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[Apple Jack]

How does this statement thing work? Because it sounds painfully cheesy. Like something beej read in a book on how to pick up chicks. I'm trying to imagine how any of my girlfriends or girl friends would respond to that kind of thing and it would be somewhere between laughter and ignoring it. Unless maybe it's something grand like "we have tickets in sec 437 for Tom Jones" or "you me a basket of bread sticks. we got a rez for 7 at teh Garden. boom!"

"I'm grabbing a drink at [insert place] tonight after work. You should join me."

"Haha [insert minor playful dig]. Anyway, let's grab dinner tonight."

Fair enough. I've never given it much thought.

"[insert minor playful dig]"

 

[Zow]

How does this statement thing work? Because it sounds painfully cheesy. Like something beej read in a book on how to pick up chicks. I'm trying to imagine how any of my girlfriends or girl friends would respond to that kind of thing and it would be somewhere between laughter and ignoring it. Unless maybe it's something grand like "we have tickets in sec 437 for Tom Jones" or "you me a basket of bread sticks. we got a rez for 7 at teh Garden. boom!"

"I'm grabbing a drink at [insert place] tonight after work. You should join me."

"Haha [insert minor playful dig]. Anyway, let's grab dinner tonight."

Fair enough. I've never given it much thought.

"[insert minor playful dig]"

Just trying to illustrate that an out of the blue request for dinner wouldn't be very effective. Instead, pick an opportune time during the height of a flirty exchange, ideally where you've poked fun at her (dare I say, "nagged" her) where you might have the upper hand. Then, asserting the date idea comes across as incredibly confident.

 

[Ramsay Hunt Experience]

Please, please do not intentionally "neg" anyone.

In your old age, you will look back at your life. And you will have regrets about those times you were lonely. But not as big as the regrets of those times you were an a******. At the very least, if you're going to do that Pick Up Artist BS, at least go all the way and start wearing a wacky outfit.

 

[offdee]

Please, please do not intentionally "neg" anyone.

In your old age, you will look back at your life. And you will have regrets about those times you were lonely. But not as big as the regrets of those times you were an a******. At the very least, if you're going to do that Pick Up Artist BS, at least go all the way and start wearing a wacky outfit.

Negging isn't about being an #####. If you're doing it in an ##### tone and being offensive than you're doing it wrong. Done successfuly it's more about being playful to get a laugh and get her guard down.

 

[rockaction]

Please, please do not intentionally "neg" anyone.

In your old age, you will look back at your life. And you will have regrets about those times you were lonely. But not as big as the regrets of those times you were an a******. At the very least, if you're going to do that Pick Up Artist BS, at least go all the way and start wearing a wacky outfit.

I can remember, pre-pick-up artist crap, how negging someone just leaves bad memories of what could have been if you'd been a real person. Especially when they've stated that they want to hook up with you.

Yikes, my dear. I remember.

 

[proninja]

It's like we're suddenly living in a post-Mystery world :nomoregoggles:

 

[Apple Jack]

What is "negging?" And what is pick-up aritst? Isn't that a movie with the ducky guy from pretty in pink?

 

[Henry Ford]

How does this statement thing work? Because it sounds painfully cheesy. Like something beej read in a book on how to pick up chicks. I'm trying to imagine how any of my girlfriends or girl friends would respond to that kind of thing and it would be somewhere between laughter and ignoring it. Unless maybe it's something grand like "we have tickets in sec 437 for Tom Jones" or "you me a basket of bread sticks. we got a rez for 7 at teh Garden. boom!"

I would like to take you to dinner at X.

Contrast that with "would you like to join me for dinner at X?"

It's authoritative, and suggests that the speaker knows what he wants and how to convey it. It is up to her to fill in the blank (the question) which makes her actively involved in the process. It's a reasonable technique for all kinds of communication, not just dating.

 

[Zow]

Please, please do not intentionally "neg" anyone.

In your old age, you will look back at your life. And you will have regrets about those times you were lonely. But not as big as the regrets of those times you were an a******. At the very least, if you're going to do that Pick Up Artist BS, at least go all the way and start wearing a wacky outfit.

