid mistakes when drinking to excess. Once again, long story.

I didn't know about the DUI until the next morning. Jim's wife sends my wife a message on Facebook. Our wives are not friends in real life. In fact my wife dislikes Jim's wife more than I do.

I felt terrible when I heard. For most of that day I went back and forth with blaming myself a bit and then convincing myself Jim was responsible for his actions.

I finally texted him a couple of days later. I told him I was so ####ing sorry that it happened. He replied with "Yeah, it's my fault. I have to deal with it." I also asked him "Soooo...catching hell on the home-front?" He replied with "To put it mildly."

Of course his See You Next Tuesday of a wife starts posting crap on Facebook like "I can't believe this is happening. I'm living someone else's life right?" And then stupid motiviation pics about "rising above" or "moving forward" etc.

Then just 2 nights ago the wife and I are hanging out with some other friends and the wife tells me that Jim's wife posting something on FB like: "Does anyone know any apartments or rooms to rent...it's for "a friend". itch.

I text Jim:

Me: "Dude, you getting kicked out?"

Jim: Yep

Me: ####. Sorry, man.

Jim: Yeah but I guess it's for the best. Maybe a time for a fresh start. Make some changes.

[some stuff about doing what's best for his daughters etc]

Jim: You wouldn't know anything about apartments haha?

Now this is where I think I might have done him a solid after taking a tiny role in the ####-storm he's in. My older brother has this bad-### house in a gated community. He's single and works out of town 60% of the time. He has two extra bedrooms that he rents out. One of this is occupied by this mega-nerdy Asian-American engineer guy. All he does is stay in his room and play video games.

So I text my brother and ask if his other bedroom is still for rent and how much. Then I text Jim with the info.

Me:...great house with a pool, hot-tub etc.

Jim: Wow, thanks.

Me: One thing. Don't know if it matters but my brother has been sober for 20 years. Poster boy for AA. But he's not a Nazi about it.

Jim: Well, that's probably what I'm looking at so whatever.

 

[Idiot Boxer]

That sucks, Tanner. I have to think with his wife's reaction that he was probably engaging in a little self-sabotage to eject from this one....you know, force her hand. Obviously, I don't think he set out to get a DUI, but I'm guessing she's the reason he asked you to the bar and the reason he didn't go immediately home. I know a guy who engaged in self-sabotage to eject from a miserable marriage. At least, that's what his therapist told him. Cool guy. Really handsome. Smooth, like a glass of Cutty Shark.

Yeah...there is a very long back-story about him, his wife, and his drinking. Not an alcoholic but makes stupid mistakes when drinking to excess. Once again, long story.

I didn't know about the DUI until the next morning. Jim's wife sends my wife a message on Facebook. Our wives are not friends in real life. In fact my wife dislikes Jim's wife more than I do.

I felt terrible when I heard. For most of that day I went back and forth with blaming myself a bit and then convincing myself Jim was responsible for his actions.

I finally texted him a couple of days later. I told him I was so ####ing sorry that it happened. He replied with "Yeah, it's my fault. I have to deal with it." I also asked him "Soooo...catching hell on the home-front?" He replied with "To put it mildly."

Of course his See You Next Tuesday of a wife starts posting crap on Facebook like "I can't believe this is happening. I'm living someone else's life right?" And then stupid motiviation pics about "rising above" or "moving forward" etc.

Then just 2 nights ago the wife and I are hanging out with some other friends and the wife tells me that Jim's wife posting something on FB like: "Does anyone know any apartments or rooms to rent...it's for "a friend". itch.

I text Jim:

Me: "Dude, you getting kicked out?"

Jim: Yep

Me: ####. Sorry, man.

Jim: Yeah but I guess it's for the best. Maybe a time for a fresh start. Make some changes.

[some stuff about doing what's best for his daughters etc]

Jim: You wouldn't know anything about apartments haha?

Now this is where I think I might have done him a solid after taking a tiny role in the ####-storm he's in. My older brother has this bad-### house in a gated community. He's single and works out of town 60% of the time. He has two extra bedrooms that he rents out. One of this is occupied by this mega-nerdy Asian-American engineer guy. All he does is stay in his room and play video games.

