Overnight Guests Arriving at 11pm - Rude or Not? (1 Viewer)

[Johnny Bing]

That is something I would have done in college if I was asking to crash on someone’s couch. 

As adults, especially knowing you have children and they are already in town, yes that’s rude. How do they know you want to stay up and converse into early AM hours?  Just not the thing you do when someone is doing you a favor allowing you to stay at their house.

Whats wrong with people, just do a Priceline name your price for $50 in MPLS. Probably land a 2.5 to 3 star hotel. 

 

[Da Guru]

So how did it work out?

 

[bigmarc27]

If they have a reason, I don’t see a big deal. Are they getting in town and have a work function or something?  I guess the context matters, but nothing in what you said really bothers me. 

 

[mr roboto]

So how did it work out?

Fine. Fortunately they were tired too so we all went to bed around 11:15. Woke up and made a nice breakfast. Was a good time chatting with them. 

They are getting back to our home tonight and leaving tomorrow morning. I gave them the garage code and told them we would be in bed. 

 

[eoMMan]

Who the hell can't afford to use their own data? 

If it was an overnight guest that brought a laptop i wouldnt have a problem at all. Over for an evening and you ask for it for your phone? 

I find that absurd. If you need to watch netflix that badly go home. 

I don't understand this. Does your internet bill go up if someone is using your wifi connection for the evening?

This is someone you know...not a stranger stealing.

 

[parasaurolophus]

I don't understand this. Does your internet bill go up if someone is using your wifi connection for the evening?

This is someone you know...not a stranger stealing.

I dont understand why when you are guest at somebody's house you would be concerned with using so much data. 

 

[mr roboto]

I dont understand why when you are guest at somebody's house you would be concerned with using so much data. 

WiFi is faster?

 

[touche']

I dont understand why when you are guest at somebody's house you would be concerned with using so much data. 

Yeah your stance on this is really bizarre

 

[parasaurolophus]

WiFi is faster?

If you plan on doing enough streaming/downloading/surfing that the difference in speed from 4g to wifi can offset the amount of time it takes to ask for and type in the password and connect you should just stay home. 

I just can't even imagine being at somebody's house for dinner and drinks and asking them for their wifi password. Seems so weird to me. I am not saying i never check my phone while a guest, but i dont sit there watching a netflix original series under the table. 

 

[mr roboto]

If you plan on doing enough streaming/downloading/surfing that the difference in speed from 4g to wifi can offset the amount of time it takes to ask for and type in the password and connect you should just stay home. 

I just can't even imagine being at somebody's house for dinner and drinks and asking them for their wifi password. Seems so weird to me. I am not saying i never check my phone while a guest, but i dont sit there watching a netflix original series under the table. 

 I agree but if I go to her friends house to watch football for a few hours or spend most of the day there and I see they have all wireless network I will ask for the password. 

 Maybe that’s rude? 

 

[rockaction]

 I agree but if I go to her friends house to watch football for a few hours or spend most of the day there and I see they have all wireless network I will ask for the password. 

 Maybe that’s rude? 

No, not at all. It's just him.  

 

[pollardsvision]

Fine. Fortunately they were tired too so we all went to bed around 11:15. Woke up and made a nice breakfast. Was a good time chatting with them. 

They are getting back to our home tonight and leaving tomorrow morning. I gave them the garage code and told them we would be in bed. 

So, um, did they ask for the wifi password?

 

[mr roboto]

So, um, did they ask for the wifi password?

No. We gave it to them. It’s written on a piece of paper we leave on the guest bedroom side table. 

 

[El Floppo]

If they have a reason, I don’t see a big deal. Are they getting in town and have a work function or something?  I guess the context matters, but nothing in what you said really bothers me. 

If friends asked to stay at my place, but would be in 11- and I said yes- what's the problem here?

If they show up at 11 without letting me know after saying they'd be here much earlier- weak. range of which depends on the circumstances.

If they show up at 11without having even asked to stay- #### them they're sleeping elsewhere.

but they can have my wifi from my cold dead hands

 

[parasaurolophus]

 I agree but if I go to her friends house to watch football for a few hours or spend most of the day there and I see they have all wireless network I will ask for the password. 

 Maybe that’s rude? 

I could see the fantasy football side. Didnt think of that. I would assume though that the person you are visiting would be on a media device a lot too then? 

 

[Henry Ford]

No. We gave it to them. It’s written on a piece of paper we leave on the guest bedroom side table. 