I used the term out of sarcasm. Obviously my context was being joking/playful/flirtatious.

 

[Ramsay Hunt Experience]

What is "negging?" And what is pick-up aritst? Isn't that a movie with the ducky guy from pretty in pink?

Described in this book.

http://www.amazon.com/Game-Neil-Strauss-ebook/dp/B007MAXHUG/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1393610294&sr=8-1&keywords=neal+strauss

Big thread on it in the FFA. Search on "Sarging".

EDIT: Here it is: http://forums.footballguys.com/forum/index.php?showtopic=347187&hl=sarging&page=1

 

[Apple Jack]

How does this statement thing work? Because it sounds painfully cheesy. Like something beej read in a book on how to pick up chicks. I'm trying to imagine how any of my girlfriends or girl friends would respond to that kind of thing and it would be somewhere between laughter and ignoring it. Unless maybe it's something grand like "we have tickets in sec 437 for Tom Jones" or "you me a basket of bread sticks. we got a rez for 7 at teh Garden. boom!"

I would like to take you to dinner at X.

Contrast that with "would you like to join me for dinner at X?"

It's authoritative, and suggests that the speaker knows what he wants and how to convey it. It is up to her to fill in the blank (the question) which makes her actively involved in the process. It's a reasonable technique for all kinds of communication, not just dating.

Yeah, I get it. I've always done it without thinking about it. Let's grab a drink. Although, I tend to have had sex with a woman before we ever get to intimate things like dinner, so there is no gamesmanship to it for me. I was imagining something much more awkward/bad stereotype dating book guy.

 

[Zow]

What is "negging?"

Just generally a playful, joking way of making fun of a girl. Usually it refers to playfully making fun of something about her appearance (i.e. suggesting that she has wide eyes or something), or poking fun at a mistake she may have made (she asks how much a six dollar burger costs or whatever).

The pessimistic psychological impact is to make the girl think that you may not think that she's awesome, so she'll start to doubt herself want to her "worth" to you. It also has the dual effect of making you seem to hold more value compared to her - and make her switch from being the sought after to the one seeking you out. This is supposed to be particularly effective with super hot or popular girls who are adored and pampered by guys all day long because it separates you from the proverbial herd and offers her a challenge.

In my opinion, it's doesn't have to be so goal-driven or manipulative in purpose. I think it just generally has the effect of being flirty, showing confidence, and showing a sense of humor. Nice guys are just that, but girls may find that boring over time.

 

[Zow]

How does this statement thing work? Because it sounds painfully cheesy. Like something beej read in a book on how to pick up chicks. I'm trying to imagine how any of my girlfriends or girl friends would respond to that kind of thing and it would be somewhere between laughter and ignoring it. Unless maybe it's something grand like "we have tickets in sec 437 for Tom Jones" or "you me a basket of bread sticks. we got a rez for 7 at teh Garden. boom!"

I would like to take you to dinner at X.

Contrast that with "would you like to join me for dinner at X?"

It's authoritative, and suggests that the speaker knows what he wants and how to convey it. It is up to her to fill in the blank (the question) which makes her actively involved in the process. It's a reasonable technique for all kinds of communication, not just dating.

Yeah, I get it. I've always done it without thinking about it. Let's grab a drink. Although, I tend to have had sex with a woman before we ever get to intimate things like dinner, so there is no gamesmanship to it for me. I was imagining something much more awkward/bad stereotype dating book guy.

WTF kind of girls are you dating? You anti-relationship or something?

 

[Henry Ford]

How does this statement thing work? Because it sounds painfully cheesy. Like something beej read in a book on how to pick up chicks. I'm trying to imagine how any of my girlfriends or girl friends would respond to that kind of thing and it would be somewhere between laughter and ignoring it. Unless maybe it's something grand like "we have tickets in sec 437 for Tom Jones" or "you me a basket of bread sticks. we got a rez for 7 at teh Garden. boom!"

I would like to take you to dinner at X.

Contrast that with "would you like to join me for dinner at X?"

It's authoritative, and suggests that the speaker knows what he wants and how to convey it. It is up to her to fill in the blank (the question) which makes her actively involved in the process. It's a reasonable technique for all kinds of communication, not just dating.

