Hair coloring for men - advice/tips? (1 Viewer)

[pats3in4]

wait, you're getting divorced and you want back in the dating pool?

Geez... if I got divorced the absolute last thing on my list of things I'd want to do would be "get back in the dating pool".

There is enough great free pron on the internet to keep me satisfied for YEARS.

It's like your taking this great blessing and slapping it in the face. This is your chance to remove women from your equation for the rest of your days and have an understandable excuse as to why you are doing so.

Pure crazy man.

www.nomarriage.com I understand, but www.nocoitus.com? Seems a bit extreme, IMHO.

i have no problem with hiring some live ###### if you want to go that route, but not where there is any chance of an attachment or a relationship.

Ah, this helps paint a more complete picture. You're a man with a plan.

 

[James Daulton]

What about grey pubes? Should I dye my grey pubes?

You shouldn't have pubes to worry about. Shave 'em

As vain as I am about everything else, this is the one thing I don't do. I don't even manscape.

 

[Dentist]

What about grey pubes? Should I dye my grey pubes?

You shouldn't have pubes to worry about. Shave 'em

As vain as I am about everything else, this is the one thing I don't do. I don't even manscape.

gross, bro.. no way i'll fellate you with all that going on

 

[James Daulton]

What about grey pubes? Should I dye my grey pubes?

You shouldn't have pubes to worry about. Shave 'em

As vain as I am about everything else, this is the one thing I don't do. I don't even manscape.

gross, bro.. no way i'll fellate you with all that going on

 

[offdee]

What about grey pubes? Should I dye my grey pubes?

You shouldn't have pubes to worry about. Shave 'em

As vain as I am about everything else, this is the one thing I don't do. I don't even manscape.

You should add this to your life. No woman wants all that extra foliage and it will make you visually appear larger and in charger.

 

[James Daulton]

What about grey pubes? Should I dye my grey pubes?

You shouldn't have pubes to worry about. Shave 'em

As vain as I am about everything else, this is the one thing I don't do. I don't even manscape.

You should add this to your life. No woman wants all that extra foliage and it will make you visually appear larger and in charger.

Here's the thing. As noted, I've been married to the same girl for a long time and she's never complained about my downstairs. I'm already pretty anal about my looks as is, and I think if I add this behavior she'll immediately think I'm prepping for other chicks (even though I'm not). She's cool with my other obsessions so I don't want to add any insecurity if at all possible.

If she thought it made me more attractive and was into it, I'd totally do it. Maybe I'll bring it up during our next sexors?

 

[flapgreen]

Had my pubes shaved when I got snipped. Never again!

 

[offdee]

Had my pubes shaved when I got snipped. Never again!

Why?

 

[offdee]

What about grey pubes? Should I dye my grey pubes?

You shouldn't have pubes to worry about. Shave 'em

As vain as I am about everything else, this is the one thing I don't do. I don't even manscape.

You should add this to your life. No woman wants all that extra foliage and it will make you visually appear larger and in charger.

Here's the thing. As noted, I've been married to the same girl for a long time and she's never complained about my downstairs. I'm already pretty anal about my looks as is, and I think if I add this behavior she'll immediately think I'm prepping for other chicks (even though I'm not). She's cool with my other obsessions so I don't want to add any insecurity if at all possible.

If she thought it made me more attractive and was into it, I'd totally do it. Maybe I'll bring it up during our next sexors?

Don't wait for secks, just tell her that you've been taking part in a conversation on a net message board about guys aging/keeping in shape, etc. and the topic of guys grooming downstairs came about. Many giving the thumbs up and saying their women actually end up appreciating it. "Surprisingly with how vain I am I've never really thought too much about this...what's your take on this? Should I give it a try or just keep as is?"

 

[Ketamine Dreams]

Blonde highlight tips are in

You'll have guys swooning over you

 

[James Daulton]

What about grey pubes? Should I dye my grey pubes?

You shouldn't have pubes to worry about. Shave 'em

As vain as I am about everything else, this is the one thing I don't do. I don't even manscape.

You should add this to your life. No woman wants all that extra foliage and it will make you visually appear larger and in charger.

Here's the thing. As noted, I've been married to the same girl for a long time and she's never complained about my downstairs. I'm already pretty anal about my looks as is, and I think if I add this behavior she'll immediately think I'm prepping for other chicks (even though I'm not). She's cool with my other obsessions so I don't want to add any insecurity if at all possible.

