My girlfriend is close friends with her ex-boyfriend (1 Viewer)

[Gr00vus]

Can this whole alpha and beta thing just stop?

It basically ended some time around 1995.

 

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This thread is still going on?

There was some good relationship advice in the first five pages or so, but the last ten pages consist almost entirely of assertions that my girlfriend is cheating on me, various cuckolding scenarios often involving beastiality, and beta-related insults.

Well, it's somewhat reasonable to point out that your girlfriend's behavior has forced you to take a stand that you didn't want to have to take.

Most guys on here have wives annoyed that they have female friends, it's not usually the opposite. I'm not saying it's good or bad, but you were someone who isn't overly clingy or needy and even in that environment, her life decisions triggered red flags for you.

And, (this part from personal experience), when a woman has relationships with other people that you have to convince yourself are acceptable, they aren't. You're getting strong reactions here because a lot of us have been played by women at some point in life and look back and know the evidence was there but were too p-whipped to see it. I know that's my reaction to your thread. You're probably right, but damn, if you're wrong....

Anyways, I wouldn't want to date someone that attached to their ex, but to each their own. But you should understand those of us who think this smells bad aren't just doing so because we want to insult you.

This is a pretty good post

 

[Loan Sharks]

I have not read this thread.

I usually like to skip to the good part.

So has he realized she is cheating on him yet?

 

[Ditkaless Wonders]

This thread is still going on?

There was some good relationship advice in the first five pages or so, but the last ten pages consist almost entirely of assertions that my girlfriend is cheating on me, various cuckolding scenarios often involving beastiality, and beta-related insults.

Well, it's somewhat reasonable to point out that your girlfriend's behavior has forced you to take a stand that you didn't want to have to take.

Most guys on here have wives annoyed that they have female friends, it's not usually the opposite. I'm not saying it's good or bad, but you were someone who isn't overly clingy or needy and even in that environment, her life decisions triggered red flags for you.

And, (this part from personal experience), when a woman has relationships with other people that you have to convince yourself are acceptable, they aren't. You're getting strong reactions here because a lot of us have been played by women at some point in life and look back and know the evidence was there but were too p-whipped to see it. I know that's my reaction to your thread. You're probably right, but damn, if you're wrong....

Anyways, I wouldn't want to date someone that attached to their ex, but to each their own. But you should understand those of us who think this smells bad aren't just doing so because we want to insult you.

Well, if you are going to be whipped, p---- is the thing to be whipped by. This is way better, than for instance Eminence, who is whipped by the prospect, the tantalizing but unfulfilled promise of making out with a skank in a bar who then goes home with someone else.

 

[Buckfast 1]

Disappointing Friday update.

The girlfriend and I went to a Raekwon and Ghostface Killah concert in Denver last night. I've been a Wu Tang fan since "Enter the Wu-Tang (36 Chambers)," but my girlfriend became a Ghostface fan after his appearance on VH1's "Couples Therapy" reality show last year. For those that may have missed it, here is Grantland's summary of Ghostface's stint on "Couples Therapy":

You see, Ghostface went on Couples Therapy with Kelsey to work on their relationship, a relationship that really started in earnest only four months ago. One might think that Ghost agreeing to televised therapy with his girlfriend was at least in part motivated by a genuine interest in bettering the relationship. One would be wrong. Not only is he not there to really work on his relationship with Kelsey, HE ALSO HAS ANOTHER GIRLFRIEND ALTOGETHER. A REAL GIRLFRIEND. So not only does he actually have another girlfriend, and not only has he been with this other girlfriend much longer, BUT HE IS ALSO BRINGING HER ON THE SHOW.

Here is the clip from "Couples Therapy" of Ghostface telling his girlfriend that he has another girlfriend that he is bringing on the show.

I really hope that I am not getting Ghostface'd.

 

[Loan Sharks]

Disappointing Friday update.

