I was accused of having a drinking problem (1 Viewer)

[DSP]

Last week my band accused me of having a drinking problem. We practice twice a week for 2 hours each time. I always drink 3-4 tall boys, usually bud light with lime because it soithes ny throat. Nobody else in the band drinks. My rythm guitarist smokes pot but not at practice.

We may play a show at a festival near albany next month. I asked if there would be alcohol abd my bass player said there wasnt and that he is worried I have a drinking problem. He is an alcoholic who has been sober for 15 years..

They fired me lasy year because I wasnt honest about being in rehab before and living in a halfway house. They asked me back a few months ago, as I knew they would, because im one of the best black metal vocalists in the world let alone locally so they cant replace me. We jammed again last night and the conversation went like this...

Bassist-" you never used to drink before. The other day we practiced at 10 am and you drank a whole 6-pack before 11"

Me- "first, im 215 pounds, a 6-pack barely gets me buzzed. Second, time of day is irrelevant. Third, I always do a good job. Practice is the only time I have fun. Im 30 and ill drink beer if I want to"

Bassist- "you are drinking too frequently"

Me- "two nights a week isnt frequent. Unless drinking affects my ability to perform, which it wont, you have no point"

Lead guitar- "ok fine. If it becomes a problem then we will bring it up"

Bassist- "not if......when"

Me- " so because you are an alcoholic you think everyone who has a drink is a potential alcoholic? Im drinking bud light not shooting china white" then I chugged the rest of my beer

Bassist- "your responses are predictable"

Rythm guitar- "im staying out of this"

Drummer- silent

Me- " bottom line, im good at what I do. I wont be treated like a baby. Either you deal with it or kick me out but you couldnt replace me a year ago and you cant replace me now. You are the one with the problem, not me"

Everyone goes silent. We did one more set and I kicked butt. Now my bassist wont talk to me.

Now I feel like I have to continue to drink at every practice and show just to prove that I wont let anyone tell me what to do.

 

[fatness]

That'll show them.

 

[Jayrod]

Was this a scene in Spinal Tap? I've only seen that once and it was a long time ago.

 

[KingPrawn]

Since when did FBGs become facebook?

 

[Soulfly3]

''I kicked butt. Now my bassist won't talk to me.''

As soon as I figure out how to do it, thats my sig.

 

[mquinnjr]

because im one of the best black metal vocalists in the world let alone locally so they cant replace me.

Youtube video and a poll option before Friday morning EST, por favor.

 

[DSP]

because im one of the best black metal vocalists in the world let alone locally so they cant replace me.

Youtube video and a poll option before Friday morning EST, por favor.

Cant by friday because we dont get together again until wednesday. Ive already told them we should record our jans and post them on youtube until we record the demo

 

[Soulfly3]

because im one of the best black metal vocalists in the world let alone locally so they cant replace me.

Youtube video and a poll option before Friday morning EST, por favor.

Do you even scream, bro?

 

[jomar]

Was this a scene in Spinal Tap? I've only seen that once

Dude....this is just sad

 

[Jayrod]

Was this a scene in Spinal Tap? I've only seen that once

Dude....this is just sad

I know. The whole story and his excuses are ridiculous. He very well may have a drinking problem. It isn't something to joke about.

 

[squistion]

You have had serious substance abuse problems. Alcohol is a drug. You shouldn't be drinking at all - if it isn't already a problem it is only a matter of time before it become one.

 

[DSP]

Was this a scene in Spinal Tap? I've only seen that once

Dude....this is just sad

I know. The whole story and his excuses are ridiculous. He very well may have a drinking problem. It isn't something to joke about.

Oh, so if someone denies having a problem then they must have one? If I said I have a drinking problem then that means I dont?

How can drinking a 6 pack 2 nights a week be a problem?

 

[DSP]

You have had serious substance abuse problems. Alcohol is a drug. You shouldn't be drinking at all - if it isn't already a problem it is only a matter of time before it become one.

Youre a funny guy

 

[jon_mx]

Drinking problem? Seems like a step up from your previous problems.

 

[squistion]

You have had serious substance abuse problems. Alcohol is a drug. You shouldn't be drinking at all - if it isn't already a problem it is only a matter of time before it become one.

Youre a funny guy

And the joke will be on you.

 

[Wooderson]

Was this a scene in Spinal Tap? I've only seen that once

Dude....this is just sad

I know. The whole story and his excuses are ridiculous. He very well may have a drinking problem. It isn't something to joke about.

