Mother brings a 20 month old special needs kid to a movie. The Kid act (1 Viewer)

[Thunderlips]

I guess so. But I'm not to get bent out of shape as soon as an infant toddles into a G rated feature.

Just curious, if the kid takes a dump during the movie, do you take him out to change the diaper right away? Or is there a smell threshhold involved? If it's just mildly annoying to you, do you let it ferment for a while until there's a down scene?

Of course you take him out. Why would you have him sit there?

Because it only bothers other people?

Who's looking to do that?

Your Fn kid?

He's not looking to deliberately bother people. He's a kid who has to poop. He poops in a diaper, you get up to change him...you come back. How's that so much more inconveinent to other people than all the other things that go on in a G rated feature?

 

[Thunderlips]

I honestly think you guys are fishing in regards to taking a 20month old to a G rated feature? You guys really get bothered at the idea of a 20 month old in a theatre?

 

[jhib]

G-DAMMIT. 20 MONTH OLDS SHOULDN'T EVEN GO TO G-RATED CARTOONS!

Disagree.

You're wrong.

Why shouldn't they?

Really?

Yeah.....we've had our son at around 20 months go along with us when we took his 4 year old sister to the movies. He sat for awhile....enjoyed it....got restless....we took him out....let him walk around the lobby for awhile...went back in....he sat and watched it for awhile...rinse and repeat. I was fine with it. Wife was too. Wasn't anymore disturbing than the 4 to 9 year olds carrying on in the theater.

I don't think it's all that big a deal considering you and your wife tried to minimize the disruption and it was the kind of movie more suitable to younger kids (both big differences between your situation and the one in question),

but I think you are proving the point you're trying to argue against. Your kid didn't even sound that bad and probably handled it better than most his age would have, yet he still couldn't really handle it. Nothing wrong with that, it's just that kids that age aren't built for sitting through a movie in a theater.

Would you have brought your son to the movie alone? Or was he there more out of convenience since you wanted to go to the movie with your daughter?

I know you were responding more to a tangential statement than the original, but another big difference between the situations was that you wisely went with your wife so that one could leave while the other stayed with the older sibling. I wonder if the mother really would have stayed with her loud son if she didn't have a two year old and 9 year old there as well. It sounds like she was the only one with the kids, right? He probably didn't really "earn the right to be there," but was there because she wanted to take the older child and didn't want to make other arrangements for the toddler.

 

[PatsWillWin]

I think all of the glee in here attacking the mother of a 20 month old with cancer is a little sickening, however I tend to agree that she should probably be more considerate, especially because there's really no reason that a 20 month old needs to go to the movies. I took my son when he was 2.5 to an 11AM session on a weekday, and he was just running laps around the (mostly empty) theater by the end of it.

Thomas is a completely different movie than Tomorrowland, I would expect younger kids there and for there to be more noise/crying/etc.

However, you did point out that 2.5 is still too young to be seeing a movie in a theater.

I'm not so quick to tell people what age they "should" be doing things with their kids, unless it's some kind of safety issue. Some 2.5 year olds might enjoy the movies, I can only speak to my son who got kinda bored as soon as the novelty wore off and the popcorn ran out. That's why they make those moveis 70 minutes.

That all said, I didn't see that she took the kid to Tomorrowland - that's kinda weird as it could definitely hold some appeal to a more mature audience (and my more mature, I mean like 9 year olds and their parents).

What's interesting about this story is despite the mother's notion that this has to do with discriminating against a kid because of his medical issues, it actually has nothing to do with that. It could just have easily been a totally healthy 20 month old who was acting in such a way that disturbed the people around him/her.

 

[General Tso]

Thunderlips is that ####### who flies with horrible B.O.

Nah...I am the guy that would crop dust you on the airplane though...and I also do all I can so you can't recline your seat all the way back.

LOL. Every thread needs a villain. Thunderhips is doing a bang-up job.

 

[jhib]

Another issue I have with the mother is that she says, "It would be one thing if we kept Vito in the theater when he was crying. But, we didn't. It would be one thing if you told us to leave when he was crying, but he wasn't. You shouted for us to leave when Vito was laughing and giggling."