The girlfriend and I went to a Raekwon and Ghostface Killah concert in Denver last night. I've been a Wu Tang fan since "Enter the Wu-Tang (36 Chambers)," but my girlfriend became a Ghostface fan after his appearance on VH1's "Couples Therapy" reality show last year. For those that may have missed it, here is Grantland's summary of Ghostface's stint on "Couples Therapy":

You see, Ghostface went on Couples Therapy with Kelsey to work on their relationship, a relationship that really started in earnest only four months ago. One might think that Ghost agreeing to televised therapy with his girlfriend was at least in part motivated by a genuine interest in bettering the relationship. One would be wrong. Not only is he not there to really work on his relationship with Kelsey, HE ALSO HAS ANOTHER GIRLFRIEND ALTOGETHER. A REAL GIRLFRIEND. So not only does he actually have another girlfriend, and not only has he been with this other girlfriend much longer, BUT HE IS ALSO BRINGING HER ON THE SHOW.
Here is the clip from "Couples Therapy" of Ghostface telling his girlfriend that he has another girlfriend that he is bringing on the show.

I really hope that I am not getting Ghostface'd.

More like ghost dicked in the ###.

 

[Buckfast 1]

This thread is still going on?

There was some good relationship advice in the first five pages or so, but the last ten pages consist almost entirely of assertions that my girlfriend is cheating on me, various cuckolding scenarios often involving beastiality, and beta-related insults.

I find this post incredibly dismissive of some very good advice that I provided.

Sorry for the oversight. I'll drop the term "haters" from my vocabulary.

 

[urbanhack]

Can this whole alpha and beta thing just stop?

We're focusing on "haters" first.

Who is dis doin' this synthetic type of alpha beta psychedelic funkin'?

 

[Soulfly3]

I really hope that I am not getting Ghostface'd.

no, it's likely her getting "ghost" faced

 

[Soulfly3]

eta: Wu rules

 

[Buckfast 1]

I really hope that I am not getting Ghostface'd.

no, it's likely her getting "ghost" faced

Well-played.

 

[loser]

Protect Ya Neck

 

[Buckfast 1]

"D.R.E.A.M."

Dogs Rule Everything Around Me

 

[Kanil]

THIS her?

 

[flranger]

THIS her?

Buckfast better go to the 1:00 minute mark and see.....

 

[Johnny Rock]

Stop focusing on whether she's banging him or not.

She is not the most logical girl, despite your decree. She only appears more normal compared to your ex.

Dates, dinners, texting and sharing a dog with the ex when she's in a serious relationship with you is weird.

Him coming and going (no pun intended) from her place with his own key is weird.

Him working off his shared cell phone bill with her by cleaning her bathroom? Also weird.

Her ex having a FB page for the dog and doing his laundry at her place? Yep. Weird. While you're there? Weirder.

You having this serious conversation with her about limiting contact with her ex is great and open communication, except the weird part is you didn't accomplish removing him from your life. You caved and that's fine.

She might be a cool girl and that's great. But for me this is about all the extra drama. It. is. there. constantly. and. it's. so. exhausting.

But if you're happy great. GL.

 

[Franknbeans]

HE'S BANGING HER

HARD

 

[msudaisy26]

His next post will be.

So my fiance wants me to ask her ex to be the best man in our wedding...

 

[flapgreen]

 

[flapgreen]

Stop focusing on whether she's banging him or not.

She is not the most logical girl, despite your decree. She only appears more normal compared to your ex.

Dates, dinners, texting and sharing a dog with the ex when she's in a serious relationship with you is weird.

Him coming and going (no pun intended) from her place with his own key is weird.

Him working off his shared cell phone bill with her by cleaning her bathroom? Also weird.

Her ex having a FB page for the dog and doing his laundry at her place? Yep. Weird. While you're there? Weirder.

You having this serious conversation with her about limiting contact with her ex is great and open communication, except the weird part is you didn't accomplish removing him from your life. You caved and that's fine.

She might be a cool girl and that's great. But for me this is about all the extra drama. It. is. there. constantly. and. it's. so. exhausting.

But if you're happy great. GL.

All of that is actually happening? I haven't read the entire thread. Sheesh. Wtf dude. Are you nuts?!?

 

[Soulfly3]

Him working off his shared cell phone bill with her by cleaning her bathroom? Also weird.

wait, what!?

how the #### did I miss this?

bro, your friends must be DESTROYING you behind your back.

 

[ConnSKINS26]

Stop focusing on whether she's banging him or not.

