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bentley
Footballguy
El Floppo
Footballguy
ok- easy-weasy.
you've got the bike and the jersey... the hard part's out of the way- the rest will work itself out.
Captain Quinoa
Footballguy
Frostillicus
Footballguy
Went alumni burger. It was pretty fantastic. Fries were good too. Also got to try a bit of the spanish fly which was amazing and I should have gone with that. They have a dry rubbed wing too that was one of the best I've ever had. Would recommend.
Frostillicus
Footballguy
They also have a bowling alley in the basement so we bowled a game. I bowled a 116. My daughter, with no bumpers but with a ramp, put up a 107. Son managed a 46.
Hawks64
Footballguy
Late to the party, but how much do you want to spend and what are you looking to accomplish with the final result?St. Louis Bob said:
ETA I saw 1-2k. Question do you want to use a receiver (equipment that takes the sound from the cable/sat TV, BluRay, Xbox/PS, etc and amplifies it to your speakers) or do you want something simple with a single speaker that you plug your TV into for the sound?
Kinda of my hobby, I used to use Paradigm speakers like tommyboy until they went to #### and now am using GoldenEar (the founder of Polk Audio and then Definitive Technology).
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Hawks64
Footballguy
Henry Ford
Footballguy
It was more of a quiz show thing than a sports thing, but there was a shuttlecock involved.
Officer Pete Malloy
Footballguy
Wife and I were talking about this laundry basket we have that is filled with mismatched socks.
I said something like "I bet if you looked in there long enough you could find a matching pair."
She said "I bet if you looked long enough you could find John Gotti in there."
I said something like "I bet if you looked in there long enough you could find a matching pair."
She said "I bet if you looked long enough you could find John Gotti in there."
Homer J Simpson
I don't push
I have a feeling that your son's athletic exploits will be a source of humor for decades to come. Looking forward to it.
Captain Quinoa
Footballguy
Let me guess. They play soccer.Wife said 1000000% no to this to meMy wallet thanks her though.
Dan Lambskin
Footballguy
My boss coaches travel hockey...seems like he's always gone for some tournament or trying to raise money for the team via various fundraisers
I'm sure it's fun but it seems like you have to committ so much time and effort to it
I'm sure it's fun but it seems like you have to committ so much time and effort to it
Hawks64
Footballguy
One is in club swimming and one is in gymnastics.Let me guess. They play soccer.Wife said 1000000% no to this to me
Hawks64
Footballguy
Swimming is pretty much 5 days a week for about 10mths a year. Gymnastics is year round but he's not on the competition team yet.
Captain Quinoa
Footballguy
Depends on the organization. I've heard anywhere from $2k to $8k for fees, plus equipment and travel expenses.
Travel depends on where you are located. We basically travel once a month from Sept to Feb with an occasional day trip to somewhere within a couple hours. Detroit teams can travel a lot less since there are so many teams around.
Hawks64
Footballguy
For Illinois swimmers, if you make the cuts, you will swim in Indianapolis and Wisconsin or Iowa.
Frostillicus
Footballguy
The good news is he really enjoys it and is pretty much obsessed with sports so at least I know he's going to try hard. He's also just four, so hopefully he still develops some of his sister's coordination but when she was his age you could already tell she was athletically gifted. Him, not so much, but he can hit a ball off a tee at least.I have a feeling that your son's athletic exploits will be a source of humor for decades to come. Looking forward to it.
Mr.Pack
Footballguy
He'll fit right in at the University of Minn.I have a feeling that your son's athletic exploits will be a source of humor for decades to come. Looking forward to it.
shuke
Black Ice Skeptic
Limp Ditka
Footballguy
Update: sperm 'donor' was met in an AA meeting
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Officer Pete Malloy
Footballguy
Rules
Officer Pete Malloy
Footballguy
Officer Pete Malloy
Footballguy
Officer Pete Malloy
Footballguy
Sick of carrying these guys. http://data2.finalsite.com/cf65/saintxavier/data/media/display/3654.jpg?v=032315165447
Frostillicus
Footballguy
Frostillicus
Footballguy
Officer Pete Malloy
Footballguy
cstu
Footballguy
Hawks64
Footballguy
Ditkaless Wonders
Footballguy
Why do extremely pale, chubby adolescents keep ringing my doorbell on the weekends and then asking me, a stranger, to fund their vacations? I don't care about your band camp, religious retreat, or hockey tournament. I do not care about your soccer team having an opportunity to compete in a tournament at Disney world. I don't come to their door, interrupt overtime between Michigan State and Louisville, and ask them to fund my once in a lifetime opportunity to go to New Zealand.
