My secret divorce (1 Viewer)

[SacramentoBob]

I don't have a problem making her win your trust back, but I don't think you can string her along for years either.

 

[TxBuckeye]

I wonder, as long as you've been living together and now staying together, if something happens and you end up in court, you won't just end up being "commonwealth married" anyways.

 

[Johnny Rock]

How much money have you hidden so far?

 

[JackReacher]

Do all insurance companies do this?

 

[AAABatteries]

You're making her do really dirty stuff, right? Otherwise, what's the point of same bed?

 

[meatwad1]

I went through a similar situation such as yours, but mine was worse. I'm not going to get into it other than to say that what you are doing is never going to last and you are going to be screwed over hard when all is said and done.

Women are interesting creatures...they come up with weird logic for what they do....often things make no sense, but they act on impulse anyways. Anyways, you caught her cheating on her 'third' time....riiiiight..she has cheated before, you know it, you yourself said there was a history of promiscuity, so right there we know she has issues, and if she is attractive and works out in the working world like you are inferring, I guarantee she is getting hit on nonstop and that is part of the issue.

Mind you, it does not sound as if you are addressing this at all, but whatever...to continue, what you are doing is creating this emotional safety net for yourself, even though to be honest, there are two damaged parties here. If you do not think a person like her will get the wheels turning in her head at some point and turn this around on you, you are in for a tall glass of diarrhea mixed with grandpa's oily corn kernels. By turning this around on you, stop for a second and think about what I mean. What kind of twisted crap could a woman dream of if you cornered her and made her feel helpless? There are many, many ways for her to attack you.

I mean, you are sitting here telling us that you are doing it for the kids. Guess what, her behavior shows that she doesn't give two rips about the kids!!! She demonstrated that by having unprotected sex with other dudes. All she cares about is herself, which is the root of the problem. If you want her to stay with you for whatever reason, this is what you have to tackle. If you can pull it off, your marriage/partnership is saved and you can be a bigger man, a true hero. Otherwise, give it a little time before she flips the script on you. Hell hath no fury, like a woman scorned...you know that is true right? A guess what else? If you guys end up in court contesting placement and what not, nobody is going to care about her affair, but they will probably consider what you are doing some sort of emotional abuse. That isn't fair, but get ready to lose all access to your kids if you give her enough time to plot her revenge.

Either get back together with her all the way or leave with a solid plan of 50/50 custody and some financial autonomy. What you are doing is crazy.

 

[meatwad1]

Do all insurance companies do this?

Dude, that is a sweet Iceman poster. I wanted that when I was a kid.

 

[Quez]

I went through a similar situation such as yours, but mine was worse. I'm not going to get into it other than to say that what you are doing is never going to last and you are going to be screwed over hard when all is said and done.

Women are interesting creatures...they come up with weird logic for what they do....often things make no sense, but they act on impulse anyways. Anyways, you caught her cheating on her 'third' time....riiiiight..she has cheated before, you know it, you yourself said there was a history of promiscuity, so right there we know she has issues, and if she is attractive and works out in the working world like you are inferring, I guarantee she is getting hit on nonstop and that is part of the issue.

Mind you, it does not sound as if you are addressing this at all, but whatever...to continue, what you are doing is creating this emotional safety net for yourself, even though to be honest, there are two damaged parties here. If you do not think a person like her will get the wheels turning in her head at some point and turn this around on you, you are in for a tall glass of diarrhea mixed with grandpa's oily corn kernels. By turning this around on you, stop for a second and think about what I mean. What kind of twisted crap could a woman dream of if you cornered her and made her feel helpless? There are many, many ways for her to attack you.

I mean, you are sitting here telling us that you are doing it for the kids. Guess what, her behavior shows that she doesn't give two rips about the kids!!! She demonstrated that by having unprotected sex with other dudes. All she cares about is herself, which is the root of the problem. If you want her to stay with you for whatever reason, this is what you have to tackle. If you can pull it off, your marriage/partnership is saved and you can be a bigger man, a true hero. Otherwise, give it a little time before she flips the script on you. Hell hath no fury, like a woman scorned...you know that is true right? A guess what else? If you guys end up in court contesting placement and what not, nobody is going to care about her affair, but they will probably consider what you are doing some sort of emotional abuse. That isn't fair, but get ready to lose all access to your kids if you give her enough time to plot her revenge.

Either get back together with her all the way or leave with a solid plan of 50/50 custody and some financial autonomy. What you are doing is crazy.

You sound like you got burnt hard? How did you find out? Did you taste his *** when licking your girlfriends *****?