She is not the most logical girl, despite your decree. She only appears more normal compared to your ex.

Dates, dinners, texting and sharing a dog with the ex when she's in a serious relationship with you is weird.

Him coming and going (no pun intended) from her place with his own key is weird.

Him working off his shared cell phone bill with her by cleaning her bathroom? Also weird.

Her ex having a FB page for the dog and doing his laundry at her place? Yep. Weird. While you're there? Weirder.

You having this serious conversation with her about limiting contact with her ex is great and open communication, except the weird part is you didn't accomplish removing him from your life. You caved and that's fine.

She might be a cool girl and that's great. But for me this is about all the extra drama. It. is. there. constantly. and. it's. so. exhausting.

But if you're happy great. GL.

All of this. So much of this. Nailed it.

 

[rockaction]

Him working off his shared cell phone bill with her by cleaning her bathroom? Also weird.

wait, what!?

how the #### did I miss this?

bro, your friends must be DESTROYING you behind your back.

I stopped treating this thread seriously when I found this out. Between this and the offer of an open relationship, there's, as Pickles said, really no place to start. Maybe the air is thinner in Colorado and it's all okay? I wish Buckfast 1 the best of luck or sincere congratulations on this fishing trip. It's been rolled out really, really well.

 

[ILUVBEER99]

Stop focusing on whether she's banging him or not.

She is not the most logical girl, despite your decree. She only appears more normal compared to your ex.

Dates, dinners, texting and sharing a dog with the ex when she's in a serious relationship with you is weird.

Him coming and going (no pun intended) from her place with his own key is weird.

Him working off his shared cell phone bill with her by cleaning her bathroom? Also weird.

Her ex having a FB page for the dog and doing his laundry at her place? Yep. Weird. While you're there? Weirder.

You having this serious conversation with her about limiting contact with her ex is great and open communication, except the weird part is you didn't accomplish removing him from your life. You caved and that's fine.

She might be a cool girl and that's great. But for me this is about all the extra drama. It. is. there. constantly. and. it's. so. exhausting.

But if you're happy great. GL.

Holy ####, haven't checked in on this thread in awhile. The guy working off his cell phone bill she pays for is priceless.

 

[cstu]

This girl has it made - her lawyer bf spending money on her and her fitness trainer banging her on the side.

 

[bushdocda]

Bathroom cleaning ex boyfriend with Facebook page for dog is unbelievable new information to me.

 

[BobbyLayne]

His next post will be.

So my fiance wants me to ask her ex to be the best man in our wedding...

Presumably she wants a destination wedding.

 

[BobbyLayne]

Bathroom cleaning ex boyfriend with Facebook page for dog is unbelievable new information to me.

I read about the fecal matter removal yet somehow missed the FB page for the dog update. It's the little things that really set this thread apart.

 

[Ditkaless Wonders]

I think all dog exchanges and toilet cleaning should occur at your residence, not hers. Simple solution really. If all he is interested in is seeing his dog and working off his debt this arrangement would satisfy all conditions. If he is interested in something more, well then you will know. Also this allows you to make sure he is really working for his money since you can leave your toilet in whatever condition you desire.

Really there is no need, in this arrangement, for him to ever even have to call your girl. The best part is that you could make his visits the centerpiece of a Denver area FBG's corn hole at your place. I know that I would be happy to come over, crap all over the sides of your toilet, let it dry, then crack a beer and wait for ####boy to come on bye to clean. Watching that would beat watching a Nuggets or Avs game, that's for sure.

 

[eoMMan]

Update?

 

[Soulfly3]

Update?

once the ex is done using their internet he'll let us know.

 

[Wingnut]

Havent readt the thread, but Im really good friends with an ex I was with for 12+ years (we broke up about 4 years ago)...my last girlfriend tried to tell me I couldnt be friends with her and had to cut ties with her and all my other exes I was friends with because "its not normal"...which is why she is my last girlfriend. No new girl is gonna tell me who I can or cant be friends with.

 

[Soulfly3]

But you were banging her, right?

 

[Bucky86]

Is the guy still cleaning the toilets? If so, you've gotta "forget" to flush after a night of heavy drinking.

 

[xulf]

Update?

once the ex is done using their internet he'll let us know.

