icon may be over the top, but he's hitting the nail on the head in here. While 16 should block calls and keep the $#@&ing dog, none of that is going to lead to closure on this. This crazy will eventually wind up on his doorstep kicking and screaming until she gets exactly what she wants. What is the most troubling is 16 doesn't recognize obvious manipulative attempts to keep him captive as.... just that. He thinks he's getting upperhand, receiving legit remorse. It makes him feel better about himself, and so he allows it to continue. But don't think for a moment that wasn't her plan all along. Hell, she's used half of Sybil's personalities trying to find the right way in. This person seems incapable of caring about anything but her own selfish needs and desires, and you've littered 47 pages with the breadcrumbs of evidence. If she was capable of even an iota of self-suffering, she wouldn't be trying to set up a doggy visit while you're trying to get on with your life. To your face she's telling you her trivial desire to pet that dog is more important to her than you, and your mental state. Think about that for a moment and recognize the person you're dealing with here.
Keep posting updates because it is entertaining, but for the love of god, don't be so naive. Until you recognize blatant manipulation, and recognize the soul-less blackhole of a person you're dealing with, you'll be strung along regardless of what you do, or don't do.
And FWIW - Your description of her and your 6th grade crush and commandeering your friend list is almost cliche; the people who can't be trusted are those same people who find everyone else untrustworthy. They assume everyone is as conniving and deceiptful as themselves. You shouldn't put any faith in someone like that under any circumstances.
Now this I understand and can get behind. However, what's crazy is that everyone in this thread thinks she is the freaking devil and puppet master. Now I get you guys are trying to help me out so you maybe exaggerating, probably it is the wisdom of prior experience, or that you guys have an untainted viewpoint as an outside observer
but why does everything have to be some type of manipulation on her part? You guys are likely right that she's trying to get me back.... but to completely dismiss it all as selfish manipulation is a bit extreme and hard to swallow.
To accept that is basically saying everything I FELT during the relationship was a due to her manipulation and deceit. That I offer nothing of value to her despite being her BF for 7 years and us having talks about the future. That it is impossible she could truly regret leaving me because of the qualities I possess and the way I handled the relationship. That during these 7 years we were never truly happy... that she just manipulated everything to feed her selfishness.
I'm not saying you guys are wrong about her motives right now or the basic advice,
but to truly accept that viewpoint 100% means I have/had nothing she desires except for my attention. How is that supposed to make any feel any better? Yah... she just wants you because you are there (probably the case, but it can't be everything).
How I view it: She made a mistake leaving me for dude. Now she realizes that she ####ed up. However, in that time I realized she is crazy, there are other women out there, and not to mention she ####### left me for a ####### stranger after 7 years together.
Why does it need to be more than that? How come for you guys those reasons are not good enough for me to move on? Why do I have to condemn her as manipulative temptress to move on?
I'm a person who hates hate, anger, and basically all negative energy. People make decisions. Every decision has a consequence. She decided to cheat on me. So now I don't ever want to be with her again because I can never trust her. Simple as that. Does it really need to be anymore?
I understand what you guys are saying about blocking her texts in order to not even waste a nano second devoted to her, but why do I have to turn her into the spawn of Satan to convince you guys I'm moving on (not that it should matter anyways)?