So I text my brother and ask if his other bedroom is still for rent and how much. Then I text Jim with the info.

Me:...great house with a pool, hot-tub etc.

Jim: Wow, thanks.

Me: One thing. Don't know if it matters but my brother has been sober for 20 years. Poster boy for AA. But he's not a Nazi about it.

Jim: Well, that's probably what I'm looking at so whatever.

As long as they agree on the number of stars in the sky.

 

[Officer Pete Malloy]

That sucks, Tanner. I have to think with his wife's reaction that he was probably engaging in a little self-sabotage to eject from this one....you know, force her hand. Obviously, I don't think he set out to get a DUI, but I'm guessing she's the reason he asked you to the bar and the reason he didn't go immediately home. I know a guy who engaged in self-sabotage to eject from a miserable marriage. At least, that's what his therapist told him. Cool guy. Really handsome. Smooth, like a glass of Cutty Shark.

Yeah...there is a very long back-story about him, his wife, and his drinking. Not an alcoholic but makes stupid mistakes when drinking to excess. Once again, long story.

I didn't know about the DUI until the next morning. Jim's wife sends my wife a message on Facebook. Our wives are not friends in real life. In fact my wife dislikes Jim's wife more than I do.

I felt terrible when I heard. For most of that day I went back and forth with blaming myself a bit and then convincing myself Jim was responsible for his actions.

I finally texted him a couple of days later. I told him I was so ####ing sorry that it happened. He replied with "Yeah, it's my fault. I have to deal with it." I also asked him "Soooo...catching hell on the home-front?" He replied with "To put it mildly."

Of course his See You Next Tuesday of a wife starts posting crap on Facebook like "I can't believe this is happening. I'm living someone else's life right?" And then stupid motiviation pics about "rising above" or "moving forward" etc.

Then just 2 nights ago the wife and I are hanging out with some other friends and the wife tells me that Jim's wife posting something on FB like: "Does anyone know any apartments or rooms to rent...it's for "a friend". itch.

I text Jim:

Me: "Dude, you getting kicked out?"

Jim: Yep

Me: ####. Sorry, man.

Jim: Yeah but I guess it's for the best. Maybe a time for a fresh start. Make some changes.

[some stuff about doing what's best for his daughters etc]

Jim: You wouldn't know anything about apartments haha?

Now this is where I think I might have done him a solid after taking a tiny role in the ####-storm he's in. My older brother has this bad-### house in a gated community. He's single and works out of town 60% of the time. He has two extra bedrooms that he rents out. One of this is occupied by this mega-nerdy Asian-American engineer guy. All he does is stay in his room and play video games.

So I text my brother and ask if his other bedroom is still for rent and how much. Then I text Jim with the info.

Me:...great house with a pool, hot-tub etc.

Jim: Wow, thanks.

Me: One thing. Don't know if it matters but my brother has been sober for 20 years. Poster boy for AA. But he's not a Nazi about it.

Jim: Well, that's probably what I'm looking at so whatever.

As long as they agree on the number of stars in the sky.

That's my other brother.

 

[proninja]

Can buy bottles of beer and wine at the Portland airport. After security so it's easy to bring home with you.

And NO TAXES! TAKE THAT WASHINGTON!

#dempseywatch

 

[St. Louis Bob]

As long as they agree on the number of stars in the sky.

That's my other brother.

 

[flysack]

I'm bisexual now? I thought I was outright gay.

<- power shrug.

 

[General Malaise]

Can buy bottles of beer and wine at the Portland airport. After security so it's easy to bring home with you.

And NO TAXES! TAKE THAT WASHINGTON!

#dempseywatch

MLS smack talk? Yikes.

 

[Bob Sacamano]

Wait, so Tanner's the normal one in the family?

 

[proninja]

Can buy bottles of beer and wine at the Portland airport. After security so it's easy to bring home with you.

And NO TAXES! TAKE THAT WASHINGTON!

