Caught wife texting another guy and hiding it - what's the play? (1 Viewer)

[Spin]

I have access to her facebook, email, phone, linkin etc and check it. She works from home so no office stuff. I know everywhere she go and with who.

I can barely keep up with my texts/facebook messages etc and pretty much miss anything that doesn't come directly to my phone. I couldn't imagine taking the time to log into separate accounts. G'luck man, I hope it all works out for ya.

 

[tonydead]

I have access to her facebook, email, phone, linkin etc and check it. She works from home so no office stuff. I know everywhere she go and with who.

Not quite chained up in the basement, but, close.

 

[xulf]

I have access to her facebook, email, phone, linkin etc and check it. She works from home so no office stuff. I know everywhere she go and with who.

While you are at work, couldn't she go out and just leave the phone? Or, what about a secondary phone, email address, facebook, etc?

 

[johnnycakes]

I have access to her facebook, email, phone, linkin etc and check it. She works from home so no office stuff. I know everywhere she go and with who.

While you are at work, couldn't she go out and just leave the phone? Or, what about a secondary phone, email address, facebook, etc?

Definitely... this happened to one of my wife's friends over the winter. Her friend was a registered nurse who worked days. She left for work one day but had to return home to retrieve something later that morning... big surprise... her husband and best friend in bed together. You never know.

 

[stlrams]

I have access to her facebook, email, phone, linkin etc and check it. She works from home so no office stuff. I know everywhere she go and with who.

While you are at work, couldn't she go out and just leave the phone? Or, what about a secondary phone, email address, facebook, etc?

I have access to her facebook, email, phone, linkin etc and check it. She works from home so no office stuff. I know everywhere she go and with who.

While you are at work, couldn't she go out and just leave the phone? Or, what about a secondary phone, email address, facebook, etc?

I have access to her facebook, email, phone, linkin etc and check it. She works from home so no office stuff. I know everywhere she go and with who.

While you are at work, couldn't she go out and just leave the phone? Or, what about a secondary phone, email address, facebook, etc?

She could but we have 2 kids still at home, I work 5 minutes from work and occassionly check the odometer milage so I know if any unknown trips made.... She is in total lockdown.

 

[Blind Tiger]

Jesus, there are issues here, but if you are really wondering what she is doing then stop wasting all your time and just hire a private investigator. If she's really up to something and she knows what you're tracking then you won't catch her.

However, the money would probably be better spent on therapy, either for you or for both of you so that you can get out of your own head.

 

[Spin]

She could but we have 2 kids still at home, I work 5 minutes from work and occassionly check the odometer milage so I know if any unknown trips made.... She is in total lockdown.

Holy hell man. Why go to these extremes if you believe her that it was just a couple of texts? Why would either of you want to live like this?

 

[DocHolliday]

I have access to her facebook, email, phone, linkin etc and check it. She works from home so no office stuff. I know everywhere she go and with who.

While you are at work, couldn't she go out and just leave the phone? Or, what about a secondary phone, email address, facebook, etc?

I have access to her facebook, email, phone, linkin etc and check it. She works from home so no office stuff. I know everywhere she go and with who.

While you are at work, couldn't she go out and just leave the phone? Or, what about a secondary phone, email address, facebook, etc?

I have access to her facebook, email, phone, linkin etc and check it. She works from home so no office stuff. I know everywhere she go and with who.

While you are at work, couldn't she go out and just leave the phone? Or, what about a secondary phone, email address, facebook, etc?

She could but we have 2 kids still at home, I work 5 minutes from work and occassionly check the odometer milage so I know if any unknown trips made.... She is in total lockdown.

I could not live like this. This seems so unhealthy for both of you. You would be much better off having a big discussion and making a simple decision of staying together or divorcing. If you decide to stay together, you have to decide that you trust her enough to give her freedom. All this tracking and monitoring is insane.

 

[Guest]

Damn, insecurity is the best way to make sure a SO is going to cheat. I've seen it first-hand. If she wasn't messing around before, she will now.

 

[cstu]

She could but we have 2 kids still at home, I work 5 minutes from work and occassionly check the odometer milage so I know if any unknown trips made.... She is in total lockdown.

Holy hell man. Why go to these extremes if you believe her that it was just a couple of texts? Why would either of you want to live like this?

But he totally trusts her.

 

[johnnycakes]

Does the OP ever stop by home during the day when she is supposed to be "working". If not, he should be. At least drive by for God's sake, to see if any strange car is there.

 

[tonydead]

More bad logic. Who knows what really happens when you go to work everyday, you better keep her locked up in the basement.


The insecurity in this thread is off the chart.

Not quite chained up in the basement, but, close.

.. She is in total lockdown.

 

[tonydead]

I have access to her facebook, email, phone, linkin etc and check it. She works from home so no office stuff. I know everywhere she go and with who.

You realize you can have more than one of all those, right?

 

[Grace Under Pressure]

Katie?

 

[SIDA!]

I have access to her facebook, email, phone, linkin etc and check it. She works from home so no office stuff. I know everywhere she go and with who.

