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Wooing my neighbor: I came. I hugged. I wooed. Now moving on. (2 Viewers)

I've been married quite a few years.Back when I was dating, I did date a couple of single Moms. The circumstances weren't exactly the same as this situation because I was single (never been married at that point in my life) and we weren't neighbors. But, the constant was, and I think it applies here, they wanted me to initiate things. 

Because they were recently divorced ,or seperated and awaiting a divorce to be finalized in one case, they didn't want to be seen as sluts by moving things along in the level of intimacy. They would provide subtle hints, messages,etc. that I would have to correctly interpret and move things along physically. I think that's also the case here. She may consider herself still married or somewhat "attached" to her Ex, so she's shared the information with you and then expects you to proceed now that you have been fully informed of the situation.

In my experiences, I didn't meet the single Mom's children until we had established somewhat of a relationship. But, I think the tone of her messages are similar to what I dealt with. She wants to be subtle and have you set the pace of the intimacy.

 
I'm sure it's been mentioned

But

Everyone says "Help me woo my neighbor"  like they are singing Mr Rodger's theme song right?

 
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Seriously, throngs of FFA folk in a 70 page thread that has weather, cheese, fashion, Talmudic Text Interpretation, and sex-crazed divorcees hugging it out in a driveway but no description of sexual romps in the shower or pics of yoga pants.

What's going on here!??!?

 
northern exposure said:
I've been married quite a few years.Back when I was dating, I did date a couple of single Moms. The circumstances weren't exactly the same as this situation because I was single (never been married at that point in my life) and we weren't neighbors. But, the constant was, and I think it applies here, they wanted me to initiate things. 

Because they were recently divorced ,or seperated and awaiting a divorce to be finalized in one case, they didn't want to be seen as sluts by moving things along in the level of intimacy. They would provide subtle hints, messages,etc. that I would have to correctly interpret and move things along physically. I think that's also the case here. She may consider herself still married or somewhat "attached" to her Ex, so she's shared the information with you and then expects you to proceed now that you have been fully informed of the situation.

In my experiences, I didn't meet the single Mom's children until we had established somewhat of a relationship. But, I think the tone of her messages are similar to what I dealt with. She wants to be subtle and have you set the pace of the intimacy.
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i had the exact opposite happen.   I plowed so many single moms in one nighters from 1991-1994 that it actually became boring.   One time i plowed two at the same time and their kids woke me up and served me breakfast the next day.   Every single one of them were desperate for the d and for a mate, no matter how hot they were.

 
this just has lifetime movie vibe for me like it is going to end up her soon to be ex is a cop and a bad one who torments her but no one will help until she met colonol jessup take that to the bank brohans 

 
Nathan R. Jessep said:
:hands out vomit bags in advance: 

NRJ: I vote no on inappropriate. I'm a fan of hugs

M: K me too.

NRJ: " :thumbup:  "

...random few messages over the span of 15 minutes or so...

M: so if you happen to "need something out of your truck" and feel like I a hug I will come hug you very quickly? Yes? Ok deal. 

M: it's just a rare one time request, bc I especially need one.

NRJ (grinning like the ####### Cheshire cat): Haha yes. Deal. When?

M: Now? Just tell me

NRJ: OK. Yep. 

My kids are still up, but making preparations for bed, but still milling around the house.  My son is doing his nightly routine of shooting a few free throws on the Nerf hoop after brushing his teeth, so he's making all kinds of racket inside. I slip out onto the porch, and she's headed towards my house, through the yard. She says "heyyyy" and I meet her at the bottom of my steps. She grabs my shoulders and pulls me in, pressing her chest against mine tightly, and wrapping her arms around me. So I wrap mine around her as well and we just stand there for about 30 seconds, not saying a word, just soaking it in. About that time, my son shot a brick apparently and it bounced off the window/blinds, and scared the #### out of Marissa and I. We both jumped, thinking we were busted, then we started laughing. She quickly turned and tiptoed back to her yard, and I went back in and got the kids in bed, and they were none the wiser. 

NRJ: Damn kids.

M: Lol. Good hug. Thank you.

NRJ: Agreed. And thank you. 

M: anytime!

....mostly randomness, but I did work in a "that was not my best hug effort" and she insisted she liked it regardless...

M: Well I desperately needed a hug

NRJ: *nods* I thought so

M: You needed one too you just didn't know it ;)  

NRJ: I think you may be right

....M explains why she needed a hug (I will not disclose why here), I say I understand and glad I was able to help her out...

M: Me too. You have to initiate the next one though.

NRJ: I pretty much initiated that one hours ago didn't I? ( :bowtie:  )

M: well sort of, but I came up with the plan to actually make it happen

NRJ: yes you did

NRJ: Perhaps, theoretically, say I left something ELSE in my truck and had to go get it in a little while?

M: LOL what is a little while?

NRJ: Any time between right now and when I (you) go to bed?

NRJ: I mean my schedule is pretty wide open from not to bedtime. 

NRJ: Theoretically

M: How about right now? 