#dempseywatch

MLS smack talk? Yikes.

You've got a better nba and mlb experience in Portland. It's all I've got.

 

[Leeroy Jenkins]

That sucks, Tanner. I have to think with his wife's reaction that he was probably engaging in a little self-sabotage to eject from this one....you know, force her hand. Obviously, I don't think he set out to get a DUI, but I'm guessing she's the reason he asked you to the bar and the reason he didn't go immediately home. I know a guy who engaged in self-sabotage to eject from a miserable marriage. At least, that's what his therapist told him. Cool guy. Really handsome. Smooth, like a glass of Cutty Shark.

Yeah...there is a very long back-story about him, his wife, and his drinking. Not an alcoholic but makes stupid mistakes when drinking to excess. Once again, long story.

I didn't know about the DUI until the next morning. Jim's wife sends my wife a message on Facebook. Our wives are not friends in real life. In fact my wife dislikes Jim's wife more than I do.

I felt terrible when I heard. For most of that day I went back and forth with blaming myself a bit and then convincing myself Jim was responsible for his actions.

I finally texted him a couple of days later. I told him I was so ####ing sorry that it happened. He replied with "Yeah, it's my fault. I have to deal with it." I also asked him "Soooo...catching hell on the home-front?" He replied with "To put it mildly."

Of course his See You Next Tuesday of a wife starts posting crap on Facebook like "I can't believe this is happening. I'm living someone else's life right?" And then stupid motiviation pics about "rising above" or "moving forward" etc.

Then just 2 nights ago the wife and I are hanging out with some other friends and the wife tells me that Jim's wife posting something on FB like: "Does anyone know any apartments or rooms to rent...it's for "a friend". itch.

I text Jim:

Me: "Dude, you getting kicked out?"

Jim: Yep

Me: ####. Sorry, man.

Jim: Yeah but I guess it's for the best. Maybe a time for a fresh start. Make some changes.

[some stuff about doing what's best for his daughters etc]

Jim: You wouldn't know anything about apartments haha?

Now this is where I think I might have done him a solid after taking a tiny role in the ####-storm he's in. My older brother has this bad-### house in a gated community. He's single and works out of town 60% of the time. He has two extra bedrooms that he rents out. One of this is occupied by this mega-nerdy Asian-American engineer guy. All he does is stay in his room and play video games.

So I text my brother and ask if his other bedroom is still for rent and how much. Then I text Jim with the info.

Me:...great house with a pool, hot-tub etc.

Jim: Wow, thanks.

Me: One thing. Don't know if it matters but my brother has been sober for 20 years. Poster boy for AA. But he's not a Nazi about it.

Jim: Well, that's probably what I'm looking at so whatever.

What did Jim's ##### wife's message to your wife say? Was she #####ing to her about you and Jim?

 

[Abraham]

So my favorite neighborhood dive bar is officially going to be non-smoking starting Monday. Apparently the owner's wives were instrumental in the decision and the main bartender is pretty bent about it - the five people that are there every time I go in all smoke. And so do half the rest of the people. The only other smoking options nearby are outdoors.

So I guess I'll be looking for a new favorite neighborhood dive bar.

 

[Bob Sacamano]

So my favorite neighborhood dive bar is officially going to be non-smoking starting Monday. Apparently the owner's wives were instrumental in the decision and the main bartender is pretty bent about it - the five people that are there every time I go in all smoke. And so do half the rest of the people. The only other smoking options nearby are outdoors.

So I guess I'll be looking for a new favorite neighborhood dive bar.

Quit smoking, dumb###.

 

[General Malaise]

Can buy bottles of beer and wine at the Portland airport. After security so it's easy to bring home with you.

And NO TAXES! TAKE THAT WASHINGTON!

#dempseywatch

MLS smack talk? Yikes.

You've got a better nba and mlb experience in Portland. It's all I've got.

Not only are we without a MLB team, but we are soul sisters in suffrage in that EVERY Mariner game is on radio/tv down here. We're part of your territory. Seattle to Portland: "Here, have some AIDS"....THANK YOU, SEATTLE!

