***Official*** FFA iDating Thread (2 Viewers)

[krista4]

krista> when will we start dating?TIA,O

I would have been all over this had I not recently learned that you are a fraud. Sorry, GB.

 

[krista4]

I just finished my profile for match and did some searching. There just isn't much of anything of interest in my area. Why is it that people seem to be very generous when grading their body type? Especially when there pictures clearly indicate otherwise. I'm no fabio, but at least I was honest.

Thank god for that.

I had a mullet in the 80's . Should I mention that? I have a feeling some of the gals in this area may dig that.

Now I'm serious when I say I want pics...of the mullet, of course!

Here you go:http://img471.imageshack.us/img471/9714/mulletgx1.jpg

I'm about 10 in that picture. Hopefully that works.

Priceless.Did someone inspire your mullet? Billy Ray Cyrus?

 

[Otis]

krista> when will we start dating?TIA,O

I would have been all over this had I not recently learned that you are a fraud. Sorry, GB.

 

[Otis]

I STILL LOVE MATCH.COM

 

[Team Tosh]

I just finished my profile for match and did some searching. There just isn't much of anything of interest in my area. Why is it that people seem to be very generous when grading their body type? Especially when there pictures clearly indicate otherwise. I'm no fabio, but at least I was honest.

Thank god for that.

I had a mullet in the 80's . Should I mention that? I have a feeling some of the gals in this area may dig that.

Now I'm serious when I say I want pics...of the mullet, of course!

Here you go:http://img471.imageshack.us/img471/9714/mulletgx1.jpg

I'm about 10 in that picture. Hopefully that works.

Priceless.Did someone inspire your mullet? Billy Ray Cyrus?

That was 20 years ago. Not sure Billy Ray Cyrus was around. Had he been, I'm sure I would have cut my hair immediately to distance myself from that guy. I put that under the category of "what was I thinking?".

 

[Team Tosh]

I STILL LOVE MATCH.COM

Wow! Nothing like that on match in my area.

 

[mr. furley]

krista> when will we start dating?TIA,O

I would have been all over this had I not recently learned that you are a fraud. Sorry, GB.

oof

 

[Harris]

I STILL LOVE MATCH.COM

this thread made me want to sign up and see what idating is all about and even in iowa it's not too bad

 

[Disco Stu]

Sunday Update:Went out with 6.5. This is one of the bench girls, I have talked to her for a few weeks. Average looking, nice girl, no huge spark here. Anyway, she MSN'ed me to come to a B-Day party, warned me she was "tipsy" already. I go, as I was bored. Thought it had potential to be funny.She is as advertised very average and tipsy. Not a good combo, for me anyway. She was way into from the second I got there and it was just weird. I tried to compensate by trying to catch up drink wise. Long story short...I never got there alcohol wise, plus I didn't get the sense she was OK with a casual hook up. Nor do I get the feeling she is going to even be worth it based on some awkward fumbling around at my car. Pass. At 330am Bankerguy heads home to sleep for his golf game this morning.Then................this morning"Sits around in a Bra" texts me and says "So sorry about yesterday, can we try to meet again today". I was surprised, I thought maybe she had second thoughts yesterday or chickened out. Maybe not. Today's plan......Golf hopefully shoot a 88-90.Drinks with her around 8pm.

Good luck.Pic of the girl from last night?

 

[E-A-G-L-E-S]

I STILL LOVE MATCH.COM

 

[BassNBrew]

I STILL LOVE MATCH.COM

What's the point, that little thing couldn't handle the big O anyway. Even if she could, you'd dump the top shelf material for the clearance rack.

 

[Otis]

I STILL LOVE MATCH.COM

Seriously. These women are gorgeous.I have drinks lined up with this one when I get back to NY next weekend.

 

[BassNBrew]

I STILL LOVE MATCH.COM

Seriously. These women are gorgeous.I have drinks lined up with this one when I get back to NY next weekend.

