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Wooing my neighbor: I came. I hugged. I wooed. Now moving on. (1 Viewer)

Nathan R. Jessep said:
Agreed, GB. And I know it seems junior high to most probably, but I haven't had this feeling a long damn time, even through dating several chicks. This one feels different. I'm not so naive to think this is THE ONE, but it's definitely different, and I, for one, welcome it. 
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You got a boner, didn't you?

 
gianmarco said:
This is what I meant, GB.  That's the kind of text he needs to send, like NOW, so she knows he is looking to take that next step (or just take that next step).  I didn't mean at all to send her a text saying "Hi, I am interested in you". 
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No, what needs to happen is putting down the phone and kissing the damn woman.

 
VA703 said:
shark move.. mention deck hugs then make a typo and put **** instead

let her react first
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Perfect.

"Want to meet up for more **** hugs?"

"OMG DECK HUGS"

"HOW EMBARASSING"

"but, thinking about it, if it's not inappropriate to say, I like **** hugs too"

 
Been a fan of the slow play thus far, but have to agree with the peanut gallery that the 2nd hug was a good time to go in for a kiss. I'd guess that she was probably expecting and wanting one.

 
[icon] said:
[icon]'s LIVE WAGERING UPDATE:


First kiss landing spot:
Cheek -110
Forehead +120
Lips +350
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What's your paypal address?  I'm confident NRJ seals the deal and locks lips.

Odds of some tongue?  I want to tease this bet.

 
At this point she starting to think, "what's wrong with me?" Prediction:  If a kiss doesn't happen soon you're going to get a "are you attracted to me?' text.

 
Coeur de Lion said:
Been a fan of the slow play thus far, but have to agree with the peanut gallery that the 2nd hug was a good time to go in for a kiss. I'd guess that she was probably expecting and wanting one.
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Maybe, maybe not. There's info we don't know nor will be disclosed. If she is disappointed, don't you think his attractiveness rises some? He's being a bit of a challenge as well? They are having fun, going slow as they should be. He would have to majorly #### it up to change the course this seems to be heading.

 
cstu said:
Dude, you're still being way too passive.  She outright telling you she wants you to take charge and you're acting like a middle school kid.
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:goodposting:

Coeur de Lion said:
Been a fan of the slow play thus far, but have to agree with the peanut gallery that the 2nd hug was a good time to go in for a kiss. I'd guess that she was probably expecting and wanting one.
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Totally agree, she wanted something more than a hug...NRJ didn't deliver.

 
CurlyNight said:
Maybe, maybe not. There's info we don't know nor will be disclosed. If she is disappointed, don't you think his attractiveness rises some? He's being a bit of a challenge as well? They are having fun, going slow as they should be. He would have to majorly #### it up to change the course this seems to be heading.
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Yeah -- it's harder to get a read on the situation given the incomplete picture. But still, two back-to-back late night hugs without a kiss seems like taking it a bit too slow to me.

 
Nathan R. Jessep said:
:hands out vomit bags in advance: 

NRJ: I vote no on inappropriate. I'm a fan of hugs

M: K me too.

NRJ: " :thumbup:  "

...random few messages over the span of 15 minutes or so...

M: so if you happen to "need something out of your truck" and feel like I a hug I will come hug you very quickly? Yes? Ok deal. 

M: it's just a rare one time request, bc I especially need one.

NRJ (grinning like the ####### Cheshire cat): Haha yes. Deal. When?

M: Now? Just tell me

NRJ: OK. Yep. 

My kids are still up, but making preparations for bed, but still milling around the house.  My son is doing his nightly routine of shooting a few free throws on the Nerf hoop after brushing his teeth, so he's making all kinds of racket inside. I slip out onto the porch, and she's headed towards my house, through the yard. She says "heyyyy" and I meet her at the bottom of my steps. She grabs my shoulders and pulls me in, pressing her chest against mine tightly, and wrapping her arms around me. So I wrap mine around her as well and we just stand there for about 30 seconds, not saying a word, just soaking it in. About that time, my son shot a brick apparently and it bounced off the window/blinds, and scared the #### out of Marissa and I. We both jumped, thinking we were busted, then we started laughing. She quickly turned and tiptoed back to her yard, and I went back in and got the kids in bed, and they were none the wiser. 

