Yah reading it I can see why she's with the "personal trainer" now even if everyone thinks he's a loser. I was too beta in the relationship always up to what she wanted to do, I stopped working out, and she makes good money herself so she didn't need me financially.
Wish she would have verbalized her unhappiness, but like the book says it's more subconcious. I haven't finished it yet, but major props to Getzalf for recommending it. Will defintely make sure my next relationship is awesome. Can never get complacent with yourself or your SO will become "bored". Nothing wrong with that message.
The one sad part about it is makes relationships/attraction seem so based on "biologoy" / "primal instinct". That there is no control either man or woman have. It's probably the truth, but in a way it takes the "romance"/"sense of control" away.
I get the whole part about the biology of it all and it's good to know but it's more background info to me. Almost everything he said in the book were things I
used to do. I was always Alpha without knowing terminology and rankings. It should be the foundation of any relationship, imo. I've seen so many friends make big mistakes early on in relationships that only lead to problems later on. Hiding who they really are. My problem is that after 18 years of marriage, I have settled back a bit to even rank. The book was just a good kick to remind me how things used to be and to get back to that.