 

[General Malaise]

So my favorite neighborhood dive bar is officially going to be non-smoking starting Monday. Apparently the owner's wives were instrumental in the decision and the main bartender is pretty bent about it - the five people that are there every time I go in all smoke. And so do half the rest of the people. The only other smoking options nearby are outdoors.

So I guess I'll be looking for a new favorite neighborhood dive bar.

Yeah, I think some of these new studies linking death and cancer to cigarettes are really starting to impact your freedoms, GB. Sorry. :( The good news is you can still smoke in your car, even if it's on empty and parked by your neighbors house.

 

[UOFI_316]

So my favorite neighborhood dive bar is officially going to be non-smoking starting Monday. Apparently the owner's wives were instrumental in the decision and the main bartender is pretty bent about it - the five people that are there every time I go in all smoke. And so do half the rest of the people. The only other smoking options nearby are outdoors.

So I guess I'll be looking for a new favorite neighborhood dive bar.

Are one of the 5 regulars who you buy your cigarettes from 1 at a time??

 

[Abraham]

So my favorite neighborhood dive bar is officially going to be non-smoking starting Monday. Apparently the owner's wives were instrumental in the decision and the main bartender is pretty bent about it - the five people that are there every time I go in all smoke. And so do half the rest of the people. The only other smoking options nearby are outdoors.

So I guess I'll be looking for a new favorite neighborhood dive bar.

Yeah, I think some of these new studies linking death and cancer to cigarettes are really starting to impact your freedoms, GB. Sorry. :( The good news is you can still smoke in your car, even if it's on empty and parked by your neighbors house.

I don't smoke in the car. I don't smoke inside.

 

[Bob Sacamano]

I'm sorry. I probably should have been less harsh there. Give me a minute to put that more tactfully.

 

[T Bell]

I'm bisexual now? I thought I was outright gay.

<- power shrug.

Quit complaining. We just added about 52% of the population to your potential dating pool.

 

[T Bell]

Wait, so Tanner's the normal one in the family?

Yup. Every family's got the odd uncle, don't they?

 

[McGarnicle]

Sometimes a fraction of a second can really screw up your afternoon. If I could've sat down just a little quicker, I wouldn't have sprayed diarrhea all over the toilet seat. Got it all in the hinges -- not interested in cleaning that, removed the seat and threw it in the trash. Then took a shower, it was that bad.

Headed to Lowe's to buy a new toilet seat after work. On my way home I'm going to stop at Moe's, tell them what happened and see if they'll give me a free burrito.

 

[Bob Sacamano]

If you REALLY want to show your wife that you're making an effort to recoup the money you lied to her about having (or not having), it seems to me an effective way of doing that would be to hand to her the money you save from quitting smoking. And THAT you're willing to quit smoking "for her". Not to mention the fact that you're going to have a couple kids who probably don't need your second-hand smoke filling their lungs. I know the amount of money my old man poured down the drain smoking 3+ packs per day for 40 years. I can't imagine how much money that is for people who smoke today. Not to mention the money and agony that accompanied those smokes in the form of bladder cancer treatments for him for the past 15 years. BTW: There's only 1 way into the bladder to treat bladder cancer. Contemplate that tube penetrating your urethra next time you light up. Do yourself a favor and save the money, your health, the health of your kids, and your spot at your favorite bar. And quit smoking, dumb###.

 

[Bob Sacamano]

Never thought I'd be that guy, but there it is, I guess.

 

[General Malaise]

So my favorite neighborhood dive bar is officially going to be non-smoking starting Monday. Apparently the owner's wives were instrumental in the decision and the main bartender is pretty bent about it - the five people that are there every time I go in all smoke. And so do half the rest of the people. The only other smoking options nearby are outdoors.

So I guess I'll be looking for a new favorite neighborhood dive bar.

Yeah, I think some of these new studies linking death and cancer to cigarettes are really starting to impact your freedoms, GB. Sorry. :( The good news is you can still smoke in your car, even if it's on empty and parked by your neighbors house.

I don't smoke in the car. I don't smoke inside.