So basically she gets to call the shots on what others should feel is legitimate disruptive behavior and what is something you should suck up. What if a kid is crying because they have a rare painful condition? Are you allowed to be annoyed if the parents don't take them out? How about if another kid is crying softly while that one is screaming - is that the same thing?

 

[General Tso]

I guess so. But I'm not to get bent out of shape as soon as an infant toddles into a G rated feature.

Just curious, if the kid takes a dump during the movie, do you take him out to change the diaper right away? Or is there a smell threshhold involved? If it's just mildly annoying to you, do you let it ferment for a while until there's a down scene?

Of course you take him out. Why would you have him sit there?

Because it only bothers other people?

Who's looking to do that?

Your Fn kid?

He's not looking to deliberately bother people. He's a kid who has to poop. He poops in a diaper, you get up to change him...you come back. How's that so much more inconveinent to other people than all the other things that go on in a G rated feature?

Well, in fairness, other people aren't ####ting their pants during the movie.

 

[spOOfy]

Why would anybody think it's a good idea to take someone to the movies that ####s their pants on a daily basis?

So old people can't go to the movies? I have that to look forward to when I'm 85 ... ##### pants and no movies. Great!

just don't wear pants. problem solved!

 

[NorvilleBarnes]

I guess so. But I'm not to get bent out of shape as soon as an infant toddles into a G rated feature.

Just curious, if the kid takes a dump during the movie, do you take him out to change the diaper right away? Or is there a smell threshhold involved? If it's just mildly annoying to you, do you let it ferment for a while until there's a down scene?

Of course you take him out. Why would you have him sit there?

Because it only bothers other people?

Who's looking to do that?

Your Fn kid?

He's not looking to deliberately bother people. He's a kid who has to poop. He poops in a diaper, you get up to change him...you come back. How's that so much more inconveinent to other people than all the other things that go on in a G rated feature?

Well, in fairness, other people aren't ####ting their pants during the movie.

I almost did during Crying Game, but that wasn't Disney.

 

[Officer Pete Malloy]

And people wonder why I don't go see movies at the theater.

 

[cstu]

I think all of the glee in here attacking the mother of a 20 month old with cancer is a little sickening, however I tend to agree that she should probably be more considerate, especially because there's really no reason that a 20 month old needs to go to the movies. I took my son when he was 2.5 to an 11AM session on a weekday, and he was just running laps around the (mostly empty) theater by the end of it.

Thomas is a completely different movie than Tomorrowland, I would expect younger kids there and for there to be more noise/crying/etc.

However, you did point out that 2.5 is still too young to be seeing a movie in a theater.

I'm not so quick to tell people what age they "should" be doing things with their kids, unless it's some kind of safety issue. Some 2.5 year olds might enjoy the movies, I can only speak to my son who got kinda bored as soon as the novelty wore off and the popcorn ran out. That's why they make those moveis 70 minutes.

That all said, I didn't see that she took the kid to Tomorrowland - that's kinda weird as it could definitely hold some appeal to a more mature audience (and my more mature, I mean like 9 year olds and their parents).

What's interesting about this story is despite the mother's notion that this has to do with discriminating against a kid because of his medical issues, it actually has nothing to do with that. It could just have easily been a totally healthy 20 month old who was acting in such a way that disturbed the people around him/her.

Your son is no different than most kids that age. I'd say 2.5 is about the earliest kids can hold their attention long enough to sit through a hour+ movie without disturbing other people. Sure, some can do it at a younger age but I'm talking about most kids.

Her taking a 20 month old to Tomorrowland is poor parenting. Hell, I didn't even feel it was appropriate for my 6 year old.

 

[Thunderlips]

G-DAMMIT. 20 MONTH OLDS SHOULDN'T EVEN GO TO G-RATED CARTOONS!

Disagree.

You're wrong.

Why shouldn't they?

Really?

Yeah.....we've had our son at around 20 months go along with us when we took his 4 year old sister to the movies. He sat for awhile....enjoyed it....got restless....we took him out....let him walk around the lobby for awhile...went back in....he sat and watched it for awhile...rinse and repeat. I was fine with it. Wife was too. Wasn't anymore disturbing than the 4 to 9 year olds carrying on in the theater.

