GM's thread about nothing (47 Viewers)

[Notorious T.R.E.]

If the niece is coming with just her kids, I don't see what the big problem is. Poor girl probably hasn't caught much of a break for most of her life, and now has a chance to get away and spend a week with family and relax. I dunno, just the way I see it.

This is my lean. It's family and you have the opportunity to do something cool for them...if you want.

 

[General Malaise]

If the niece is coming with just her kids, I don't see what the big problem is. Poor girl probably hasn't caught much of a break for most of her life, and now has a chance to get away and spend a week with family and relax. I dunno, just the way I see it.

This is my lean. It's family and you have the opportunity to do something cool for them...if you want.

I wouldn't mind hearing more about the episode of Maury she watched.

 

[BobbyLayne]

If the niece is coming with just her kids, I don't see what the big problem is. Poor girl probably hasn't caught much of a break for most of her life, and now has a chance to get away and spend a week with family and relax. I dunno, just the way I see it.

This is my lean. It's family and you have the opportunity to do something cool for them...if you want.

Leaning this way. But no thug bf/fiance.

 

[BobbyLayne]

She smokes AND swears a lot?

Tramp stamp, etc

 

[BobbyLayne]

Did you have an empty bedroom, or did you plan on your kids or someone else being in that 4th bedroom?

Seems like the easiest play is to let your sister know that the 4th room is already being used and that there really just isn't room for anyone else. See if there are other rental houses nearby and helpfully suggest she could rent one of those if she really wants her daughter to be there with the grandkids.

Tend to agree here. Some other things:

1) I'm assuming that since this is a rental there is a strict NO SMOKING policy in place. If there is not, create one.

2) If your sister invited her family, she should be paying their room & board. Right? Maybe start canvassing the area for hotels/motels/rentals that are close by that the same $$$ owed to you can now be owed to somebody else.

3) Now would be a great time to put an ad on CL seeking a hot single mom of young kids who wants a free vacation with the only caveat being that she pretends you are her BF.

1. No issue on smoking. Off property only. My house, my rules.

2. Weekly rentals start around $2,500 (saw one for $1,500 recently, thought about snagging it for them, but gone in 60 seconds or so). My big sister is solidly middle class, I like to treat her when I am able to, so...not really on the table.

3.

 

[Homer J Simpson]

If you need some coke on Shelter Island, I got a guy.

 

[Homer J Simpson]

It's funny 'cause its true.

 

[BobbyLayne]

Full disclosure: my sister did actually ask if it was OK, via email. AFTER she invited her daughter. So, basically I'm in a corner here. I haven't responded yet.

"No"

Yeah, that would have been my answer 10-15 years ago. Since mom passed, I go a little easier. My family sees me about once every two years. It would be a tough one to smooth over.

That said, she's reasonable. She knows her adult kid is a handful, and I think she would reason through it with me. I'm sympathetic that she doesn't get to see her daughter or grandkids much, so again, I might enjoy facilitating that. But I'm wary because it's not just me. This is (I think) more about my kids and what I want to potentially expose them to.

Anyway, thanks all. Appreciate being able to write this out and get some other perspectives.

 

[BobbyLayne]

If you need some coke on Shelter Island, I got a guy.

PMs cleared.

 

[BobbyLayne]

Jesus. So sorry to hear Bobby. :(

F'n WPP. Probably over thinking it.

Actually, it's gonna be a blast. My sisters are a riot. Last vacation we took together (Philly/Gettysburg) my sides were sore for days. They're a little crazy (in the good way), witty, caustic, and are both fantastic to my kids.

 

[Abraham]

'Zooks, are you still not banging that teacher?

I don't bang. I make quick joyful awkward love.

I was kinda losing interest with each date and pretty much lost all interest after the banging. I feel like an ### for that, I was literally contemplating sneaking out of her house in the middle of the night to go home and sleep peacefully in my own bed. We went out one more time and for the last couple weeks my schedule has too "busy" to be able to see her. I'm leaving tomorrow morning for Colorado for a few days and yesterday she called me out (via text) for being distant and putting her off. I feel bad, she's very nice person. We're going to get together next week to "talk".