This bar is in a tree house or something?

 

[Abraham]

Revised: I don't smoke IN MY HOUSE.

ETA: A Treehouse bar sounds like fun.

 

[Bob Sacamano]

He's going to tell me she smokes, too, isn't he?

 

[Tecumseh]

fish,

You're from the SD area, no?

Si

Any must-hit restaurants while in town?

Surati Farsan

Roberto's Taco Shop

Panda Express

The Fish Merchant

 

[T Bell]

Sometimes a fraction of a second can really screw up your afternoon. If I could've sat down just a little quicker, I wouldn't have sprayed diarrhea all over the toilet seat. Got it all in the hinges -- not interested in cleaning that, removed the seat and threw it in the trash. Then took a shower, it was that bad.

Headed to Lowe's to buy a new toilet seat after work. On my way home I'm going to stop at Moe's, tell them what happened and see if they'll give me a free burrito.

Nice timing.

 

[Bob Sacamano]

That was Panda Express with 2 "s"s?

 

[Abraham]

He's going to tell me she smokes, too, isn't he?

Who? My wife? Heavens no.

 

[-fish-]

fish,

You're from the SD area, no?

Si

Any must-hit restaurants while in town?

Anything in particular you're looking for?

Good Mexican near the beach: Las Olas in Cardiff by the Sea or Fidel's in Solana Beach.

Fine dining: Addison

BBQ: Phil's

Breakfast: Hash House a Go Go

Expensive seafood: Truluck's

Cheap seafood/beer out of big plastic cups/chaotic ordering system: Point Loma Seafood

 

[Bob Sacamano]

fish,

You're from the SD area, no?

Si

Any must-hit restaurants while in town?

Anything in particular you're looking for?

Good Mexican near the beach: Las Olas in Cardiff by the Sea or Fidel's in Solana Beach.

Fine dining: Addison

BBQ: Phil's

Breakfast: Hash House a Go Go

Expensive seafood: Truluck's

Cheap seafood/beer out of big plastic cups/chaotic ordering system: Point Loma Seafood

Nope. Nothing in particular. That sounds like a perfect mix. Thanks.

Definitely checking out Phil's.

 

[Leeroy Jenkins]

So my favorite neighborhood dive bar is officially going to be non-smoking starting Monday. Apparently the owner's wives were instrumental in the decision and the main bartender is pretty bent about it - the five people that are there every time I go in all smoke. And so do half the rest of the people. The only other smoking options nearby are outdoors.

So I guess I'll be looking for a new favorite neighborhood dive bar.

Quit smoking, dumb###.

When you buy one loosey at a time it save money on taxes.

 

[Officer Pete Malloy]

Wait, so Tanner's the normal one in the family?

Not really.

Oldest brother (9 years older than me): Great job with energy company. Divorced and remarried. Still a great guy but a total Jesus freak/Limbaugh kinda guy.

Second oldest brother (8 years older) : Twice divorced, no kids. Great job with the entity that decides where electricity goes in Calif. No more than 2 years of Jr college under his belt but makes bank. 20 years sober. Great guy but a little high-strung. Huge SF Giants fan. Owns a sweet house that he's only at 3-4 days a week. Actually works in Pasedena. Also owns a convertable BMW something-something that he bought for himself a couple of years ago. I hate him.

Sister (6 years older): Widowed. Great job with ATT&T. My favorite sibling to hang out with. Also has a ton of friends that always seem to be going out or having a party.

 

[General Malaise]

Ocean Beach has some outstanding restaurants if memory serves correct....fish tacos stand out. But it's been more than 10 years since I was last there. Newport? I think that's a good street to waltz around.

 

[Notorious T.R.E.]

Never thought I'd be that guy, but there it is, I guess.

I love you

 

[-fish-]

fish,

You're from the SD area, no?

Si

Any must-hit restaurants while in town?

Anything in particular you're looking for?

Good Mexican near the beach: Las Olas in Cardiff by the Sea or Fidel's in Solana Beach.