If she thought it made me more attractive and was into it, I'd totally do it. Maybe I'll bring it up during our next sexors?

Don't wait for secks, just tell her that you've been taking part in a conversation on a net message board about guys aging/keeping in shape, etc. and the topic of guys grooming downstairs came about. Many giving the thumbs up and saying their women actually end up appreciating it. "Surprisingly with how vain I am I've never really thought too much about this...what's your take on this? Should I give it a try or just keep as is?"

WTF, I'll give it a shot.

 

[Ignoramus]

I haven't read all the responses so I'm sure I'm in the minority here, but I say don't dye it.

 

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wait, you're getting divorced and you want back in the dating pool?

Geez... if I got divorced the absolute last thing on my list of things I'd want to do would be "get back in the dating pool".

There is enough great free pron on the internet to keep me satisfied for YEARS.

It's like your taking this great blessing and slapping it in the face. This is your chance to remove women from your equation for the rest of your days and have an understandable excuse as to why you are doing so.

Pure crazy man.

You'd rather #### a kleenex box than a real woman?

 

[Dentist]

wait, you're getting divorced and you want back in the dating pool?

Geez... if I got divorced the absolute last thing on my list of things I'd want to do would be "get back in the dating pool".

There is enough great free pron on the internet to keep me satisfied for YEARS.

It's like your taking this great blessing and slapping it in the face. This is your chance to remove women from your equation for the rest of your days and have an understandable excuse as to why you are doing so.

Pure crazy man.

You'd rather #### a kleenex box than a real woman?

no, just suggesting that as a recently divorced man that instead of entering the dating pool that he should celebrate his freedoms.. knock out a few slumpbusters if he needs to, pay for some intercourse if he needs to, but "dating" and a new "relationship" should be the last things he is ever thinking of.

And if given the choice between another marriage and a kleenex box, he should probably choose the latter.

 

[Jack White]

I haven't read all the responses so I'm sure I'm in the minority here, but I say don't dye it.

When I started to notice a few gray ones coming in, I asked a couple dozen women their opinion. It was unanimous: leave it alone.

 

[Jobber]

Just go with shoe polish. Noone will be the wiser.

Blackface?

 

[pats3in4]

So I took the leap and went with the gaining-in-popularity "blending the gray out" salon treatment. It leaves some gray behind on purpose to look natural, especially as new hair grows in.

Whoa. Looks...different. I had gray tufts of hair in the front and on the temples and a lot of gray throughout which caused my hair to look really gray under bright light. Now it's all uniformly brown with much fewer grays mixed in throughout. Honestly, it looks almost straight brown. What little gray remains can only be seen very up close. Granted they did a good job matching the color to my natural brown color, but it's obvious it was colored since the straight gray portions are gone.

 

[CurlyNight]

So I took the leap and went with the gaining-in-popularity "blending the gray out" salon treatment. It leaves some gray behind on purpose to look natural, especially as new hair grows in.

Whoa. Looks...different. I had gray tufts of hair in the front and on the temples and a lot of gray throughout which caused my hair to look really gray under bright light. Now it's all uniformly brown with much fewer grays mixed in throughout. Honestly, it looks almost straight brown. What little gray remains can only be seen very up close. Granted they did a good job matching the color to my natural brown color, but it's obvious it was colored since the straight gray portions are gone.

Permanent or semi perm color? After washing a few times, it will fade out and look more real. It always looks "stronger" in color right after you do it then dials down some after washings and time.

 

[pats3in4]

So I took the leap and went with the gaining-in-popularity "blending the gray out" salon treatment. It leaves some gray behind on purpose to look natural, especially as new hair grows in.

Whoa. Looks...different. I had gray tufts of hair in the front and on the temples and a lot of gray throughout which caused my hair to look really gray under bright light. Now it's all uniformly brown with much fewer grays mixed in throughout. Honestly, it looks almost straight brown. What little gray remains can only be seen very up close. Granted they did a good job matching the color to my natural brown color, but it's obvious it was colored since the straight gray portions are gone.

Permanent or semi perm color? After washing a few times, it will fade out and look more real. It always looks "stronger" in color right after you do it then dials down some after washings and time.

Semi-perm. Needs to be redone every 4-6 weeks, which syncs with the haircut schedule. I hope it dials back a bit in a day or two.

 

[CurlyNight]

So I took the leap and went with the gaining-in-popularity "blending the gray out" salon treatment. It leaves some gray behind on purpose to look natural, especially as new hair grows in.