I don't think it's all that big a deal considering you and your wife tried to minimize the disruption and it was the kind of movie more suitable to younger kids (both big differences between your situation and the one in question),

but I think you are proving the point you're trying to argue against. Your kid didn't even sound that bad and probably handled it better than most his age would have, yet he still couldn't really handle it. Nothing wrong with that, it's just that kids that age aren't built for sitting through a movie in a theater.

Would you have brought your son to the movie alone? Or was he there more out of convenience since you wanted to go to the movie with your daughter?

I know you were responding more to a tangential statement than the original, but another big difference between the situations was that you wisely went with your wife so that one could leave while the other stayed with the older sibling. I wonder if the mother really would have stayed with her loud son if she didn't have a two year old and 9 year old there as well. It sounds like she was the only one with the kids, right? He probably didn't really "earn the right to be there," but was there because she wanted to take the older child and didn't want to make other arrangements for the toddler.

I'm not defending the woman and her decision to go see Tomorrowland (I originally thought she was going to something animated), I'm arguing more against the absolute "never should be done" mentality that some people have in regards to the more generalized "should two year olds be taken to the movies" situation.

 

[TheIronSheik]

Sometimes I like to start fires in movie theaters. I mean, if people are going to be disruptive in movie theaters, why should I not start fires? Amirite?

 

[[icon]]

I honestly think you guys are fishing in regards to taking a 20month old to a G rated feature? You guys really get bothered at the idea of a 20 month old in a theatre?

Wat?

 

[Thunderlips]

Sometimes I like to start fires in movie theaters. I mean, if people are going to be disruptive in movie theaters, why should I not start fires? Amirite?

Sometimes I like to start fires in movie theaters. I mean, if people are going to be disruptive in movie theaters, why should I not start fires? Amirite?

Sorry, Chachi..... A) That's a crime and B) that's something that's probably frowned upon on by the theatre owners (something that isn't the case in regards to taking a 20 month old to a movie).

 

[[icon]]

Her taking a 20 month old to Tomorrowland is poor parenting. Hell, I didn't even feel it was appropriate for my 6 year old.

YOU INSENSITIVE #####!!! DO YOU NOT APPRECIATE POOR VIGO'S STRUGGLE?! IT'S REAL!!! WHY DO YOU HATE PEOPLE WITH CANCER?!!!!

OMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMG

 

[The Big Guy]

I honestly think you guys are fishing in regards to taking a 20month old to a G rated feature? You guys really get bothered at the idea of a 20 month old in a theatre?

You know that at some point a 20 month old will get antsy during the movie. You might be that great parent who jumps up and runs out of the theater the second little Johnny starts to squirm, but chances are you are going to spend a couple of minutes trying to calm him down before leaving. That time is ruining my movie watching experience that I paid ridiculous money to go to. That is what you seem to fail to realize. There is zero chance that your 20 month old will sit thru a movie without an incident. That incident will lessen the other patron's experience. You are that guy because you couldn't care less if someone else's time has been made worse by your poor decision.

 

[El Floppo]

Parent of two kids (7 and 3) here.

I try to live my life so that what I do doesn't adversely affect the world around me and I do my best to teach my kids the same. This means being aware of our surrounding and the people in those surroundings. This has also meant limiting what we do publicly with our kids until they or the situations can accommodate.

For me, a movie theater is a place where we are supposed to get lost in the movie. If the kid can't handle sitting still and quietly for 60-90minutes, IMO they're not ready for a movie theater. I just took my youngest to her first movie with her big brother... and tbh, sweated not having backup in case I had to take her out of the theater. She did great- but I could see that she was clearly distracted by the other kids, older and younger, who couldn't handle sitting and watching the movie.

I can't control how other kids or adults act, but I can control the situations I choose to put my family in. IMO, its thoughtless, selfish and/or rude to take a kid you know can't sit and watch full feature film to a theater.

 

[Thunderlips]

I honestly think you guys are fishing in regards to taking a 20month old to a G rated feature? You guys really get bothered at the idea of a 20 month old in a theatre?