Good job ruining her for the next guy. "No, I won't sleep with you after this third date...I did that once before and the guy never went out with me again. I'm not a piece of meat!"

 

[strykerpks]

You wanna fight? I feel like you wanna fight.

I'll fight you for FurleyBeers

worth it, imo

 

[Officer Pete Malloy]

Your sister invited somebody to stay at your "house" without asking you.

It is your sister's problem. She needs to tell the girl "NO".

 

[krista4]

If the niece is coming with just her kids, I don't see what the big problem is. Poor girl probably hasn't caught much of a break for most of her life, and now has a chance to get away and spend a week with family and relax. I dunno, just the way I see it.

This is my lean. It's family and you have the opportunity to do something cool for them...if you want.

+1 The following part really got me

I remember what a sweet little girl my niece was. She's had a ton of issues to overcome, and keeping her baby when she was 15 might not have been the wisest choice, but dayum, how can you expect someone who was adopted to turn their back on their own kid. Now she's dirt poor, no car, moves a lot, works as a bartender at a Japanese steak house, raising 3 kids by herself.

The girl needs a break.

Also, you and your son can bond by making fun of them.

 

[BobbyLayne]

I got more likes!

(2:30 replenishment?)

 

[General Malaise]

Full disclosure: my sister did actually ask if it was OK, via email. AFTER she invited her daughter. So, basically I'm in a corner here. I haven't responded yet.

"No"

Yeah, that would have been my answer 10-15 years ago. Since mom passed, I go a little easier. My family sees me about once every two years. It would be a tough one to smooth over.

That said, she's reasonable. She knows her adult kid is a handful, and I think she would reason through it with me. I'm sympathetic that she doesn't get to see her daughter or grandkids much, so again, I might enjoy facilitating that. But I'm wary because it's not just me. This is (I think) more about my kids and what I want to potentially expose them to.

Anyway, thanks all. Appreciate being able to write this out and get some other perspectives.

They'll be exposed to this in due time (if they haven't already) regardless of how you parent them. Wouldn't it be best to have that exposure happen around the safety net of your family and you?

 

[General Malaise]

I think I'm going to start DVRing some Maury.

 

[BobbyLayne]

Full disclosure: my sister did actually ask if it was OK, via email. AFTER she invited her daughter. So, basically I'm in a corner here. I haven't responded yet.

"No"

Yeah, that would have been my answer 10-15 years ago. Since mom passed, I go a little easier. My family sees me about once every two years. It would be a tough one to smooth over.

That said, she's reasonable. She knows her adult kid is a handful, and I think she would reason through it with me. I'm sympathetic that she doesn't get to see her daughter or grandkids much, so again, I might enjoy facilitating that. But I'm wary because it's not just me. This is (I think) more about my kids and what I want to potentially expose them to.

Anyway, thanks all. Appreciate being able to write this out and get some other perspectives.

They'll be exposed to this in due time (if they haven't already) regardless of how you parent them. Wouldn't it be best to have that exposure happen around the safety net of your family and you?

WTF? I got one extra like and now I'm cut off again?

An error occurredYou have reached your quota of positive votes for the day

 

[Fuller]

If the niece is coming with just her kids, I don't see what the big problem is. Poor girl probably hasn't caught much of a break for most of her life, and now has a chance to get away and spend a week with family and relax. I dunno, just the way I see it.

This is my lean. It's family and you have the opportunity to do something cool for them...if you want.

Leaning this way. But no thug bf/fiance.

I agree with all this

 

[Bob Sacamano]

Maybe I have a different relationship with my sister than you do, but I'd ask her.

"What's the deal with Bambi and her family? I looked on Facebook, and what I saw of her fiancee set off some alarms. They're family, and I want to have them around, but I also have young kids I need to consider here. I don't really know any of these people, and I'm concerned."

 

[General Malaise]

Just bring your tennis racket, Rambo....

 

[General Malaise]

Discovered a tiny little Thai restaurant last night that might have the best Thai food I've ever had. I ordered take-out last night and when I pulled into this hole in the wall, there was a sign out front facing the parking lot. She is right..her English is not very good but her food is very very great. Had Thai pumpkin curry...oh man, the flavor was just astounding.

That is all.

