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Issue with forward massage therapist (1 Viewer)

Yeah comedy aside this is pretty easy. Either you keep going and some drama happens or you stop going now. And think about this. Maybe your wife does trust you. But this chick decides she can get you by breaking your marriage. She tearfully confesses to your wife that you and her have been having an affair almost from day one and she couldn't take the guilt anymore. Tell your wife what is going on and run like hell. Or don't and we'll enjoy that more.
Yeah. Chicks be crazy.

 
Yeah comedy aside this is pretty easy. Either you keep going and some drama happens or you stop going now. And think about this. Maybe your wife does trust you. But this chick decides she can get you by breaking your marriage. She tearfully confesses to your wife that you and her have been having an affair almost from day one and she couldn't take the guilt anymore. Tell your wife what is going on and run like hell. Or don't and we'll enjoy that more.
Yeah. Chicks be crazy.
They can be odd. I don't understand them all the time but I am good with that. Women understand women and they generally don't like them.

 
Uh, this sounds fantastic. You're overthinking this.

I would cut down on the conversation, don't lose your masseuse, and don't worry your wife with reports about what the masseuse says. Keep it professional, everyone wins.

I'd lose the underwear too, maybe you're inviting this response by showing your self-consciousness and that's what's at the bottom of all this. Just relax, get your massage, keep the small talk to a minimum, leave, and don't worry yourself or your wife unnecessarily.

Doubt you're special, she's probably banging half her clientele.
Don't disagree. I got a buddy that goes to her too, along with that buddy's SO, and I think he's in the same boat.
Ok, it's her schtick then. Don't sweat it.

OTOH:

  • Casita?
  • If she's messing with your wife, not ok, don't accept that for a second.
  • If your wife is concerned that comes first. If she's not concerned, that's something else. Point is, don't disrespect her.
  • I don't get the small talk with the masseuse. Go in, get the massage, no chit-chat seems to to be the thing to do. If you can't manage that, then get someone else.
 
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Let me guess, the strippers always come on to you whenever you're at a strip club too. Also waitresses, female bar tenders and chicks who work in clothing/department stores.

 
Sex life with the wife okay, Woz? Communication with her solid too?

Just seems to me that the shark move would be to be completely honest with her...tell her you feel like the masseuse is coming on to you a bit...but that you're not interested in her sexually. Remind her that you would n-e-v-e-r cheat on her, but that said experience makes you come home feeling happy/relaxed and a little "frisky." Don't want to give up seeing a masseuse that has actually helped you feel better physically. Tell her it would make you very happy to have a little "sexy time" with her when you get home from said massage. Help her hit that high note...and she'll practically be BEGGING you to keep going in for massages. :shrug:

 
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Don't say anything and don't do anything. If I told my wife every time I got hit on it would have made for hundreds of unpleasant nights at home. You did nothing wrong and there is nothing to be "completely honest" about. Saying anything is only asking for trouble.

 
Sex life with the wife okay, Woz? Communication with her solid too?

Just seems to me that the shark move would be to be completely honest with her...tell her you feel like the masseuse is coming on to you a bit...but that you're not interested in her sexually. Remind her that you would n-e-v-e-r cheat on her, but that said experience makes you come home feeling happy/relaxed and a little "frisky." Don't want to give up seeing a masseuse that has actually helped you feel better physically. Tell her it would make you very happy to have a little "sexy time" with her when you get home from said massage. Help her hit that high note...and she'll practically be BEGGING you to keep going in for massages. :shrug:
Uhh, don't do this.

 
Don't say anything and don't do anything. If I told my wife every time I got hit on it would have made for hundreds of unpleasant nights at home. You did nothing wrong and there is nothing to be "completely honest" about. Saying anything is only asking for trouble.
This

But telling us is a-okay

 
If you say anything your wife may play it cool and let you skate this time but from here on out if she sees any girl just make eye contact with you it's going to be your fault because you did something to invite the eye contact. Then will come the silent treatment followed by the water works. She'll never forget it, so if you want to open that door for no reason by all means sit her down and have an open and honest talk with her about some harmless conversation you had with another woman.

 
One of these times she's going to over power you, tie you down, and have her way with you.

Be sure to act surprised.

 
If you don't want it, simple, a well timed stinky fart or two will kill the atmosphere. Whoops, you were just too relaxed.

If you do want it display some wood proudly and say, "a little help here!" Whoops, you just got too relaxed.

 
Seriously, you wear underwear when you get a massage? Why even go. If you cant relax during a massage, you are just wasting your money.

 
Seriously, you wear underwear when you get a massage? Why even go. If you cant relax during a massage, you are just wasting your money.
:confused:

1. I can't relax during massages because I'm in ####### pain the entire time. But that doesn't mean I'm not comfortable. I don't see why having underwear on or not means I am comfortable or not. It's not like my boxer briefs aren't comfortable.