Fine dining: Addison

BBQ: Phil's

Breakfast: Hash House a Go Go

Expensive seafood: Truluck's

Cheap seafood/beer out of big plastic cups/chaotic ordering system: Point Loma Seafood

Nope. Nothing in particular. That sounds like a perfect mix. Thanks.

Definitely checking out Phil's.

Phil's is really good. Pretty much a take-out place.

Pt. Loma Seafood is close to the airport. Walk in, ignore all of the people milling around and go directly to anyone behind the counter who will make eye contact with you. Place your order with them and walk away, becoming one of the people milling about. Someone will eventually yell your order at you and take your money.

 

[Officer Pete Malloy]

Oh I also have a younger step-sister that I avoid as much as possible. Just a total freak of a person.

 

[-fish-]

Ocean Beach has some outstanding restaurants if memory serves correct....fish tacos stand out. But it's been more than 10 years since I was last there. Newport? I think that's a good street to waltz around.

Lived in OB for 5 years. Tommygunz lives there...he'd be happy to have a beer/poke smot with anyone.

South Beach on Newport has a good happy hour and outstanding lobster tacos.

 

[Aaron Rudnicki]

GM, your advice was all great. Thanks.

 

[-fish-]

John Madden once called Las Olas the best Mexican food in the country during a Monday Night Football game.

 

[Officer Pete Malloy]

That sucks, Tanner. I have to think with his wife's reaction that he was probably engaging in a little self-sabotage to eject from this one....you know, force her hand. Obviously, I don't think he set out to get a DUI, but I'm guessing she's the reason he asked you to the bar and the reason he didn't go immediately home. I know a guy who engaged in self-sabotage to eject from a miserable marriage. At least, that's what his therapist told him. Cool guy. Really handsome. Smooth, like a glass of Cutty Shark.

Yeah...there is a very long back-story about him, his wife, and his drinking. Not an alcoholic but makes stupid mistakes when drinking to excess. Once again, long story.

I didn't know about the DUI until the next morning. Jim's wife sends my wife a message on Facebook. Our wives are not friends in real life. In fact my wife dislikes Jim's wife more than I do.

I felt terrible when I heard. For most of that day I went back and forth with blaming myself a bit and then convincing myself Jim was responsible for his actions.

I finally texted him a couple of days later. I told him I was so ####ing sorry that it happened. He replied with "Yeah, it's my fault. I have to deal with it." I also asked him "Soooo...catching hell on the home-front?" He replied with "To put it mildly."

Of course his See You Next Tuesday of a wife starts posting crap on Facebook like "I can't believe this is happening. I'm living someone else's life right?" And then stupid motiviation pics about "rising above" or "moving forward" etc.

Then just 2 nights ago the wife and I are hanging out with some other friends and the wife tells me that Jim's wife posting something on FB like: "Does anyone know any apartments or rooms to rent...it's for "a friend". itch.

I text Jim:

Me: "Dude, you getting kicked out?"

Jim: Yep

Me: ####. Sorry, man.

Jim: Yeah but I guess it's for the best. Maybe a time for a fresh start. Make some changes.

[some stuff about doing what's best for his daughters etc]

Jim: You wouldn't know anything about apartments haha?

Now this is where I think I might have done him a solid after taking a tiny role in the ####-storm he's in. My older brother has this bad-### house in a gated community. He's single and works out of town 60% of the time. He has two extra bedrooms that he rents out. One of this is occupied by this mega-nerdy Asian-American engineer guy. All he does is stay in his room and play video games.

So I text my brother and ask if his other bedroom is still for rent and how much. Then I text Jim with the info.

Me:...great house with a pool, hot-tub etc.

Jim: Wow, thanks.

Me: One thing. Don't know if it matters but my brother has been sober for 20 years. Poster boy for AA. But he's not a Nazi about it.

Jim: Well, that's probably what I'm looking at so whatever.

What did Jim's ##### wife's message to your wife say? Was she #####ing to her about you and Jim?

It was something like:

"James was arrested last night for drunk driving. I'm pretty sure he met Brian at Imbibe. I don't know all the details but does he know what time they left or if they went somewhere else? And has he contacted Brian since last night?"

