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What are your goals? (1 Viewer)

Goals?

  • I have well defined goals that drive my life.

    Votes: 12 32.4%

  • Those food and shelter things are kinda cool

    Votes: 18 48.6%

  • I'm going to drink a lot of beer and party allll night!!!

    Votes: 3 8.1%

  • GOOOOOOAAAAAAAALLLLLLLLL!!!!!!

    Votes: 4 10.8%
  • Total voters
    37
Sheriff Bart

Sheriff Bart

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For some reason I keep getting this question lately.  From my boss, FA, vendor.  There's some kind of outbreak like "think outside the box" was in the 90's.  That was the 90's right?  Anyhow, my answer is always the same. "My goal is to continue working hard which has provided me an enjoyable life for me and my family and hopefully have money leftover so I can retire early."

Am I some kind of freak?

 
Taste it all, brochachos - sometimes twice. Keep that possible by remembering that happiness begins where selfishness ends.

 
proninja said:
I mean, take away the early and isn't that the goal of every adult male who has a family and a job? 

I just want to pay for life, college for two kids, and be able to stop working sometime in my 60's. And for my family to continue to like me. 
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Seriously, with my current circumstances, my main goal is to raise my children to the best of my abilities, & make sure they're not "products of their environment".  Some around here toss the word "racist racism"around  frequently... but in my small town/community , racism is very still prevalent, more so against Hispanics.  My wife is Puerto Rican, as was her Father (who took his own life, partly because of this)...so I want my children to know just how important their Latino heritage is .  My one son (named after his FIL) said he just wanted to be Italo-Irish-American, because he didn't want anyone to make fun of him for being a Porda-Rican, so I told him that's exactly why you need to be proud of what you are, an American first.  If I can make all three of my children aware of what it is truly means to be American, than I can be content.  We'll never have FBG money,  & BirthDay party expenditures are the least of my worries .  Fair pay for fair work...honest education for honest dedication.

 
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To raise a non-arsewhole kid.

To make my wife as happy as possible before she realizes she's out of my league.

To make it to a Broncos Superbowl.

 
Kafka said:
Seriously, with my current circumstances, my main goal is to raise my children to the best of my abilities, & make sure they're not "products of their environment".  Some around here toss the word "racist racism"around  frequently... but in my small town/community , racism is very still prevalent, more so against Hispanics.  My wife is Puerto Rican, as was her Father (who took his own life, partly because of this)...so I want my children to know just how important their Latino heritage is .  My one son (named after his FIL) said he just wanted to be Italo-Irish-American, because he didn't want anyone to make fun of him for being a Porda-Rican, so I told him that's exactly why you need to be proud of what you are, an American first.  If I can make all three of my children aware of what it is truly means to be American, than I can be content.  We'll never have FBG money,  & BirthDay party expenditures are the least of my worries .  Fair pay for fair work...honest education for honest dedication.
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The highest aspiration there is IMO.  I don't care about anyone's finances, what care they drive, or who they know - if you are doing everything you can (not just making money but spending time) for your then you are at the top in my book.  :thumbup:

 
I guess there is some subset of people that define themselves by what they accomplish.  It makes sense that employers would be looking for those people, but really all that pushing for it ends up doing is convincing a bunch of people that don't really care to think or pretend they do.

For me, the meaning of life is simple.  My one and only goal is to be happy and for my family to be happy (which in turn makes me happy).  I don't make money for some sense of accomplishment, I do it because things that cost money like shelter, food, drink, vacations, gadgets, etc are (for me) a base requirement to be happy.  Obviously family and all that are #1 but there's a lot less happiness in being together when you're together out on the streets and pooping in a bucket on a cold winter morning.

 
cstu said:
The highest aspiration there is IMO.  I don't care about anyone's finances, what care they drive, or who they know - if you are doing everything you can (not just making money but spending time) for your then you are at the top in my book.  :thumbup:
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Grazie, gb.  Didn't mean to play the " woe is me" card, just wanted to state my intentions on said topic...

 
proninja said:
I mean, take away the early and isn't that the goal of every adult male who has a family and a job? 

I just want to pay for life, college for two kids, and be able to stop working sometime in my 60's. And for my family to continue to like me. 
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EXACTLY

However it's more like they want me to say "MY GOAL IS SELL 20 MORE CARS NEXT YEAR!!!" As is I don't try to sell as many cars as I can every minute of every hour I work now.

 
FreeBaGeL said:
I guess there is some subset of people that define themselves by what they accomplish.  It makes sense that employers would be looking for those people, but really all that pushing for it ends up doing is convincing a bunch of people that don't really care to think or pretend they do.

For me, the meaning of life is simple.  My one and only goal is to be happy and for my family to be happy (which in turn makes me happy).  I don't make money for some sense of accomplishment, I do it because things that cost money like shelter, food, drink, vacations, gadgets, etc are (for me) a base requirement to be happy.  Obviously family and all that are #1 but there's a lot less happiness in being together when you're together out on the streets and pooping in a bucket on a cold winter morning.
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Business school solidified this in my mind.  I could never work in someone else's business after I graduated (longer than to get the experience I needed out of it) because I knew those manipulation techniques would be used on me by my boss and I would have to use them on anyone that I was the boss of. 

 
I want a big house and a garage full of fancy cars.  Does that make me a bad personal?  Whatever.  We are all different.  

I love my children, but the cycle of raising good kids so they can raise good kids seems like a given to me.  You can have both.  And it occurred to me early as a parent - based in part on something someone wrote here - that a lot of people have a vanity around their own importance in their children's lives.  If my parents sat around waiting for me to call they would die of atrophy. I love them, but I'm glad they have other things in their lives that bring them joy.  My kids aren't here to make me happy, they are here to experience the good and bad in the world and draw their own experiences and views from that.  Do I want them to be happy and healthy? Of course. Beyond that I wAnt to be the parent that always says "I may not agree with your decisions, but I support the fact that they are your decisions to make."

