I can't even imagine how the Bills and Bengals teams will be able to prepare for Sunday
The Bengals lost Chris Henry and played 3 days later. It sucks but things happen. Not trying to sound like "get over it", if anyone is too affected to play even by Sunday then that is okay for them to not play, but life just goes on for most people.
ETA: And
life just goes on does not mean
forget about it, it just means that life goes on.
Guys, tragic stuff happens every day. Hundreds or thousands of times every day. We move on. Humans move on. If we didn't move on from tragic things, what the hell would this country look like right now???
It hurts. It sucks. It sucks not knowing. It will hurt regardless of the outcome cause even with a recovery he never plays again IMO.
Moving on isn't just something I hope they do, it's something they NEED to do, that they SHOULD do. The amount of time that takes is FAR from decided. He might recover and be good tomorrow. He might pass away on Saturday which would obviously make playing not possible for the Bills. Who knows.
All I know is they WILL move on, they HAVE to move on, they SHOULD move on.
Fans can/will/should as well.
Quoted a couple but it's just a representative sample. I have seen these sentiments posted and tweeted often in the last 24 hours. IOW not directed at these two posters so much as using these examples to address something important to me. I have direct experience with PTSD.
It's a mother****er.
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We all want to move on from trauma. Everyone does. But the part of our brain that is devoted to our survival - the universal fight or flight response we all possess, which lies deep below our rational brain - is simply not great at denial. Long after a traumatic event is over, it might be reactivated ("triggered" in common parlance) by the slightest hint of danger. Your body will involuntarily secrete massive amounts of stress hormones.
Trauma produces actual physiological changes which fundamentally alters us. The increased stress hormones alter the system in our brains which filters relevant information from the irrelevant. Trauma compromises the part of the brain which makes us feel fully alive. Traumatized individuals become hypervigilant to threat - to the point of becoming incapable of spontaneously engaging others in their daily lives. Traumatized people keep repeating the same mistakes and have trouble learning from experience.
Like I said, it's a mother****er.
It isn't matter of willpower or bad character or "not being strong enough to get past it." It's the result of actual changes in the brain.
This is not the best place to take a deep dive into PTSD, but I am hoping what I write will at a minimum help folks reconsider their preconceived ideas about mental health.
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Witnessing a traumatic event but not directly experiencing it can be psychologically quite damaging.
30% of individuals who witness a traumatic event develop post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD.)
PTSD and Witnessed Medical Emergency
The Mayo Clinic points out that PTSD can be triggered by a terrifying event that is either experienced or witnessed. Therefore, people with PTSD who observe a medical emergency happening to another person may have an extreme reaction even though they are safe. If someone with PTSD watches a loved one endure trauma, then the emotional significance may further incapacitate a PTSD patient.
Symptoms of PTSD
The symptoms of PTSD include the following major categories: intrusive memories, avoidance, negative changes in thinking and mood and changes in emotional reactions. Within these major categories, PTSD sufferers may have the following reactions:
- Negative feelings about themselves or other people
- Feeling emotionally numb
- Memory problems, including forgetting important aspects of the traumatic event
- Irritability, angry outbursts or aggressive behaviour
- Overwhelming guilt or shame
- Self-destructive behaviour, such as drinking too much or driving too fastThese more defined reactions link PTSD to medical emergencies and substance abuse.
PTSD Links to Substance Abuse
The Mayo Clinic states that people with PTSD often suffer in other aspects of life, including employment, relationships, health and enjoyment of everyday activities. Because PTSD causes so many problems, it increases the risks of the following issues:
- Depression and anxiety
- Drug or alcohol use
- Eating disorders
- Suicidal thoughts and actions
When someone with PTSD also experiences depression, anxiety or suicidal thoughts, substance abuse becomes highly likely. In fact, people with PTSD may abuse drugs or alcohol either to numb their feelings or to replace them temporarily with a drug-induced euphoria.
PTSD Links to Medical Emergency
People with PTSD struggle to stay productive. When people have to expend so much time, focus and effort to deal with their symptoms, they are often left weak in body, mind and spirit, which can lead to improper care. For example, someone with a serious lack of focus while driving may drive recklessly, which may cause a medical emergency due to a traffic accident.
Hey, I am as clueless as the next person on how the NFL should proceed from here. Trauma will affect people in different ways. But all NFL players should be evaluated for how this event has affected them.
No one should be advocating
let's just get over it and move on.
One thing that will likely help the players (if the NFL and teams handle this properly) is this is a shared experience. Often times, PTSD arises from events which are taboo to discuss (i.e., killing Afghani children suspected of planting an IED.) Collective trauma like 9/11 or the Coronavirus pandemic are shared experiences that people are willing to be open about without feeling shame or remorse.
But this is affecting every NFL player rn. And though our inclination is to suppose that is most acute with the Bengals and Bills who were a few feet away from their comrade fighting for his life, my ear noticed today that players far away, with no connection to either team, were deeply affected. Nobody thinks about mortality when they are 24. Everyone is aware of the risks of common injuries like torn ligaments or brain trauma. But
life/death emergency on the field. Yeah, that's not something any of the players had considered.
We're getting better about being open minded about the importance of mental health. But often when the rubber meets the road, I'm reminded
also not really.
The NFL has a tremendous opportunity right now to take the lead and reframe the importance of making space for effective mental health treatment. Like seriously, they could change the national conversation if they go about this in a deliberate and sensitive manner.