You know that at some point a 20 month old will get antsy during the movie. You might be that great parent who jumps up and runs out of the theater the second little Johnny starts to squirm, but chances are you are going to spend a couple of minutes trying to calm him down before leaving. That time is ruining my movie watching experience that I paid ridiculous money to go to. That is what you seem to fail to realize. There is zero chance that your 20 month old will sit thru a movie without an incident. That incident will lessen the other patron's experience. You are that guy because you couldn't care less if someone else's time has been made worse by your poor decision.

You'd be upset that someone is squirming in a theatre? Do you watch the movie at all or are you more interested in watching the crowd; for any sign of anything that the other patrons are doing that might offend your movie going experience?

 

[jonessed]

Babies/toddlers don't belong in movie theaters.

 

[Thunderlips]

Parent of two kids (7 and 3) here.

I try to live my life so that what I do doesn't adversely affect the world around me and I do my best to teach my kids the same. This means being aware of our surrounding and the people in those surroundings. This has also meant limiting what we do publicly with our kids until they or the situations can accommodate.

For me, a movie theater is a place where we are supposed to get lost in the movie. If the kid can't handle sitting still and quietly for 60-90minutes, IMO they're not ready for a movie theater. I just took my youngest to her first movie with her big brother... and tbh, sweated not having backup in case I had to take her out of the theater. She did great- but I could see that she was clearly distracted by the other kids, older and younger, who couldn't handle sitting and watching the movie.

I can't control how other kids or adults act, but I can control the situations I choose to put my family in. IMO, its thoughtless, selfish and/or rude to take a kid you know can't sit and watch full feature film to a theater.

There's a line between adversely affecting others and unreasonable expectations by others. Parents that ignore, refuse to reprimand their children (of any age) or refuse to remove unruly children(of any age) from situations/events that require some restraint are adversely affecting others. Parents that make an effort to do those things and are still condemned or (more importantly) prejudged by "stick up their ###" adults for having the gall to have their children in a situation where it MIGHT affect said "stick up their ###" adult are victims of unreasonable expectations.

 

[TheIronSheik]

Sometimes I like to start fires in movie theaters. I mean, if people are going to be disruptive in movie theaters, why should I not start fires? Amirite?

Sometimes I like to start fires in movie theaters. I mean, if people are going to be disruptive in movie theaters, why should I not start fires? Amirite?

Sorry, Chachi..... A) That's a crime and B) that's something that's probably frowned upon on by the theatre owners (something that isn't the case in regards to taking a 20 month old to a movie).

Hey, Tobias. It was a joke.

 

[fruity pebbles]

So basically she wanted to see Tomorrowland, since no 20 month old does, and didn't have a sitter. So she dragged him with her, he made a scene, and then she got upset when someone called her on it? Not sure what him having special needs has to do with the whole story, sympathy card maybe.

 

[Thunderlips]

Sometimes I like to start fires in movie theaters. I mean, if people are going to be disruptive in movie theaters, why should I not start fires? Amirite?

Sometimes I like to start fires in movie theaters. I mean, if people are going to be disruptive in movie theaters, why should I not start fires? Amirite?

Sorry, Chachi..... A) That's a crime and B) that's something that's probably frowned upon on by the theatre owners (something that isn't the case in regards to taking a 20 month old to a movie).

Hey, Tobias. It was a joke.

I don't find defending my right to take my 20 month old to a movie theatre a joke, Sir.

 

[Foosball God]

G-DAMMIT. 20 MONTH OLDS SHOULDN'T EVEN GO TO G-RATED CARTOONS!

Disagree.

You're wrong.

Why shouldn't they?

Really?

Yeah.....we've had our son at around 20 months go along with us when we took his 4 year old sister to the movies. He sat for awhile....enjoyed it....got restless....we took him out....let him walk around the lobby for awhile...went back in....he sat and watched it for awhile...rinse and repeat. I was fine with it. Wife was too. Wasn't anymore disturbing than the 4 to 9 year olds carrying on in the theater.

Glad you were fine with it. How about the people you were blocking the view of as you got up to take your kid outside to stretch his legs, then again to come back. Were you at the end of the row? Or did you have to walk in front of a bunch of people in your aisle?

Are you serious? You're still out in public, sometimes you might have to deal with the colossal inconvenience of someone getting up and standing in front of your view for 2.5 seconds.