Yeah, I get it. I've always done it without thinking about it. Let's grab a drink. Although, I tend to have had sex with a woman before we ever get to intimate things like dinner, so there is no gamesmanship to it for me. I was imagining something much more awkward/bad stereotype dating book guy.

Everybody likes people who suggest a way forward, instead of asking if the other person wants to make the decision. Women and men respond well to this sort of thing.

 

[Ramsay Hunt Experience]

How does this statement thing work? Because it sounds painfully cheesy. Like something beej read in a book on how to pick up chicks. I'm trying to imagine how any of my girlfriends or girl friends would respond to that kind of thing and it would be somewhere between laughter and ignoring it. Unless maybe it's something grand like "we have tickets in sec 437 for Tom Jones" or "you me a basket of bread sticks. we got a rez for 7 at teh Garden. boom!"

I would like to take you to dinner at X.

Contrast that with "would you like to join me for dinner at X?"

It's authoritative, and suggests that the speaker knows what he wants and how to convey it. It is up to her to fill in the blank (the question) which makes her actively involved in the process. It's a reasonable technique for all kinds of communication, not just dating.

Yeah, I get it. I've always done it without thinking about it. Let's grab a drink. Although, I tend to have had sex with a woman before we ever get to intimate things like dinner, so there is no gamesmanship to it for me. I was imagining something much more awkward/bad stereotype dating book guy.

Everybody likes people who suggest a way forward, instead of asking if the other person wants to make the decision. Women and men respond well to this sort of thing.

Let's spoon.

 

[Zow]

"Let's" is a very effective way to start a sentence where you want to get someone to do something.

"Let's watch football together" to a girl = I will watch football which you make me food and perform fellatio.

 

[Henry Ford]

How does this statement thing work? Because it sounds painfully cheesy. Like something beej read in a book on how to pick up chicks. I'm trying to imagine how any of my girlfriends or girl friends would respond to that kind of thing and it would be somewhere between laughter and ignoring it. Unless maybe it's something grand like "we have tickets in sec 437 for Tom Jones" or "you me a basket of bread sticks. we got a rez for 7 at teh Garden. boom!"

I would like to take you to dinner at X.

Contrast that with "would you like to join me for dinner at X?"

It's authoritative, and suggests that the speaker knows what he wants and how to convey it. It is up to her to fill in the blank (the question) which makes her actively involved in the process. It's a reasonable technique for all kinds of communication, not just dating.

Yeah, I get it. I've always done it without thinking about it. Let's grab a drink. Although, I tend to have had sex with a woman before we ever get to intimate things like dinner, so there is no gamesmanship to it for me. I was imagining something much more awkward/bad stereotype dating book guy.

Everybody likes people who suggest a way forward, instead of asking if the other person wants to make the decision. Women and men respond well to this sort of thing.

Let's spoon.

I'm more of a forker.

 

[Tom Servo]

How does this statement thing work? Because it sounds painfully cheesy. Like something beej read in a book on how to pick up chicks. I'm trying to imagine how any of my girlfriends or girl friends would respond to that kind of thing and it would be somewhere between laughter and ignoring it. Unless maybe it's something grand like "we have tickets in sec 437 for Tom Jones" or "you me a basket of bread sticks. we got a rez for 7 at teh Garden. boom!"

I would like to take you to dinner at X.

Contrast that with "would you like to join me for dinner at X?"

It's authoritative, and suggests that the speaker knows what he wants and how to convey it. It is up to her to fill in the blank (the question) which makes her actively involved in the process. It's a reasonable technique for all kinds of communication, not just dating.

Yeah, I get it. I've always done it without thinking about it. Let's grab a drink. Although, I tend to have had sex with a woman before we ever get to intimate things like dinner, so there is no gamesmanship to it for me. I was imagining something much more awkward/bad stereotype dating book guy.

Everybody likes people who suggest a way forward, instead of asking if the other person wants to make the decision. Women and men respond well to this sort of thing.

Let's spoon.

I'm more of a forker.

But will you spork?