While you are at work, couldn't she go out and just leave the phone? Or, what about a secondary phone, email address, facebook, etc?

Definitely... this happened to one of my wife's friends over the winter. Her friend was a registered nurse who worked days. She left for work one day but had to return home to retrieve something later that morning... big surprise... her husband and best friend in bed together. You never know.

A woman walking in and seeing her husband in the midst of the gay sechs has to really shake a woman's sexual self-confidence.

 

[SIDA!]

Hey OP...not sure if we got an answer to this question.

From the sound of it you seem incredibly confident that no physical cheating occurred, but you accept that she probably crossed some emotional lines of some sort when she started confiding in this guy, etc.

With all that said, if you were to find out today that she actually slept with the dude would that change anything about your current situation? Would you still try to work it out as you are doing now with the current restrictions or would you throw up your hands and leave?

 

[Green and Gold]

Yes, something very clearly happened, or was going to happen. Having the guy listed as Katie shows premeditation, and deleting everything shows guilt. If she didn't want her husband to see specific texts, she would have just deleted those. But basically wiping the phone and changing the password shows that she is feeling guilty.


This isn't to say anything physically happened, but something mental certainly did. Either way, it's up to the OP how he wants to handle it. I see nothing wrong with reconciling after a mental or physical affair, and I see nothing wrong with filing for divorce. It all depends on what matters to you.

Or, she was seeking an emotional connection that she wasn't getting from her husband anymore because he's too busy using her password to make sure she never chats, texts or talks to any other male ever.

Yes, I would qualify that as 'something mental happened.' When you go outside the marriage to seek emotional comfort from a man that isn't your husband, there is something happening. You're trying to assign the blame to him, or give a reason for her doing it, but that wasn't what I was talking about.

 

[humpback]

Yes, something very clearly happened, or was going to happen. Having the guy listed as Katie shows premeditation, and deleting everything shows guilt. If she didn't want her husband to see specific texts, she would have just deleted those. But basically wiping the phone and changing the password shows that she is feeling guilty.


This isn't to say anything physically happened, but something mental certainly did. Either way, it's up to the OP how he wants to handle it. I see nothing wrong with reconciling after a mental or physical affair, and I see nothing wrong with filing for divorce. It all depends on what matters to you.

Or, she was seeking an emotional connection that she wasn't getting from her husband anymore because he's too busy using her password to make sure she never chats, texts or talks to any other male ever.

The cyber stalking isn't helping the situation, but he wasn't doing those things until she lied to him and deleted everything.

 

[tonydead]

Yes, something very clearly happened, or was going to happen. Having the guy listed as Katie shows premeditation, and deleting everything shows guilt. If she didn't want her husband to see specific texts, she would have just deleted those. But basically wiping the phone and changing the password shows that she is feeling guilty.


This isn't to say anything physically happened, but something mental certainly did. Either way, it's up to the OP how he wants to handle it. I see nothing wrong with reconciling after a mental or physical affair, and I see nothing wrong with filing for divorce. It all depends on what matters to you.

Or, she was seeking an emotional connection that she wasn't getting from her husband anymore because he's too busy using her password to make sure she never chats, texts or talks to any other male ever.

The cyber stalking isn't helping the situation, but he wasn't doing those things until she lied to him and deleted everything.

 

[JohnnyU]

I have access to her facebook, email, phone, linkin etc and check it. She works from home so no office stuff. I know everywhere she go and with who.

Why would you want to be with a person you felt you have to keep tabs on where they are at all times? Why in the hell would you want to go through life always thinking about where she is and who she is with? If you can't get past that you're better off being single and so is she.

 

[humpback]

Yes, something very clearly happened, or was going to happen. Having the guy listed as Katie shows premeditation, and deleting everything shows guilt. If she didn't want her husband to see specific texts, she would have just deleted those. But basically wiping the phone and changing the password shows that she is feeling guilty.


This isn't to say anything physically happened, but something mental certainly did. Either way, it's up to the OP how he wants to handle it. I see nothing wrong with reconciling after a mental or physical affair, and I see nothing wrong with filing for divorce. It all depends on what matters to you.

Or, she was seeking an emotional connection that she wasn't getting from her husband anymore because he's too busy using her password to make sure she never chats, texts or talks to any other male ever.

The cyber stalking isn't helping the situation, but he wasn't doing those things until she lied to him and deleted everything.

Pretty sure he would have known about this much earlier if he was.

 

[Cjw_55106]

Tony seems to have a pretty vested interest in defending the wife. Perhaps we should be calling him Katie?

 

[Jnox]

Longest ever I think

 

[tonydead]

Tony seems to have a pretty vested interest in defending the wife. Perhaps we should be calling him Katie?

Link to where I defended her directly?

I agree with the johnycakes post below and to me it was obvious his insecurity is at least part of the problem. The fact she is in "lock down" now should prove that point.

I don't know but I've been told marital problems are rarely entirely the fault of one spouse.

