Galileo
Footballguy
I went to NY this past March with my wife for a few days and I did this very thing on three occasions (was not 10 PM though). None of them seemed offended an all seemed to appreciate the gesture.
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Question - Guys Giving Up Your Seat For A Woman On Subway (1 Viewer)
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jvdesigns2002
Footballguy
I’d generally agree with this- but I’d add one caveat. A lot of it would be dependent on how “natural” the offer could be made. If she walked in, there was some sort of eye contact and she was in close enough proximity to where I could offer up the seat without it seeming like I was just using the offer as a vehicle to spark up a convo or something more with the woman. It’s just like holding a door open for someone. If they are within 5-10 feet of you- its a gentlemanly thing to do. If you hold a door open for someone that is 40-50 feet away, it becomes more weird than gentlemanly.
El Floppo
Footballguy
I rarely sit, but if I do I'm always looking out for somebody else who needs it more... Gal, guy or otherwise.
I make eye contact and point to the seat, mouthing wanna sit?
Brunell4MVP
Footballguy
15 years ago my answer was 100% yes. Women have changed. Times have changed. I've now been yelled at for holding a door open for a woman, holding an elevator for a woman, and offerring a seat to a woman. I guess all flummoxed by the notion of someone being nice.
So now it's situational. Older woman, yes. Person with a child. Yes. Mostly no for all other times. The attitude of the modern woman has rubbed me anti being a nice person.
So now it's situational. Older woman, yes. Person with a child. Yes. Mostly no for all other times. The attitude of the modern woman has rubbed me anti being a nice person.
Alex P Keaton
Footballguy
Yep. This is standard protocol.
gianmarco
Footballguy
Are you still sitting in the seat when you point? Because if you are, then I have an idea why no one is taking you up on your offer.
AAABatteries
Footballguy
It’s the scarf, isn’t it?
Chemical X
Footballguy
in this economy?
Sorry.It was a quick stopover returning from Portugal.
We should do one this summer.
i always offered my seat when i was a commuter.
Phil Elliott
Footballguy
Absolutely!
Clown Car
Footballguy
As a 53 yo woman, I would appreciate the offer. I would take it if I had a long way to go but decline if only a stop or two. I would also judge silently any 20 something young man who didn’t offer. I would never be offended at an offer. I would expect my adult kids to offer to an older person, man or woman.
steelerfan1
Footballguy
Never in ny, but several times other places and never any blowback.
Either. Just barely over the tipping point of saying yes or no.
Sullie
Footballguy
Yes, always because I still hear my Dad say "you need to offer that woman your seat." However, I do have a funny story about this. Back when I was in college (so this is like 1990) and an intern for a life insurance company in Cincinnati, I had to take what I think was called "the metro" which was a city bus system. I lived about 5 or 6 miles from the office, I had to wear a suit/tie/dress shoes, etc. and I could not afford a car, even the free car my parents offered me, I couldn't afford to park/insure/fuel/maintain a vehicle so I took the bus. And I wanted a car more than anything and I hated riding the bus more than that.
Anyway, I get on the bus with 3 or 4 other people dressed for the office (suits/etc.) and I was climbing aboard last, the doors start to close, a woman jumped on right behind me, she looked like she was having herself a day. So as I'm walking down the aisle, there's ONE seat left and I would have offered the seat either way but the way that woman looked I thought "she really needs the seat more than I do." So I offer her the seat, she thanks me and about 10 seconds later she jumps up out of the seat and she said "OMG - IT"S SOAKING WET!!!"
As God is my witness, I honestly did not know the seat was wet. Of course it was a dark/navy blue fabric so you could not tell by just looking at it, but still the same, that woman absolutely wanted to gouge out my eyes. If looks could kill, they would have swept me off that bus. I apologized profusely but she wasn't having it, she was SO angry with me, the bus, the person next to the wet seat, pretty much everyone. It was pretty hilarious but at the same time I felt so awful for her, I can only imagine what the rest of her day was like.
Anyway, I get on the bus with 3 or 4 other people dressed for the office (suits/etc.) and I was climbing aboard last, the doors start to close, a woman jumped on right behind me, she looked like she was having herself a day. So as I'm walking down the aisle, there's ONE seat left and I would have offered the seat either way but the way that woman looked I thought "she really needs the seat more than I do." So I offer her the seat, she thanks me and about 10 seconds later she jumps up out of the seat and she said "OMG - IT"S SOAKING WET!!!"
As God is my witness, I honestly did not know the seat was wet. Of course it was a dark/navy blue fabric so you could not tell by just looking at it, but still the same, that woman absolutely wanted to gouge out my eyes. If looks could kill, they would have swept me off that bus. I apologized profusely but she wasn't having it, she was SO angry with me, the bus, the person next to the wet seat, pretty much everyone. It was pretty hilarious but at the same time I felt so awful for her, I can only imagine what the rest of her day was like.
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