She's too samll too...maybe try ic of chick with huge butt in shorts that may not have been excellent:

 

[Early_10]

messaged a chick from plenty of fish this morning. (good looking girl, lives about 15 mintues away) I went with the honest, no schtick, light humor approach. She viewed my profile, but no response. O well, looks like I'm ugly.

Confidence is very attractive. Self pity, not so much.

As you can probably tell, I'm far from an expert on women, but I'm sort of calling BS on this. You can have all the confidence in the world, but if you are ugly as sin, 99% on women <40 arent giving you a 2nd look. I agree that women dig confidence, but I find it hard to believe that anyone is gonna meet an ugly stranger just because they wrote a clever email. I'm willing to bet that most women (especially those around my age (23)) are choosing who they respond to based on the pictures provided. And for the record, I was half kidding when i said i was ugly.

You're a very cute guy and if you weren't fishing for compliments then your attitude is da suck. Some of the sexiest guys I know aren't all that to look at but they carry themselves well, make me laugh, and are sure of themselves. If a woman feels a mans confidence, feels his attitude, she can't help but be attracted. Now I'm not talking about bad hygeine or any extremes but the average guy looks a hellova lot better when he's got the confidence going on.

 

[Early_10]

How I can tell someone is into me:

Laughs louder than normal on some of my B material jokes.

Touches you a lot

Leans in during a conversation

Or mirors your posture and sitting position

Flips hair

They find a way to higlight or spotlight their best physical asset

I can sometimes just tell by how they look at me.

This is one of the best indicators.

And smiling/blushing.Flicks hair? Do women actually do that?

 

[Otis]

messaged a chick from plenty of fish this morning. (good looking girl, lives about 15 mintues away) I went with the honest, no schtick, light humor approach. She viewed my profile, but no response. O well, looks like I'm ugly.

Confidence is very attractive. Self pity, not so much.

As you can probably tell, I'm far from an expert on women, but I'm sort of calling BS on this. You can have all the confidence in the world, but if you are ugly as sin, 99% on women <40 arent giving you a 2nd look. I agree that women dig confidence, but I find it hard to believe that anyone is gonna meet an ugly stranger just because they wrote a clever email. I'm willing to bet that most women (especially those around my age (23)) are choosing who they respond to based on the pictures provided. And for the record, I was half kidding when i said i was ugly.

You're a very cute guy and if you weren't fishing for compliments then your attitude is da suck. Some of the sexiest guys I know aren't all that to look at but they carry themselves well, make me laugh, and are sure of themselves. If a woman feels a mans confidence, feels his attitude, she can't help but be attracted. Now I'm not talking about bad hygeine or any extremes but the average guy looks a hellova lot better when he's got the confidence going on.

This is spot-on. It's in all the way you carry yourself. Confidence is the single most important factor in picking up women -- above looks, money, and anything else that factors into the equation.

 

[Incogneto]

I have a small update....went out with big-assed chick. Went to the park, and threw a softball around. She is on a team as of July and wanted to get some practice in.

....anyways, we threw the ball around, then went over to her place. she showed me around, and we sat on the patio, then went to her room and looked at some pics, then proceeded to make out for about 45 minutes. some Dry H'ing, but no clothes off. she wanted to 'take it slow'....

So, I think I might be getting myself in trouble here. She is really into me, and I see her as a little bit of a fling. how is the best way to manage this to get a little action, and get out unscathed? ....or should I just ditch her, and look for the next Ms.?

 

[Woz]

Jesus Christ she just texted me this second!!

All right, I need to do something soon - think an e-mail will suffice?

 

[krista4]

Jesus Christ she just texted me this second!!All right, I need to do something soon - think an e-mail will suffice?