Captain Quinoa
Footballguy
kevzilla
Footballguy
Osaurus
Footballguy
You know it!Osaurus and I are going to cornhole in Vegas later this week.
RedmondLonghorn
Footballguy
TL; DR summary: My kids are breaking my heart
I am sorry to dump this crap here, but I need to vent to somebody who isn't neck deep in it. The stuff with my two older kids has gotten so bad, I am at the end of my rope.
Yesterday was my daughter's 12th birthday. By a cruel twist of fate, it also happens to be Wife 2.0's birthday. Daughter clearly hates here step-mom and step-mom isn't crazy about daughter. She came over to our house at noon. She had nothing new to say, so got to do chores around the house for 4-5 hours, before company arrived. What a terrible way for her to spend her birthday, yet she has chosen that path, over and over again.
Older son returned from out of town baseball tourney while family was here for birthday observances. Was jovial and sociable while others were around.
After family left, we asked both why they have refused to take any of the steps they need to take to resolve the situation. Asked them how we are supposed to interpret their inaction, in light of other things they have said (i.e. that they know they have done wrong, that they don't hate me, that they want things to be better): blank stares in return. Asked them a number of other questions, hoping to drive a conversation, ranging from the complex to the mundane and received either blank stares or mumbled, unilluminating answers. My tone was quiet and respectful of them as people, because things have become loud and angry recently and I thought maybe ratcheting the tension back down might work. It did not. They clearly want to continue to push my buttons and/or they have been well coached in how to do so. They also showed no real concern over the impact of their actions on me or my wife.
They are so lacking in empathy and unaccountable, I have no idea what to do. They are clearly being coached by my ex-wife to not engage and she clearly continues to provide them interpretations of what is going on that takes all of the responsibility off of their shoulders. Whether she does this out of just being an enabler or out of spite towards me and Wife 2.0, I don't know. But it is probably both.
We feel like the only option we have is to continue to ratchet up the consequences, until they can at least break out of the pattern out of self-interest. Then maybe we can have some real discussion and make some progress. We told my oldest that baseball is a privelege, not a right, and that unless he takes some steps, he simply will not go to any baseball activities while he is in our care (about 1/3 of the time). I also told him I would explain to his coach (who he respects and loves) just what is going on so he understands. He did not like that one bit, but didn't lose his cool: his stare just went from blank to angry and resentful for a moment, then back to blank.
I was busy working this morning, but my son came in and gave me an apology that was limited in scope, but at least felt somewhat sincere. My daughter came in and gave me something that was nowhere near as good as that. My son said that he felt he remained tongue-tied because he and my daughter have apologized in the past only to be told that it wasn't good enough and get yelled at. He said he felt as if Wife 2.0 and I were "baiting a trap" for them. I illustrated to him why that wasn't true by pointing out that once his little brother gave us a real apology, things changed rather dramatically. He was forced to concede that was accurate.
But the "baiting the trap" comment was significant to me in a couple of ways. First it tells me that they are clearly being coached/confused by my ex-wife, because that seems like a phrase that would have come from her. Second, it suggests that he still blames me for the situation, rather than admitting to himself that he caused it. Still, he actually seemed like he was sorry and that wall that he has up came down at least a bit. I told him he needs to say his piece to Wife 2.0 too. I was very busy with work this AM and she was giving them all a ride to school.
After she dropped the kids off my wife comes home and tells me neither my son or daughter said a word to her. I can't help but get a little optimistic every time they show even the slightest sign of things getting through to them, but I am disappointed every time. I figure my son bought himself this afternoon to prevent me from calling his baseball coach (he doesn't have a practice or game tonight, so it can be put off a little). It is the last thing I want to do but I feel like I don't have any choice.
All of this hurts so much. My previous wife, who is a real piece of work, left me, but somehow two of my kids have ended up behaving as if they hate me and blame me for everything. They hate my new wife, who is the best partner I could ever ask for. The stress of all of this has made her so unhappy and has caused massive strain in our relationship. I would never do it, but for only the second time in my life I understand how people become desperate enough to take their own lives.