There is a difference between someone that has to make a trip to the bathroom during a movie and someone that goes into a theater knowing that they are going to have to get up multiple times to deal with their unruly child. It's called common courtesy.

 

[El Floppo]

Parent of two kids (7 and 3) here.

I try to live my life so that what I do doesn't adversely affect the world around me and I do my best to teach my kids the same. This means being aware of our surrounding and the people in those surroundings. This has also meant limiting what we do publicly with our kids until they or the situations can accommodate.

For me, a movie theater is a place where we are supposed to get lost in the movie. If the kid can't handle sitting still and quietly for 60-90minutes, IMO they're not ready for a movie theater. I just took my youngest to her first movie with her big brother... and tbh, sweated not having backup in case I had to take her out of the theater. She did great- but I could see that she was clearly distracted by the other kids, older and younger, who couldn't handle sitting and watching the movie.

I can't control how other kids or adults act, but I can control the situations I choose to put my family in. IMO, its thoughtless, selfish and/or rude to take a kid you know can't sit and watch full feature film to a theater.

There's a line between adversely affecting others and unreasonable expectations by others. Parents that ignore, refuse to reprimand their children (of any age) or refuse to remove unruly children(of any age) from situations/events that require some restraint are adversely affecting others. Parents that make an effort to do those things and are still condemned or (more importantly) prejudged by "stick up their ###" adults for having the gall to have their children in a situation where it MIGHT affect said "stick up their ###" adult are victims of unreasonable expectations.

if you know your kid can't do the time, don't do the crime.

 

[Thunderlips]

G-DAMMIT. 20 MONTH OLDS SHOULDN'T EVEN GO TO G-RATED CARTOONS!

Disagree.

You're wrong.

Why shouldn't they?

Really?

Yeah.....we've had our son at around 20 months go along with us when we took his 4 year old sister to the movies. He sat for awhile....enjoyed it....got restless....we took him out....let him walk around the lobby for awhile...went back in....he sat and watched it for awhile...rinse and repeat. I was fine with it. Wife was too. Wasn't anymore disturbing than the 4 to 9 year olds carrying on in the theater.

Glad you were fine with it. How about the people you were blocking the view of as you got up to take your kid outside to stretch his legs, then again to come back. Were you at the end of the row? Or did you have to walk in front of a bunch of people in your aisle?

Are you serious? You're still out in public, sometimes you might have to deal with the colossal inconvenience of someone getting up and standing in front of your view for 2.5 seconds.

There is a difference between someone that has to make a trip to the bathroom during a movie and someone that goes into a theater knowing that they are going to have to get up multiple times to deal with their unruly child. It's called common courtesy.

In your opinion, how many times should someone be allowed to get up in a theatre before that world on the silver screen you find yourself totally immersed in comes crumbling down?

 

[dozer]

Go ahead. Take your toddler to movies meant for teens and up, use the passing lane as a travel lane, and leave your shopping cart in a parking space.

a holes.

 

[El Floppo]

G-DAMMIT. 20 MONTH OLDS SHOULDN'T EVEN GO TO G-RATED CARTOONS!

Disagree.

You're wrong.

Why shouldn't they?

Really?

Yeah.....we've had our son at around 20 months go along with us when we took his 4 year old sister to the movies. He sat for awhile....enjoyed it....got restless....we took him out....let him walk around the lobby for awhile...went back in....he sat and watched it for awhile...rinse and repeat. I was fine with it. Wife was too. Wasn't anymore disturbing than the 4 to 9 year olds carrying on in the theater.

Glad you were fine with it. How about the people you were blocking the view of as you got up to take your kid outside to stretch his legs, then again to come back. Were you at the end of the row? Or did you have to walk in front of a bunch of people in your aisle?

Are you serious? You're still out in public, sometimes you might have to deal with the colossal inconvenience of someone getting up and standing in front of your view for 2.5 seconds.

There is a difference between someone that has to make a trip to the bathroom during a movie and someone that goes into a theater knowing that they are going to have to get up multiple times to deal with their unruly child. It's called common courtesy.

