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This is legit. Not fishing. There's a little more to the story than I out here but not much. I feel like I could have done more for him. Made a call to my closest friend because I was worried about him..Decided to sleep on it until at least this morning. Then wake up to him dead. Very surreal experience just looking at him covered up, his limp arm, the water bottle and juice at the table. Poor guy...I hope it happened while he was asleep.
Don't even go there. Everyone feels that way every time this sort of thing happens. It is enough that you were his friend.

I'm so sorry for your loss. (And I miss my friend Doug, who died in February.)
Totally on point. We all can could have done a lot of things different - and honestly, bad #### would still happen and we would only be left wondering what we could have done differently.

It sounds like you two were pretty close. Like you did what you felt you could, as a friend, to get him in the right direction. In the end, it was his choices and his body and his bad luck all coming together. And honest, you've made plenty of those same choices, many probably along with him, because thats what ####### friends do. You live together, you enjoy your time together, you try to help each other, but you let each other live their life. Sounds like you two shared a lot of those good times, that's friendship.

 
I don't understand. How do you die of sleep apnea in your front yard? What am I missing?

ETA: I'm very sorry for your loss. Should have said that first.
Sleep apnea is very serious. Left untreated it exacerbates whatever health issues you have as well as creates them. It can cause illnesses such as heart disease/attacks. Compound this with being over weight and that alone is lethal.And Fin, if you feel I should have done more/could have.... you were a good friend. That's all you can do. It's sad but you can't 'fix' peoples problems. All you can do is be a good friend and support, which sounds like you were..
I tried my best. He had issues with self destruction as did I but mine never manifested with eating. His size I felt led to so many other issues. I took him into my home 4 years ago when he was thrown out of his brothers. He'd eat my dinner if I left it out, didn't clean or work really but I saw a good human struggling and wanted to see him get over the hump. My girl hated him at my house and I loved her to death but let him still stay awhile. I know I'm a good friend.

The way things happen is really strange. Getting back from the casino we couldn't park out front cuz a guy with a trailer was taking up a the spots. Had we been able to we would have walked right by him at the picnic table. This was at 4:00. He was spotted out there snoring at 5:00. I also always go out and have a smoke before bed...every night. Right where he was slumped over. I didn't have one this morning. Just weird. As his brother stated on Facebook, he's finally at peace. Possibly for the first time in his life. We took a video of him breaking down the last 3 months since I saw him. Hilarious - at one point while speaking a out incriminating material he says "you're not taping me right?". His dog is here...little beagle. Was guarding him when the cops found him...tried to bite them.

 
I don't understand. How do you die of sleep apnea in your front yard? What am I missing?

ETA: I'm very sorry for your loss. Should have said that first.
Sleep apnea is very serious. Left untreated it exacerbates whatever health issues you have as well as creates them. It can cause illnesses such as heart disease/attacks. Compound this with being over weight and that alone is lethal.And Fin, if you feel I should have done more/could have.... you were a good friend. That's all you can do. It's sad but you can't 'fix' peoples problems. All you can do is be a good friend and support, which sounds like you were..
I tried my best. He had issues with self destruction as did I but mine never manifested with eating. His size I felt led to so many other issues. I took him into my home 4 years ago when he was thrown out of his brothers. He'd eat my dinner if I left it out, didn't clean or work really but I saw a good human struggling and wanted to see him get over the hump. My girl hated him at my house and I loved her to death but let him still stay awhile. I know I'm a good friend.

The way things happen is really strange. Getting back from the casino we couldn't park out front cuz a guy with a trailer was taking up a the spots. Had we been able to we would have walked right by him at the picnic table. This was at 4:00. He was spotted out there snoring at 5:00. I also always go out and have a smoke before bed...every night. Right where he was slumped over. I didn't have one this morning. Just weird. As his brother stated on Facebook, he's finally at peace. Possibly for the first time in his life. We took a video of him breaking down the last 3 months since I saw him. Hilarious - at one point while speaking a out incriminating material he says "you're not taping me right?". His dog is here...little beagle. Was guarding him when the cops found him...tried to bite them.
I feel for his dog too. He knows something is wrong with his buddy. Are you or another friend taking him in? Poor guy is going to be sad for a long while.

 
His dog will be our company mascot for now. Sucks though, the little pooch has separation anxiety on a level I've never seen. Before my buddy got him he was allegedly locked in a basement for a week with no food or water. When A would leave the house he'd go nuts. He'd finally calm a bit and sneak into my room and try to muzzle in with me and my pooch. Picture beagle face with the fish lense effect...he'd get real close, put his face right in my bubble and life his paw towards me without ever touching me. Then A would come home and it would sound like he got stuck in a bear trap howling and yelping...drove me nuts at the time but I get it now.

