Is it the husband's job to fill the wife's car with gas? (1 Viewer)

[Johnny Rock]

Why would anyone just go out to fill up their own car with gas, then just return home? Seems like a ridiculous waste of time and gas.

This

 

[FUBAR]

This is probably better suited for a spin off thread, but this seemingly nice gesture is the perfect example of ending up owning a responsibility.

My wife's ex used to always fill her tank. It never dawned on me that it was "the man's job" to keep her car filled. She just expected me to keep her tank filled for her, even from day one when I barely even knew her. She said she had never used a gas pump before (how true that is, who knows). So I started keeping her tank filled, which lasted for quite some time (don't do it anymore).

Over the years, many things that started out as "being nice" on occasion or helpful turned into my responsibility. She got a dog. On freezing cold nights or crappy weather, I took the dog out. Then that became my job. Same with vacuuming. Or cleaning the bathrooms. Or bringing kids to doctor's appointments. Or buying pet food. The list goes on and on. Then try to NOT do those things anymore and you rank right up there with Hitler and Attila the Hun.

Finally things got to the point where I seriously had to ask her what her jobs were, as my list had become an encyclopedia. When things are a) expected, b) unappreciated, and c) unreciprocated that's when I will start doing less and less. It's one thing to be nice, but it's another thing to basically be someone's lackey.

This. I am very wary of doing something once (and/or showing competence at something) for fear it will become my job. Made that mistake with vacuuming.

I'd replace the word "responsibility" with "expectation" but otherwise agree.

 

[FUBAR]

Why would anyone just go out to fill up their own car with gas, then just return home? Seems like a ridiculous waste of time and gas.

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Sure. On a similar note, why would anyone buy flowers which just die anyway?

(I don't do either - but our sex life is nonexistent. Wonder if there's a connection)

 

[Angry Beavers]

She wants gas in her car, she fills it up. If I happen to take her car for some reason and notice she needs gas, I'll fill it. Otherwise, can't see this happening

 

[Zow]

I do it without being asked. Just another way of saying I love her.

So you make a special trip like once a week just to fill up her car?

During the winter, yes.

I gotta be honest, gb, that seems horribly inefficient.

 

[Zow]

She wants gas in her car, she fills it up. If I happen to take her car for some reason and notice she needs gas, I'll fill it. Otherwise, can't see this happening

Yeah it shocks me that people do anything but this.

I mean, if we're in the car together and it's cold, I'm happy to do it. But it wouldn't dawn on either of us to have me just go and fill her car up simply for the sake of doing so.

 

[Zow]

Why is it that some of your women can't pump gas themselves?

When the drivers' side front window on my last car broke and fell into the door, my wife got replacement glass, took my door apart, installed the new window, and had it working within 2-3 hours. I couldn't have achieved that with a week to work on it. If anything, she should be pumping my gas.

My wife changed my tire for me over the weekend.

true story.

 

[Officer Pete Malloy]

If my wife suggested it was my job to fill up her car I would fill up her face with my fist.

 

[Jayrod]

My wife is a neat freak and perfectionist. Our house is spotless. She does all the cleaning, laundry, vacuuming and the dishes. I'll put them away some times and put dirty ones in. She also handles all the finances and bills ( she also pulls in well into six figures and works out like a maniac)

I do most of the cooking, all the grilling, all the driving and handle the garbage, snow shoveling, yard work, home repairs and handle all the vacation details and entertainment and any research online. And I go out to get breakfast on weekends and lunch/dinner takeout.

It's only 2 of us in a small house so it's not a ton of work but we play to our strengths.

Sooooo much changes after children.

 

[jamny]

My wife is a neat freak and perfectionist. Our house is spotless. She does all the cleaning, laundry, vacuuming and the dishes. I'll put them away some times and put dirty ones in. She also handles all the finances and bills ( she also pulls in well into six figures and works out like a maniac)

I do most of the cooking, all the grilling, all the driving and handle the garbage, snow shoveling, yard work, home repairs and handle all the vacation details and entertainment and any research online. And I go out to get breakfast on weekends and lunch/dinner takeout.

