I have been lucky coaching basketball since I have only done it with this small Catholic school. I have mostly known or been around the parents to varying degrees of knowing each other. At these younger ages, we are supposed to and I try to get 'equal' time but at the same time I know I fell short of that. This is the last year of that development and starting next year it will be tryouts for A and B teams. I talk to the AD a good amount and there has been a lot of drama about the A and B cuts so they bring in coaches from the local HS and they do the assessment out of the tryouts so none of the coaches (mostly parents) are involved to try to cut off any accusations of favoritism or whatever drama. Still.... there were plenty of kids who don't make A team so then they don't play B. Which is silly. My nephew did it the right way... he requested to be on the B team as he knew he would likely make A but would not get as much playing time but on B team would get tons of playing time and be able to develop more since he came to basketball late. He did that and then has made the HS basketball team. I always thought that was a very mature and smart move on his part. I was pretty proud of him because with me at that age.... I would have gunned for A no matter what. I would not quit if I made B but I would never opt for B to get more playing time.Just wait til you get to the age where it's a bit more competitive for playing time. In general, parents (and grandparents) are the least capable of comprehending skill level of players. They are not there for the hours and hours of practice, but clearly their kid should be starting - and they will nit pick every other kid out there - friend or not - and find a way that their own kids mistakes aren't really their fault.I don't understand why anyone would say anything negative like that about kids. Even the other team, let alone the kids teammates. They are kids.
There is a little bit of a different dynamic with my sons teams as most of his is playing with the small Catholic school where a lot of families not only know each other but are friends separate from their kids etc. but even for my sons club swim and daughters club volleyball I have never heard any parents be critical like that to other kids. Critical of coaching? Yes. Critical of refs? 100%. Critical of the other team? A little bit but more when a kid gets out of line like a hard foul or something. Critical of their own kid? All day long.
It is sad that grown adults have such little awareness and self-respect to tear down kids in some selfish attempt to build up their own kid.
At least with football there are 22 spots... with basketball where there are only 5 starting spots, and in the more competitive high school leagues/levels maybe a 7-8 man rotation when games are tight, parents are obnoxiously toxic.
My coaching will stay at the elementary/JR HS level with this school. I have a ways to go before my kids grad but I likely will end up coaching there after they do. I have not yet had any issues with playing time or other issues from the parents.
For other sports, I am not the coach. Heck, the HC for football asked me what I thought where my son should be. I told him, I am not the coach and he pressed so I told him, I really like him at DE and then on offense TE. He was put in at WR.... though they really don't have a TE but when they do line up, he moves inline TE position in those formations and CB at first which I didn't think was a good use of him but I am not the coach. They moved him to OLB and not MLB and have added RB to him while still playing WR. MLB is a good use of him for sure, maybe even better than DE but I just love how he penetrates and gets in the backfield at DE. Anyways... I am not the coach. I defer to them. He didn't get much snaps at OLB in the first game until the end... I thought that was a mistake but I am not the coach.
All that being said, there are some parents that stay at the practices and we sit and chat. One has voiced displeasure about a few things about what the coaches are doing for the 3/4 team. I think they coaching staff is going a great job with them and I try to give her more perspective than just 'my son didn't play'. She has never said anything negative about another kid but I wouldn't put that beyond her.
Sigh. Some people just can't enjoy the sport and build up/support the kids.