 
His dog will be our company mascot for now. Sucks though, the little pooch has separation anxiety on a level I've never seen. Before my buddy got him he was allegedly locked in a basement for a week with no food or water. When A would leave the house he'd go nuts. He'd finally calm a bit and sneak into my room and try to muzzle in with me and my pooch. Picture beagle face with the fish lense effect...he'd get real close, put his face right in my bubble and life his paw towards me without ever touching me. Then A would come home and it would sound like he got stuck in a bear trap howling and yelping...drove me nuts at the time but I get it now.
I think animals are more traumatized than humans because they aren't like us to understand what happened. He will need special tlc. Especially with his past, I really hope he is in a very loving, stable home. He will need stability and a lot of love. He doesn't know what happened to his buddy and may think he's been abandoned, again.

 
Finless, sorry about your buddy. I'll have some ossobuco for dinner tonight in his honor.

 
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Seems like a good time for a little bump , you know , just to take the edge off
What the #### is wrong with you?
In fairness, I think it's difficult for posters here to tell when you're shticking and when you're not. "I mean it this time" doesn't always work.

In any event, if you're serious, condolences to you in what must be a tough time.
Please link to a personal thread I have ever posted here that is shtick. I'm not a damn script, writer Oat. My life has been colorful to say the least. Just understand I don't fit the typical FFA profile. I don't see that as a good or bad thing. It just is what it is. I would have to be a master of storytelling and deception. I have lived too selfishly to waste my time talking about fiction. I have shared about my life. Okay I DONT have a butler. I think that is fairly obvious shtick. I have NEVER posted anything in here that I thought was not clearly shtick and tried to defend it as reality. I'll post weird smilies, change the subject, divert but never front.

I think it should be fairly easy to tell the difference between the two as there isnt a whole lot of shtick threads and if they are shtick its more like bring up something controversial and toss it on the board like throwing a goat carcass to lions at the zoo and watch it get crazy. Show me a personal shtick thread that doesn't have to do with a girl I dated taking a calico turf weighing in at a pound or me purchasing a Segway. So much of what I post is out there. Crazy #### that I have a hard time wrapping my hands around. I'll assure you one thing if the stories are cross referenced, they check out and they're not coming from some sci fi novel I wrote. #### is real. I post pics generally. I have one of my buddy slumped over covered with a blanket. I'll never post it though but I can link anyone to the obit when it comes our of the police blotter. I'm in Eagan Minnesota. They'll be a story.

I know I shtick but NEVER about #### that seems like it may actually matter.

 
There's a handful of posters who cam confirm much of what I post. Same story here as on Facebook with real life friends. Everything there is kept to a sentence or two where here I can get into the nitty gritty because we enjoy a certain level of anonymity. For that reason I am guarded and never use real names ans sometimes change locations or details such as "my married friend" who's not married or "when he had his second kid" when it was really their first minute details here but Korean if she was say Japanese. minute details here but they are designed to throw a potential real life infiltrators off the scent. Finless is my original user name which came from my fantasy team years ago, the Finless Browns. I got paranoid when I started posting real life #### here because I thought 11 other guys in my league of which at least one posts in the shark pool could make the connection. So I created a shark pool alias - Escape Goat and even Clifton and Mambo were both used for some serious diversion, not shtick. Yes plenty of shtick with Clifton but the purpose of those account was another layer of the onion. When my story really involved others I in no way wanted it to be connected to the Finless account because I felt the curtain was coming down on Fin.

By then I had made Facebook friends with Pickles, Hack, Shuke, Truck, Rudnicki,SLB, Eephus and a few others...Furley before he deleted me. Now look at that list. why them? Upper tier folks for the most part obviously but they're also people who I knew I could trust to never expose me, post pictures or #### with my life in any way. Good group of dudes whom I actually still chat with quite a bit. My point, they can confirm I am real, not an alias, and my personal stories are legit.

Not much more I can say on the matter except the truth and the false should be real easy to tell apart. I don't get pissed in some random shtick thread if I'm called out. I may call you a hater with a link to a meme or funny pic expressing something. When I rant for two pages. #### is real. I'm uber paranoid about people I care about finding out I put their business on a message board. My roommate and her friend legitimately screwed Price and Shields. It happened I freaked and deleted everything when Price called my friend and asked her why that story was on a message board. No kid is gonna go to those lengths to trick strangers on a board. Do I shtick? absolutely...Otis has been stealing my shtick and claiming it his own for years. Hawkwatch, that was me, the Seattle Seven, that was me. The list goes on. I don't even usually waste my time claiming it anymore. It's like having a band cover one of your songs.