Actually I have no idea what she really wanted. I could guess that it was just her way of passively-aggressively snitching on Jim.

 

[Bob Sacamano]

Ocean Beach has some outstanding restaurants if memory serves correct....fish tacos stand out. But it's been more than 10 years since I was last there. Newport? I think that's a good street to waltz around.

Lived in OB for 5 years. Tommygunz lives there...he'd be happy to have a beer/poke smot with anyone.

South Beach on Newport has a good happy hour and outstanding lobster tacos.

Went to Hodads when we were there last year. Big fan of that area. The presence of my 7 year old might limit the gunzing. We're planning to hold off on exposing her to the smot AND apple fanboys for a few more years. Not to mention she's developing nicely as a handicapper. WTF you tryin' to do to me?

 

[Frostillicus]

Anybody know of a good restaurant or bar near Dodger Stadium?

 

[Leeroy Jenkins]

That sucks, Tanner. I have to think with his wife's reaction that he was probably engaging in a little self-sabotage to eject from this one....you know, force her hand. Obviously, I don't think he set out to get a DUI, but I'm guessing she's the reason he asked you to the bar and the reason he didn't go immediately home. I know a guy who engaged in self-sabotage to eject from a miserable marriage. At least, that's what his therapist told him. Cool guy. Really handsome. Smooth, like a glass of Cutty Shark.

Yeah...there is a very long back-story about him, his wife, and his drinking. Not an alcoholic but makes stupid mistakes when drinking to excess. Once again, long story.

I didn't know about the DUI until the next morning. Jim's wife sends my wife a message on Facebook. Our wives are not friends in real life. In fact my wife dislikes Jim's wife more than I do.

I felt terrible when I heard. For most of that day I went back and forth with blaming myself a bit and then convincing myself Jim was responsible for his actions.

I finally texted him a couple of days later. I told him I was so ####ing sorry that it happened. He replied with "Yeah, it's my fault. I have to deal with it." I also asked him "Soooo...catching hell on the home-front?" He replied with "To put it mildly."

Of course his See You Next Tuesday of a wife starts posting crap on Facebook like "I can't believe this is happening. I'm living someone else's life right?" And then stupid motiviation pics about "rising above" or "moving forward" etc.

Then just 2 nights ago the wife and I are hanging out with some other friends and the wife tells me that Jim's wife posting something on FB like: "Does anyone know any apartments or rooms to rent...it's for "a friend". itch.

I text Jim:

Me: "Dude, you getting kicked out?"

Jim: Yep

Me: ####. Sorry, man.

Jim: Yeah but I guess it's for the best. Maybe a time for a fresh start. Make some changes.

[some stuff about doing what's best for his daughters etc]

Jim: You wouldn't know anything about apartments haha?

Now this is where I think I might have done him a solid after taking a tiny role in the ####-storm he's in. My older brother has this bad-### house in a gated community. He's single and works out of town 60% of the time. He has two extra bedrooms that he rents out. One of this is occupied by this mega-nerdy Asian-American engineer guy. All he does is stay in his room and play video games.

So I text my brother and ask if his other bedroom is still for rent and how much. Then I text Jim with the info.

Me:...great house with a pool, hot-tub etc.

Jim: Wow, thanks.

Me: One thing. Don't know if it matters but my brother has been sober for 20 years. Poster boy for AA. But he's not a Nazi about it.

Jim: Well, that's probably what I'm looking at so whatever.

What did Jim's ##### wife's message to your wife say? Was she #####ing to her about you and Jim?

It was something like:

"James was arrested last night for drunk driving. I'm pretty sure he met Brian at Imbibe. I don't know all the details but does he know what time they left or if they went somewhere else? And has he contacted Brian since last night?"

Actually I have no idea what she really wanted. I could guess that it was just her way of passively-aggressively snitching on Jim.

Could have been worse. I was curious if she was trying to bring you into it, make you feel bad, or try to get your wife pissed at you as well.

Good on you for finding him a great temporary place to live. His wife may think you're encouraging him though.