 

[meatwad1]

I went through a similar situation such as yours, but mine was worse. I'm not going to get into it other than to say that what you are doing is never going to last and you are going to be screwed over hard when all is said and done.

Women are interesting creatures...they come up with weird logic for what they do....often things make no sense, but they act on impulse anyways. Anyways, you caught her cheating on her 'third' time....riiiiight..she has cheated before, you know it, you yourself said there was a history of promiscuity, so right there we know she has issues, and if she is attractive and works out in the working world like you are inferring, I guarantee she is getting hit on nonstop and that is part of the issue.

Mind you, it does not sound as if you are addressing this at all, but whatever...to continue, what you are doing is creating this emotional safety net for yourself, even though to be honest, there are two damaged parties here. If you do not think a person like her will get the wheels turning in her head at some point and turn this around on you, you are in for a tall glass of diarrhea mixed with grandpa's oily corn kernels. By turning this around on you, stop for a second and think about what I mean. What kind of twisted crap could a woman dream of if you cornered her and made her feel helpless? There are many, many ways for her to attack you.

I mean, you are sitting here telling us that you are doing it for the kids. Guess what, her behavior shows that she doesn't give two rips about the kids!!! She demonstrated that by having unprotected sex with other dudes. All she cares about is herself, which is the root of the problem. If you want her to stay with you for whatever reason, this is what you have to tackle. If you can pull it off, your marriage/partnership is saved and you can be a bigger man, a true hero. Otherwise, give it a little time before she flips the script on you. Hell hath no fury, like a woman scorned...you know that is true right? A guess what else? If you guys end up in court contesting placement and what not, nobody is going to care about her affair, but they will probably consider what you are doing some sort of emotional abuse. That isn't fair, but get ready to lose all access to your kids if you give her enough time to plot her revenge.

Either get back together with her all the way or leave with a solid plan of 50/50 custody and some financial autonomy. What you are doing is crazy.

You sound like you got burnt hard? How did you find out? Did you taste his *** when licking your girlfriends *****?

First of all, it was wife, not girlfriend. And yes, I got burned pretty hard....I played it low key though and ended up with a very, very sweet deal under the circumstances. Sartre is fooling himself if if doesn't know there are not a million and a half undercurrents rolling underneath all of this. I'm not saying he didn't get burned either, this sucks, but if his real true goal in this situation is to be with his kids long term, he is screwing himself here. After this is all over, we might need to create a 'guy holding his d*ck in his hand' emoticon in his honor.

 

[Quez]

What is this "very sweet deal" you speak of?

 

[JAA]

It's been almost six months since I learned of my wife's affair. We had been together a little more than 10 years, and have three young kids. She is totally repentant and wants desperately to make things work. I was dizzy the last few months. Now that the dust has settled, and I have mentally stabilized, I am realizing I probably won't ever love her again.

Has anyone here made it work with a spouse who cheated?

If not for the kids, we would split for sure. My biggest fear is what my daughters would learn from Mommy's behavior if she were unchained. Actually, my biggest fear is an Adrian Peterson kind of scenario. I think the kids are safer if we stay together. Where I live, custody would be 50/50.

I did file for divorce. I can't call her my wife and be able to look at myself in the mirror. But I told her she could stay and I'd give her another chance; rather, give a chance to the "new person" she says that she is. So in a few weeks we will be secretly unmarried.

Found this thread today. Would love to get an update

 

[General Malaise]

I def could never love ever again.

I'd also let her family know what a lying whore she is. Then, I'd prob hunt the dude down... If he knew she was married, he'd prob be in for a #### storm too... If he was married, I'd also go and try to nail his wife.

Sorry about the bad break.

No women is worth that. No way in hell do I go out and look to fight the guy she's sleeping with. It's all on her, not him. Nor would I do anything that would land me in prison either. If I do that, then I'm really the loser. The best thing to do in cases like that is to leave her and give your life a reboot.

Everyone handles anger differently. I'd need to pummel the guy. Banging his wife would make me feel much better too, no shtick.

I'm around 40 and while I've been in fights, I never punched someone squarely in the face. If there is a silver lining to this, that desire might be fulfilled if I ever run into him.

Have you tried punching your wife in the face?

Jesus....


I miss Tanner.

 

[Hawks64]

It's been almost six months since I learned of my wife's affair. We had been together a little more than 10 years, and have three young kids. She is totally repentant and wants desperately to make things work. I was dizzy the last few months. Now that the dust has settled, and I have mentally stabilized, I am realizing I probably won't ever love her again.