In your opinion, how many times should someone be allowed to get up in a theatre before that world on the silver screen you find yourself totally immersed in comes crumbling down?

serious question- if you know your kid can't handle sitting for the duration of a movie and needs to be taken out as required... why bring them to the movie? why not wait until they're old enough to handle it?

 

[TheIronSheik]

There is no need to bring a kid to the theater at that age. Rent a DVD.

 

[fruity pebbles]

Love to hear his side of the story. I'm sure little Vito was just chuckling and giggling once in a while.

 

[thecatch]

G-DAMMIT. 20 MONTH OLDS SHOULDN'T EVEN GO TO G-RATED CARTOONS!

Disagree.

You're wrong.

Why shouldn't they?

Really?

Yeah.....we've had our son at around 20 months go along with us when we took his 4 year old sister to the movies. He sat for awhile....enjoyed it....got restless....we took him out....let him walk around the lobby for awhile...went back in....he sat and watched it for awhile...rinse and repeat. I was fine with it. Wife was too. Wasn't anymore disturbing than the 4 to 9 year olds carrying on in the theater.

You are that guy aren't you.....Don't worry about the rest of the world around you.....you decided to have kids why shove it in the rest of the worlds face.

If I were that guy...I wouldn't try to resolve the kid crying in the theatre...I'd just tune it out and continue to watch the movie. Do you get mad when someone chomps popcorn too loud?

Typical "that guy" answer. Why even subject the rest of us to this? Stay at home or go to kid friendly places. Leave the rest of us out of it.

Subject you to what? If the 20 month old makes noise...I'll take him out of the theatre.....if the 5 year old or 7 year old or 12 year old makes noise...I'll take them out. I'm not going to NOT got to a G rated feature with a 20 month old and his sister on a Sat. afternoon because some jabroni gets his panties in a bunch because the kid MIGHT make some noise.

The 20 month old WILL be disruptive. The 5 year old might be disruptive and the parent might have a reasonable expectation that he will behave. That's the difference. You are going to the theatre knowing your kid will be disruptive multiple times and that you will have to handle it. That's inconsiderate.

 

[sn0mm1s]

I'd bet the mother is also an avid cyclist.

 

[Foosball God]

G-DAMMIT. 20 MONTH OLDS SHOULDN'T EVEN GO TO G-RATED CARTOONS!

Disagree.

You're wrong.

Why shouldn't they?

Really?

Yeah.....we've had our son at around 20 months go along with us when we took his 4 year old sister to the movies. He sat for awhile....enjoyed it....got restless....we took him out....let him walk around the lobby for awhile...went back in....he sat and watched it for awhile...rinse and repeat. I was fine with it. Wife was too. Wasn't anymore disturbing than the 4 to 9 year olds carrying on in the theater.

Glad you were fine with it. How about the people you were blocking the view of as you got up to take your kid outside to stretch his legs, then again to come back. Were you at the end of the row? Or did you have to walk in front of a bunch of people in your aisle?

Are you serious? You're still out in public, sometimes you might have to deal with the colossal inconvenience of someone getting up and standing in front of your view for 2.5 seconds.

There is a difference between someone that has to make a trip to the bathroom during a movie and someone that goes into a theater knowing that they are going to have to get up multiple times to deal with their unruly child. It's called common courtesy.

In your opinion, how many times should someone be allowed to get up in a theatre before that world on the silver screen you find yourself totally immersed in comes crumbling down?

You seem to be confusing the concept here. It isn't about allowing or not allowing. Clearly you are allowed to do it, you are also clearly being inconsiderate. Lots of people are inconsiderate so maybe that's why you feel like you can be too.

 

[jhib]

G-DAMMIT. 20 MONTH OLDS SHOULDN'T EVEN GO TO G-RATED CARTOONS!

Disagree.

You're wrong.

Why shouldn't they?

Really?

Yeah.....we've had our son at around 20 months go along with us when we took his 4 year old sister to the movies. He sat for awhile....enjoyed it....got restless....we took him out....let him walk around the lobby for awhile...went back in....he sat and watched it for awhile...rinse and repeat. I was fine with it. Wife was too. Wasn't anymore disturbing than the 4 to 9 year olds carrying on in the theater.