 

[Wingnut]

But you were banging her, right?

The new one, yes. The ex, no. The ex and I are actually really close but dont bang. I suppose that might be hard for a new gf to believe, but if she doesnt trust me, see ya.

 

[McGarnicle]

But you were banging her, right?

The new one, yes. The ex, no. The ex and I are actually really close but dont bang. I suppose that might be hard for a new gf to believe, but if she doesnt trust me, see ya.

Awesome strategy imo. You'll get regular sex for a while, then it eventually reaches that point..."What are we doing?", "Do you see me in your future?", and you've got the perfect relationship killer.

 

[Wingnut]

But you were banging her, right?

The new one, yes. The ex, no. The ex and I are actually really close but dont bang. I suppose that might be hard for a new gf to believe, but if she doesnt trust me, see ya.

Awesome strategy imo. You'll get regular sex for a while, then it eventually reaches that point..."What are we doing?", "Do you see me in your future?", and you've got the perfect relationship killer.

Always have an exit strategy.

 

[SacramentoBob]

Update?

 

[nirad3]

Update?

rare photo of the ex...

 

[GOB]

But you were banging her, right?

The new one, yes. The ex, no. The ex and I are actually really close but dont bang. I suppose that might be hard for a new gf to believe, but if she doesnt trust me, see ya.

Awesome strategy imo. You'll get regular sex for a while, then it eventually reaches that point..."What are we doing?", "Do you see me in your future?", and you've got the perfect relationship killer.

Always have an exit strategy.

Teach me your ways!Actually I cannot stand most women unless I'm giving them the who dunnit. So I never see a reason to stay friends with exes. Who needs that hormonal bull####?

 

[kentric]

Update?

rare photo of the ex...

Nice try Nirad.

Personally, I don't think Buch has much to worry about with her ex-bf fitness trainer.

https://www.google.com/search?q=richard+simmons+images&espv=2&biw=1280&bih=939&tbm=isch&imgil=ED2Wkhi1xfxa5M%253A%253B1oFLb2CY2XUlAM%253Bhttp%25253A%25252F%25252Fwww.spyghana.com%25252Frichard-simmons-100-fine-thomas-estey%25252F&source=iu&pf=m&fir=ED2Wkhi1xfxa5M%253A%252C1oFLb2CY2XUlAM%252C_&usg=__8-qJwaEd9-zZBTTrzyZ38pFFZd4%3D&ved=0CDcQyjc&ei=DhlJVbmNHomgNorFgOgN#imgrc=ED2Wkhi1xfxa5M%253A%3B1oFLb2CY2XUlAM%3Bhttp%253A%252F%252Fwww.spyghana.com%252Fwp-content%252Fuploads%252F2015%252F02%252FRichardSimmonsedit2.jpg%3Bhttp%253A%252F%252Fwww.spyghana.com%252Frichard-simmons-100-fine-thomas-estey%252F%3B2688%3B2128

 

[nirad3]

Update?

rare photo of the ex...

Nice try Nirad.

Personally, I don't think Buch has much to worry about with her ex-bf fitness trainer.

https://www.google.com/search?q=richard+simmons+images&espv=2&biw=1280&bih=939&tbm=isch&imgil=ED2Wkhi1xfxa5M%253A%253B1oFLb2CY2XUlAM%253Bhttp%25253A%25252F%25252Fwww.spyghana.com%25252Frichard-simmons-100-fine-thomas-estey%25252F&source=iu&pf=m&fir=ED2Wkhi1xfxa5M%253A%252C1oFLb2CY2XUlAM%252C_&usg=__8-qJwaEd9-zZBTTrzyZ38pFFZd4%3D&ved=0CDcQyjc&ei=DhlJVbmNHomgNorFgOgN#imgrc=ED2Wkhi1xfxa5M%253A%3B1oFLb2CY2XUlAM%3Bhttp%253A%252F%252Fwww.spyghana.com%252Fwp-content%252Fuploads%252F2015%252F02%252FRichardSimmonsedit2.jpg%3Bhttp%253A%252F%252Fwww.spyghana.com%252Frichard-simmons-100-fine-thomas-estey%252F%3B2688%3B2128

that guy hasn't cleaned a toilet in his life.... although i could see him being all up in that dog's business....