 
Mambo = Jambi given to me by Harry Manback when I was in a pinch. Lots of good real life #### posted by Jambi. just didn't have the Finless name recognition.

 
Rule #1: Nobody is real in the FFA.

Once you get past that, this place is like one endless Hemingway novel.

 
Mambo = Jambi given to me by Harry Manback when I was in a pinch. Lots of good real life #### posted by Jambi. just didn't have the Finless name recognition.
Jambi was like Kaufax. Short but his statistics and production were absolutely amazing. I honestly believe that.

 
There's some level 4 thought processing going on there. Although the writing is effortless the strategy is advanced.

With my pals brother now going to an AA meeting. He seems well.

 
There's some level 4 thought processing going on there. Although the writing is effortless the strategy is advanced.

With my pals brother now going to an AA meeting. He seems well.
You still have the taste for the cheese , don't you? Just don't go low brow & start dexing.
 
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I'm sorry for your loss friend. I enjoy you around here Fin. I find you very interesting. I would like to meet you someday. Makes you want to go give all my friends a big hug and tell them I love them. We should proclaim this, "Hug a friend day!"

 
I never got the alias thing. If you are afraid to put your name behind it, then don't post it. I have posted a lot of dumb ####, a lot of personal stuff that I probably shouldn't be sharing but feel like I grew up a lot here(mid 20's when I joined), there is good advise to be found, and a lot of people who really do care.

With that being said, this is not the time or the place to bash Fin about anything. He needs support and it's our job to provide it.

 
I never got the alias thing. If you are afraid to put your name behind it, then don't post it. I have posted a lot of dumb ####, a lot of personal stuff that I probably shouldn't be sharing but feel like I grew up a lot here(mid 20's when I joined), there is good advise to be found, and a lot of people who really do care.

With that being said, this is not the time or the place to bash Fin about anything. He needs support and it's our job to provide it.
Broski, It's not about hiding from the people here its about hiding from the people who may be here. Maybe I'm paranoid. I think its justified. Thanks for the support though. You too Trogg.

My pal said #### hasn't hit him yet. It hit me. Seeing someone dead adds that element of finality. It's pizza time.

 
Sorry Fin. Schtick or not...that beagle story was good enough to touch me.

Take care of yourself...sounds like you've got the wake up call...better answer it, wake up and start dealing with life without the crutches and stop checking out through various forms of inebriation.

I've got a very similar self-destructive nature...I fight it all the time. Every friend I've ever partied with has countless stories of my partying...I AM that guy. I'm lucky on so many levels and thanks to my kids, I've got real motivation to try to set a limit or boundary so as not to go over the edge.

Keep fighting the good fight...

 
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There's a handful of posters who cam confirm much of what I post. Same story here as on Facebook with real life friends. Everything there is kept to a sentence or two where here I can get into the nitty gritty because we enjoy a certain level of anonymity. For that reason I am guarded and never use real names ans sometimes change locations or details such as "my married friend" who's not married or "when he had his second kid" when it was really their first minute details here but Korean if she was say Japanese. minute details here but they are designed to throw a potential real life infiltrators off the scent. Finless is my original user name which came from my fantasy team years ago, the Finless Browns. I got paranoid when I started posting real life #### here because I thought 11 other guys in my league of which at least one posts in the shark pool could make the connection. So I created a shark pool alias - Escape Goat and even Clifton and Mambo were both used for some serious diversion, not shtick. Yes plenty of shtick with Clifton but the purpose of those account was another layer of the onion. When my story really involved others I in no way wanted it to be connected to the Finless account because I felt the curtain was coming down on Fin.

By then I had made Facebook friends with Pickles, Hack, Shuke, Truck, Rudnicki,SLB, Eephus and a few others...Furley before he deleted me. Now look at that list. why them? Upper tier folks for the most part obviously but they're also people who I knew I could trust to never expose me, post pictures or #### with my life in any way. Good group of dudes whom I actually still chat with quite a bit. My point, they can confirm I am real, not an alias, and my personal stories are legit.

Not much more I can say on the matter except the truth and the false should be real easy to tell apart. I don't get pissed in some random shtick thread if I'm called out. I may call you a hater with a link to a meme or funny pic expressing something. When I rant for two pages. #### is real. I'm uber paranoid about people I care about finding out I put their business on a message board. My roommate and her friend legitimately screwed Price and Shields. It happened I freaked and deleted everything when Price called my friend and asked her why that story was on a message board. No kid is gonna go to those lengths to trick strangers on a board. Do I shtick? absolutely...Otis has been stealing my shtick and claiming it his own for years. Hawkwatch, that was me, the Seattle Seven, that was me. The list goes on. I don't even usually waste my time claiming it anymore. It's like having a band cover one of your songs.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, just answer the question that's on all of our minds: do you really have fins or not?

