not need to post salaries and amounts spent on boats, cars, etc.Maybe I am just lucky, but I don't see how it is that difficult if you make a decent living. You just have to know how to manage money.
My family is very middle class, but we easily afford these things.
I am not going to post all the details here, but if you want to know details feel free to pm me.
@Wingnut i smell a business opportunity. You with me?must be local prices then. probably a bit more scarce around here. i was seeing 20k+ for used and 50-60k+ for new.
For sure. And I imagine if you do transactional work with a nice client base - or you do something like family law where you have a good community reputation and a consistent number of new calls per month - it's doable.Going part time assumes you don't need as large an income.
This is why I have zero desire to have my name on a door at this point in my life where I'm just trying to grind hard and maximize my earning potential.Yeah, the 3k+ billable hours folks are nutty. I also did 2600 one year. It actually wasnt awful because I was young and single and enjoying the work, so the time passed quickly. But I see mothers of multiple kids doing 3k+ and that stuns me. No way to live.
That said, lately my crutch is the non billable and management stuff. Every day I wake up with grand plans to finish that brief I have to write, and end up spending 6 hours on nonsense before I can turn to it. Annoying.
you know what else is brutal on a middle aged body? a slip and slide.You ever slalom skiied or wakeboarded? It's absolutely brutal to the body unless you are thin and light or in wonderful shape. It's much more physically taxing than snow skiing. I'm competent in both.
short term:What projects are you wanting to do? Maybe you should go ahead and start them, now's a great time to get a little loan from the bank at these rates. And it will ad value to your home even though you never pan on selling it.
We are re-doing the inside of our place, we thought about hiring folks but we have started doing it ourselves and see how far we can go. Right now it's just simple painting and some light kitchen work, we built a nook like you might see at a BnB when you are on the road. We painted the kitchen banana yellow, it looks insane.
First way is to look to up an income class calculator. Every year for the last 5ish years when we do our taxes we look one up and we have almost always been middle class, one year we had a really good year and were upper middle class.not need to post salaries and amounts spent on boats, cars, etc.
more looking for overview that goes deeper than "be smart with your money". because that's a great suggestion, but that's too vague. what you consider "a decent living" could be vastly different than what i consider "decent".
maybe in terms of percentages of take home.. what are you saving? spending on "luxury items"? what percent goes towards your monthly bills?
would you say you ever had meaningful debt to climb out of? or were you always in the green?
Ummm . . . nope.So many people that don’t own boats saying things like this in this thread. Makes you sound broke, jealous or both.
To be fair, most people let themselves go in middle age. But for those of us who don’t, there are very few activities off limits. I gave up heavy lifting, for example, as I couldn’t justify the injury risk for what ended up being mostly about vanity. And I’ve had multiple acquaintances hurt themselves playing pick up basketball. Maybe some types of water skiing are equally hard on the body, I don’t know.![]()
I don't know if dentist meant for it to come off this way, but I detest the notion that you can't be active in your 40s or 50s.
We recover slower than in our 20s, and there's more risk with some activities. I'll always remember my two colleagues who went back to jumping out of airplanes in their mid 40s after a decade hiatus and got injured (one pretty badly, the other less so). But young guys get injured doing that too, and I suspect most of us aren't trying to jump out of airplanes with over 75 lbs of gear.
Yeah, you'll feel sore doing some activities. But it's so worth it.
Another growing trend (and I think it makes a lot of sense) is that a lot of people who have an inheritance to bestow unto family are giving part or all of it to their inheritors while they are still living. My wife's grandmother offered each of her 7 grandchildren their inheritance early. She said she would rather see them enjoy things they want while they are still young and can enjoy them (and maybe grandmother gets to share in those memories created too). In this case, all the grandchildren are grown (no teenagers or early 20's...so I suppose maybe she thinks the ability to make a good decision is there, etc.) I thought it was nice thought. My wife has not taken her grandmother up on the offer so I don't know what hoops and hurdles are required to opt in but it helped one grandchild get their house for their new family and baby, etc. I think it was nicer than that grandchild struggling to make ends meet with a young child and kill themselves for a decade or two and then get the inheritance when they had already made it over the harder times.I agree that in most cases it's likely debt spending. All these things can be financed.
But I've also been surprised by the number of people I've met who had some sort of financial windfall - be it inheritance, injury settlement, sold a business, stocks, real estate. The most frequent is inheritance. For example, I have a brother in law who is slated to inherit something like a million dollars and when that happens he'll be buying a boat and a place on a lake. He's a windows installer. You just never know.