Whoa. Looks...different. I had gray tufts of hair in the front and on the temples and a lot of gray throughout which caused my hair to look really gray under bright light. Now it's all uniformly brown with much fewer grays mixed in throughout. Honestly, it looks almost straight brown. What little gray remains can only be seen very up close. Granted they did a good job matching the color to my natural brown color, but it's obvious it was colored since the straight gray portions are gone.

Permanent or semi perm color? After washing a few times, it will fade out and look more real. It always looks "stronger" in color right after you do it then dials down some after washings and time.

Semi-perm. Needs to be redone every 4-6 weeks, which syncs with the haircut schedule. I hope it dials back a bit in a day or two.

It will be more than a day or two but good you went semi permanent. The issue is if there is a big diff between what you did and what you have naturally, it'll eventually be seen if you are going to steadily date someone. Keeping up with color to hide you color can be challenging overall. It's not a bad thing but you seem to be really hung up on women not being able to tell or find out. Relax on that. If you are happy with the way you look, it'll show and she won't care unless you become a bit obsessed.

 

[BobbyLayne]

I'm currently sporting the tricolor look. White van dyke, dark bushy 'stache and salt n pepa mop up top. Historically dark brown. This post will serve as a black dot in case I want to revisit this topic (which I haven't read) later. Not messing with what's working ATM.

 

[BobbyLayne]

Read through it. Good responses, and confirms once again that going with my gut usually works. When you wear with confidence you'll do fine.

 

[BobbyLayne]

Hmmm - wonder what the percentage of those who dye their hair do so to have a greater shot with the wimmens or do it to have a more youthful look at work? In some positions/industries it may not matter, but in others you don't want to be the old, fat, not staying current with technology, wearing pleats/cuffs gray guy.

JS, you know I'm a huge fan of yours. We're roughly the same age (52) with obvious differences in our life situation - my oldest will be a senior in the fall, youngest is in 1st grade, while IIRC your three are all in college or just graduated? I'm divorced, you've got an empty nest? I've really appreciated your advice over the years on staying current fashion wise.

But in my position the grayish look is an asset. I've been the oldest person in the company for about six months and my peers and folks in other departments/offices view me as the sage to turn to on policy matters or making a call on ambiguous matters. I've kept myself current on technology trends but I'm pretty comfortable being the old guy. I've seen you offer this up a few times - I wouldn't say its insecurity, you seem comfortable in your own skin, but I've noticed you're very conscientious about not embracing the reality of nearing senior status. Is this just a Sales environment thing? Because in finance the longevity and experience factor are assets and a central core of (don't hate me for saying it) my personal brand. Just curious on your thoughts. Nobody wants to be phased out or marginalized but I'm just not that worried about people viewing me as the old dude.

 

[James Daulton]

So I took the leap and went with the gaining-in-popularity "blending the gray out" salon treatment. It leaves some gray behind on purpose to look natural, especially as new hair grows in.

Whoa. Looks...different. I had gray tufts of hair in the front and on the temples and a lot of gray throughout which caused my hair to look really gray under bright light. Now it's all uniformly brown with much fewer grays mixed in throughout. Honestly, it looks almost straight brown. What little gray remains can only be seen very up close. Granted they did a good job matching the color to my natural brown color, but it's obvious it was colored since the straight gray portions are gone.

Do you think you look younger than before? Do you like it?

My "highlighting" is on a 10 week schedule (had to go yesterday so I know). Like I said, my grey was sprinkled throughout so blending it in wasn't dramatic for me.

It's all in what makes you happy.

 

[James Daulton]

Hmmm - wonder what the percentage of those who dye their hair do so to have a greater shot with the wimmens or do it to have a more youthful look at work? In some positions/industries it may not matter, but in others you don't want to be the old, fat, not staying current with technology, wearing pleats/cuffs gray guy.

JS, you know I'm a huge fan of yours. We're roughly the same age (52) with obvious differences in our life situation - my oldest will be a senior in the fall, youngest is in 1st grade, while IIRC your three are all in college or just graduated? I'm divorced, you've got an empty nest? I've really appreciated your advice over the years on staying current fashion wise.

