NutterButter
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Reading about your dating life, I'm simultaneously reminded why I want to get back into the dating arena and why I want nothing to do with it.
She's moving to another state. The only good that hand is going to do him is that it's what he'll be boning once she leaves until he finds some new trim.Don't go to this party!!
You've got other plans - just to be a realist, you've lost all hand here - not showing (especially if she goes) is your only chance of retaining any.
We're just the guys to do it.I think that this situation absolutely requires a really futile and stupid gesture be done on somebody's part.
That's all the more reason to go to the party, whether Stacy goes or not. If she doesn't show, bang one of her friends. How's that for HAND ???!?!?!?NRJ time to cut bait with this chick. You have no problem finding other women to be your plaything so have at it. Plus Marissa's clearly still got you on her mind so you'll be hugging it out with her soon enough.
But whatever you do, keep posting about it!
No. Stacy hasn't been to my place in probably a month, so I don't think it's that. Sigh. I have stopped trying to figure that one out. She definitely had some issues with getting close to someone at that time. She was finalizing a nasty divorce too, so there were a lot of things at play for her there. I know I had strong feelings for her. If I'm being honest with myself, I know that despite my best attempts to bury all that and whether it would ever resurface or not, I probably still do. I think she's my kryptonite. I know we sleep about 40 feet from each other and did not personally speak to each other for about a year and a half (that was up until a brief front yard talk about 2 weeks ago), other than a few impersonal text exchanges here and there and shy waves when passing in traffic. I did let her know when my ex-wife passed away a few months ago, and she did send me a couple messages around that time that were a little more personal, but not overly so.Any chance #3 is based on her sort of figuring out that you’ve got someone? I don’t remember all the hugging stories and why that went nowhere.
There are only two answers here. #1 buy the house next door to her daughter in Texas, pack up the kids, and start a new life with Stacy. #2 break up but keep her on the hook for visits back home.1) We are in some sort of weird limbo currently. We are still talking but haven't seen Stacy in a couple of weeks. She got a new job a couple weeks ago that's going to require her to work many weekends, and also her daughter is going to be moving to Texas next fall for work, and Stacy says she is planning on going with her. I expressed my desire to continue to see her, as things have been great between us. I think she still likes me but is thinking about all that going forward and it's all got her really stressed out and wanting to just shut down. I asked her last week if she just wanted to end things and do her own thing. She said no. But on the other hand, I don't feel like she's acting like she was before either.
This is part of what I'm on the fence about, and waiting to see how it goes this week in talking to Stacy. On one hand, Kate is my good friend and I don't want to miss her party (she is aware of the situation, also doesn't understand Stacy's behavior even as a fellow female, and has given me the blessing to miss if I need to for myself). On the other hand, I kinda also want to show up for a couple of reasons. 1) I have a feeling it could turn into a #### show, given the list of attendeesDon't go to this party!!
You've got other plans - just to be a realist, you've lost all hand here - not showing (especially if she goes) is your only chance of retaining any.
2) If Stacy does come, it could go a couple of different ways. Worse case, I get to hang out with some friends and have some laughs and beers and who knows, might meet someone new. As the youngsters say these days... SAME.Reading about your dating life, I'm simultaneously reminded why I want to get back into the dating arena and why I want nothing to do with it.
I assume random guy will be attending?This is part of what I'm on the fence about, and waiting to see how it goes this week in talking to Stacy. On one hand, Kate is my good friend and I don't want to miss her party (she is aware of the situation, also doesn't understand Stacy's behavior even as a fellow female, and has given me the blessing to miss if I need to for myself). On the other hand, I kinda also want to show up for a couple of reasons. 1) I have a feeling it could turn into a #### show, given the list of attendees2) If Stacy does come, it could go a couple of different ways. Worse case, I get to hang out with some friends and have some laughs and beers and who knows, might meet someone new.
I assume random guy will be attending?
never know! Random guy does what he wants! I do suspect that Margot's boyfriend is probably not aware of random guy's brief appearance at the grounds of Kate and Margot's apartment complex that fateful night. In 6 months, and I'm skeptical she even moves. He can roll the dice on the long game, or he can chase a one night win - I play the long game, but that's just me.She's moving to another state. The only good that hand is going to do him is that it's what he'll be boning once she leaves until he finds some new trim.
Right now, it seems like the long game is sitting at home masturbating into the kitchen sink while hoping the kids don't wake up because the volume on the Golden Girls reruns is cranked up to mask the sounds of self-gratification. I'm choosing a night of beers and late night revelry over that any day irrespective of how it works vis-a-vis Stacy. Doing this is how he got Stacy in the first place, I don't see what benefit is gained by staying home. If she tells him she isn't going and he glumly replies, "OK...I guess I'll stay home too....," I don't even see how that creates any kind of "hand" except for....well, you know.In 6 months, and I'm skeptical she even moves. He can roll the dice on the long game, or he can chase a one night win - I play the long game, but that's just me.