If you don't have good health, everything is much more difficult and, to a point, irrelevant. So for each and every one of us who are able to control that as best we can and don't have issues to deal with, please take your health seriously. It is no joke at all how we go from being invulnerable and then all of a sudden (40's), things just start creeping up on you. Don't add to it with really poor eating, overweight, heart issues waiting to happen, etc. Do a little all the time and live in moderation so that you're one of those awesome 70-somethings couples that is about there having a ball.To be fair, most people let themselves go in middle age. But for those of us who don’t, there are very few activities off limits. I gave up heavy lifting, for example, as I couldn’t justify the injury risk for what ended up being mostly about vanity. And I’ve had multiple acquaintances hurt themselves playing pick up basketball. Maybe some types of water skiing are equally hard on the body, I don’t know.
Aside from maintaining physical fitness, another key component is finding younger friends. I climb with a bunch of guys in their 20’s. I’d rather try to keep up with them than the Joneses.
My working class parents lived frugally and dreamed of retirement. My dad died at 55.Another growing trend (and I think it makes a lot of sense) is that a lot of people who have an inheritance to bestow unto family are giving part or all of it to their inheritors while they are still living. My wife's grandmother offered each of her 7 grandchildren their inheritance early. She said she would rather see them enjoy things they want while they are still young and can enjoy them (and maybe grandmother gets to share in those memories created too). In this case, all the grandchildren are grown (no teenagers or early 20's...so I suppose maybe she thinks the ability to make a good decision is there, etc.) I thought it was nice thought. My wife has not taken her grandmother up on the offer so I don't know what hoops and hurdles are required to opt in but it helped one grandchild get their house for their new family and baby, etc. I think it was nicer than that grandchild struggling to make ends meet with a young child and kill themselves for a decade or two and then get the inheritance when they had already made it over the harder times.
i think you might be underestimating just how unusual savings at this level is for most. you might be in the top 1% of savers.As far as percentage we are saving every month (money that comes out of the checking) I would guess between 30 and 40 percent.
You got it right on the nose. My wife's grandmother is 90 this year and has survived her husband by 10+ years now. She is in really good health, considering all things, but Father Time loses to nobody and she said a few years ago since they force her to spend down in her investments, etc, there is no reason not to do this. The alternative is it gets sucked away in a scenario like you describe? No thanks.My working class parents lived frugally and dreamed of retirement. My dad died at 55.
My mom lived frugally and dreamed of passing on what she could to her children and grandchildren. She had a stroke at 89 (good health right up to then), paid about $13k a month to suffer in a nursing home until qualifying for Medicaid after about 2 years and a few months later dying there.
Early on, in her 70s, tried to get mom to put some money in the grandkids names (I have 1 kid, brother has 3) to protect some of it while keeping it available if she wanted it for any reason. I'd like to think, if given a 2nd chance, she'd either move the money as discussed or spend it on some of those things and experiences that she had denied herself for years.
The toys and vacations and retirement come out of those savings. So we are probably spending 60ish percent of our month income and then other is going to savings, toys, retirement etc.i think you might be underestimating just how unusual savings at this level is for most. you might be in the top 1% of savers.
if you can afford a mortgage, toys, bills, maxing out retirement, etc. and still save 30-40% then you are doing incredibly well both in terms of take home & savings.
so kudos to you for that![]()
For us, going into kids with no student loan nor credit card debt (a massive if in today's world) made it as simple as prioritization and minimizing future interest bearing debt. We are middle class and both have established side hustles that require very little of our time. If we wanted toys we could have added them to the budget within a year of popping out our last kid - because they were healthy anyway. We chose not to (priorities!), but we could have. And if we choose to now we're almost to the point in which we could do it - kids aged 4, 7, and 10.not need to post salaries and amounts spent on boats, cars, etc.
more looking for overview that goes deeper than "be smart with your money". because that's a great suggestion, but that's too vague. what you consider "a decent living" could be vastly different than what i consider "decent".
maybe in terms of percentages of take home.. what are you saving? spending on "luxury items"? what percent goes towards your monthly bills?
would you say you ever had meaningful debt to climb out of? or were you always in the green?
strykerpks said:@mr. furley Just seeing this thread but I'm in a similar boat (no pun intended). We're paycheck to paycheck with roughly 20ish percent going to savings, life insurance etc. People around here leverage a number of things to have these toys. Hell you're probably seeing a bunch of snowmobiles and those are likely bigger money pits than boats. It's just what they do.
I spent my 20s getting drunk and banging chicks. Fun for sure but where am I today at 41? Friends of mine got married and had kids at 25-30yo and have had a much more stable plan for a dozen+ years longer than I. It is what it is. Yeah I get that jealousy too but our lives and priorities were different. Income is certainly a factor as well. I'm in the blue collar sector so I'm not making typical FBG money whereas some of my circle is white collar. There's a few extra bucks there.
I'll likely never have those "toys" or what my friends might have but I'm ok with that.
