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Wooing my neighbor: I came. I hugged. I wooed. Now moving on. (2 Viewers)

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Do you think a woman coming back for a second "hug" doesn't want to be kissed? 
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If there weren't circumstances involved making this a complicated situation I would say yes. But we don't know because we don't have all the details of what is up with her. I trust OP's instincts.

 
use some bluetooth speakers and the next time she wants a hug have them already hidden and put on some lisa loeb that will make any middle age mom swoon just try it that is all i am saying but remember to make sure she is not el chapo in disguise first take that to the hug bank bromigo 

 
cstu said:
Beta guys are the ones who have more kindness than confidence. They’re not nearly as assertive. They’re so passive as to be, well, almost feminine in nature. They are not going to put themselves on the line for rejection until it’s 100% clear that you like them. They would sooner wait to get a written notice in the mail that you’re really, truly interested in them than to follow up too much and potentially make you uncomfortable.
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Or make her initiate.

 
What is your favorite outfit for hugging?  Are you going to wear your nutters? Or, something loose fitting?  

 
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This was never the way I planned
Not my intention
I got so brave, drink in hand
Lost my discretion
It's not what, I'm used to
Just wanna try you on
I'm curious for you
Caught my attention
I hugged a girl and I liked it
The smell of her gator hair stick
I hugged a girl just to try it
I hope her husband don't mind it
 
ATB said:
Does she have a dog? Do you? If so, find a nearby dog park to go to together. 

Is there a public pool nearby? If so, suggest a pool day with all the kids. 

If you catch her outside at the same time as you, walk over just to offer your help with any household problems she has (this puts the ball in her court). 

If all else fails, just ask her straight-up to get a coffee or ice cream sometime. 

"We regret the things we don't do more than the things we do... do." Ha. 
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JFC, ask her "Would you like to dinner with me Saturday night?  I've got a babysitter who can watch the kids."

 
CurlyNight said:
[icon] said:
Do you think a woman coming back for a second "hug" doesn't want to be kissed? 
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If there weren't circumstances involved making this a complicated situation I would say yes. But we don't know because we don't have all the details of what is up with her. I trust OP's instincts.
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The whole "there are details" went out the window with the second appearance. Although you are giving him the benefit of a doubt, I think you even suspect that a little.

 
The only reason to hesitate here is if you are concerned about having an ex living right f'n next door.

Not sure any smooches or fartbox punches are worth THAT.

I prefer my ex's on another continent.

:coffee:

 
jwb said:
The whole "there are details" went out the window with the second appearance. Although you are giving him the benefit of a doubt, I think you even suspect that a little.
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It was cutesy/playful for sure. They are having fun. We can't throw anything out the window at this point except the proceed with caution advice..

 
when you were leaving after the hug did you feel like you did something wrong cause you missed her that is probably a sign brohan take that to the bank 

 
Congrats OP.  This hot woman wants you.  She initiated physical contact.  She came over to your house for two hugs.  There should have been more than hugging going on when she came back for that second hug but that has been beat to the ground already.  You are overthinking this.  Next time that you see her, kiss her and ask her out on a date already.  She is not holding back.  You are. 

 
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DocHolliday said:
Congrats OP.  This hot woman wants you.  She initiated physical contact.  She came over to your house for two hugs.  There should have been more than hugging going on when she came back for that second hug but that has been beat to the ground already.  
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To paraphrase Lt. Kaffee:

"Sam, he made a mistake.  Let's not relive it."

 
+100 for "budding hugmance".

You missed the kiss opportunity on that second hug.  You didn't have to eat her tongue or anything. Just a little kiss - even on the forehead - would've moved things forward, albeit impossibly slowly.  Now she thinks YOU are the one who wants to pump the brakes and want nothing more than a hugmance.  Do you really want her deciding how far this goes?  It's time to be a man. 

 
jwb said:
Not saying you have to jump into the sack right away, but you need to make a real move, Colonial. I'm not a woman, but I'm guessing the guy insisting "let's take this slow" becomes a bit of a turn off.  
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Right she will either start thinking you're gay and that's the real reason you got divorced (NTTAWT) or that you are not physically attracted to her and start resenting you. 

 
For tonight's hug...