 
Capella, Mike Crimes, and Finless walk into a bar.

/thread
Capella owes me 100.00 bucks, where is that guy?

ETA: Who would make a BCS Bowl first....Oregon or FSU.
Pretty sure there's a delivery driver that's pretty close with him who posts here, Premier I think his handle is.

Just doing my part out here. My pal woke up crying and called me. Firing some smokes and drinking coffee together. Just have to be there for him. The dog turned down a tater-tot...this is a beagle we're talking about. Good thing about a dog is although they'll always remember someone when they see you, they do eventually forget.

 
There's a handful of posters who cam confirm much of what I post. Same story here as on Facebook with real life friends. Everything there is kept to a sentence or two where here I can get into the nitty gritty because we enjoy a certain level of anonymity. For that reason I am guarded and never use real names ans sometimes change locations or details such as "my married friend" who's not married or "when he had his second kid" when it was really their first minute details here but Korean if she was say Japanese. minute details here but they are designed to throw a potential real life infiltrators off the scent. Finless is my original user name which came from my fantasy team years ago, the Finless Browns. I got paranoid when I started posting real life #### here because I thought 11 other guys in my league of which at least one posts in the shark pool could make the connection. So I created a shark pool alias - Escape Goat and even Clifton and Mambo were both used for some serious diversion, not shtick. Yes plenty of shtick with Clifton but the purpose of those account was another layer of the onion. When my story really involved others I in no way wanted it to be connected to the Finless account because I felt the curtain was coming down on Fin.

By then I had made Facebook friends with Pickles, Hack, Shuke, Truck, Rudnicki,SLB, Eephus and a few others...Furley before he deleted me. Now look at that list. why them? Upper tier folks for the most part obviously but they're also people who I knew I could trust to never expose me, post pictures or #### with my life in any way. Good group of dudes whom I actually still chat with quite a bit. My point, they can confirm I am real, not an alias, and my personal stories are legit.

Not much more I can say on the matter except the truth and the false should be real easy to tell apart. I don't get pissed in some random shtick thread if I'm called out. I may call you a hater with a link to a meme or funny pic expressing something. When I rant for two pages. #### is real. I'm uber paranoid about people I care about finding out I put their business on a message board. My roommate and her friend legitimately screwed Price and Shields. It happened I freaked and deleted everything when Price called my friend and asked her why that story was on a message board. No kid is gonna go to those lengths to trick strangers on a board. Do I shtick? absolutely...Otis has been stealing my shtick and claiming it his own for years. Hawkwatch, that was me, the Seattle Seven, that was me. The list goes on. I don't even usually waste my time claiming it anymore. It's like having a band cover one of your songs.
what about that horrible gordon gekko alias lately. that wordy dude is you too right.

 
I haven't logged in as Gekko since I handed him over to Truck and Swires.
That was over 6 years ago. I consulted during his "sick" period but there were disagreements with where I felt the story needed to go.

Can't find the password for Porkbutt

 
Any word on an autopsy ?
You haven't mentioned it but an autopsy will be done in a case like this.
Absolutely. I know what happened. Drug related - confirmed this morning. I had just spoken with him about how he was doing. "ah, I just like to have a couple Mojitos a week. Staying away from everything else. For guys like us its either abstinence or eventual death associated with use. That's the deal. He didn't want help.

 
Any word on an autopsy ?
You haven't mentioned it but an autopsy will be done in a case like this.
Absolutely. I know what happened. Drug related - confirmed this morning. I had just spoken with him about how he was doing. "ah, I just like to have a couple Mojitos a week. Staying away from everything else. For guys like us its either abstinence or eventual death associated with use. That's the deal. He didn't want help.
Hold it. He died yesterday and the autopsy report is already back? On a weekend?

 
Any word on an autopsy ?
You haven't mentioned it but an autopsy will be done in a case like this.
Absolutely. I know what happened. Drug related - confirmed this morning. I had just spoken with him about how he was doing. "ah, I just like to have a couple Mojitos a week. Staying away from everything else. For guys like us its either abstinence or eventual death associated with use. That's the deal. He didn't want help.
Hold it. He died yesterday and the autopsy report is already back? On a weekend?
Bingo. That is why I asked the question. I know forensic pathologist I know how it all goes down. They would not have that quick of turn around and would not have results on a Sunday. These people don't work weekends.

Good story bro.

 
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