As someone in education I wanted to send our child to private school, but we decided that the extra attention I can and will pay to my childs education would make up the difference that a private school would provide.MAC_32 said:For us, going into kids with no student loan nor credit card debt (a massive if in today's world) made it as simple as prioritization and minimizing future interest bearing debt. We are middle class and both have established side hustles that require very little of our time. If we wanted toys we could have added them to the budget within a year of popping out our last kid - because they were healthy anyway. We chose not to (priorities!), but we could have. And if we choose to now we're almost to the point in which we could do it - kids aged 4, 7, and 10.
Without considering side hustle income nor 3 paycheck months, this is our baseline monthly budget
Mortgage 15% (through 2027)
Tuition 15% (no June pmt, apply towards home improvements), may have a HS public school option outside our district
Food 10%
Nanny 10% (no June nor July pmt, apply towards home improvements)
Savings 10% (retirement/529/HSA - at minimum max out the employer match), liquid savings account is already at a healthy level
Car 5% (through 2021)
Insurance 5%
Phone/Internet/Streaming/Utilities 5%
Discretionary 25% (minimum)
And this drives some finance people crazy (gov't interest free loan yadda yadda yadda), but we set things up to get a healthy refund each year. That's our vacation budget and whatever we don't use goes towards home improvements. Due to covid we opted against a vacation, so this has been a massive home improvement year. Especially once also considering the stimulus check and saved nanny costs in spring.
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We made the decision years ago to do private schooling because our public schools are poor. A lot of what @msudaisy26 mentioned could have already been in the works (40% discretionary!) had we not made that decision, but in our reality we think it's the right one. But that nanny line item may be going away for good - we'll see what the DoE does wrt covid this school year. Initially we're going to use that on home improvements, but we may complete the biggest ones within the next 3 years as 10% per month is gonna add up quick. I don't ever see us expanding beyond a one week and long weekend vacation schedule but at that point we'll have the option to do some combination of that, increase savings, investing, among many other options.
There's a lot more details that I wrote out, but didn't want to throw out a wall of text so if you have any follow up shoot me a pm.
Good stuff overall, but this is one of those items I wonder if people really think about the Dynamics.(I mean WTF pre-schools are in the thousands of dollar range now??)
My four daughters are now 14, 17, 19 & 22...
What are "toys"?
Yup, that's a lot of it for me. Some poor financial decisions in my 20s-30s, marrying someone who was bad with money, getting myself caught up in the housing bubble, and then getting a divorce all set me way back despite making a decent living. Then just choosing to live in the Bay Area after college (rent is so damned high) and putting my kid in a private high school are choices I definintely don't regret, but they sure keep the financial pressure on and have kept me pretty close to paycheck-to-paycheck living for most of my adult life.i'm cool with where i'm at. never seriously worried about what anyone else is doing, but sometimes i wonder if the decisions i made/am making are preventing me from affording some of these life's luxuries.
-OZ- said:![]()
I don't know if dentist meant for it to come off this way, but I detest the notion that you can't be active in your 40s or 50s.
We recover slower than in our 20s, and there's more risk with some activities. I'll always remember my two colleagues who went back to jumping out of airplanes in their mid 40s after a decade hiatus and got injured (one pretty badly, the other less so). But young guys get injured doing that too, and I suspect most of us aren't trying to jump out of airplanes with over 75 lbs of gear.
Yeah, you'll feel sore doing some activities. But it's so worth it.
let'e be honest a 1:1 ratio is a lotHonestly though, 5 12 month olds seems like a LOT for one teacher.
All those nice things you have bought them the last 20 years.My four daughters are now 14, 17, 19 & 22...
What are "toys"?
My daughters day care/preschool 11 years ago cost me almost 1k a month.Wife and I recently moved to Portland, OR while getting to keep our SF Bay Area salaries. No kids, will be paying off what little debt we do have from the sale of our tiny condo in the bay area and then be able to put down a ton on a 3/2 here in Portland. I'm already thinking about the "toys" I'll be wanting to get, but most of our "fun" budget goes into travel and will continue to do so, pending COVID obviously.
Most if not all of our friends have kids and we see so much of their money going into schooling (I mean WTF pre-schools are in the thousands of dollar range now??) and saving for future schooling. It's great for them because their kids are their lives and they are happy, but that seems to be a huge money sink to me.
Sometimes we pretend like we have no kids and look around for what we could buy for with the cost of daycare. It looks like we could have either one large vacation home or two more moderately sized ones. Instead we get macaroni art and messages that we forgot sunscreen.My daughters day care/preschool 11 years ago cost me almost 1k a month.
Bose headphonesMy four daughters are now 14, 17, 19 & 22...
What are "toys"?