 

[sdp1226]

How does this statement thing work? Because it sounds painfully cheesy. Like something beej read in a book on how to pick up chicks. I'm trying to imagine how any of my girlfriends or girl friends would respond to that kind of thing and it would be somewhere between laughter and ignoring it. Unless maybe it's something grand like "we have tickets in sec 437 for Tom Jones" or "you me a basket of bread sticks. we got a rez for 7 at teh Garden. boom!"

I would like to take you to dinner at X.

Contrast that with "would you like to join me for dinner at X?"

It's authoritative, and suggests that the speaker knows what he wants and how to convey it. It is up to her to fill in the blank (the question) which makes her actively involved in the process. It's a reasonable technique for all kinds of communication, not just dating.

Yeah, I get it. I've always done it without thinking about it. Let's grab a drink. Although, I tend to have had sex with a woman before we ever get to intimate things like dinner, so there is no gamesmanship to it for me. I was imagining something much more awkward/bad stereotype dating book guy.

Everybody likes people who suggest a way forward, instead of asking if the other person wants to make the decision. Women and men respond well to this sort of thing.

Let's spoon.

I'm more of a forker.

But will you spork?

Sounds rapey

 

[Eminence]

I assume she isn't interested. :(

 

[fantasycurse42]

I assume she isn't interested. :(

Ok, I'm gonna invite her to a movie TOMORROW night. Is everybody OK with this suggestion?

No!

You've been getting slaughtered via text, you're her ##### at this point... Back off!! Don't text, call, email, or smoke signal for at least 4 or 5 days.

This was good advice, you obviously didn't listen... Now it is too late. Ever hear of "playing it cool"? Instead you wrote her over and over and looked desperate.

 

[Henry Ford]

How does this statement thing work? Because it sounds painfully cheesy. Like something beej read in a book on how to pick up chicks. I'm trying to imagine how any of my girlfriends or girl friends would respond to that kind of thing and it would be somewhere between laughter and ignoring it. Unless maybe it's something grand like "we have tickets in sec 437 for Tom Jones" or "you me a basket of bread sticks. we got a rez for 7 at teh Garden. boom!"

I would like to take you to dinner at X.

Contrast that with "would you like to join me for dinner at X?"

It's authoritative, and suggests that the speaker knows what he wants and how to convey it. It is up to her to fill in the blank (the question) which makes her actively involved in the process. It's a reasonable technique for all kinds of communication, not just dating.

Yeah, I get it. I've always done it without thinking about it. Let's grab a drink. Although, I tend to have had sex with a woman before we ever get to intimate things like dinner, so there is no gamesmanship to it for me. I was imagining something much more awkward/bad stereotype dating book guy.

Everybody likes people who suggest a way forward, instead of asking if the other person wants to make the decision. Women and men respond well to this sort of thing.

Let's spoon.

I'm more of a forker.

But will you spork?

Pervert

 

[Baloney Sandwich]

I assume she isn't interested. :(

Are you on any online dating sites? If not, you should be

 

[Reginald Cornsilks]

Ask her how much money it would take for her to eat a turd. She'll think you're witty and that you are capable of thought-provoking conversation.

 

[Tom Servo]

I assume she isn't interested. :(

Humanity is safe...for now.

 

[Apple Jack]

I assume she isn't interested. :(

If sent today, it's too early to call it.

I think this story would have more potential if our protagonist moved to a city.

 

[DocHolliday]

I assume she isn't interested. :(

If sent today, it's too early to call it.

I think this story would have more potential if our protagonist moved to a city.

Have some faith in Em. He is not afraid to share his life. He will find another girl, stock, job, credit card, gambling site, etc. We will all be rewarded.

I like the kid even if this whole thing is a fishing trip.

 

[Baloney Sandwich]

Em's biggest problem is that he is focused on 1 girl, that is always a boom or bust situation. He needs to be working at minimum 4/5 at any one time via dating sites and real life encounters.

 

[-fish-]

I assume she isn't interested. :(

If sent today, it's too early to call it.

I think this story would have more potential if our protagonist moved to a city.

Have some faith in Em. He is not afraid to share his life. He will find another girl, stock, job, credit card, gambling site, etc. We will all be rewarded.