That’s what we do, too.  We don’t put a tv in the guest room, but there’s WiFi and often people crack out a laptop and watch Hulu or Netflix or something if we crash before them. So we leave the password in the room.

I assumed that’s sort of the way of the world now. 

 

[Zow]

No. We gave it to them. It’s written on a piece of paper we leave on the guest bedroom side table. 

Yeah we actually have some framed display (I'm sure my wife saw it on Pinterest or something) that we have in both the guest bedroom and living room for guests so it's never an issue.  I think this is normal.  

 

[gianmarco]

Yeah we actually have some framed display (I'm sure my wife saw it on Pinterest or something) that we have in both the guest bedroom and living room for guests so it's never an issue.  I think this is normal.  

It is.  I think it's clear here where the exception to the rule lies.

 

[Peak]

I don't think the late arrival is rude.  My wife's cousin and her family (husband, 3 kids) stay with us every summer for a family reunion.  We just give them the garage code and tell them we'll talk in the morning.  They drive all day, arrive around 11pm and we don't see/hear from them until we get up the next morning.  It's what family does for each other. 

 

[Dr. Octopus]

 I agree but if I go to her friends house to watch football for a few hours or spend most of the day there and I see they have all wireless network I will ask for the password. 

 Maybe that’s rude? 

It's not rude - it's pretty common and harmless. If some one asked me I would give it to them without a second thought.

 

[doowain]

11pm is late?

 

[doowain]

Who the hell can't afford to use their own data? 

If it was an overnight guest that brought a laptop i wouldnt have a problem at all. Over for an evening and you ask for it for your phone? 

I find that absurd. If you need to watch netflix that badly go home. 

I don't understand this. Does your internet bill go up if someone is using your wifi connection for the evening?

This is someone you know...not a stranger stealing.

Uncle Rico: All right, you just start a little earlier, that's all. Or else work afterwards. How long is the chat room?

Kip: Geez, sometimes up to 3 or 4 hours maybe... maybe not...

Uncle Rico: You pay the bills for that? Does that cost money every time you're on, like for minutes on the phone?

Kip: Yeah, Grandma's still paying per minute. She gets kinda pissed at me sometimes 'cause I'm on there so long.

Uncle Rico: I bet she does. I'll tell you something, I'd be throwing you out the window.

 

[cheese]

I don't think the late arrival is rude.  My wife's cousin and her family (husband, 3 kids) stay with us every summer for a family reunion.  We just give them the garage code and tell them we'll talk in the morning.  They drive all day, arrive around 11pm and we don't see/hear from them until we get up the next morning.  It's what family does for each other. 

What age are your kids?

 

[Peak]

What age are your kids?

When this family first started coming to our home on these trips, they were 8, 6, and 3.  They are now 15, 13, 10.  This family also had 3 kids of similar ages.  It wasn't an issue for our family or theirs.  In fact, their kids would usually take a sleeping bag into my older daughter's room and "camp out" upon arrival.  She loved it and was happy to see them the next morning.

 

[whoknew]

Eh. Its probably rude but its one night and they are family. No reason to get in a huff about it.

 

[cheese]

When this family first started coming to our home on these trips, they were 8, 6, and 3.  They are now 15, 13, 10.  This family also had 3 kids of similar ages.  It wasn't an issue for our family or theirs.  In fact, their kids would usually take a sleeping bag into my older daughter's room and "camp out" upon arrival.  She loved it and was happy to see them the next morning.

Gotcha ya, I can see the fun for the 6 year old. I’m a definite no while I have a 0-4 year old. I’m a definite yes after. 

 

[matuski]

11pm is late?

You can only get 59 minutes later.

 

[doowain]

11pm is late?

You can only get 59 minutes later.

Sorry.  I didn't realize the OP was Cinderella.

 

[Weebs210]

I have no comment to the actual thread but where will you post these types of questions when you lose our bet?

 

[Leroy Hoard]

I always bring 300 feet of ethernet cable when staying over with friends or family, in case the wifi is spotty. 

You can never  have too much cable. Unless of course it's Comcast.

 

[jon_mx]

You can never  have too much cable.

That is what she said 

 

[sports_fan]

They should have made arrangements to arrive earlier, spend an hour or two with you then headed out. Pretty weird to make plans for the second you arrive somewhere. 

 

[mr roboto]

I have no comment to the actual thread but where will you post these types of questions when you lose our bet?

Not looking good for your boy right now.