When did you acquire your first one? Average sales price? Acquiring 4 is impressive. I’m in So Cal and late in the rental property investment gameHonestly---I don't have the "toys" being mentioned here--but I am 41 years old and I own 4 properties out right. The key to asset acquisition (whether its properties, rvs, toys...etc) is creating multiple and passive revenue streams. I would never be in the position where i am now had I not pulled the trigger on my first investment property. I put a nice down payment down and allocated all of the rent money towards the mortgage payment. Ended up paying if off super quick. I then had the rent money direct deposited to an account that I hardly touch and let it accumulate. Ended up buying a second property using that money when the market was really low and just paid it off in cash. I then had rent money coming in from 2 properties with no mortgage payment. I accumulated enough to purchase a third property a few years later. If one is smart enough to start this cycle of smart investing/purchases early enough--they can really set themselves up to have a lot of luxuries in life later on.
In the end this is the variable that counts the most. No matter what you spend on if you manage to squeeze out a decent percentage you're doing ok. Last couple years I've been right at 40%. That will do and if we went to 50% I'd start cutting out the things that make life now better. No need to live like a hermit.mr. furley said:maybe in terms of percentages of take home.. what are you saving? spending on "luxury items"? what percent goes towards your monthly bills?
Dress her in short shorts and make sure she flashes a smile at the boys coming out of those houses...My daughter did a lifeguard camp last month. Camp is literally in front of the ritz Carlton. Houses on the beach are 10-30+ million. The car pick up line, had a lot of ridiculous cars in it.
One thing I have done is to setup Roths for the kids. Any amount of money compounding in early life is a huge lever arm.a friend of mine bags on me constantly for not being able to tag along on vacations, long weekends, concerts, etc. he has forever. around the time we were graduating HS his grandparents gave him 20k cash, equivalent of that in stock and when they passed a couple years later he inherited 200k.
Buy utility, rent luxury.The only big purchase I could think of that I would potentially want is a vacation home somewhere, but even that seems like a waste if it is empty 95% of the year or a hassle trying to deal with rentals and such.
Just did this for my 16-year old as she got her first job, tutoring incoming freshman in math over Zoom. It'll only be a few bucks, but the plan is to match whatever earnings she has over the next several years to start funding it. Ideally, I'm in a position to keep funding it throughout her young adult life, as I know I struggled to save anything during those lean days.One thing I have done is to setup Roths for the kids. Any amount of money compounding in early life is a huge lever arm.
I started late--about 10-11 years ago. Relatively speaking--things were so expensive in the So cal market even back then that I focused on the Las Vegas market. My first investment property there was a short sale in silverado ranch (right next to Henderson)--a 3 bedroom 2 bath single family home for $99k. A little less than 2 years later I purchased a 2 bedroom 2 bath condo in silverado ranch for $53k. After that--I used the funds to pay off my mortgage for the home that I live in Huntington Beach in--and several years later--I purchased a 3rd investment property in Vegas. The key is that most occupations alone make it impossible to live life, keep some in savings for retirement, have reserve funds for emergencies and to enjoy some luxuries. This is especially the case in Southern California. Putting your money to work is one of the key ways to get ahead of the curve. Not only have these properties effectively paid for themselves via the passive monthly income--but they've also went up in value 2.5-3x since acquiring them. Having those properties has almost been like having a second full time job for me financially over the past 10-11 years.When did you acquire your first one? Average sales price? Acquiring 4 is impressive. I’m in So Cal and late in the rental property investment game
I make more money part time now than I did full time 10 years ago.-OZ- said:Going part time assumes you don't need as large an income.
So you don't own a boat, but somehow you're able to say that owning one is like ripping up 100's in a cold shower. You're not the only one in here who has made a statement like that, without actually having a boat.=Smackdown= said:Ummm . . . nope.
House paid off - we good.
Just don't choose to incur the expense of a boat.
Growing up in New Orleans we had a boat and used it often. Fresh and salt water, marsh and lakes. Water everywhere. Places like that are made for boat owners. It just comes down to utility. If I was back in NO I may well have one - tons of opportunity to use it. Here in mid Alabama it ain't worth it.Hating on boat owners is an odd take. I'd never do it because of the cost and time involved, but the idea of being able to go drive my boat around sounds cool as hell.
This is fair and a solid argument. Maybe paranoia, part of the reason why I want some vacation house somewhere is because I want to diversify environments if climate change changes the desirability of areas. Maybe in 40 years CA will be too dry to be comfortable, but some house on a lake in Minnesota will be nice or whatever.Buy utility, rent luxury.
With all the argument over boats here it really comes down to utilization.
I specifically don't want a vacation home; locks you in to one place. If I do somehow get moderately rich the idea of one summer in New Zealand, one summer in Mallorca, one summer in Patagonia... you get the drift, sounds awesome.