I like the kid even if this whole thing is a fishing trip.

 

[UniAlias]

I assume she isn't interested. :(

Are you on any online dating sites? If not, you should be

Apparently you're not familiar with The Jackhammer .

 

[DocHolliday]

I assume she isn't interested. :(

You need to relax. You also need to start hitting on every girl that you feel is slightly attractive.

When you meet a girl. One question should go through your mind: "Would I or wouldn't I?". If the answer is yes, talk to her. Just talk. Do not bring up stupid stuff but just talk. Ask for her name, where she works, where she goes to school, etc.

 

[Apple Jack]

I assume she isn't interested. :(

You need to relax. You also need to start hitting on every girl that you feel is slightly attractive.

When you meet a girl. One question should go through your mind: "Would I or wouldn't I?". If the answer is yes, talk to her. Just talk. Do not bring up stupid stuff but just talk. Ask for her name, where she works, where she goes to school, etc.

Make sure that "etc" stops short of asking where she lives.

 

[UniAlias]

Em's biggest problem is that he is focused on 1 girl, that is always a boom or bust situation. He needs to be working at minimum 4/5 at any one time via dating sites and real life encounters.

This probably isn't even in his top 5 of problems, IMO. If he is "working" a minimum or 4/5 girls that just means he's striking out 4/5 times more often.

He needs to move out of his parent's house, become more independent, and grow up a LOT.

 

[TheIronSheik]

Learn from this mistake, Em. There's nothing wrong with failing. There is something wrong with not learning from your failures.

 

[jon_mx]

I assume she isn't interested. :(

Are you on any online dating sites? If not, you should be

That is how this got started. He is just as bad at that.

 

[mquinnjr]

"Let's" is a very effective way to start a sentence where you want to get someone to do something.

"Let's watch football together" to a girl = I will watch football which you make me food and perform fellatio.

Nothing beats it.

 

[JHuber77]

I assume she isn't interested. :(

If sent today, it's too early to call it.

I think this story would have more potential if our protagonist moved to a city.

She is probably still sore from John and still laying in bed.

 

[TheIronSheik]

Very rarely does someone not even make it into the friend zone. :(

 

[ntz08]

Needs more pheromones.

 

[fantasycurse42]

You're ####### lucky - When I was in my early 20's I had lots of sechs, but even then I needed to masterbate frequently...

I'd sit in front of a gigantic lump of a screen, while the 15 second clip I watched had to buffer for 3 minutes... Then I'd watch it over and over.

At least you can open your phone, go in a bathroom, & knock one off to some high quality stuff...

 

[Eminence]

Word from John is she is seeing someone else...

 

[ntz08]

I see hot pockets in your future.

Stock tip: Buy NSRGY

 

[fantasycurse42]

Word from John is she is seeing someone else...

Keep texting her

 

[Wyld Stallyns]

Word from John is she is seeing someone else...

In a few weeks, when you find out the truth, just don't hold it against him for not telling you right away. He probably just panicked, don't let it negatively impact your friendship.

 

[ClownCausedChaos2]

Word from John is she is seeing someone else...

Yeah. John.

 

[Zow]

Word from John is she is seeing someone else...

Keep texting her

Nothing to lose at this point.

 

[fantasycurse42]

Word from John is she is seeing someone else...

In a few weeks, when you find out the truth, just don't hold it against him for not telling you right away. He probably just panicked, don't let it negatively impact your friendship.

Bad advice... You should nail John's mom, or in your case become friends with John's mom.

 

[Mr. Know-It-All]

Every failure is a raindrop in a barrell and when the barrell is full you will have success. So really don't view it as a failure, just another raindrop toward success. Fail more and fail often, it shortens your time to success.

 

[sdp1226]

Word from John is she is seeing someone else...

Probably the dude that had the balls to call her instead of sending timid texts.

 

[Henry Ford]

Every failure is a raindrop in a barrell and when the barrell is full you will have success. So really don't view it as a failure, just another raindrop toward success. Fail more and fail often, it shortens your time to success.

Unless you're just a failure and forgot to buy a barrel.