NRJ: :yes:  

This time, I wait for her to come all the way to my porch. She greets me again, and she kind of slithered up next to me and slinked her arms around me and laid her head on my shoulder/neck area and just sighed a long deep breath. She seemed content. I was definitely content. On the offdee quivalent of a hugs scale, it was a 9.5. it definitely felt "right" and it definitely felt like more than a friendly hug. 

Now, I'm sure I just opened myself up for some laughs and critique of my replies, but I posted the texts above just to give you an idea of her personality that I've gotten to know and probably haven't conveyed through my posts. She's very quick-witted and funny and gives me #### right back if I give her ####. I dig that in a chick. We have played very well off of each other thus far, I think. 

She did offer that she hoped it wasn't too much and she is just very physically affectionate. I told her it was most definitely not too much. She says it's kind of a delicate situation, being as she lives right next door and she didn't want to make things awkward. I agreed and said there was no awkwardness from my point of view, with which she agreed. --so

basically she's on the same page I am, I feel. Just proceeding with extreme caution, which I am fine with. I'm being cautious as well. There's a lot at stake here for all involved.  

There has been discussion of said hug this morning, and the analysis is good. Early prognosis is also good for future endeavors. No specific plans made just yet, but I'd expect that to be in the mix very soon. 

I don't know where it'll end up, or how fast, but it's absolutely been a much-needed fun couple of weeks for me, so I look forward to what lies ahead. So I understand if anyone or everyone wants to tap out of this thread now, but I can guaran-### ####-tee you it's not a fishing trip.  I appreciate the advice (well, most of it) and well-wishes, and the entertainment you SOBs have provided. :thumbup:  

As you were, men (and women). 
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So no fartbox tongue punching?

 
gianmarco said:
Seriously, throngs of FFA folk in a 70 page thread that has weather, cheese, fashion, Talmudic Text Interpretation, and sex-crazed divorcees hugging it out in a driveway but no description of sexual romps in the shower or pics of yoga pants.

What's going on here!??!?
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Totally in character for me.  I also like reading chaste YA novels while drinking my adult libations.  I'm eccentric that way.

 
Nathan R. Jessep said:
Perhaps I don't want her thinking *I* am the slut. You MFers ever think of that??
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There is no such thing as a male slut.  The term you're looking for is stud and it carries a completely different connotation even though the behavior is similar.  Just ask AZ Ron.

 
Ok, seriously:

You need to have either a text talk or an actual talk and tell her that you are interested.  Not just "hug: interested, but seriously interested and want to know if you can safely move forward, even if it's at a slow pace.  That, or you need to have another "hug" session tonight and stare into her eyes long enough so that she realizes that you are either there to kiss her or were possible released from a mental hospital in a prison and might use her feet to decorate your study.  Either way, take that next step and THEN slow it down as needed.

 
gianmarco said:
Ok, seriously:

You need to have either a text talk or an actual talk and tell her that you are interested.  Not just "hug: interested, but seriously interested and want to know if you can safely move forward, even if it's at a slow pace.  That, or you need to have another "hug" session tonight and stare into her eyes long enough so that she realizes that you are either there to kiss her or were possible released from a mental hospital in a prison and might use her feet to decorate your study.  Either way, take that next step and THEN slow it down as needed.
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You don't talk about it, you just do it! Cmon.

 
gianmarco said:
Ok, seriously:

You need to have either a text talk or an actual talk and tell her that you are interested.  Not just "hug: interested, but seriously interested and want to know if you can safely move forward, even if it's at a slow pace.  That, or you need to have another "hug" session tonight and stare into her eyes long enough so that she realizes that you are either there to kiss her or were possible released from a mental hospital in a prison and might use her feet to decorate your study.  Either way, take that next step and THEN slow it down as needed.
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Pretty sure the boner poking her showed interest

 
"Dear Highlights Forum,

I'm a divorced father of two who hasn't seen much, um, action since my wife and I split. But then this beautiful woman moved in next door.  We really hit it off.  I never thought something like this could happen to me, but you won't believe what she did after we exchanged a few texts...

Signed,

Hugs & Cappuccinos"

 
gianmarco said:
Ok, seriously:

You need to have either a text talk or an actual talk and tell her that you are interested.  Not just "hug: interested, but seriously interested and want to know if you can safely move forward, even if it's at a slow pace.  That, or you need to have another "hug" session tonight and stare into her eyes long enough so that she realizes that you are either there to kiss her or were possible released from a mental hospital in a prison and might use her feet to decorate your study.  Either way, take that next step and THEN slow it down as needed.
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I don't think he has to earnestly tell her he's interested after their two-hug affair.  I mean, I have zero game but even I would take that as an "indicator of interest."  Maybe ramp up the text flirtation a bit ("I was led to believe these hugs would be more ... inappropriate.").

 
gianmarco said:
Ok, seriously:

You need to have either a text talk or an actual talk and tell her that you are interested.  Not just "hug: interested, but seriously interested and want to know if you can safely move forward, even if it's at a slow pace.  That, or you need to have another "hug" session tonight and stare into her eyes long enough so that she realizes that you are either there to kiss her or were possible released from a mental hospital in a prison and might use her feet to decorate your study.  Either way, take that next step and THEN slow it down as needed.
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No. 