Has anyone here made it work with a spouse who cheated?

If not for the kids, we would split for sure. My biggest fear is what my daughters would learn from Mommy's behavior if she were unchained. Actually, my biggest fear is an Adrian Peterson kind of scenario. I think the kids are safer if we stay together. Where I live, custody would be 50/50.

I did file for divorce. I can't call her my wife and be able to look at myself in the mirror. But I told her she could stay and I'd give her another chance; rather, give a chance to the "new person" she says that she is. So in a few weeks we will be secretly unmarried.

Found this thread today. Would love to get an update

Last seen April 2019

 

[massraider]

Found this thread today. Would love to get an update

Over the course of my investigation:

his last posts were all Pokemon Go, board games, and TV shows.

Sounds like he's still locked in a loveless marriage.

 

[General Malaise]

When you bring 3(!) kids into the world you owe them to do everything possible to remain married. If it's not possible (too much fighting, anger being directed to the kids) then get out, but not until every alternative has been tried.

Hey, look at this guy telling other people they 'owe' somebody else. Will you look at that!

 

[General Malaise]

While it might be tough , you should focus not on her affair but what you failed to do as a husband that forced her to seek out another man.

Now that I'm friends with this guy in RL and know his real persona, this is soooooo on brand for him.

 

[IvanKaramazov]

Kind of funny to see the bet welsher giving life advice to other people.

 

[HellToupee]

I did file for divorce. I can't call her my wife and be able to look at myself in the mirror. But I told her she could stay and I'd give her another chance; rather, give a chance to the "new person" she says that she is. So in a few weeks we will be secretly unmarried.

Sorry to hear. Seems like a waste of $$ divorcing if you are open to another chance. Why not emotionally separate while giving that chance and save the money on the legal proceeding.

 

[GroveDiesel]

I did file for divorce. I can't call her my wife and be able to look at myself in the mirror. But I told her she could stay and I'd give her another chance; rather, give a chance to the "new person" she says that she is. So in a few weeks we will be secretly unmarried.

Sorry to hear. Seems like a waste of $$ divorcing if you are open to another chance. Why not emotionally separate while giving that chance and save the money on the legal proceeding.

Probably would be great advice if you could just send it 9 years into the past…

 

[dickey moe]

I def could never love ever again.

I'd also let her family know what a lying whore she is. Then, I'd prob hunt the dude down... If he knew she was married, he'd prob be in for a #### storm too... If he was married, I'd also go and try to nail his wife.

Sorry about the bad break.

No women is worth that. No way in hell do I go out and look to fight the guy she's sleeping with. It's all on her, not him. Nor would I do anything that would land me in prison either. If I do that, then I'm really the loser. The best thing to do in cases like that is to leave her and give your life a reboot.

Everyone handles anger differently. I'd need to pummel the guy. Banging his wife would make me feel much better too, no shtick.

I'm around 40 and while I've been in fights, I never punched someone squarely in the face. If there is a silver lining to this, that desire might be fulfilled if I ever run into him.

Have you tried punching your wife in the face?

Jesus....


I miss Tanner.

He hates all of you (including me).

 

[dickey moe]

Bump

 

[matttyl]

When you bring 3(!) kids into the world you owe them to do everything possible to remain married. If it's not possible (too much fighting, anger being directed to the kids) then get out, but not until every alternative has been tried.

Hey, look at this guy telling other people they 'owe' somebody else. Will you look at that!

Took me a second. Had to reread the posters name. Man that was a good one.

 

[General Malaise]

I def could never love ever again.

I'd also let her family know what a lying whore she is. Then, I'd prob hunt the dude down... If he knew she was married, he'd prob be in for a #### storm too... If he was married, I'd also go and try to nail his wife.

Sorry about the bad break.

No women is worth that. No way in hell do I go out and look to fight the guy she's sleeping with. It's all on her, not him. Nor would I do anything that would land me in prison either. If I do that, then I'm really the loser. The best thing to do in cases like that is to leave her and give your life a reboot.

Everyone handles anger differently. I'd need to pummel the guy. Banging his wife would make me feel much better too, no shtick.

I'm around 40 and while I've been in fights, I never punched someone squarely in the face. If there is a silver lining to this, that desire might be fulfilled if I ever run into him.

Have you tried punching your wife in the face?

Jesus....


I miss Tanner.

He hates all of you (including me).

He hated us then too.

 

[ConstruxBoy]

Man, I thought this bump was going to be about their fake 9 year old kid....

