This sounds like me and my wife. She needs backup plans for the backup plans whereas I like to see if the original plan is going to work before worrying about anything else.I need some perspective here and this seems like a good thread. My wife isn't the only one that does this but obviously the most exposure. I totally understand needing to plan for things but the amount of over thinking and scenarios, and what abouts for smaller stuff frustrates me. I'm just wondering if I'm in the minority. I know this is just a difference in personality, I'm just curious
Example, family is coming at the end of May for my son's wedding. The Saturday of that weekend my daughter may or may not have practice for the playoffs. There are no wedding activities Saturday. So the question was raised why don't we do X Saturday. I say if we don't have practice sure or maybe after practice. Then I get how about Y or Z. Or if no practice we do ABC but if she has practice you go to Y and then we do Z.
So basically I said why don't we just wait until we find out if they have it. If she has practice it will be from 9-11 like the others. We won't know until that week.
This is just the lastest example. I'm all for needing to have a plan but it feels like wasted time and energy coming up with a bunch of scenarios for something we don't know yet. This happens a lot.
I kind of always take a wait and see approach before deciding vs these are all our potential options, which is more common for you?
I’ll eat these Ritz crackers in there and that’s it - then throw one over my neighbors houseLOOK AT ME I HAVE A CLEAN, WHITE GARAGE WHERE I CAN PROBABLY EAT OFF THE FLOOR
LMNOPI need some perspective here and this seems like a good thread. My wife isn't the only one that does this but obviously the most exposure. I totally understand needing to plan for things but the amount of over thinking and scenarios, and what abouts for smaller stuff frustrates me. I'm just wondering if I'm in the minority. I know this is just a difference in personality, I'm just curious
Example, family is coming at the end of May for my son's wedding. The Saturday of that weekend my daughter may or may not have practice for the playoffs. There are no wedding activities Saturday. So the question was raised why don't we do X Saturday. I say if we don't have practice sure or maybe after practice. Then I get how about Y or Z. Or if no practice we do ABC but if she has practice you go to Y and then we do Z.
So basically I said why don't we just wait until we find out if they have it. If she has practice it will be from 9-11 like the others. We won't know until that week.
This is just the lastest example. I'm all for needing to have a plan but it feels like wasted time and energy coming up with a bunch of scenarios for something we don't know yet. This happens a lot.
I kind of always take a wait and see approach before deciding vs these are all our potential options, which is more common for you?
Perhaps you could keep something like this handy?yeah, i'm in this boat.
i've said to my wife in the past "if i make plans, then you tell me i'm controlling you. if i don't make plans, then you get upset that i'm not making plans because i know you can't." and her response is "yeah "
OOOOOHHHH.....LOOK AT ME!!!!!!!!!!! i have nearly the entire line of ryobi cordless tools!! same battery #####es!!I’ll eat these Ritz crackers in there and that’s it - then throw one over my neighbors house
https://imgur.com/gallery/gXvjbnG
I mean, shuke can, too. It's just not clean. Or white.LOOK AT ME I HAVE A CLEAN, WHITE GARAGE WHERE I CAN PROBABLY EAT OFF THE FLOOR
I think it's too late for him to not get married in the first place.GO WITH YOUR FIRST INSTINCT...IT'S USUALLY RIGHT
I would absolutely be down for grabbing some beer and crackers but I’m camping Thursday-Saturday. PM if you could swing a Sunday cornhole.OOOOOHHHH.....LOOK AT ME!!!!!!!!!!! i have nearly the entire line of ryobi cordless tools!! same battery #####es!!
envious actually. i only have a few. would love them all.
also: i will be in GA this weekend. care to share some of those ritz? i'll be driving from atlanta to rome, on saturday. i sent you t-shirts and beer. :notastalker: that's why i know where you're at.
Oh, and I’ll lose my man card for this but the majority of those tools are my wife’s and my 19 year old sons. He built that table in the pick and my wife does custom crafts. I drink beer and watch and pay for supplies.OOOOOHHHH.....LOOK AT ME!!!!!!!!!!! i have nearly the entire line of ryobi cordless tools!! same battery #####es!!
envious actually. i only have a few. would love them all.
also: i will be in GA this weekend. care to share some of those ritz? i'll be driving from atlanta to rome, on saturday. i sent you t-shirts and beer. :notastalker: that's why i know where you're at.
quite possible. i fly out, in the evening, on sunday. the wife will love it.I would absolutely be down for grabbing some beer and crackers but I’m camping Thursday-Saturday. PM if you could swing a Sunday cornhole.