 

[Buckfast 1]

Things have been going pretty well with regard to my girlfriend's ex-boyfriend. He has really been a non-factor ever since I had that discussion with her last month. He is still not banging her, nor am I at all concerned that he is banging her. At this point, he is basically nothing more than a glorified dog watcher. Last weekend, he picked their dog and spent a couple days with her down at his parent's house in Colorado Springs. I think he may be watching the dog again this weekend when my girlfriend and I are going out of town together for my birthday. I know many people here thought it was super weird that he still had a key to her place (myself included), but it actually does make the whole dog exchange process much easier from a practical perspective. He almost always picks up the dog when me and my girlfriend are out doing something together, so he almost never sees her when picking up the dog. I'm satisfied with the current situation now. Our relationship has been going great lately.

Just like her ex-boyfriend spends occasional weekends with their dog, I recently spent a weekend watching my golden retriever while my ex was out of town. As I said before, it is only fair that I allow her ex-boyfriend to spend time with their dog considering that I still interact with my ex to the extent needed to see my golden retriever. Unfortunately, things on my side of the exes with dogs equation have become a bit more complicated recently. This past weekend, my ex took our 9-year old golden retriever to the vet, and he was diagnosed with a massive fatty tumor in his abdomen that is displacing his internal organs. He has hardly been able to move, walk, or go to the bathroom since Saturday because the tumor is taking up so much space in his abdomen. The tumor is bigger than a rugby ball. It has been so sad to see him so uncomfortable. I've spent a significant amount of the past couple days with my ex taking our dog to multiple different vet offices and trying to figure out the best treatment options for him. I spent basically all day Sunday, at least half of the day Monday, and lunch today with the ex trying to deal with this issue. We ultimately scheduled surgery for tomorrow morning to try to have the fatty tumor removed. I love my dog Tucker, and I am glad that I can be there for him when he needs me most. I know that my ex would have never been able to handle this situation on her own. She can't keep herself together enough emotionally to listen to the vet or to make important decisions, let alone being unable to afford the surgery on her own.

The current girlfriend has not been overly pleased with me spending so much time with the ex over the past few days. And, of course, the timing has been terrible considering that I just intervened on her saying that she needs to interact with her ex-boyfriend less regarding their dog. But she has actually been fairly understanding about everything, and she seems to know that I am only spending time with the ex because I am trying to save my dog's life. I certainly did not want to get my ex back involved in our lives, but I don't think I had any choice in these extraordinary circumstances. I feel really bad that I have upset my current girlfriend by spending so much time with the ex recently, but I just can't let that stop me from doing what I needed to do to try to save my dog's life.

Please keep your fingers crossed for a successful surgery tomorrow for my sweet boy Tucker. I'll let you guys know how the surgery goes.

 

[Zow]

And you guys give me #### about a shared cell phone plan?

It's just dogs, people.

 

[Buckfast 1]

Is the guy still cleaning the toilets? If so, you've gotta "forget" to flush after a night of heavy drinking.

For the record, the ex-boyfriend hasn't been cleaning the toilets regularly for almost a year now. However, he did clean the toilets once in March, which was what prompted our first fight about the ex-boyfriend and basically set this whole thread in motion.

 

[Otis]

Havent readt the thread, but Im really good friends with an ex I was with for 12+ years (we broke up about 4 years ago)...my last girlfriend tried to tell me I couldnt be friends with her and had to cut ties with her and all my other exes I was friends with because "its not normal"...which is why she is my last girlfriend. No new girl is gonna tell me who I can or cant be friends with.

I once had an ex I remained friends with, and I was regularly tagging her behind the new girlfriend's back. Sometimes old habits die hard.

 

[Otis]

Why do boyfriends and girlfriends get dogs together? That's always been weird to me. It's like adopting a kid together. Why would one voluntarily set up these awkward circumstances?

 

[Angry Beavers]

Good luck to the dog.

 

[Frostillicus]

Why do boyfriends and girlfriends get dogs together? That's always been weird to me. It's like adopting a kid together. Why would one voluntarily set up these awkward circumstances?

People are dumb.