 

[BobbyLayne]

Maybe I have a different relationship with my sister than you do, but I'd ask her.

"What's the deal with Bambi and her family? I looked on Facebook, and what I saw of her fiancee set off some alarms. They're family, and I want to have them around, but I also have young kids I need to consider here. I don't really know any of these people, and I'm concerned."

Yup, this is pretty much the outline of the conversation.

Like I said, my big is not oblivious. it's her daughter but she's not blind.

I can call her out on it and have an honest conversation. But if I lead with NFW, it's going go south in a heartbeat.

So I have to start with "So, really looking forward to seeing everyone, but I need to talk to you about some things that concern me."

Also, really like K4's suggestion - I somehow forgot how much fun it is to make fun of quirky relatives. This is like Real World Shelter Island, the kooks are what will make it entertaining. Starting to buy into this now.

 

[YSR]

Maybe I have a different relationship with my sister than you do, but I'd ask her.

"What's the deal with Bambi and her family? I looked on Facebook, and what I saw of her fiancee set off some alarms. They're family, and I want to have them around, but I also have young kids I need to consider here. I don't really know any of these people, and I'm concerned."

Yup, this is pretty much the outline of the conversation.

Like I said, my big is not oblivious. it's her daughter but she's not blind.

I can call her out on it and have an honest conversation. But if I lead with NFW, it's going go south in a heartbeat.

So I have to start with "So, really looking forward to seeing everyone, but I need to talk to you about some things that concern me."

Also, really like K4's suggestion - I somehow forgot how much fun it is to make fun of quirky relatives. This is like Real World Shelter Island, the kooks are what will make it entertaining. Starting to buy into this now.

Webcam it up?

 

[Thorn]

Texting knuckles. At least she never screwed with my job or met my kid

Waitwaitwait. So you're saying this is A DIFFERENT crazy girl instead of knuckles?

 

[Officer Pete Malloy]

RIP again

 

[5-ish Finkle]

RIP again

People are just f@#$ing retaaahhhded.

(It does, however, make me sort of wanna go start a "Rosa Parks was overrated" thread. That should go over swimmingly, right?)

 

[Captain Quinoa]

RIP again

fake

 

[Bob Sacamano]

Maybe I have a different relationship with my sister than you do, but I'd ask her.

"What's the deal with Bambi and her family? I looked on Facebook, and what I saw of her fiancee set off some alarms. They're family, and I want to have them around, but I also have young kids I need to consider here. I don't really know any of these people, and I'm concerned."

Yup, this is pretty much the outline of the conversation.

Like I said, my big is not oblivious. it's her daughter but she's not blind.

I can call her out on it and have an honest conversation. But if I lead with NFW, it's going go south in a heartbeat.

So I have to start with "So, really looking forward to seeing everyone, but I need to talk to you about some things that concern me."

Also, really like K4's suggestion - I somehow forgot how much fun it is to make fun of quirky relatives. This is like Real World Shelter Island, the kooks are what will make it entertaining. Starting to buy into this now.

Webcam it up?

I'm voting Bobby off first. He already sounds the least titillating.

 

[General Malaise]

I think this George Springer kid might be up to something.

 

[Abraham]

https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/readingrainbow/bring-reading-rainbow-back-for-every-child-everywh

 

[Good Posting Judge]

I think this George Springer kid might be up to something.

In our main league, we just agreed to add two minor league spots in a fairly close vote. One of the guys who was vehemently against it bid on and won Springer ($6), who I really wanted. And not just because he went to burgeoning college baseball power The University of Connecticut ("We've got Mike Olt too!").

When I asked him later about it, he said he had no idea who Springer was.

Good news I guess is that I have Pederson and Taveras getting close.

 

[-fish-]

Texting knuckles. At least she never screwed with my job or met my kid

Waitwaitwait.So you're saying this is A DIFFERENT crazy girl instead of knuckles?

I collect crazy.

 

[Notorious T.R.E.]

Texting knuckles. At least she never screwed with my job or met my kid

Waitwaitwait.So you're saying this is A DIFFERENT crazy girl instead of knuckles?

I collect crazy.

I collect bourbon and disappointment.

 

[Notorious T.R.E.]