What's the deal with flying into LA now? I see a whole bunch of conflicting information about non-vaccinated people having to quarantine or have a negative test. Roverkid is supposed to be looking at some colleges this week/weekend.quite possible. i fly out, in the evening, on sunday. the wife will love it.
Haven’t heard anyth8ng. We last flew out of LAX in late Jan. No issues. I fly out of John Wayne, whenever possible. I don’t think any testing requirements are in place.What's the deal with flying into LA now? I see a whole bunch of conflicting information about non-vaccinated people having to quarantine or have a negative test. Roverkid is supposed to be looking at some colleges this week/weekend.
I usually leave everything to the regulars here, but best wishes sent your way from me. I was glad to see you had posted and came in to read your usual humor, but this is tough news. I am very sorry to hear it. I hope your father-in-law pulls through, Frostillicus. Best to you and your family. I'll ask for a watchful eye. Peace.Once upon a time, over ten years ago, this thread helped me through a lot is difficulties when my son was born. Now he is a completely happy and healthy kid.
I know I’m not around anymore, but I’m coming back because my father in law is in the hospital with Covid and it is not good. He has been sick for two weeks, been in the hospital twice, and ever time it seems like he takes a step forward he takes two steps back.
he was able to FaceTime us this morning, but we just learned he is now being intubated and placed on a ventilator. They had him call his wife to tell her he loved her because he is now basically in a coma with tubes doing everything. He is 50/50 to live or die. At best.
if you were here for Bennett or not, throw some of those good vibes out.
Not a lot of prayers people in here but I'm one of them and i said one for him and I'm sure others did too. Love to you and the family.Once upon a time, over ten years ago, this thread helped me through a lot is difficulties when my son was born. Now he is a completely happy and healthy kid.
I know I’m not around anymore, but I’m coming back because my father in law is in the hospital with Covid and it is not good. He has been sick for two weeks, been in the hospital twice, and ever time it seems like he takes a step forward he takes two steps back.
he was able to FaceTime us this morning, but we just learned he is now being intubated and placed on a ventilator. They had him call his wife to tell her he loved her because he is now basically in a coma with tubes doing everything. He is 50/50 to live or die. At best.
if you were here for Bennett or not, throw some of those good vibes out.
Once upon a time, over ten years ago, this thread helped me through a lot is difficulties when my son was born. Now he is a completely happy and healthy kid.
I know I’m not around anymore, but I’m coming back because my father in law is in the hospital with Covid and it is not good. He has been sick for two weeks, been in the hospital twice, and ever time it seems like he takes a step forward he takes two steps back.
he was able to FaceTime us this morning, but we just learned he is now being intubated and placed on a ventilator. They had him call his wife to tell her he loved her because he is now basically in a coma with tubes doing everything. He is 50/50 to live or die. At best.
if you were here for Bennett or not, throw some of those good vibes out.
SameNot a lot of prayers people in here but I'm one of them and i said one for him and I'm sure others did too. Love to you and the family.9 hours ago, Frostillicus said:
Once upon a time, over ten years ago, this thread helped me through a lot is difficulties when my son was born. Now he is a completely happy and healthy kid.
I know I’m not around anymore, but I’m coming back because my father in law is in the hospital with Covid and it is not good. He has been sick for two weeks, been in the hospital twice, and ever time it seems like he takes a step forward he takes two steps back.
he was able to FaceTime us this morning, but we just learned he is now being intubated and placed on a ventilator. They had him call his wife to tell her he loved her because he is now basically in a coma with tubes doing everything. He is 50/50 to live or die. At best.
if you were here for Bennett or not, throw some of those good vibes out.
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Really sorry to hear Frosty. All the positive thoprawishes heading your way.Once upon a time, over ten years ago, this thread helped me through a lot is difficulties when my son was born. Now he is a completely happy and healthy kid.
I know I’m not around anymore, but I’m coming back because my father in law is in the hospital with Covid and it is not good. He has been sick for two weeks, been in the hospital twice, and ever time it seems like he takes a step forward he takes two steps back.
he was able to FaceTime us this morning, but we just learned he is now being intubated and placed on a ventilator. They had him call his wife to tell her he loved her because he is now basically in a coma with tubes doing everything. He is 50/50 to live or die. At best.
if you were here for Bennett or not, throw some of those good vibes out.