I'm on the fence. Which episode of Golden Girls are we talking? If it's the one where Maude has the shower scene, I'm staying in.Right now, it seems like the long game is sitting at home masturbating into the kitchen sink while hoping the kids don't wake up because the volume on the Golden Girls reruns is cranked up to mask the sounds of self-gratification. I'm choosing a night of beers and late night revelry over that any day irrespective of how it works vis-a-vis Stacy. Doing this is how he got Stacy in the first place, I don't see what benefit is gained by staying home. If she tells him she isn't going and he glumly replies, "OK...I guess I'll stay home too....," I don't even see how that creates any kind of "hand" except for....well, you know.
If she goes and he goes too, at least he has a chance of getting laid instead of trying to ignore the sound of Bea Arthur's voice while he cranks one into the garbage disposal. If she doesn't go, telling him so and hearing back "OK, bummer - well, I'll be sure to toss a few for you !" plays a lot better than the above anyway.
The one where Quentin Tarantino plays an Elvis impersonator.I'm on the fence. Which episode of Golden Girls are we talking? If it's the one where Maude has the shower scene, I'm staying in.
Never saw it, but I'm assuming there's a lot of gratuitous close-ups of Rose walking barefoot.The one where Quentin Tarantino plays an Elvis impersonator.
He didn't direct it, he just appears in it.Never saw it, but I'm assuming there's a lot of gratuitous close-ups of Rose walking barefoot.
Margot is Kate's bff who lives in the same apartment complex. Margot is not married but has (and had at that time, though I didn't know it then) a boyfriend. I think Random Guy tagged along thinking he was about to get lucky with Margot, then she realized her mistake when she got home and he was trying to come in with her, so she sent him away, never to be heard from again.is margo the one whose husband kate slept wtih or what i cannot remember i hope she threw that bum to the curb like a moldy peace of kobi black angus steak take that to the bank bromigo
True story: my dad bought a banana on eBay that was supposedly used thusly by Angela Landsbury, complete with certificate of authenticity, and photos. Turns out, it was that banana.He didn't direct it, he just appears in it.
Rose does dork herself with a banana in the background of one scene where Blanche is making a bunch of sexual innuendos and Sophia is spinning some sassy yarn about Sicily.
Right.....this is all I care about, I'm invested here, I need more.I think you definitely need to go to the party, at the very least to provide us another update.
I think you definitely need to go to the party, at the very least to provide us another update.
I did actually consider that as part of my reasoning. I
you guys, man. I'm going to hug the heck out of you if I ever meet you IRL. Be prepared.I did actually consider that as part of my reasoning. I
you guys, man.
P RGK: "Dad, I found a gourd on ebay used by Kate Jackson"True story: my dad bought a banana on eBay that was supposedly used thusly by Angela Landsbury, complete with certificate of authenticity, and photos. Turns out, it was that banana.
#1 would be especially entertaining for us if he didn't tell stacy he was doing it.There are only two answers here. #1 buy the house next door to her daughter in Texas, pack up the kids, and start a new life with Stacy. #2 break up but keep her on the hook for visits back home.
True or false, this will never get out of my head. Thanks :(True story: my dad bought a banana on eBay that was supposedly used thusly by Angela Landsbury, complete with certificate of authenticity, and photos. Turns out, it was that banana.
Go to the party and focus on banging Kate, Margot or MJ or some combination of the three...seems pretty simpleMargot is Kate's bff who lives in the same apartment complex. Margot is not married but has (and had at that time, though I didn't know it then) a boyfriend. I think Random Guy tagged along thinking he was about to get lucky with Margot, then she realized her mistake when she got home and he was trying to come in with her, so she sent him away, never to be heard from again.
The husband in question is Dave, who is married to MJ, both of whom are on the invitee list for this weekend's shindig.
Wait, pics?True story: my dad bought a banana on eBay that was supposedly used thusly by Angela Landsbury, complete with certificate of authenticity, and photos. Turns out, it was that banana.
Oh, you are going to this party if I have to drag your ### there myself. You have no options. But if you really want to make the night (and story) special, bring Marissa as a date. Please...I did actually consider that as part of my reasoning. I
you guys, man.
Oh, you are going to this party if I have to drag your ### there myself. You have no options. But if you really want to make the night (and story) special, bring Marissa as a date. Please...
That thought actually crossed my mind at one point, during my deep analysis of all this ####. The funny thing is, Marissa is essentially a 10-year younger version of Stacy. I guess I have a type now.
Wait, kitchen sink? That's a thing? I mean bathroom sink, sure, but kitchen sink?Right now, it seems like the long game is sitting at home masturbating into the kitchen sink while hoping the kids don't wake up because the volume on the Golden Girls reruns is cranked up to mask the sounds of self-gratification. I'm choosing a night of beers and late night revelry over that any day irrespective of how it works vis-a-vis Stacy. Doing this is how he got Stacy in the first place, I don't see what benefit is gained by staying home. If she tells him she isn't going and he glumly replies, "OK...I guess I'll stay home too....," I don't even see how that creates any kind of "hand" except for....well, you know.