As you two embrace yet again, lock your fingers together behind her back.  After about 30 seconds or so, lean back from the waist up, so that your genitals are still juxtaposed, but your torsos and heads are a couple of feet apart.  Barely...almost imperceptibly.. lean in toward a kiss.  See if she begins traveling in that direction.  If she does, lay one on her and try not to jizz in your mesh Saints athletic shorts.  If she doesn't... slowly slide your hands up her back, fingers still locked, up her neck, up the back of her head, until they're on top of her head.  Then slowly but forcefully, start pushing her head down.....

 
[icon] said:
Jesus christ.... i'm out. 
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All this does is build anticipation. I'm not advising him to actually not kiss her again. It's mental forplay. This is how you keep building things up over a prolonged period. You do it incrementally, keep them excited. Women call this romance. It's why they read romance novels. They love this crap.

 
Evilgrin 72 said:
For tonight's hug...

As you two embrace yet again, lock your fingers together behind her back.  After about 30 seconds or so, lean back from the waist up, so that your genitals are still juxtaposed, but your torsos and heads are a couple of feet apart.  Barely...almost imperceptibly.. lean in toward a kiss.  See if she begins traveling in that direction.  If she does, lay one on her and try not to jizz in your mesh Saints athletic shorts.  If she doesn't... slowly slide your hands up her back, fingers still locked, up her neck, up the back of her head, until they're on top of her head.  Then slowly but forcefully, start pushing her head down.....
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:lmao:

 
Mookie said:
+100 for "budding hugmance".

You missed the kiss opportunity on that second hug.  You didn't have to eat her tongue or anything. Just a little kiss - even on the forehead - would've moved things forward, albeit impossibly slowly.  Now she thinks YOU are the one who wants to pump the brakes and want nothing more than a hugmance.  Do you really want her deciding how far this goes?  It's time to be a man. 
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This is the danger. It will not take much to put her fire out. She gave him the "all clear" (once in a whisper, and then in an all out shout) and he didn't even try to take it. 

NRJ - if you are truly afraid of the details and circumstances and possible messiness, hey, that's all good. But don't be too surprised if there's another guy ringing her doorbell prettymuch anytime from now forward. 

 
Hickory dickory dock

our buddy has a lonely ####

he found a hot neighbor friend 

and when the clock struck ten 

he hugged her then tossed off in his sock 

 
Look, I get that there are tough circumstances at play here.  You're obviously doing something right as she keeps coming back, keeps responding to texts, etc.  But women, in general, like a guy who takes control, is aggressive, makes the move.  Obviously mileage varies and some will prefer a guy who can go with the flow and take things easy when necessary, but eventually there is a jumping off point.  When she came back for that second "hug", I really think you have to at least kiss her there.  Did she really walk back over for a hug?  I mean, how ridiculous is that?  That was your time to shine, man.  Your one saving grace here is that she probably doesn't have time to be out meeting a ton of other guys, so there's no competition and you've got some time (like.. a lot of ####### time.. it took, what, two weeks to get a hug?), but you really need to start escalating things.  

I think you probably gain some points with her for being so chill and not pushing things, but there is a point where that starts working against you, and you've somehow managed to push that point so far beyond what I could have ever imagined possible, but now it's time to go man!

 
A hug! I knew you should of cleaned out those fake gutters when she wasnt home, you'd at least be to 3rd base by now. 

 
sublimeone said:
All this does is build anticipation. I'm not advising him to actually not kiss her again. It's mental forplay. This is how you keep building things up over a prolonged period. You do it incrementally, keep them excited. Women call this romance. It's why they read romance novels. They love this crap.
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Return the book you read that from.  That's Velveeta cheese...the whole "I just wanted to try it..."...just weird. 

 
Nothing is more entertaining than reading men's advice on how all woman really are esp when you hear many whine about how they don't understand women! lol :popcorn:

 
Evilgrin 72 said:
For tonight's hug...

As you two embrace yet again, lock your fingers together behind her back.  After about 30 seconds or so, lean back from the waist up, so that your genitals are still juxtaposed, but your torsos and heads are a couple of feet apart.  Barely...almost imperceptibly.. lean in toward a kiss.  See if she begins traveling in that direction.  If she does, lay one on her and try not to jizz in your mesh Saints athletic shorts.  If she doesn't... slowly slide your hands up her back, fingers still locked, up her neck, up the back of her head, until they're on top of her head.  Then slowly but forcefully, start pushing her head down.....
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:lmao:

 
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