E-mail is fine. You call or anything, and you're giving an opening. I think your idea is a good one - the "Hey, you're great, but I'm not ready for a girlfriend" thing should work. Gives her a way to save face, sort of. Also, if you tell her this, remember to be careful what you say around the office, so that nothing gets back to her sister if you do start dating someone else. Of course, she's going to see that you're still iDating, so maybe move to a different site? Unbelievable that she turned out this psycho. Yikes.

 

[BassNBrew]

Woz...you ####ed up by hopping in the sack with her. OK...her's the deal, you have to play up the ex- situation. Hopefully you saved that text and can show her. Tell her you're not interested in the ex-, but not ready to start something new until you see that she gets the proper help she needs not to be a danger to herself. give her some line about still being close to the family and how much it would her if she killed herself. Play it up and not only do you get out, you come off as a good guy.

 

[Otis]

 

[code]

if it weren't for the constant texts, calls, and e-mails and the crazy "omg, you're not going to call me again" comments from left fields I'd chalk it up as a positive start to idating.

This pretty much says it all...

 

[SofaKings]

This is a really funny thread!

 

[Woz]

Yeah thanks for the input. I'm sure you've been in this situation before? How'd did you handle it?

 

[Otis]

Yeah thanks for the input. I'm sure you've been in this situation before? How'd did you handle it?

One I was dating this past Winter started freaking out when I stopped calling her, and started just showing up at my place randomly. I finally just stopped answering my phone when she called and, on one particular occasion, laid on the floor of my apartment, behind a couch, for 25 minutes, because an unannounced visitor knocked and I was pretty sure it was her. Turned out several weeks later that she gave me the clap as well.True story.

 

[BassNBrew]

Woz...you ####ed up by hopping in the sack with her. OK...her's the deal, you have to play up the ex- situation. Hopefully you saved that text and can show her. Tell her you're not interested in the ex-, but not ready to start something new until you see that she gets the proper help she needs not to be a danger to herself. give her some line about still being close to the family and how much it would her if she killed herself. Play it up and not only do you get out, you come off as a good guy.

She already knows about the text and has checked out my facebook where there is pics and #### I'm tagged in, so the seed is planted. This could work and, like you said, makes me look better than if I told her the reason was a problem with me that I'm not emotionally fit to start dating again (route I initially thought of going). BTW, I didn't actually #### her and didn't push anything myself. But I was pissed.

Yeah, but you led her on when you knew you had no interest in her. You reap what you sow.

 

[Keys Myaths]

Signing up now.

 

[Disco Stu]

Signing up now.

Be sure to have someone (krista) review your profile.

 

[krista4]

Signing up now.

Be sure to have someone (krista) review your profile.

 

[Keys Myaths]

Signing up now.

Be sure to have someone (krista) review your profile.

Once pics/etc. get approved, expect a PM.

 

[TLEF316]

messaged a chick from plenty of fish this morning. (good looking girl, lives about 15 mintues away) I went with the honest, no schtick, light humor approach. She viewed my profile, but no response. O well, looks like I'm ugly.

Confidence is very attractive. Self pity, not so much.

As you can probably tell, I'm far from an expert on women, but I'm sort of calling BS on this. You can have all the confidence in the world, but if you are ugly as sin, 99% on women <40 arent giving you a 2nd look. I agree that women dig confidence, but I find it hard to believe that anyone is gonna meet an ugly stranger just because they wrote a clever email. I'm willing to bet that most women (especially those around my age (23)) are choosing who they respond to based on the pictures provided. And for the record, I was half kidding when i said i was ugly.

You're a very cute guy and if you weren't fishing for compliments then your attitude is da suck. Some of the sexiest guys I know aren't all that to look at but they carry themselves well, make me laugh, and are sure of themselves. If a woman feels a mans confidence, feels his attitude, she can't help but be attracted. Now I'm not talking about bad hygeine or any extremes but the average guy looks a hellova lot better when he's got the confidence going on.

certainly not fishing for compliments. As for this whole confidence thing, I dont know. I'd be the first one to admit that i may have a few self image issues, but I certainly dont think that I project myself as some pathetic type of momma's boy or anything like that. I'm just sort of your every day normal guy. I have a good sense of humor, and I'm one of the most easy going people you'll ever meet. What you see is what you get. If that makes me less attractive to women, I guess I'll have to work on that.