But in my position the grayish look is an asset. I've been the oldest person in the company for about six months and my peers and folks in other departments/offices view me as the sage to turn to on policy matters or making a call on ambiguous matters. I've kept myself current on technology trends but I'm pretty comfortable being the old guy. I've seen you offer this up a few times - I wouldn't say its insecurity, you seem comfortable in your own skin, but I've noticed you're very conscientious about not embracing the reality of nearing senior status. Is this just a Sales environment thing? Because in finance the longevity and experience factor are assets and a central core of (don't hate me for saying it) my personal brand. Just curious on your thoughts. Nobody wants to be phased out or marginalized but I'm just not that worried about people viewing me as the old dude.

I would bet that the sales industry is vastly different than finance. I'm in finance as well and the basic rules don't really change all that much, so being seen as seasoned definitely has great value. Maybe with sales, things like constant product changes and having to hustle a lot, the perception of youth and vigor really do make a difference.

And you've got a first grader at 52? Was raising the second one as a baby much more difficult than the first one because of less energy, etc? Just curious.

 

[BobbyLayne]

Hmmm - wonder what the percentage of those who dye their hair do so to have a greater shot with the wimmens or do it to have a more youthful look at work? In some positions/industries it may not matter, but in others you don't want to be the old, fat, not staying current with technology, wearing pleats/cuffs gray guy.

JS, you know I'm a huge fan of yours. We're roughly the same age (52) with obvious differences in our life situation - my oldest will be a senior in the fall, youngest is in 1st grade, while IIRC your three are all in college or just graduated? I'm divorced, you've got an empty nest? I've really appreciated your advice over the years on staying current fashion wise.

But in my position the grayish look is an asset. I've been the oldest person in the company for about six months and my peers and folks in other departments/offices view me as the sage to turn to on policy matters or making a call on ambiguous matters. I've kept myself current on technology trends but I'm pretty comfortable being the old guy. I've seen you offer this up a few times - I wouldn't say its insecurity, you seem comfortable in your own skin, but I've noticed you're very conscientious about not embracing the reality of nearing senior status. Is this just a Sales environment thing? Because in finance the longevity and experience factor are assets and a central core of (don't hate me for saying it) my personal brand. Just curious on your thoughts. Nobody wants to be phased out or marginalized but I'm just not that worried about people viewing me as the old dude.

I would bet that the sales industry is vastly different than finance. I'm in finance as well and the basic rules don't really change all that much, so being seen as seasoned definitely has great value. Maybe with sales, things like constant product changes and having to hustle a lot, the perception of youth and vigor really do make a difference.

And you've got a first grader at 52? Was raising the second one as a baby much more difficult than the first one because of less energy, etc? Just curious.

I've slowed down in some ways. Can't recover as quickly from workouts, random aches and pains, don't party hard like I used to and pay for it when I do. But I'm a fairly high energy guy. I leave for work anywhere from 4:30 to 6:00 a.m. and go hard until 4:30-5:00. My departure time is a little early for an executive but everyone knows what time I turn the lights on. I setup my schedule this way so I can pick her up from Afterschool and cook the family dinner.

IME raising a girl is a little more work than a boy. My son was a pretty content baby and his developmental transitions were relatively easy to deal with. On the other hand my daughter is a complete PITA. She's my whole world and I love her more than anything, but she's just a raw bundle of emotion. TBH she's a good kid; she's a pleaser and does the right thing in school or extracurricular classes. But once she is home, well I guess she knows she is daddy's little girl. She's also über sensitive; if I speak sharply to her she bursts into tears. Having a daughter is also very humbling. She has a very high EQ and an uncommon level of empathy for a child her age. I'm raising her, but she is teaching me some pretty awesome lessons along the way.

I'm not getting any younger; I'll be early 60s when she is in h.s., 67 when she gets done with undergrad. Maybe energy level will be more of an issue later. But at this stage I would say if anything she is keeping me young and active. I love every aspect (and stage) of parenting, but at this moment in time I am really enjoying doing things together with her (swimming, skiing, bike riding, et al).

 

[James Daulton]

Hmmm - wonder what the percentage of those who dye their hair do so to have a greater shot with the wimmens or do it to have a more youthful look at work? In some positions/industries it may not matter, but in others you don't want to be the old, fat, not staying current with technology, wearing pleats/cuffs gray guy.

JS, you know I'm a huge fan of yours. We're roughly the same age (52) with obvious differences in our life situation - my oldest will be a senior in the fall, youngest is in 1st grade, while IIRC your three are all in college or just graduated? I'm divorced, you've got an empty nest? I've really appreciated your advice over the years on staying current fashion wise.