If she goes and he goes too, at least he has a chance of getting laid instead of trying to ignore the sound of Bea Arthur's voice while he cranks one into the garbage disposal. If she doesn't go, telling him so and hearing back "OK, bummer - well, I'll be sure to toss a few for you !" plays a lot better than the above anyway.
Your house, your rules.Wait, kitchen sink? That's a thing? I mean bathroom sink, sure, but kitchen sink?
Since Marissa is your kryptonite, maybe it's worth you making a little move/gesture toward her from time to time - you never know when you might catch her at the right time.No. Stacy hasn't been to my place in probably a month, so I don't think it's that. Sigh. I have stopped trying to figure that one out. She definitely had some issues with getting close to someone at that time. She was finalizing a nasty divorce too, so there were a lot of things at play for her there. I know I had strong feelings for her. If I'm being honest with myself, I know that despite my best attempts to bury all that and whether it would ever resurface or not, I probably still do. I think she's my kryptonite. I know we sleep about 40 feet from each other and did not personally speak to each other for about a year and a half (that was up until a brief front yard talk about 2 weeks ago), other than a few impersonal text exchanges here and there and shy waves when passing in traffic. I did let her know when my ex-wife passed away a few months ago, and she did send me a couple messages around that time that were a little more personal, but not overly so.
This right here! The divorce thing was a while back, and maybe she is ready now?? Oh and the neck tats I mean come on! You need a wingman I am there if you can explain to my wife why I need to drive 4-5 hours away randomly. I make an excellent wingman.Since Marissa is your kryptonite, maybe it's worth you making a little move/gesture toward her from time to time - you never know when you might catch her at the right time.
Perhaps the cookies that she sent over the other day were a small overture by her... she may be hoping for a reciprocal move of some sort.
I'm a confirmed romantic at heart, and I kinda have the feeling you two crazy kids are destined for each other.
BTW, none of the above precludes you also going to the party so you can report on the drama.
eacocking:This right here! The divorce thing was a while back, and maybe she is ready now?? Oh and the neck tats I mean come on! You need a wingman I am there if you can explain to my wife why I need to drive 4-5 hours away randomly. I make an excellent wingman.
I took some friends who were very shy out one night to meet some ladies. On the way I stopped at Acadamy and bought an autograph style football and a sharpie. I would go up to random ladies and ask them to sign my football. They thought it was awesome and I was hammered so I had no clue what kind of fool I looked like. The football is now enshrined in the back of a buddy’s closet on the floor with double digit signatures and about 5-10 phone numbers written on it.eacocking:
My man! Banana bread. It was cookies the first time she made a gesture a couple years agoSince Marissa is your kryptonite, maybe it's worth you making a little move/gesture toward her from time to time - you never know when you might catch her at the right time.
Perhaps the cookies that she sent over the other day were a small overture by her... she may be hoping for a reciprocal move of some sort.
I'm a confirmed romantic at heart, and I kinda have the feeling you two crazy kids are destined for each other.
BTW, none of the above precludes you also going to the party so you can report on the drama.
but don't think this thought didn't enter my mind too. It was like deja vu all over again. Sighhhhh.You send her a plate of creme filled long-johns from the local donut shop.I'm not even sure what a good reciprocal move would be.
Do they make mini long johns?You send her a plate of creme filled long-johns from the local donut shop.I'm not even sure what a good reciprocal move would be.
When it rains, it pours... No rest for the wicked man. You already know what is going on with Stacy, she's leaving. Go to the party AND re-engage with Marissa. She's misses you, and we miss her...Banana bread. It was cookies the first time she made a gesture a couple years agobut don't think this thought didn't enter my mind too. It was like deja vu all over again. Sighhhhh.
I'm not even sure what a good reciprocal move would be. I've kinda been waiting to see her outside and just speak to her again, so as not to be too intrusive. I did think, depending on the vibe I get from her, of one day just asking her if she'd like to get coffee and talk. But I won't engage on that until I figure out what the hell is going on with Stacy.
Marissa > Stacy. 10 years younger, no chance of signing with Texas. We're on a FF messageboard - think dynasty value here.Banana bread. It was cookies the first time she made a gesture a couple years agobut don't think this thought didn't enter my mind too. It was like deja vu all over again. Sighhhhh.
I'm not even sure what a good reciprocal move would be. I've kinda been waiting to see her outside and just speak to her again, so as not to be too intrusive. I did think, depending on the vibe I get from her, of one day just asking her if she'd like to get coffee and talk. But I won't engage on that until I figure out what the hell is going on with Stacy.
This too - Stacy just doesn't have the "it" factor.When it rains, it pours... No rest for the wicked man. You already know what is going on with Stacy, she's leaving. Go to the party AND re-engage with Marissa. She's misses you, and we miss her...
It's been a while, but I think step 1 is cutting a hole in the box.Banana bread. It was cookies the first time she made a gesture a couple years agobut don't think this thought didn't enter my mind too. It was like deja vu all over again. Sighhhhh.
I'm not even sure what a good reciprocal move would be.