I don't think it's all that big a deal considering you and your wife tried to minimize the disruption and it was the kind of movie more suitable to younger kids (both big differences between your situation and the one in question),

but I think you are proving the point you're trying to argue against. Your kid didn't even sound that bad and probably handled it better than most his age would have, yet he still couldn't really handle it. Nothing wrong with that, it's just that kids that age aren't built for sitting through a movie in a theater.

Would you have brought your son to the movie alone? Or was he there more out of convenience since you wanted to go to the movie with your daughter?

I know you were responding more to a tangential statement than the original, but another big difference between the situations was that you wisely went with your wife so that one could leave while the other stayed with the older sibling. I wonder if the mother really would have stayed with her loud son if she didn't have a two year old and 9 year old there as well. It sounds like she was the only one with the kids, right? He probably didn't really "earn the right to be there," but was there because she wanted to take the older child and didn't want to make other arrangements for the toddler.

I'm not defending the woman and her decision to go see Tomorrowland (I originally thought she was going to something animated), I'm arguing more against the absolute "never should be done" mentality that some people have in regards to the more generalized "should two year olds be taken to the movies" situation.

Yeah, I know. I was just pointing out how your choices weren't as bad as those of the mother in question. But I still question yours.

If your daughter were out of the equation, would you bring your 20 month old son to the movie (just the two of you)? If not, why not?

 

[Pigskin Fanatic]

Her taking a 20 month old to Tomorrowland is poor parenting. Hell, I didn't even feel it was appropriate for my 6 year old.

YOU INSENSITIVE #####!!! DO YOU NOT APPRECIATE POOR VIGO'S STRUGGLE?! IT'S REAL!!! WHY DO YOU HATE PEOPLE WITH CANCER?!!!!

OMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMG

the mom would like to remind you his name is Vito. Vigo was the villain in ghostbusters.

 

[Ditkaless Wonders]

Her taking a 20 month old to Tomorrowland is poor parenting. Hell, I didn't even feel it was appropriate for my 6 year old.

YOU INSENSITIVE #####!!! DO YOU NOT APPRECIATE POOR VIGO'S STRUGGLE?! IT'S REAL!!! WHY DO YOU HATE PEOPLE WITH CANCER?!!!!

OMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMG

Vigo the Destroyer was in Ghostbusters II. this kid was Vito the Movie Disruptor. Different entities entirely.

 

[Vanilla Guerrilla]

So basically she wanted to see Tomorrowland, since no 20 month old does, and didn't have a sitter.

I think you're onto the real issue here. Someone was willing to shell out cash to see that movie.

 

[sbonomo]

Parent of two kids (7 and 3) here.

I try to live my life so that what I do doesn't adversely affect the world around me and I do my best to teach my kids the same. This means being aware of our surrounding and the people in those surroundings. This has also meant limiting what we do publicly with our kids until they or the situations can accommodate.

For me, a movie theater is a place where we are supposed to get lost in the movie. If the kid can't handle sitting still and quietly for 60-90minutes, IMO they're not ready for a movie theater. I just took my youngest to her first movie with her big brother... and tbh, sweated not having backup in case I had to take her out of the theater. She did great- but I could see that she was clearly distracted by the other kids, older and younger, who couldn't handle sitting and watching the movie.

I can't control how other kids or adults act, but I can control the situations I choose to put my family in. IMO, its thoughtless, selfish and/or rude to take a kid you know can't sit and watch full feature film to a theater.

There's a line between adversely affecting others and unreasonable expectations by others. Parents that ignore, refuse to reprimand their children (of any age) or refuse to remove unruly children(of any age) from situations/events that require some restraint are adversely affecting others. Parents that make an effort to do those things and are still condemned or (more importantly) prejudged by "stick up their ###" adults for having the gall to have their children in a situation where it MIGHT affect said "stick up their ###" adult are victims of unreasonable expectations.

so once again because you have screaming brats we should be okay with it because kids do that? You are officially "that guy".

 

[sbonomo]

G-DAMMIT. 20 MONTH OLDS SHOULDN'T EVEN GO TO G-RATED CARTOONS!

Disagree.

You're wrong.

Why shouldn't they?

Really?