 

[krista4]

Signing up now.

Be sure to have someone (krista) review your profile.

Once pics/etc. get approved, expect a PM.

 

[Incogneto]

I have a small update....went out with big-assed chick. Went to the park, and threw a softball around. She is on a team as of July and wanted to get some practice in. ....anyways, we threw the ball around, then went over to her place. she showed me around, and we sat on the patio, then went to her room and looked at some pics, then proceeded to make out for about 45 minutes. some Dry H'ing, but no clothes off. she wanted to 'take it slow'.... So, I think I might be getting myself in trouble here. She is really into me, and I see her as a little bit of a fling. how is the best way to manage this to get a little action, and get out unscathed? ....or should I just ditch her, and look for the next Ms.?

What am I, Chopped Liver? I know there is no Psycho chick, but I need to know how to play this!:noob:

 

[Bankerguy]

I have a small update....went out with big-assed chick. Went to the park, and threw a softball around. She is on a team as of July and wanted to get some practice in. ....anyways, we threw the ball around, then went over to her place. she showed me around, and we sat on the patio, then went to her room and looked at some pics, then proceeded to make out for about 45 minutes. some Dry H'ing, but no clothes off. she wanted to 'take it slow'.... So, I think I might be getting myself in trouble here. She is really into me, and I see her as a little bit of a fling. how is the best way to manage this to get a little action, and get out unscathed? ....or should I just ditch her, and look for the next Ms.?

What am I, Chopped Liver? I know there is no Psycho chick, but I need to know how to play this!:noob:

Very simple.....ask you yourself is it worth waiting for?Maybe she is picking up you only think of it as a fling.Oh...and I am too tired for my update...will type it tomorrow.

 

[Otis]

I have a small update....went out with big-assed chick. Went to the park, and threw a softball around. She is on a team as of July and wanted to get some practice in. ....anyways, we threw the ball around, then went over to her place. she showed me around, and we sat on the patio, then went to her room and looked at some pics, then proceeded to make out for about 45 minutes. some Dry H'ing, but no clothes off. she wanted to 'take it slow'.... So, I think I might be getting myself in trouble here. She is really into me, and I see her as a little bit of a fling. how is the best way to manage this to get a little action, and get out unscathed? ....or should I just ditch her, and look for the next Ms.?

What am I, Chopped Liver? I know there is no Psycho chick, but I need to know how to play this!:noob:

If you have a good time with her, nothing wrong with keeping it real casual, hanging on occasion, and leaivng it open as a possibility. No rash decisions have to be made now. In the meantime, continue to do your thing elsewhere.

 

[Otis]

Another prospect for drinks when I get back to NY. She's cute.

I've got like 4 or 5 solid leads going now. Not sure how I'm going to squeeze all of this in. It will be exhausting and expensive. But I'll make it happen. Given my recent slump, I need to make it happen.

 

[Mr. Pickles]

krista> when will we start dating?TIA,O

I would have been all over this had I not recently learned that you are a fraud. Sorry, GB.

 

[Mr. Pickles]

1. She said she was going to kill herself. I don't care who the #### sends me that message, I'm going to react. It's bull####, I'm pissed about it, and I let her know (to probably the meanest extent I can get).

You're a moron. This is a fine reaction if you're 18.

 

[SofaKings]

1. She said she was going to kill herself. I don't care who the #### sends me that message, I'm going to react. It's bull####, I'm pissed about it, and I let her know (to probably the meanest extent I can get).

You're a moron. This is a fine reaction if you're 18.

Exactly. Who didn't have a chick say she was gonna kill herself after relationship issues at that age?

 

[BassNBrew]

Another prospect for drinks when I get back to NY. She's cute.