It's only 2 of us in a small house so it's not a ton of work but we play to our strengths.

Sooooo much changes after children.

Unless a mistake happens, we're not having kids.

 

[msommer]

Apparently in my house it is since every time I take her car it's on empty.

Every. Single. Time.

My wife hasn't driven in probably 10 years, I'm the chauffeur. If she had her own car, I'd fill the tank if she asked but wouldn't be keeping track of it.

Funny - on trips I navigate. Her navigating = us lost and closer to divorce. Bad mojo.

When I say chauffeur, I mean chauffeur. I drive and navigate. She'll help look out for signs but that's about it. We've been married 20 years and I can only think of like once or twice that she drove while I was in the car.

FBGs don't use GPS? :whoosh:

 

[Ditkaless Wonders]

I do it without being asked. Just another way of saying I love her.

So you make a special trip like once a week just to fill up her car?

During the winter, yes.

I gotta be honest, gb, that seems horribly inefficient.

The object is not efficiency.

 

[jamny]

Apparently in my house it is since every time I take her car it's on empty.

Every. Single. Time.

My wife hasn't driven in probably 10 years, I'm the chauffeur. If she had her own car, I'd fill the tank if she asked but wouldn't be keeping track of it.

Funny - on trips I navigate. Her navigating = us lost and closer to divorce. Bad mojo.

When I say chauffeur, I mean chauffeur. I drive and navigate. She'll help look out for signs but that's about it. We've been married 20 years and I can only think of like once or twice that she drove while I was in the car.

FBGs don't use GPS? :whoosh:

My new car (2013) has it and I use it sometimes. Thankfully, most rental cars now have it too. We've been married for 20 years and took a ton of driving trips in the US and Europe without it. It actually was kinda fun without it, getting lost from time to time. Made for some memorable drives.

 

[Officer Pete Malloy]

Why is it that some of your women can't pump gas themselves?

When the drivers' side front window on my last car broke and fell into the door, my wife got replacement glass, took my door apart, installed the new window, and had it working within 2-3 hours. I couldn't have achieved that with a week to work on it. If anything, she should be pumping my gas.

My wife changed my tire for me over the weekend.

true story.

Here is my surpised face

 

[Evilgrin 72]

Actually, I wasn't being entirely truthful. A couple of months ago, my wife and I went to Fogo de Chao for dinner. On the hour-long ride home, I gradually filled her car with gas until she was hanging her head out the window like a golden retriever.

 

[msommer]

Actually, I wasn't being entirely truthful. A couple of months ago, my wife and I went to Fogo de Chao for dinner. On the hour-long ride home, I gradually filled her car with gas until she was hanging her head out the window like a golden retriever.

Lay off the beans next time...

 

[Evilgrin 72]

Actually, I wasn't being entirely truthful. A couple of months ago, my wife and I went to Fogo de Chao for dinner. On the hour-long ride home, I gradually filled her car with gas until she was hanging her head out the window like a golden retriever.

Lay off the beans next time...

HAHA - I can't resist the feijoada, but these were primarily...

MEAT FARTS

 

[Yankee23Fan]

No. We don't switch cars all too often because of the kid accessories that are apparantly required now or DYFS arrests you. I'm half joking.

Not to tangent the thread, but I am in charge and refuse to let her scrape the snow and ice off of her car in the morning though if she is going to be going out that day. That's a man job. I happily do it and have gone out of my way to do it for her.

 

[glock]

Okay, now. Howsabout cleaning the car?

 

[Zow]

I do it without being asked. Just another way of saying I love her.

So you make a special trip like once a week just to fill up her car?

During the winter, yes.

I gotta be honest, gb, that seems horribly inefficient.

The object is not efficiency.

I get that.

 

[Zow]

Why is it that some of your women can't pump gas themselves?

When the drivers' side front window on my last car broke and fell into the door, my wife got replacement glass, took my door apart, installed the new window, and had it working within 2-3 hours. I couldn't have achieved that with a week to work on it. If anything, she should be pumping my gas.

My wife changed my tire for me over the weekend.

true story.

Here is my surpised face