NRJ: Damn kids.

M: Lol. Good hug. Thank you.

NRJ: Agreed. And thank you. 

M: anytime!

....mostly randomness, but I did work in a "that was not my best hug effort" and she insisted she liked it regardless...

M: Well I desperately needed a hug

NRJ: *nods* I thought so

M: You needed one too you just didn't know it ;)  

NRJ: I think you may be right

....M explains why she needed a hug (I will not disclose why here), I say I understand and glad I was able to help her out...

M: Me too. You have to initiate the next one though.

NRJ: I pretty much initiated that one hours ago didn't I? ( :bowtie:  )

M: well sort of, but I came up with the plan to actually make it happen

NRJ: yes you did

NRJ: Perhaps, theoretically, say I left something ELSE in my truck and had to go get it in a little while?

M: LOL what is a little while?

NRJ: Any time between right now and when I (you) go to bed?

NRJ: I mean my schedule is pretty wide open from not to bedtime. 

NRJ: Theoretically

M: How about right now? 

NRJ: :yes:  

This time, I wait for her to come all the way to my porch. She greets me again, and she kind of slithered up next to me and slinked her arms around me and laid her head on my shoulder/neck area and just sighed a long deep breath. She seemed content. I was definitely content. On the offdee quivalent of a hugs scale, it was a 9.5. it definitely felt "right" and it definitely felt like more than a friendly hug. 

Now, I'm sure I just opened myself up for some laughs and critique of my replies, but I posted the texts above just to give you an idea of her personality that I've gotten to know and probably haven't conveyed through my posts. She's very quick-witted and funny and gives me #### right back if I give her ####. I dig that in a chick. We have played very well off of each other thus far, I think. 

She did offer that she hoped it wasn't too much and she is just very physically affectionate. I told her it was most definitely not too much. She says it's kind of a delicate situation, being as she lives right next door and she didn't want to make things awkward. I agreed and said there was no awkwardness from my point of view, with which she agreed. --so

basically she's on the same page I am, I feel. Just proceeding with extreme caution, which I am fine with. I'm being cautious as well. There's a lot at stake here for all involved.  

There has been discussion of said hug this morning, and the analysis is good. Early prognosis is also good for future endeavors. No specific plans made just yet, but I'd expect that to be in the mix very soon. 

I don't know where it'll end up, or how fast, but it's absolutely been a much-needed fun couple of weeks for me, so I look forward to what lies ahead. So I understand if anyone or everyone wants to tap out of this thread now, but I can guaran-### ####-tee you it's not a fishing trip.  I appreciate the advice (well, most of it) and well-wishes, and the entertainment you SOBs have provided. :thumbup:  

As you were, men (and women). 
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what in the world

 
CurlyNight said:
Maybe, maybe not. There's info we don't know nor will be disclosed. If she is disappointed, don't you think his attractiveness rises some? He's being a bit of a challenge as well? They are having fun, going slow as they should be. He would have to majorly #### it up to change the course this seems to be heading.
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Since she has already asked him to initiate something, isn't that a clear sign that she needs him to be more forthcoming in what he wants to do or what he is feeling? He is currently letting her dictate everything which I think is fine until she says otherwise, which she did. If he continues to lay back, how long until she feels he is not that interested?

I would love the woman's perspective

 
one thing to watch out for is make sure she is not noted drug kingpin el chapo cause nothin puts the break on a budding hugmance like finding out the other hugger is none other than the worlds most wanted man that is all i am sayin take that to the bank brohan 

 
I check back in TTT, see that it's 10 pages longer and assume either OP has gone balls deep or at the very least was retelling the wonder of his first blue dot from Mrs. Brady.