Yeah.....we've had our son at around 20 months go along with us when we took his 4 year old sister to the movies. He sat for awhile....enjoyed it....got restless....we took him out....let him walk around the lobby for awhile...went back in....he sat and watched it for awhile...rinse and repeat. I was fine with it. Wife was too. Wasn't anymore disturbing than the 4 to 9 year olds carrying on in the theater.

Glad you were fine with it. How about the people you were blocking the view of as you got up to take your kid outside to stretch his legs, then again to come back. Were you at the end of the row? Or did you have to walk in front of a bunch of people in your aisle?

Are you serious? You're still out in public, sometimes you might have to deal with the colossal inconvenience of someone getting up and standing in front of your view for 2.5 seconds.

There is a difference between someone that has to make a trip to the bathroom during a movie and someone that goes into a theater knowing that they are going to have to get up multiple times to deal with their unruly child. It's called common courtesy.

something he knows nothing about....

 

[Mr. Retukes]

The usher should have shot her and claimed that her arm looked like a gun.

 

[ghostguy123]

Thunderlips

Not at all. I've qualified my statement by removing movies like Tomorrowland from the equation.....but there's nothing at all wrong with taking a 20month or so old to a G rated feature as long as you're prepared to deal properly with any problems that might come about. That goes for people of any age.

Like I've said before.....lack of movie etiquette isn't confined to the 20 month old.

Use the money for his ticket and get a babysitter. He doesnt get any more out of a movie than if you jingle some keys in his face. So ####### selfish to think its ok. Unless of course it is one of those movies/theaters/times where it is expected for kids to go and make noise where everyone is fine with it.

How others act, like the other lack of etiquette people you mentioned, are irrelevant to the discussion and nothing more than a lazy way to try and prove your point.

Should 20 month olds be able to drive? I mean, if there are 30 and 60 year olds out there who suck at driving i suppose the 20 month old should be able to also. That is the logic you are trying to use there. Its terrible.

I have been to the theater many times where everyone was quiet. How often would a theater full of 20 month olds be quiet?

Common decency and common sense just hate this.

 

[PatsWillWin]

The usher should have shot her and claimed that her arm looked like a gun.

Pretty sure she's white.

 

[FattyVM]

I CAN NOT WAIT for the day that we finally get streaming/downloadable movies to use at home (legally) on opening weekends. The whole theater experience has taken a nose dive the last 15ish years, and I hate having to cross my fingers that I'll have a pleasant experience after dropping 15 bucks a ticket. Inconsiderate parents are just one of the problems, you also have the idiots taking phonecalls (?!?!) texting or continually narrating their thoughts.

If I could see a HD movie with no lag, or quality depreciation in my own home for 20 bucks, I'd be happier than a pig in ####.

 

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I CAN NOT WAIT for the day that we finally get streaming/downloadable movies to use at home (legally) on opening weekends. The whole theater experience has taken a nose dive the last 15ish years, and I hate having to cross my fingers that I'll have a pleasant experience after dropping 15 bucks a ticket. Inconsiderate parents are just one of the problems, you also have the idiots taking phonecalls (?!?!) texting or continually narrating their thoughts.

If I could see a HD movie with no lag, or quality depreciation in my own home for 20 bucks, I'd be happier than a pig in ####.

Username seems to indicate you'd like to have as much of the world as possible brought to you in your LazyBoy.

 

[FattyVM]

I CAN NOT WAIT for the day that we finally get streaming/downloadable movies to use at home (legally) on opening weekends. The whole theater experience has taken a nose dive the last 15ish years, and I hate having to cross my fingers that I'll have a pleasant experience after dropping 15 bucks a ticket. Inconsiderate parents are just one of the problems, you also have the idiots taking phonecalls (?!?!) texting or continually narrating their thoughts.

If I could see a HD movie with no lag, or quality depreciation in my own home for 20 bucks, I'd be happier than a pig in ####.

Username seems to indicate you'd like to have as much of the world as possible brought to you in your LazyBoy.

True. But the username is a bit of a misnomer, and in this case it wasn't due to laziness. The theater 'experience' is horrible 60 percent of the time, and I shouldn't have to play that Russian roulette when I spend my time and money on something to entertain me in my limited free time.