 

[Capella]

Does anybody still talk to tanner? How’s he doing?

 

[Mister CIA]

Does anybody still talk to tanner? How’s he doing?

Not me, but I miss him. Razor-sharp.

 

[culdeus]

It's been almost six months since I learned of my wife's affair. We had been together a little more than 10 years, and have three young kids. She is totally repentant and wants desperately to make things work. I was dizzy the last few months. Now that the dust has settled, and I have mentally stabilized, I am realizing I probably won't ever love her again.

Has anyone here made it work with a spouse who cheated?

If not for the kids, we would split for sure. My biggest fear is what my daughters would learn from Mommy's behavior if she were unchained. Actually, my biggest fear is an Adrian Peterson kind of scenario. I think the kids are safer if we stay together. Where I live, custody would be 50/50.

I did file for divorce. I can't call her my wife and be able to look at myself in the mirror. But I told her she could stay and I'd give her another chance; rather, give a chance to the "new person" she says that she is. So in a few weeks we will be secretly unmarried.

Found this thread today. Would love to get an update

Last seen 2019

 

[In The Zone]

When you bring 3(!) kids into the world you owe them to do everything possible to remain married. If it's not possible (too much fighting, anger being directed to the kids) then get out, but not until every alternative has been tried.

Hey, look at this guy telling other people they 'owe' somebody else. Will you look at th

When you bring 3(!) kids into the world you owe them to do everything possible to remain married. If it's not possible (too much fighting, anger being directed to the kids) then get out, but not until every alternative has been tried.

Hey, look at this guy telling other people they 'owe' somebody else. Will you look at that!

 

[Witz]

Necromancy!

 

[PIK95]

While it might be tough , you should focus not on her affair but what you failed to do as a husband that forced her to seek out another man.

Now that I'm friends with this guy in RL and know his real persona, this is soooooo on brand for him.

Is he still on here?

 

[fruity pebbles]

While it might be tough , you should focus not on her affair but what you failed to do as a husband that forced her to seek out another man.

Now that I'm friends with this guy in RL and know his real persona, this is soooooo on brand for him.

Is he still on here?

Curious as well. Strange response. Basically her affair was his fault.

 

[PIK95]

While it might be tough , you should focus not on her affair but what you failed to do as a husband that forced her to seek out another man.

Now that I'm friends with this guy in RL and know his real persona, this is soooooo on brand for him.

Is he still on here?

Curious as well. Strange response. Basically her affair was his fault.

Had to be schtick at the time.

 

[General Malaise]

While it might be tough , you should focus not on her affair but what you failed to do as a husband that forced her to seek out another man.

Now that I'm friends with this guy in RL and know his real persona, this is soooooo on brand for him.

Is he still on here?

Baloney Sandwich? I don't think so. He was using another alias for awhile, but I haven't seen him around here. We're in a football league together and he LOVES to stir it up, so it was funny reading his post here. Dude is equal parts Al Bundy, Archie Bunker and that weird High T guy that got arrested in Romania for sex trafficking.

 

[General Malaise]

While it might be tough , you should focus not on her affair but what you failed to do as a husband that forced her to seek out another man.

Now that I'm friends with this guy in RL and know his real persona, this is soooooo on brand for him.

Is he still on here?

Curious as well. Strange response. Basically her affair was his fault.

Had to be schtick at the time.

50/50....

 

[PIK95]

While it might be tough , you should focus not on her affair but what you failed to do as a husband that forced her to seek out another man.

Now that I'm friends with this guy in RL and know his real persona, this is soooooo on brand for him.

Is he still on here?

Baloney Sandwich? I don't think so. He was using another alias for awhile, but I haven't seen him around here. We're in a football league together and he LOVES to stir it up, so it was funny reading his post here. Dude is equal parts Al Bundy, Archie Bunker and that weird High T guy that got arrested in Romania for sex trafficking.

Tell him I was asking about him. Do you guys draft live?

 

[General Malaise]

While it might be tough , you should focus not on her affair but what you failed to do as a husband that forced her to seek out another man.

Now that I'm friends with this guy in RL and know his real persona, this is soooooo on brand for him.

Is he still on here?

Baloney Sandwich? I don't think so. He was using another alias for awhile, but I haven't seen him around here. We're in a football league together and he LOVES to stir it up, so it was funny reading his post here. Dude is equal parts Al Bundy, Archie Bunker and that weird High T guy that got arrested in Romania for sex trafficking.

Tell him I was asking about him. Do you guys draft live?

Yup, always a good time. I'll let him know.