But in my position the grayish look is an asset. I've been the oldest person in the company for about six months and my peers and folks in other departments/offices view me as the sage to turn to on policy matters or making a call on ambiguous matters. I've kept myself current on technology trends but I'm pretty comfortable being the old guy. I've seen you offer this up a few times - I wouldn't say its insecurity, you seem comfortable in your own skin, but I've noticed you're very conscientious about not embracing the reality of nearing senior status. Is this just a Sales environment thing? Because in finance the longevity and experience factor are assets and a central core of (don't hate me for saying it) my personal brand. Just curious on your thoughts. Nobody wants to be phased out or marginalized but I'm just not that worried about people viewing me as the old dude.

I would bet that the sales industry is vastly different than finance. I'm in finance as well and the basic rules don't really change all that much, so being seen as seasoned definitely has great value. Maybe with sales, things like constant product changes and having to hustle a lot, the perception of youth and vigor really do make a difference.

And you've got a first grader at 52? Was raising the second one as a baby much more difficult than the first one because of less energy, etc? Just curious.

I've slowed down in some ways. Can't recover as quickly from workouts, random aches and pains, don't party hard like I used to and pay for it when I do. But I'm a fairly high energy guy. I leave for work anywhere from 4:30 to 6:00 a.m. and go hard until 4:30-5:00. My departure time is a little early for an executive but everyone knows what time I turn the lights on. I setup my schedule this way so I can pick her up from Afterschool and cook the family dinner.

IME raising a girl is a little more work than a boy. My son was a pretty content baby and his developmental transitions were relatively easy to deal with. On the other hand my daughter is a complete PITA. She's my whole world and I love her more than anything, but she's just a raw bundle of emotion. TBH she's a good kid; she's a pleaser and does the right thing in school or extracurricular classes. But once she is home, well I guess she knows she is daddy's little girl. She's also über sensitive; if I speak sharply to her she bursts into tears. Having a daughter is also very humbling. She has a very high EQ and an uncommon level of empathy for a child her age. I'm raising her, but she is teaching me some pretty awesome lessons along the way.

I'm not getting any younger; I'll be early 60s when she is in h.s., 67 when she gets done with undergrad. Maybe energy level will be more of an issue later. But at this stage I would say if anything she is keeping me young and active. I love every aspect (and stage) of parenting, but at this moment in time I am really enjoying doing things together with her (swimming, skiing, bike riding, et al).

I appreciate the perspective. I have friends with young kids and wonder how they do it since my kids wore me out when I was in my late 20's.

And if you're noticing the emotions now, wait until she's a teen. My daughter just turned 16 and the conversations she has with my wife are sometimes seriously comical.

 

[simey]

So I took the leap and went with the gaining-in-popularity "blending the gray out" salon treatment. It leaves some gray behind on purpose to look natural, especially as new hair grows in.

Whoa. Looks...different. I had gray tufts of hair in the front and on the temples and a lot of gray throughout which caused my hair to look really gray under bright light. Now it's all uniformly brown with much fewer grays mixed in throughout. Honestly, it looks almost straight brown. What little gray remains can only be seen very up close. Granted they did a good job matching the color to my natural brown color, but it's obvious it was colored since the straight gray portions are gone.

This woman doesn't mind gray hair on a man at all. I think some men look better with gray in their hair. It can soften a complexion and facial features, or it's just downright sexy.

 

[BobbyLayne]

I have a first date with s Curator tonight.

:softball:

 

[pats3in4]

So I took the leap and went with the gaining-in-popularity "blending the gray out" salon treatment. It leaves some gray behind on purpose to look natural, especially as new hair grows in.

Whoa. Looks...different. I had gray tufts of hair in the front and on the temples and a lot of gray throughout which caused my hair to look really gray under bright light. Now it's all uniformly brown with much fewer grays mixed in throughout. Honestly, it looks almost straight brown. What little gray remains can only be seen very up close. Granted they did a good job matching the color to my natural brown color, but it's obvious it was colored since the straight gray portions are gone.

Do you think you look younger than before? Do you like it?

My "highlighting" is on a 10 week schedule (had to go yesterday so I know). Like I said, my grey was sprinkled throughout so blending it in wasn't dramatic for me.

It's all in what makes you happy.

Definitely look younger. I like it, but the gray really got blended out, almost entirely. There are a few strands of gray here and there to make it look natural and avoid the shoe polish look. It's going to take some getting used to, that's for sure.