2. I dunno, I don't see a reason why some relative stranger should be seeing my junk when there is no reason for her to, especially now that I'm married. It's not like the underwear gets in the way at all and I always rationalized that wearing underwear would send the message that I was there for completely innocent reasons.

 
Seriously, you wear underwear when you get a massage? Why even go. If you cant relax during a massage, you are just wasting your money.
:confused: 1. I can't relax during massages because I'm in ####### pain the entire time. But that doesn't mean I'm not comfortable. I don't see why having underwear on or not means I am comfortable or not. It's not like my boxer briefs aren't comfortable.

2. I dunno, I don't see a reason why some relative stranger should be seeing my junk when there is no reason for her to, especially now that I'm married. It's not like the underwear gets in the way at all and I always rationalized that wearing underwear would send the message that I was there for completely innocent reasons.
Do you not have a blanket or towel on?

 
Seriously, you wear underwear when you get a massage? Why even go. If you cant relax

during a massage, you are just wasting your money.
:confused: 1. I can't relax during massages because I'm in ####### pain the entire time. But that doesn't mean I'm not comfortable. I don't see why

having underwear on or not means I am comfortable or not. It's not like my boxer briefs aren't comfortable.

2. I dunno, I don't see a reason why some relative stranger should be seeing my junk when there is no reason for her to, especially now that

I'm married. It's not like the underwear gets in the way at all and I always rationalized that wearing underwear would send the message that I was there for completely innocent reasons.
Do you not have a blanket or towel on?
Well yeah a blanket but I have to turn over or onto my side a couple times during. She's seeing my junk.
 
Seriously, you wear underwear when you get a massage? Why even go. If you cant relax

during a massage, you are just wasting your money.
:confused: 1. I can't relax during massages because I'm in ####### pain the entire time. But that doesn't mean I'm not comfortable. I don't see why

having underwear on or not means I am comfortable or not. It's not like my boxer briefs aren't comfortable.

2. I dunno, I don't see a reason why some relative stranger should be seeing my junk when there is no reason for her to, especially now that

I'm married. It's not like the underwear gets in the way at all and I always rationalized that wearing underwear would send the message that I was there for completely innocent reasons.
Do you not have a blanket or towel on?
Well yeah a blanket but I have to turn over or onto my side a couple times during. She's seeing my junk.
So she's lifting up your gut when she turns you?

 
So you guys seriously go full nude when you get massages?
Of course, only weirdos and fat dudes wearunderwear.
Did he mention that he also wears sandals with

socks.
I seriously didn't know it was common to go completely naked. I mean, save for the Asianed kind.
Don't tell me you're bringing your Yorkie too... (though that may be a solid play - chicks love dogs).

 
Ironically my wife asked me today if I would think less of her, if she arranged for me to have a massage with a happy ending as a birthday present.

Perhaps you should speak to your wife about the possibility of getting one with your masseuse.

 
Ironically my wife asked me today if I would think less of her, if she arranged for me to have a massage with a happy ending as a birthday present.

Perhaps you should speak to your wife about the possibility of getting one with your

masseuse.
:mellow:
 
Seriously, you wear underwear when you get a massage? Why even go. If you cant relax

during a massage, you are just wasting your money.
:confused: 1. I can't relax during massages because I'm in ####### pain the entire time. But that doesn't mean I'm not comfortable. I don't see why

having underwear on or not means I am comfortable or not. It's not like my boxer briefs aren't comfortable.

2. I dunno, I don't see a reason why some relative stranger should be seeing my junk when there is no reason for her to, especially now that

I'm married. It's not like the underwear gets in the way at all and I always rationalized that wearing underwear would send the message that I was there for completely innocent reasons.
Do you not have a blanket or towel on?
Well yeah a blanket but I have to turn over or onto my side a couple times during. She's seeing my junk.
Serious question: Does she specifically advertise her services as "strictly non-sexual"? Does she have at least 750 hours of training from an accredited massage school? Otherwise, there's a good chance she's soft hooking for extra cash.

The red flags here are obvious. First she talks about her personal relationships and suggests she okay with infidelity. That's a big no-no if your a legitimate LMT. Secondly, if she can see your junk anytime during the session, then either she never learned how to drape a client, or she's purposely being sexually suggestive and giving you a sign that she's DTF for extra cash (You'll need to initiate the next move if you want this). Or maybe she's a nutcase and has bad taste in men and gets off wrecking marriages because she's jealous of other couples or her inability to maintain a LTR, which in this case is very possible.

I recommend finding a new LMT. If you want to stay married and keep her as your masseuse, be friendly, but discourage any relationship talk except about how much you love your wife. And don't say a word about your experiences with the masseuse with your wire. What's said on the table stays on the table and a professional LMT knows this.

 

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