Instead I read a wall of text about hugging?? WTF?? and then only hugging actually takes place??  Not even a ####### kiss when she came back for the second "hug?"

On second thought, maybe the kid's are adopted and this chick is a virgin.  They're both certainly acting like it. 

 
It sounds like you really actually like this woman. If that's that case, why rush it? On one hand you want to let her know you're interested but with all the variables involved -- you have kids, she has kids, you're neighbors, she's still married etc... You're wise to take things slowly.

With all the hugging that's going on it's pretty obvious where things are headed. Do this, the next time you guys are having one of these hugathons, tell her you want to try something out and just move in for a kiss. Don't try to make out with her. Just a nice sensual kiss. Pull back and say something to let her know it was nice and you just wanted to try it out but not to be expecting any more of that anytime soon. This will drive her nuts - in a good way.

 
Does she have a dog? Do you? If so, find a nearby dog park to go to together. 

Is there a public pool nearby? If so, suggest a pool day with all the kids. 

If you catch her outside at the same time as you, walk over just to offer your help with any household problems she has (this puts the ball in her court). 

If all else fails, just ask her straight-up to get a coffee or ice cream sometime. 

"We regret the things we don't do more than the things we do... do." Ha. 

 
dhockster said:
Since she has already asked him to initiate something, isn't that a clear sign that she needs him to be more forthcoming in what he wants to do or what he is feeling? He is currently letting her dictate everything which I think is fine until she says otherwise, which she did. If he continues to lay back, how long until she feels he is not that interested?

I would love the woman's perspective
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I gave my perspective/comments many times in here, much to icon's chagrin. She has a full plate right now in closing her old life for good. What hasn't been disclosed/won't be has to be key in why this thing is going slower than what some like/expect. This is real life for both of them, not a soap that we are wanting it to become. There are no clear signs in their situation with what info we have. He's not going anywhere and she knows it, and vice versa. She knows he's interested. Most of us have great intuition. Why the rush when she has an obvious complicated situation at this moment?

 
sublimeone said:
It sounds like you really actually like this woman. If that's that case, why rush it? On one hand you want to let her know you're interested but with all the variables involved -- you have kids, she has kids, you're neighbors, she's still married etc... You're wise to take things slowly.

With all the hugging that's going on it's pretty obvious where things are headed. Do this, the next time you guys are having one of these hugathons, tell her you want to try something out and just move in for a kiss. Don't try to make out with her. Just a nice sensual kiss. Pull back and say something to let her know it was nice and you just wanted to try it out but not to be expecting any more of that anytime soon. This will drive her nuts - in a good way.
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:goodposting:

This is what should have happened on hug #2.

 
Beta guys are the ones who have more kindness than confidence. They’re not nearly as assertive. They’re so passive as to be, well, almost feminine in nature. They are not going to put themselves on the line for rejection until it’s 100% clear that you like them. They would sooner wait to get a written notice in the mail that you’re really, truly interested in them than to follow up too much and potentially make you uncomfortable.

 
CurlyNight said:
I gave my perspective/comments many times in here, much to icon's chagrin. She has a full plate right now in closing her old life for good. What hasn't been disclosed/won't be has to be key in why this thing is going slower than what some like/expect. This is real life for both of them, not a soap that we are wanting it to become. There are no clear signs in their situation with what info we have. He's not going anywhere and she knows it, and vice versa. She knows he's interested. Most of us have great intuition. Why the rush when she has an obvious complicated situation at this moment?
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Do you think a woman coming back for a second "hug" doesn't want to be kissed? 


You guys keep talking about why the rush... First off this situation is in NO danger of even getting anywhere near "Rush" status anytime soon. :lol:

And why? Because she's practically begging him for some movement here. 
 

 
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