I've got like 4 or 5 solid leads going now. Not sure how I'm going to squeeze all of this in. It will be exhausting and expensive. But I'll make it happen. Given my recent slump, I need to make it happen.

That looks like Kate.

 

[krista4]

I have a small update....went out with big-assed chick. Went to the park, and threw a softball around. She is on a team as of July and wanted to get some practice in. ....anyways, we threw the ball around, then went over to her place. she showed me around, and we sat on the patio, then went to her room and looked at some pics, then proceeded to make out for about 45 minutes. some Dry H'ing, but no clothes off. she wanted to 'take it slow'.... So, I think I might be getting myself in trouble here. She is really into me, and I see her as a little bit of a fling. how is the best way to manage this to get a little action, and get out unscathed? ....or should I just ditch her, and look for the next Ms.?

What am I, Chopped Liver? I know there is no Psycho chick, but I need to know how to play this!:noob:

Sorry, I didn't reply because I figured my reply would not be the one you wanted. If you know you're not interested in anything but a little fling, but you know she's into you and wants something more, the kind thing to do would be to get out now.

 

[Otis]

Another prospect for drinks when I get back to NY. She's cute.

I've got like 4 or 5 solid leads going now. Not sure how I'm going to squeeze all of this in. It will be exhausting and expensive. But I'll make it happen. Given my recent slump, I need to make it happen.

That looks like Kate.

Two arms in all pics I've seen.

 

[Poppa]

1. She said she was going to kill herself. I don't care who the #### sends me that message, I'm going to react. It's bull####, I'm pissed about it, and I let her know (to probably the meanest extent I can get).

You're a moron. This is a fine reaction if you're 18.

Seriously. Your only response should have been "I hope it's not painful. Good luck."She's just manipulating you. She's not your problem. Don't ever talk to her again.

Or marry her. What's it gonna be...?

 

[ragincajun]

In like flynn...

First question.....

There is a hottie in my area that likes baseball, so I am all over that. My question is what's the opening line? (Astro's Fan)

1. Do you throw like a girl?

2. Astros' bring teh suck...

3. Why did the rocket have to leave?

4. Wanna go catch a game?

Whats the FBG play here....

 

[Bankerguy]

Update:

Shot a 95 yesterday for my first round of the year. Brutal front 9, solid back nine. Oh, could someone teach me to putt.

The date with "Sits around in her Bra" was OK. Nothing really exciting to report. Picked her up, went to a nice roof top patio type of place. Had a few Corona's, talked, a couple of laughs....blah blah.

She was not as cute as her pics. See had an OK face, nice hair/lips, and great boobs. Seems like I am a boob man lately (WTF??). Everything else was very average. Not horrible or anything, but certainly not a tight body.

Stardard good night kiss, see you again type of deal. I am on Vacation for a few days so I may take her to the beach to get a better look before I go in.

Sorry...it's not more exciting, but it is real.

 

[Uruk-Hai]

Update:Shot a 95 yesterday for my first round of the year. Brutal front 9, solid back nine. Oh, could someone teach me to putt.The date with "Sits around in her Bra" was OK. Nothing really exciting to report. Picked her up, went to a nice roof top patio type of place. Had a few Corona's, talked, a couple of laughs....blah blah.She was not as cute as her pics. See had an OK face, nice hair/lips, and great boobs. Seems like I am a boob man lately (WTF??). Everything else was very average. Not horrible or anything, but certainly not a tight body.Stardard good night kiss, see you again type of deal. I am on Vacation for a few days so I may take her to the beach to get a better look before I go in. Sorry...it's not more exciting, but it is real.

Has she been put in the "I'll take her out if I have nothing better to do" bin?