Oh, so if someone denies having a problem then they must have one? If I said I have a drinking problem then that means I dont?How can drinking a 6 pack 2 nights a week be a problem?

Not even two nights a week. You don't practice until next Wednesday. So you will have a whole week off.

 

[mad sweeney]

Was this a scene in Spinal Tap? I've only seen that once

Dude....this is just sad

I know. The whole story and his excuses are ridiculous. He very well may have a drinking problem. It isn't something to joke about.

Oh, so if someone denies having a problem then they must have one? If I said I have a drinking problem then that means I dont?

How can drinking a 6 pack 2 nights a week be a problem?

Not in every instance, notwithstanding the fact that that isn't what he said. However, when someone's this defensive about it, relies on dozens of well worn excuses/rationales, especially someone with substance abuse problems in the past, then you can pretty much always chalk it up to being correct.

 

[johnnycakes]

All I can tell you is, social drinkers don't get accused of having a drinking problem.

 

[DSP]

Was this a scene in Spinal Tap? I've only seen that once

Dude....this is just sad

I know. The whole story and his excuses are ridiculous. He very well may have a drinking problem. It isn't something to joke about.

Oh, so if someone denies having a problem then they must have one? If I said I have a drinking problem then that means I dont?How can drinking a 6 pack 2 nights a week be a problem?

Not even two nights a week. You don't practice until next Wednesday. So you will have a whole week off.

Next 2 sunday nights are cancelled but usually we jam twice a week

 

[ClownCausedChaos2]

Is a tall boy a 16-ounce can?

 

[mad sweeney]

All I can tell you is, social drinkers don't get accused of having a drinking problem.

Sure they do, they just aren't always right about it. I'd bet on it being correct in this case though.

 

[DSP]

Was this a scene in Spinal Tap? I've only seen that once

Dude....this is just sad

I know. The whole story and his excuses are ridiculous. He very well may have a drinking problem. It isn't something to joke about.

Oh, so if someone denies having a problem then they must have one? If I said I have a drinking problem then that means I dont?How can drinking a 6 pack 2 nights a week be a problem?

Not in every instance, notwithstanding the fact that that isn't what he said. However, when someone's this defensive about it, relies on dozens of well worn excuses/rationales, especially someone with substance abuse problems in the past, then you can pretty much always chalk it up to being correct.

I never had substance abuse problems

 

[mad sweeney]

Was this a scene in Spinal Tap? I've only seen that once

Dude....this is just sad

I know. The whole story and his excuses are ridiculous. He very well may have a drinking problem. It isn't something to joke about.

Oh, so if someone denies having a problem then they must have one? If I said I have a drinking problem then that means I dont?How can drinking a 6 pack 2 nights a week be a problem?

Not in every instance, notwithstanding the fact that that isn't what he said. However, when someone's this defensive about it, relies on dozens of well worn excuses/rationales, especially someone with substance abuse problems in the past, then you can pretty much always chalk it up to being correct.

I never had substance abuse problems

Why were you in rehab?

 

[DSP]

Is a tall boy a 16-ounce can?

I drink 22 ouncers

 

[mad sweeney]

Is a tall boy a 16-ounce can?

I drink 22 ouncers

Is your six pack all 22oz?

 

[DSP]

Was this a scene in Spinal Tap? I've only seen that once

Dude....this is just sad

I know. The whole story and his excuses are ridiculous. He very well may have a drinking problem. It isn't something to joke about.

Oh, so if someone denies having a problem then they must have one? If I said I have a drinking problem then that means I dont?How can drinking a 6 pack 2 nights a week be a problem?

Not in every instance, notwithstanding the fact that that isn't what he said. However, when someone's this defensive about it, relies on dozens of well worn excuses/rationales, especially someone with substance abuse problems in the past, then you can pretty much always chalk it up to being correct.

I never had substance abuse problems

Why were you in rehab?

I had no place to live so I went for 3 weeks so that when they released me they could find me a room

Ive used drugs in the past, all kinds but always stopped cold turkey when I wanted too

 

[DSP]

Is a tall boy a 16-ounce can?

I drink 22 ouncers

Is your six pack all 22oz?

No. I drink 3 or 4 so it adds up between a 6 pack or a 6 pack and a half give or take

 

[ClownCausedChaos2]

Is a tall boy a 16-ounce can?

