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You should buy another Jeep.Otis said:
this book. I've read it many times. 
I still struggle to really comprehend the notion that your life (and time in general) can be experienced and perceived as both continuous and discrete all at once. But that notion still resonates with me, even if I don't fully understand it.
It introduced me to eastern thought/philosophy in my soph year of HS.
Thanks for the reminder. It has been too long since I last read it.
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I struggle as well.
I think Hesse's river metaphor works really well. I just haven't been able to go beyond that to any deeper understanding. I have a hunch that maybe deeper understanding isn't necessary - that acceptance of the river along with the act of contemplation itself is "the thing".I struggle as well.
At first, I tried to imagine it in terms of western physics - take time across its full domain - quantum phenomena - Yada Yada...
While that produced some cool thought experiments, I never felt that it was adequate.
Then I realized that it was futile to approach the concept from that perspective, even though it does add some weight.
Looking at it from the eastern perspective was not natural to me, so it took a lot of fumbling around in the dark for a long while.
I learned more, took up some eastern disciplines and after a while, came to believe that I would have to experience it in order to understand it.
Well, I'm not awakened, but I've had some pretty crazy and wonderful experiences that have brought me closer to understanding.
Not sure if I ever will understand, but I don't know if that's the true goal for me anymore.
Lately, I've been more focused on being - in the hopes that it would serve me better.
That doesn't mean that I've given up on understanding, rather it is more a dessert - if I get lucky - than a meal.
Hope that makes sense. Thnx for the sub-topic.
If you're counting this deep, I think the first half takes it. Unless you are incredible lucky, 75-90 are going to suck. Your freedom and income are going to be limited, unless you are one of the lucky few that remains healthy until the day you die from a heart attack without previous health issues, and you invested so wisely your fortune outlives you so you never have to worry about money.
Don't get me wrong here, GB. This isn't about my longing for the past or any unhappiness. If I could freeze my life where it is right this moment and keep it forever, I'd be incredibly thrilled. I'm blessed beyond belief and quite happy -- happier than any other stage in my life. Just a thought that occurred to me, comparing 0-45 with 46-90.
Yeah I put the line at 40 (0-40/40-80) with the thought that it's possible to make it to 75 relatively healthy. Realistically though, you're right, anyone should be grateful to make it to 70 without a major issue.
Yeah...I like that. Thnx.
filthy
Jesus, thanks.
Yea, Otis is def a saver. Isn't he the guy that thought a 6 figure Ford pickup is a good idea?
I get the sense that while Otis earns, Otis also spends. 4 daughters, right? He'll foot the bill for every one of their weddings, and I expect him to do those big. 100 people, low key, yea okay
4 weddings, split between the Waldorf and Montauk Yacht Club, 400 guests a piece - I'm thinking that'll set Otis back about 7 years on retirement in itself. Prob a vacation house to make sure his daughters stay close when their older.
He'll die in his office, living a good 2nd half, but with 7 mortgages on 2 houses.
Here's the rub, I can cash out savings/investments to get by for six months trying to enjoy my last days. I can't cash out not knowing when that day is coming if it won't be for 40 more years. Having to keep that job really changes that "what are you doing" question and limits the options for the last one. Because of that, my answer is "plugging along doing what I have to do, so that I can do what I want to do in my free time."
This is me. I want to be retired at 60 with the goal of living to 80. I kind of have those numbers in the back of my head. While I won't be able to physically do most of the stuff I can do now, I can hopefully live from 60ish to 72/75ish carefree - I'd hope those are good times. While being carefree in the same way I was when I was a little kid, I'll have money to enjoy myself, but I won't have the abilities to do the same things I did when I was a kid, nor the childish innocence to understand how ####ed up this planet really is. When I think about it like that, those retirement years are prob good, but hard to top the years as a youth.
No, but if I ever do that moment will be the BC/AD of which part of my life is the best.
On March 1, I had a an old client call me and tell me that her parents wanted to sell their house because her dad was just told he had six months to live. I met with them two days later. He was surprisingly in a good mood and wanted to take care of the sale now as most of the proceeds would be going to build a mother-in-law suite at his daughters home.
Yes.
Well said.
Excellent post. Agree with every word. That being said people can course correct and overcome.
Regarding the bolded: absolutely. We are all a work in progress and nobody is going to do everything perfectly. I have a couple of close friends that grew up in abusive environments, were a complete mess in early adulthood but have cleaned up their acts, fixed their relationships with their kids and spouse and are different people today than they were 5 years ago.Judge Smails said:
Jerking it to internet porn. I think I do that in most of these scenarios so it’s definitely on the list. And spending time with friends and family - that too.
I never woulda give'n ya the re-charger if I'd know this is how ya'd use your time, gb.