God dammit. No. 

 
dood, you got a PG booty call w that 2nd assignation and you nerfdildoed it. If she's phyllin it, you just told her you can do without her. if you don't do sum'n impulsive and get your hand back TO####inDAY, you've turned Marissa into Lessrissa. you're dead to me. *drops weedwacker*

 
Long time listener, first time caller to this thread.

I am really enjoying the show so far.  Season 1 was great and started off at a good pace, lots of character development and setup.  But then word got out the show was good and more and more ppl started watching and commenting, more cheese and weather schtick was great.  By the time Season 3 rolled around and the show went viral, expectations were too high for the new comers to the show.  They wanted a faster pace, more action, bang bang bang.  I hope the writers don't cave and stay true to the show, and the early fans.  

My advice, change it up, don't get too predictable.  For NFL opening weekend watch party show up in a Matt Ryan jersey and a matching Falcons hat.  It'll throw her for a loop and lead to tension.  

Good luck NRJ, I'm rooting for you!  Everything about life I learned from Jersey Shore, so just make sure you GTL and Do You.  

 
Bob Sacamano said:
"Dear Highlights Forum,

I'm a divorced father of two who hasn't seen much, um, action since my wife and I split. But then this beautiful woman moved in next door.  We really hit it off.  I never thought something like this could happen to me, but you won't believe what she did after we exchanged a few texts...

Signed,

Hugs & Cappuccinos"
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Now, Goofus... do you know how I know you're a sexist? you hugged her... you filthy, filthy boy.

 
Ramsay Hunt Experience said:
Maybe ramp up the text flirtation a bit ("I was led to believe these hugs would be more ... inappropriate.").
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This is what I meant, GB.  That's the kind of text he needs to send, like NOW, so she knows he is looking to take that next step (or just take that next step).  I didn't mean at all to send her a text saying "Hi, I am interested in you". 

 
Here's what's going to happen: Tonight, at some point in the 4th quarter, send a text mentioning the deck hugs and let her know how much you enjoyed it. When she inevitably floats out that she'd be amenable to another, meet her on the deck, hug, and at some point (no more than 10 seconds into the hug) pull back a bit so that your face is in the kissing zone (maybe 3-4 inches from her face).  You'll look into each other's eyes and you'll notice that she's not pulling away. What will happen then is you'll feel the magnets in your lips pull you closer to her lip magnets and our long national nightmare will finally be over. Tonight is the night.  When you hear the Carrie Underwood NBC football theme song I want you to imagine that music is for you.  Tonight is kickoff night for football, make it also the night you kickoff the relationship and friggin kiss the woman.

 
sjslacker said:
Long time listener, first time caller to this thread.

I am really enjoying the show so far.  Season 1 was great and started off at a good pace, lots of character development and setup.  But then word got out the show was good and more and more ppl started watching and commenting, more cheese and weather schtick was great.  By the time Season 3 rolled around and the show went viral, expectations were too high for the new comers to the show.  They wanted a faster pace, more action, bang bang bang.  I hope the writers don't cave and stay true to the show, and the early fans.  

My advice, change it up, don't get too predictable.  For NFL opening weekend watch party show up in a Matt Ryan jersey and a matching Falcons hat.  It'll throw her for a loop and lead to tension.  

Good luck NRJ, I'm rooting for you!  Everything about life I learned from Jersey Shore, so just make sure you GTL and Do You.  
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So much depends on the casting of the distant husband.  I'm thinking of a Ron Livingstone type. 

 
Willie Neslon said:
Here's what's going to happen: Tonight, at some point in the 4th quarter, send a text mentioning the deck hugs and let her know how much you enjoyed it. When she inevitably floats out that she'd be amenable to another, meet her on the deck, hug, and at some point (no more than 10 seconds into the hug) pull back a bit so that your face is in the kissing zone (maybe 3-4 inches from her face).  You'll look into each other's eyes and you'll notice that she's not pulling away. What will happen then is you'll feel the magnets in your lips pull you closer to her lip magnets and our long national nightmare will finally be over. Tonight is the night.  When you hear the Carrie Underwood NBC football theme song I want you to imagine that music is for you.  Tonight is kickoff night for football, make it also the night you kickoff the relationship and friggin kiss the woman.
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bromigo i know you do not want to hear it but that would be a totally awesome band name take that to the bank

 
after each hug did you run upstairs giggling and write it in your diary?

sadly, I am beginning to question your masculinity, as I think each and every poster in this "thread" need to right about now.  she comes over with cookies, she comes over to a bbq, she meets for :coffee:  for over 2 hoors, she begs for a "hug", then another, yet all you have to show for it is likely a couple of sticky socks and some journal entries and kiddy texting like a high schooler.  at some point you are going to have to actually ask her, you know, out on a date.  maybe you prefer the company of men, there, I said it.

I am gonna head for tim's thread.

mods - hard delete

:hot:

 
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