I drink 22 ouncers

So you drank the equivalent of eleven 12-ounce beers in an hour? Did you take time to breathe?

 

[DSP]

Is a tall boy a 16-ounce can?

I drink 22 ouncers

So you drank the equivalent of eleven 12-ounce beers in an hour? Did you take time to breathe?

I drank 3 which equals a little less than a 6 pack

I usually polish off 3-4 in an hour

 

[Soulfly3]

Does your username stand for Drinking: Serious Problem?

 

[Jules Winnfield]

142 (six pack of 22 ounce tall boys) ounces of beer in less than an hour at 10am in the morning.That mean almost a 12 pack of longnecks at 10am in the morning and done before 11am.

What is the legal limit in your state for driving?

 

[mad sweeney]

Is a tall boy a 16-ounce can?

I drink 22 ouncers

Is your six pack all 22oz?

No. I drink 3 or 4 so it adds up between a 6 pack or a 6 pack and a half give or take

So you drink more than a six pack but sort of fudge the numbers so it doesn't sound like you drink as much as you do? Erring up to 50% more than you drink isn't exactly a good sign for your defense.

 

[phrozen]

oh hello DSP

 

[ClownCausedChaos2]

Is a tall boy a 16-ounce can?

I drink 22 ouncers

So you drank the equivalent of eleven 12-ounce beers in an hour? Did you take time to breathe?

I drank 3 which equals a little less than a 6 packI usually polish off 3-4 in an hour

Maybe I missed this part, and I'm sorry if I'm asking a question a second time: outside of practice twice a week, how much do you drink?

 

[John Bender]

My band doesn't drink during practice. The shark move is to practice during practice so you can be good enough to get gigs at a place that will give free drinks. Then get drunk (for free). Otherwise, you're doing it wrong and do have a drinking problem

 

[mad sweeney]

Was this a scene in Spinal Tap? I've only seen that once

Dude....this is just sad

I know. The whole story and his excuses are ridiculous. He very well may have a drinking problem. It isn't something to joke about.

Oh, so if someone denies having a problem then they must have one? If I said I have a drinking problem then that means I dont?How can drinking a 6 pack 2 nights a week be a problem?

Not in every instance, notwithstanding the fact that that isn't what he said. However, when someone's this defensive about it, relies on dozens of well worn excuses/rationales, especially someone with substance abuse problems in the past, then you can pretty much always chalk it up to being correct.

I never had substance abuse problems

Why were you in rehab?

I had no place to live so I went for 3 weeks so that when they released me they could find me a room

Ive used drugs in the past, all kinds but always stopped cold turkey when I wanted too

So what did you lie about to your bandmates that got you kicked out of the band? Did you tell them you were in for drugs but they found out you weren't and got mad?

 

[Jules Winnfield]

Is a tall boy a 16-ounce can?

I drink 22 ouncers

So you drank the equivalent of eleven 12-ounce beers in an hour? Did you take time to breathe?

I drank 3 which equals a little less than a 6 pack

I usually polish off 3-4 in an hour

According to you:

Bassist-" you never used to drink before. The other day we practiced at 10 am and you drank a whole 6-pack before 11"

Me- "first, im 215 pounds, a 6-pack barely gets me buzzed. Second, time of day is irrelevant. Third, I always do a good job. Practice is the only time I have fun. Im 30 and ill drink beer if I want to"

So you drank the whole sixer and you claim that a sixer barley gets you buzzed. Now you try and tell us that you only drink 3 or 4 of them.
Which is it?

 

[DSP]

Was this a scene in Spinal Tap? I've only seen that once

Dude....this is just sad

I know. The whole story and his excuses are ridiculous. He very well may have a drinking problem. It isn't something to joke about.

Oh, so if someone denies having a problem then they must have one? If I said I have a drinking problem then that means I dont?How can drinking a 6 pack 2 nights a week be a problem?

If you feel like you have to do it when you go to band practice, because it's a part of band practice, you have a drinking problem. When beer because part of an experience, whatever it is, it's your crutch. And when that happens, it's time to back off.

As someone who has seen some dark times as a son of an alcoholic and as someone who has been close to it being a serious problem for myself, I can honestly say I'm qualified to say this.

Alcohol is always about an experience so this line of reasoning makes no sense. You are saying everyone is an alcoholic.

Everyone who does any drug does it for the experience. When you become dependent on it and cant stop its an addiction.

