1. you are falling for her "I wasn't really going to do anything" excuse way too easily2. your wife wanted to have the secks with another man....I repeat, your wife wanted to have the secks with another man3. that is how little your relationship means to her...no matter what she says now that she has been "caught"many relationships have survived even worse cases of infidelity......so maybe there is hope.......and it appears that you may have a different set of expectations, etc when it comes to relationships ....I have never gotten in to all of the "gaming" etc that is done on line and I think I am very glad.....I don't have time.....I'm surprised if many real people in real relationships have time......it seems the amount of time that this type of stuff would require would take away a great deal from family time/activities/relationship building/etc.......if the two of you spend that much time on these things and it has consumed your life to the point where her buying you some fake epic mount or something seems to make up for what she has done, maybe you guys have issues that others just won't be able to understand or give the proper advice on.....sounds like maybe you deserve each other and not much will change as far as the gaming goes......and if that is the case, it will happen again.....even after your week off that you spend together you are not all of a sudden going to become mr. studmuffin in her eyes......she will give you the "required" make up attention that you need and maybe more secks or something for awhile....but it will happen again in some shape, form, or fashion.....sometimes the things behind the thought process of your significant other planning to do something like this is worse than them actually doing something like this......I hope you can get that out of your head......not sure I couldand lastly.....not trying to sound judgemental....but if you really want to work things out.....I would say the gaming for both of you has to go.......spend more time with your kids or something...... good luck....seriously........