 
Sheriff Bart said:
EXACTLY

However it's more like they want me to say "MY GOAL IS SELL 20 MORE CARS NEXT YEAR!!!" As is I don't try to sell as many cars as I can every minute of every hour I work now.
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Tell them what they want to hear if it will improve your situation at work. No need to be honest with them. It's your job that's it. I admire your original statement but this is a case of "My goal is to sell 20 more cars next year!!"  Play their game.  

 
boots11234 said:
Tell them what they want to hear if it will improve your situation at work. No need to be honest with them. It's your job that's it. I admire your original statement but this is a case of "My goal is to sell 20 more cars next year!!"  Play their game.  
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So I shouldn't answer "Well, my goal would be to have your job but I know I make 5x as much as you?"

 
boots11234 said:
Tell them what they want to hear if it will improve your situation at work. No need to be honest with them. It's your job that's it. I admire your original statement but this is a case of "My goal is to sell 20 more cars next year!!"  Play their game.  
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That's what I will probably end up doing with my employer.  However, what about my financial advisor, people like that?  "Sorry, can't talk, I'M TOO BUSY UPDATING MY GOALS!!121!!"

 
Sheriff Bart said:
For some reason I keep getting this question lately.  From my boss, FA, vendor.  There's some kind of outbreak like "think outside the box" was in the 90's.  That was the 90's right?  Anyhow, my answer is always the same. "My goal is to continue working hard which has provided me an enjoyable life for me and my family and hopefully have money leftover so I can retire early."

Am I some kind of freak?
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You might be a freak, but your goals seem fine. 

I had more defined goals early in life.  Law school, retirement, etc.  Now it's more big picture - raise good, productive kids, career change in 1-3 years, full retirement around 60-62, beach house and stay healthy enough to enjoy the grandkids. 

 
I'm not doing a great job of following it, but my current daily list of goals is:

- Give at least 3 compliments, messages of encouragement, or expressions of gratitude a day, preferably in the morning as it will set the tone for the day
- Do not talk about myself in normal conversation unless asked a specific question; if asked a question, respond with no more than 3 sentences unless more information is requested.
- Spend no more than 30 minutes consecutively doing any leisurely or amusing activity by myself

 
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Sheriff Bart said:
That's what I will probably end up doing with my employer.  However, what about my financial advisor, people like that?  "Sorry, can't talk, I'M TOO BUSY UPDATING MY GOALS!!121!!"
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Your financial advisor wants this info to better understand how to invest your cake. If you don't know how to answer him, tell him that.  Turn the question around and ask him what your options are?  Perhaps you could take some time and read a book about finances like boggleheads if you don't know how to answer that question.  If your wife asks you this question say "lots of dots and to curl her toes like you use to do in your 20's. 

 
boots11234 said:
Your financial advisor wants this info to better understand how to invest your cake. If you don't know how to answer him, tell him that.  Turn the question around and ask him what your options are?  Perhaps you could take some time and read a book about finances like boggleheads if you don't know how to answer that question.  If your wife asks you this question say "lots of dots and to curl her toes like you use to do in your 20's. 
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I understand that.  However, MY GOAL, is for my FA to make me as much money as possible.  "Hey Frank, beating the S&P would be groovy, heck a 15% YOY return would be awesome. Oh,that's unreasonable?  Frank, tell me, what are YOUR goals?".

 
FUBAR said:
You might be a freak, but your goals seem fine. 

I had more defined goals early in life.  Law school, retirement, etc.  Now it's more big picture - raise good, productive kids, career change in 1-3 years, full retirement around 60-62, beach house and stay healthy enough to enjoy the grandkids. 
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Oh I am. :thumbup:

Should have included in my OP that I'm almost 50 so past middle age, unless I'm REALLY lucky, so retirement is pretty much my only "goal" but I think that is what 90% of us want.  Not exactly an Earth shattering revelation.

 
To keep doing exactly what I'm doing now for the next 11 years.   Youngest will be in college at that point at which point there's a lot of ways I can go.

 
Sheriff Bart said:
Oh I am. :thumbup:

Should have included in my OP that I'm almost 50 so past middle age, unless I'm REALLY lucky, so retirement is pretty much my only "goal" but I think that is what 90% of us want.  Not exactly an Earth shattering revelation.
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My job isn't one I need to retire from so I'm planning to work as little as possible for the next 30 years.

 
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Soootch said:
True story -- I was working out in the yard the other day and got a sudden cramp in my gut, shat my pants right then and there. I literally had no time to get to the bathroom. It was like someone squoze it out of me like I was a tube of toothpaste. 
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Crest or Aim toothpaste?

 
Make others feel good about themselves by my poor grooming habits, lack of effort at work and not trying to be too impotent.

 
Sheriff Bart said:
For some reason I keep getting this question lately.  From my boss, FA, vendor.  There's some kind of outbreak like "think outside the box" was in the 90's.  That was the 90's right?  Anyhow, my answer is always the same. "My goal is to continue working hard which has provided me an enjoyable life for me and my family and hopefully have money leftover so I can retire early."

Am I some kind of freak?
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I think this is where I am. No major goals other than keep working hard and rising in the ranks at work, and still be around enough to be a decent husband and father.  If I can make the same or slightly increased salary each year for the next 20 years, have enough to retire around then wth a few bucks and maybe a summer house somewhere?  Cool. 

Maybe I should sit down one of these days and do some more real goal setting and financial planning, and think harder about other real life goals. But things are good, there's not much I would change. :shrug:  

 
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