Damn, insecurity is the best way to make sure a SO is going to cheat. I've seen it first-hand. If she wasn't messing around before, she will now.

 

[encaitar]

I have access to her facebook, email, phone, linkin etc and check it. She works from home so no office stuff. I know everywhere she go and with who.

This just sounds exhausting.

 

[sbonomo]

I have access to her facebook, email, phone, linkin etc and check it. She works from home so no office stuff. I know everywhere she go and with who.

While you are at work, couldn't she go out and just leave the phone? Or, what about a secondary phone, email address, facebook, etc?

I have access to her facebook, email, phone, linkin etc and check it. She works from home so no office stuff. I know everywhere she go and with who.

While you are at work, couldn't she go out and just leave the phone? Or, what about a secondary phone, email address, facebook, etc?

I have access to her facebook, email, phone, linkin etc and check it. She works from home so no office stuff. I know everywhere she go and with who.

While you are at work, couldn't she go out and just leave the phone? Or, what about a secondary phone, email address, facebook, etc?

She could but we have 2 kids still at home, I work 5 minutes from work and occassionly check the odometer milage so I know if any unknown trips made.... She is in total lockdown.

Psycho - Party of one. Your life must be miserable.

 

[tonydead]

And by the way, if you agree that both spouses bear some responsibility for most all marital problems: The reason I'm focused on his issues is because those are the only one's he can really control. Trying to solve anything she is doing by brute force is only magnifying his own issues and making things worse.

 

[Green and Gold]

And by the way, if you agree that both spouses bear some responsibility for most all marital problems: The reason I'm focused on his issues is because those are the only one's he can really control. Trying to solve anything she is doing by brute force is only magnifying his own issues and making things worse.

I have to agree with this. If you're at the point where you need to monitor everything she does, it's over. It may take time, it may be messy, but it's over.

 

[Otis]

Checking all her electronic accounts and cell 24/7 and monitoring the odometer reading on the car? Sounds like a nice way to live...

 

[Caesar]

I have access to her facebook, email, phone, linkin etc and check it. She works from home so no office stuff. I know everywhere she go and with who.

While you are at work, couldn't she go out and just leave the phone? Or, what about a secondary phone, email address, facebook, etc?

I have access to her facebook, email, phone, linkin etc and check it. She works from home so no office stuff. I know everywhere she go and with who.

While you are at work, couldn't she go out and just leave the phone? Or, what about a secondary phone, email address, facebook, etc?

I have access to her facebook, email, phone, linkin etc and check it. She works from home so no office stuff. I know everywhere she go and with who.

While you are at work, couldn't she go out and just leave the phone? Or, what about a secondary phone, email address, facebook, etc?

She could but we have 2 kids still at home, I work 5 minutes from work and occassionly check the odometer milage so I know if any unknown trips made.... She is in total lockdown.

Might I also suggest you frequently change the locks on the shackles you make her wear all day while you are at work. You wouldn't want her to figure out a way to copy the key and run to the supermarket. She could gang bang 12 dudes in the milk section without you ever knowing. HTH.

 

[James Daulton]

She must be really hot, a great lay, and cooks like boss.

 

[johnnycakes]

She must be really hot, a great lay, and cooks like boss.

My wife gets 2/3.

 

[(HULK)]

Things are going well. She really open and even put find my iphone so I can track her... I still think we were in a rut this snap us out of it... Call it a mid-life crisis..

Did she ever give you the truth about why shy deleted everything?ntil 8pm

She said she was scared as I talk about recovering all the deleted texts and putting software that would allowme to see everything on her phone in real time. I still believe she just hung out with guy one night until 8pm and then was texting for roughly 3 weeks. The texts were probabley about how bad her relationship was.

So, no, she didn't tell the truth then

 

[James Daulton]

She must be really hot, a great lay, and cooks like boss.

My wife gets 2/3.

I get 3 for 3!

Wifey, not so much...

 

[belljr]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9_zaVcOBZZY

 

[sbonomo]

She must be really hot, a great lay, and cooks like boss.

My wife gets 2/3.

So what do you say when your wife asks if she is pretty #powerofdeduction

 

[Soulfly3]

Which one of your parents cheated on the other?

This is learned behavior

 

[MaxThreshold]

And by the way, if you agree that both spouses bear some responsibility for most all marital problems: The reason I'm focused on his issues is because those are the only one's he can really control. Trying to solve anything she is doing by brute force is only magnifying his own issues and making things worse.

I have to agree with this. If you're at the point where you need to monitor everything she does, it's over. It may take time, it may be messy, but it's over.

this.

 

[johnnycakes]

She must be really hot, a great lay, and cooks like boss.

My wife gets 2/3.

So what do you say when your wife asks if she is pretty #powerofdeduction

I tell her she's got a great body.

 

[Tick]

Things are going well. She really open and even put find my iphone so I can track her... I still think we were in a rut this snap us out of it... Call it a mid-life crisis..

Was this written in Chinese, then translated into English?

 

[BustedKnuckles]

Just have an open relationship and none of this crap ever matters ...