 

[Bankerguy]

Update:Shot a 95 yesterday for my first round of the year. Brutal front 9, solid back nine. Oh, could someone teach me to putt.The date with "Sits around in her Bra" was OK. Nothing really exciting to report. Picked her up, went to a nice roof top patio type of place. Had a few Corona's, talked, a couple of laughs....blah blah.She was not as cute as her pics. See had an OK face, nice hair/lips, and great boobs. Seems like I am a boob man lately (WTF??). Everything else was very average. Not horrible or anything, but certainly not a tight body.Stardard good night kiss, see you again type of deal. I am on Vacation for a few days so I may take her to the beach to get a better look before I go in. Sorry...it's not more exciting, but it is real.

Has she been put in the "I'll take her out if I have nothing better to do" bin?

She is not a long term prospect, more of a I want to see your boobs in the next date or two prospect.

 

[Uruk-Hai]

Update:Shot a 95 yesterday for my first round of the year. Brutal front 9, solid back nine. Oh, could someone teach me to putt.The date with "Sits around in her Bra" was OK. Nothing really exciting to report. Picked her up, went to a nice roof top patio type of place. Had a few Corona's, talked, a couple of laughs....blah blah.She was not as cute as her pics. See had an OK face, nice hair/lips, and great boobs. Seems like I am a boob man lately (WTF??). Everything else was very average. Not horrible or anything, but certainly not a tight body.Stardard good night kiss, see you again type of deal. I am on Vacation for a few days so I may take her to the beach to get a better look before I go in. Sorry...it's not more exciting, but it is real.

Has she been put in the "I'll take her out if I have nothing better to do" bin?

She is not a long term prospect, more of a I want to see your boobs in the next date or two prospect.

Was it just that you didn't match up intellectually or did the difference in anticipated looks vs what she really looks like disappoint you?

 

[Bankerguy]

Update:Shot a 95 yesterday for my first round of the year. Brutal front 9, solid back nine. Oh, could someone teach me to putt.The date with "Sits around in her Bra" was OK. Nothing really exciting to report. Picked her up, went to a nice roof top patio type of place. Had a few Corona's, talked, a couple of laughs....blah blah.She was not as cute as her pics. See had an OK face, nice hair/lips, and great boobs. Seems like I am a boob man lately (WTF??). Everything else was very average. Not horrible or anything, but certainly not a tight body.Stardard good night kiss, see you again type of deal. I am on Vacation for a few days so I may take her to the beach to get a better look before I go in. Sorry...it's not more exciting, but it is real.

Has she been put in the "I'll take her out if I have nothing better to do" bin?

She is not a long term prospect, more of a I want to see your boobs in the next date or two prospect.

Was it just that you didn't match up intellectually or did the difference in anticipated looks vs what she really looks like disappoint you?

Yeah...both.

 

[Uruk-Hai]

Update:Shot a 95 yesterday for my first round of the year. Brutal front 9, solid back nine. Oh, could someone teach me to putt.The date with "Sits around in her Bra" was OK. Nothing really exciting to report. Picked her up, went to a nice roof top patio type of place. Had a few Corona's, talked, a couple of laughs....blah blah.She was not as cute as her pics. See had an OK face, nice hair/lips, and great boobs. Seems like I am a boob man lately (WTF??). Everything else was very average. Not horrible or anything, but certainly not a tight body.Stardard good night kiss, see you again type of deal. I am on Vacation for a few days so I may take her to the beach to get a better look before I go in. Sorry...it's not more exciting, but it is real.

Has she been put in the "I'll take her out if I have nothing better to do" bin?

She is not a long term prospect, more of a I want to see your boobs in the next date or two prospect.

Was it just that you didn't match up intellectually or did the difference in anticipated looks vs what she really looks like disappoint you?

Yeah...both.

I hear ya. While I'm not a big believer in instant chemistry being required for a relationship (I think it can be developed over time if the basic criteria between two match pretty well), sometimes you just get that "meh" feeling. One thing to keep in mind, though, is that first dates can be weird (nerves, unfamiliarity, etc..) & may not show the norm for the person.What's your take on how it went for her?