I dont go out the rest of the week. Practice is my only fun time and I like to have a few beers and relax

 

[Baloney Sandwich]

Sounds like you need some aunt hazel to help you forget about those bozos

 

[DSP]

Is a tall boy a 16-ounce can?

I drink 22 ouncers

So you drank the equivalent of eleven 12-ounce beers in an hour? Did you take time to breathe?

I drank 3 which equals a little less than a 6 packI usually polish off 3-4 in an hour

Maybe I missed this part, and I'm sorry if I'm asking a question a second time: outside of practice twice a week, how much do you drink?

I dont drink outside practice

 

[ClownCausedChaos2]

Is a tall boy a 16-ounce can?

I drink 22 ouncers

So you drank the equivalent of eleven 12-ounce beers in an hour? Did you take time to breathe?

I drank 3 which equals a little less than a 6 packI usually polish off 3-4 in an hour

Maybe I missed this part, and I'm sorry if I'm asking a question a second time: outside of practice twice a week, how much do you drink?

I dont drink outside practice

So why do you drink at practice? And do you see your bandmates outside or practice?

 

[DSP]

To answer everyones questions.

3 22 ouncers = a 6 pack

I was kicked out a year ago because I lied about where I was for 3 weeks

I am the most prepared one in the band to play shows. Most of the time I find practice a little boring because im ready for shows

 

[DSP]

Is a tall boy a 16-ounce can?

I drink 22 ouncers

So you drank the equivalent of eleven 12-ounce beers in an hour? Did you take time to breathe?

I drank 3 which equals a little less than a 6 packI usually polish off 3-4 in an hour

Maybe I missed this part, and I'm sorry if I'm asking a question a second time: outside of practice twice a week, how much do you drink?

I dont drink outside practice

So why do you drink at practice? And do you see your bandmates outside or practice?

Because I enjoy it. Its my only fun

I never see these guys outside practice

 

[Widbil83]

Cut out the boozing during practice and just start drinking heavily during shows.

 

[Slapdash]

If you're going to be an alcoholic, at least upgrade the beer.

 

[ClownCausedChaos2]

Is a tall boy a 16-ounce can?

I drink 22 ouncers

So you drank the equivalent of eleven 12-ounce beers in an hour? Did you take time to breathe?

I drank 3 which equals a little less than a 6 packI usually polish off 3-4 in an hour

Maybe I missed this part, and I'm sorry if I'm asking a question a second time: outside of practice twice a week, how much do you drink?

I dont drink outside practice

So why do you drink at practice? And do you see your bandmates outside or practice?

Because I enjoy it. Its my only funI never see these guys outside practice

So the only time these guys see you, you're pounding beers.

I would say no, you don't have a drinking problem. However, you can't blame them for saying/thinking that. Everytime they see you, you're pounding beers.

That's my take.

 

[DSP]

Cut out the boozing during practice and just start drinking heavily during shows.

I dont plan on drinking heavily either way. I just like a light buzz. I still have to be functioning

 

[DSP]

If you're going to be an alcoholic, at least upgrade the beer.

The lime soothes my throat. Im very intense

 

[mad sweeney]

Is a tall boy a 16-ounce can?

I drink 22 ouncers

So you drank the equivalent of eleven 12-ounce beers in an hour? Did you take time to breathe?

I drank 3 which equals a little less than a 6 packI usually polish off 3-4 in an hour

Maybe I missed this part, and I'm sorry if I'm asking a question a second time: outside of practice twice a week, how much do you drink?

I dont drink outside practice

So why do you drink at practice? And do you see your bandmates outside or practice?

Because I enjoy it. Its my only fun

I never see these guys outside practice

So your only fun is when you're drinking?

 

[DSP]

Is a tall boy a 16-ounce can?

I drink 22 ouncers

So you drank the equivalent of eleven 12-ounce beers in an hour? Did you take time to breathe?

I drank 3 which equals a little less than a 6 packI usually polish off 3-4 in an hour

Maybe I missed this part, and I'm sorry if I'm asking a question a second time: outside of practice twice a week, how much do you drink?

I dont drink outside practice

So why do you drink at practice? And do you see your bandmates outside or practice?

Because I enjoy it. Its my only funI never see these guys outside practice

So the only time these guys see you, you're pounding beers.I would say no, you don't have a drinking problem. However, you can't blame them for saying/thinking that. Everytime they see you, you're pounding beers.

That's my take.

I know I dont but these guys have a skewed view because one is an alcoholic and the rest dont drink