What's worse? Party Invitation (1 Viewer)

[comfortably numb]

We invited friends over for superbowl.

As usual with all parties you can't invite everyone. We invited 6 families with their kids.

A couple families aren't coming and I suggested to my wife to invite a couple other families we hang with at times.

She said that would be so insulting. I didn't seem to think it was a big deal.

What's the consensus?

Which would be worse to you?

 

[NutterButter]

 Does this 2nd round of families know they didn't make the first round of invites?     It also depends on whether I'd want to go to your party.  If I didn't like you, then I'd rather not be invited at all so it saves me the trouble of lying to you that I can't make it.     If I do want to go b/c I like hanging with you, I personally wouldn't care what round of invites I was receiving.  I'm never going to a party b/c of the booze or food.   I can do all that stuff myself.   Its usually b/c either I have to (family function) or want to (cool peeps which on occasion is family).   You tell me what to answer.  

 

[comfortably numb]

 Does this 2nd round of families know they didn't make the first round of invites?     It also depends on whether I'd want to go to your party.  If I didn't like you, then I'd rather not be invited at all so it saves me the trouble of lying to you that I can't make it.     If I do want to go b/c I like hanging with you, I personally wouldn't care what round of invites I was receiving.  I'm never going to a party b/c of the booze or food.   I can do all that stuff myself.   Its usually b/c either I have to (family function) or want to (cool peeps which on occasion is family).   You tell me what to answer.  

I'm awesome to be around.

2nd rd would know or figure out.

I'll probably be in the minority here as I don't measure invites based on rank or in a proud manner. Just basically, do I want to go?

 

[Osaurus]

Where’s my invitation?  

ETA:  You need a “what difference does it    make?” choice in your poal.

 

[comfortably numb]

Where’s my invitation?  

If someone bails I'll PM you

 

[NutterButter]

I'm awesome to be around.

2nd rd would know or figure out.

I'll probably be in the minority here as I don't measure invites based on rank or in a proud manner. Just basically, do I want to go?

I got that sense as well, but I wanted to hear it from you .   I'm with you then, invite me.  Hell, put on the invite, "we couldn't find anyone else to hang with" for all I care.    But we could be two acorns from the same rare tree.  

 

[comfortably numb]

I got that sense as well, but I wanted to hear it from you .   I'm with you then, invite me.  Hell, put on the invite, "we couldn't find anyone else to hang with" for all I care.    But we could be two acorns from the same rare tree.  

Your're on the list after Osaurus.

 

[Cjw_55106]

I guess I’d be more irritated that I was getting invited the day before the super bowl. 

That said, I’d invite them and they can decide if they are offended in some manner. 

 

[AAABatteries]

How will they know?

FTR, if I somehow found out definitively that I was invited to a party but only because others couldn’t show up I would probably just decline.

 

[NutterButter]

Here's another angle.  As the hoster, this is my chance to identify the people that would be offended by this petty ####.    Those are probably the people I don't want to be hanging with in general b/c if its not this its something else.  I don't need those drama magnets in my life.   There's only a certain amount of space.  There needs to be some order to the invites.  That's just logistics.  If you want to be on the first cut next year, show up and hit it out of the park.  You come and we have a bunch of laughs, I don't even care if my kids like your kids, you're getting a first round invite. 

 

[Angry Beavers]

Dudes wont care, women will....

 

[comfortably numb]

Dudes wont care, women will....

I thinks it's as simple as this but wanted to ask mostly men on their thoughts. 

 

[NutterButter]

Its been awhile since I've thrown or been to a super bowl party since I like just to just watch the game with a few folks.   Do you typically have two tv rooms set up;  one room for the actual football fans who want to actually watch the game and not talk about everything else but the game and a separate room for that latter group?  

 

[That one guy]

Dudes wont care, women will....

Agreed...I'm positive my wife would find offense and I'd be fully whatevs.  Day before SB, though, I either already have another destination set up or am staying home (my default choice)

 

[comfortably numb]

Agreed...I'm positive my wife would find offense and I'd be fully whatevs.  Day before SB, though, I either already have another destination set up or am staying home (my default choice)

Right. I can see the day before being more of an issue or mentally having accepted that I'm staying home.

I made the suggestion earlier in the week.

This comes on the heels of going to a surprise bday party for a friend last weekend and I saw another one of the friends not as tight in the "circle" make some facebook post about taking a break from fb and knowing who your true friends are ...or aren't .

I asked my wife if that post had anything to do with her not being invited to the bday party and she said everyone thinks so.

We're all basically in our 40s.

Is this a crazy thing or a woman thing?

 

[rockaction]

Weird. I think you dance with the girl that brung ya. If you invited six, and three show up, then three it is. If you weren't going all out, being a replacement is indeed a bit -- a bit -- insulting. I'd probably not decline the invite because I'm generally clueless, but if I found out, I might be a bit insulted, though nothing to lose acquaintances or friends over. 

Really not a big deal but I would stick with my original guest list to specifically avoid hard feelings. If people decline, perhaps you aren't as tight as you thought or people just flat have other plans.  My preference would be to invite too many in the first place, like flights overbook, and then accommodate.  

 

[shadyridr]

If they know they weren't invited the first round it is very insulting. If they don't who cares. I've done it before. 

 

[NewlyRetired]

As a loner, I need a "Invited at all" option.  I hate parties :(

 

[That one guy]

Is this a crazy thing or a woman thing?

BBS = b*tches be scandalous