I am sorry to dump this crap here, but I need to vent to somebody who isn't neck deep in it. The stuff with my two older kids has gotten so bad, I am at the end of my rope.
Yesterday was my daughter's 12th birthday. By a cruel twist of fate, it also happens to be Wife 2.0's birthday. Daughter clearly hates here step-mom and step-mom isn't crazy about daughter. She came over to our house at noon. She had nothing new to say, so got to do chores around the house for 4-5 hours, before company arrived. What a terrible way for her to spend her birthday, yet she has chosen that path, over and over again.
Older son returned from out of town baseball tourney while family was here for birthday observances. Was jovial and sociable while others were around.
After family left, we asked both why they have refused to take any of the steps they need to take to resolve the situation. Asked them how we are supposed to interpret their inaction, in light of other things they have said (i.e. that they know they have done wrong, that they don't hate me, that they want things to be better): blank stares in return. Asked them a number of other questions, hoping to drive a conversation, ranging from the complex to the mundane and received either blank stares or mumbled, unilluminating answers. My tone was quiet and respectful of them as people, because things have become loud and angry recently and I thought maybe ratcheting the tension back down might work. It did not. They clearly want to continue to push my buttons and/or they have been well coached in how to do so. They also showed no real concern over the impact of their actions on me or my wife.
They are so lacking in empathy and unaccountable, I have no idea what to do. They are clearly being coached by my ex-wife to not engage and she clearly continues to provide them interpretations of what is going on that takes all of the responsibility off of their shoulders. Whether she does this out of just being an enabler or out of spite towards me and Wife 2.0, I don't know. But it is probably both.
We feel like the only option we have is to continue to ratchet up the consequences, until they can at least break out of the pattern out of self-interest. Then maybe we can have some real discussion and make some progress. We told my oldest that baseball is a privelege, not a right, and that unless he takes some steps, he simply will not go to any baseball activities while he is in our care (about 1/3 of the time). I also told him I would explain to his coach (who he respects and loves) just what is going on so he understands. He did not like that one bit, but didn't lose his cool: his stare just went from blank to angry and resentful for a moment, then back to blank.
I was busy working this morning, but my son came in and gave me an apology that was limited in scope, but at least felt somewhat sincere. My daughter came in and gave me something that was nowhere near as good as that. My son said that he felt he remained tongue-tied because he and my daughter have apologized in the past only to be told that it wasn't good enough and get yelled at. He said he felt as if Wife 2.0 and I were "baiting a trap" for them. I illustrated to him why that wasn't true by pointing out that once his little brother gave us a real apology, things changed rather dramatically. He was forced to concede that was accurate.
But the "baiting the trap" comment was significant to me in a couple of ways. First it tells me that they are clearly being coached/confused by my ex-wife, because that seems like a phrase that would have come from her. Second, it suggests that he still blames me for the situation, rather than admitting to himself that he caused it. Still, he actually seemed like he was sorry and that wall that he has up came down at least a bit. I told him he needs to say his piece to Wife 2.0 too. I was very busy with work this AM and she was giving them all a ride to school.
After she dropped the kids off my wife comes home and tells me neither my son or daughter said a word to her. I can't help but get a little optimistic every time they show even the slightest sign of things getting through to them, but I am disappointed every time. I figure my son bought himself this afternoon to prevent me from calling his baseball coach (he doesn't have a practice or game tonight, so it can be put off a little). It is the last thing I want to do but I feel like I don't have any choice.
All of this hurts so much. My previous wife, who is a real piece of work, left me, but somehow two of my kids have ended up behaving as if they hate me and blame me for everything. They hate my new wife, who is the best partner I could ever ask for. The stress of all of this has made her so unhappy and has caused massive strain in our relationship. I would never do it, but for only the second time in my life I understand how people become desperate enough to take their own lives.
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kevzilla
Footballguy
El Floppo
Footballguy
-fish-
Footballguy
RedmondLonghorn
Footballguy
We've discussed that. But I don't know what that would do with my ex-wife clearly poisoning the well on her end. She would never agree to be part of it. And even if she were, it wouldn't be helpful if she was. I know, I went through marriage counseling with her. Nothing is ever her fault.