Just accidentally typed yotube instead of youtube. Now considering becoming the BET of video sharing.

 

[Good Posting Judge]

Just accidentally typed yotube instead of youtube. Now considering becoming the BET of video sharing.

Isn't that what World Star Hip Hop is?

 

[krista4]

fish/'ninja/Drifter, I'm going to have to reschedule for Friday (not sure if 'ninja/Drifter were in anyway)--how about Friday, June 13 or whatever the right date is?

 

[YSR]

fish/'ninja/Drifter, I'm going to have to reschedule for Friday (not sure if 'ninja/Drifter were in anyway)--how about Friday, June 13 or whatever the right date is?

A Friday the 13th date with the one-woman natural disaster? Sign me up!

 

[-fish-]

fish/'ninja/Drifter, I'm going to have to reschedule for Friday (not sure if 'ninja/Drifter were in anyway)--how about Friday, June 13 or whatever the right date is?

I'm going camping that weekend.

 

[Captain Quinoa]

fish/'ninja/Drifter, I'm going to have to reschedule for Friday (not sure if 'ninja/Drifter were in anyway)--how about Friday, June 13 or whatever the right date is?

I'm going camping that weekend.

 

[Officer Pete Malloy]

fish/'ninja/Drifter, I'm going to have to reschedule for Friday (not sure if 'ninja/Drifter were in anyway)--how about Friday, June 13 or whatever the right date is?

I'm going camping that weekend.

You packing this?

 

[Good Posting Judge]

Really tempted to post on Facebook that today we lost one of our nation's greatest poets and writers, and including a picture of Malcolm Glazer.

 

[Ignoramus]

Discovered a tiny little Thai restaurant last night that might have the best Thai food I've ever had. I ordered take-out last night and when I pulled into this hole in the wall, there was a sign out front facing the parking lot. She is right..her English is not very good but her food is very very great. Had Thai pumpkin curry...oh man, the flavor was just astounding.

That is all.

Best Thai restaurant in Houston is a place called Asia Market. It's in a pretty rough part of town and consists of maybe eight tables for two wedged into an... Asian market. Some place you'd never venture in to if you did not know the restaurant was there, but man that #### is good.

 

[Notorious T.R.E.]

Discovered a tiny little Thai restaurant last night that might have the best Thai food I've ever had. I ordered take-out last night and when I pulled into this hole in the wall, there was a sign out front facing the parking lot. She is right..her English is not very good but her food is very very great. Had Thai pumpkin curry...oh man, the flavor was just astounding.

That is all.

Best Thai restaurant in Houston is a place called Asia Market. It's in a pretty rough part of town and consists of maybe eight tables for two wedged into an... Asian market. Some place you'd never venture in to if you did not know the restaurant was there, but man that #### is good.

Wait, you're in Houston?

 

[cosjobs]

And I applaud you for not dropping her with a short right hook.

This is an excellent point.

Roverkid is trying to parlay this into guilting me into buying her a kitten

Protip: you don't have to "buy" a kitten.

But you do pay

 

[cosjobs]

I'm looking to buy a couple of city/commuter bicycles if anyone has them for sale. I have an ipod Shuffle and three 16" wheel covers from a 2006 Rav4 (these will probably fit other models/years but I don't know).

Oh yeah, sorry to hear about your ordeal, Roverfish.

I bought my wife this for xmas.

still new, unused

I got myself this

it is also new and unused at this point

 

[GroveDiesel]

Bobby: Any thoughts to putting the train wreck in the guest house with your sister and your other sisterin a room in the main house with you?

That way you don't have to be around the crazy as much.

 

[cosjobs]

I'm still trying to unload those golf galaxy gift cards if anyone is interested.

Save it, Abe.

I would be genuinely interested at about 60% face value.

61

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[Officer Pete Malloy]

Really tempted to post on Facebook that today we lost one of our nation's greatest poets and writers, and including a picture of Malcolm Glazer.

I was just going to post a pic of Moises Alou.

 

[Thorn]

Texting knuckles. At least she never screwed with my job or met my kid

Waitwaitwait.So you're saying this is A DIFFERENT crazy girl instead of knuckles?

I collect crazy.

Good God man. Perhaps time to adjust your style?