Feels like a few years ago when we had nothing but bad news from all denizens of the thread for like 6 months straight. So sorry to hear this fish. I can't offer any words other than condolences and again, an ear or a shoulder if neededRoverkid is in LA looking at colleges. One of her best friends died of an overdose of Percocet yesterday. He was a great kid and was at my house 3-4 days a week. I don’t even know where to begin. I’ve been crying about once an hour all day. I can’t even imagine how she feels.
I don’t know his parents, but I don’t know how you deal with something like this.
I have been digging into things. Roverkid no longer has a car. I’m about to take her phone. I have clear evidence that she has been lying to me about where she’s been and she’s been doing. Her mom does not believe me and roverkid blocked my phone. She’s gonna be in for a surprise when she wakes up and figured outFeels like a few years ago when we had nothing but bad news from all denizens of the thread for like 6 months straight. So sorry to hear this fish. I can't offer any words other than condolences and again, an ear or a shoulder if needed
Oh man that sucks. Sounds like this is going to get really messy and difficult. Prayers for your family fish. I hope your daughter comes out of this thankful for your tough love and wisdom.I have been digging into things. Roverkid no longer has a car. I’m about to take her phone. I have clear evidence that she has been lying to me about where she’s been and she’s been doing. Her mom does not believe me and roverkid blocked my phone. She’s gonna be in for a surprise when she wakes up and figured out
That’s extra rough. Gotta be tough on both your wife and daughter for your wife to need to be away on your daughter’s birthday like that. I’m sure your wife feels torn even though she’s obviously where she is more needed. Prayers for your family too Frosty.Thanks all. I will keep you updated. Right now he is in a medical induced coma to allow his body to heal. The doctors have said at this point this will likely be a long term thing. He will likely require physical therapy due to loss of muscle and may be in a wheelchair for a while. This assumes he survives, which is far from a sure thing. My wife is out in Utah with her family now, which brings me no small measure of comfort.
It is my daughter's 13th birthday tomorrow, so I am her with her and a couple of her friends sleeping over (parents are vaxxed and cautious type). This is less comfortable. They are loud and I have been kicked out of my living room.
I am so sorry you have to go through this. I went through this with my daughter in ninth grade.I have been digging into things. Roverkid no longer has a car. I’m about to take her phone. I have clear evidence that she has been lying to me about where she’s been and she’s been doing. Her mom does not believe me and roverkid blocked my phone. She’s gonna be in for a surprise when she wakes up and figured out
Hang in there. My only thought is just don't underestimate how valuable not breaking relationship is.I have been digging into things. Roverkid no longer has a car. I’m about to take her phone. I have clear evidence that she has been lying to me about where she’s been and she’s been doing. Her mom does not believe me and roverkid blocked my phone. She’s gonna be in for a surprise when she wakes up and figured out
Part of being a successful grown up is learning to lie.I have been digging into things. Roverkid no longer has a car. I’m about to take her phone. I have clear evidence that she has been lying to me about where she’s been and she’s been doing. Her mom does not believe me and roverkid blocked my phone. She’s gonna be in for a surprise when she wakes up and figured out
So you want him to liePart of being a successful grown up is learning to lie.
Part of being a good adult is learning the consequences of lying, especially to people who matter to you.
This is a really difficult time to teach lessons but they are lessons that need to the taught because they are literally life and death and that is the thing that makes this so important just make sure she understands how much you are affected by this and how much you want to are sure it never happens to her and how much you and her mom both love her and that you aren't mad you're scared.
Best of luck dude. And if you’re willing to share, I’d like to hear what happened. Text or call if you want. I want to learn as much as possible, as my daughter approaches that same age.Honestly, if this was me in high school I would have chosen Hawaii
This is me too.Best of luck dude. And if you’re willing to share, I’d like to hear what happened. Text or call if you want. I want to learn as much as possible, as my daughter approaches that same age.
Not tonight just flew home.
She was lying about lots of things, but some involving her friend groups’ use of drugs and alcohol.This is me too.
I was feeling for you, Fish, ever since the first post. I'm sure you kept things purposely vague, so it was impossible for me to understand or get what happened. Was she lying about stuff involving her friend that ODd or was that terrible news unrelated to the lying?
Teenagers suck. Plus my ex wife is an enabler who won't actually parent. I lay the law down and she undermines me. every. damn. time.It’s really hard fish. Hang in there
My daughter’s friends are really difficult to deal with. They are all in such a hurry to grow up. constantly Acting the fool. Pretending and real whoring it up. Social media is the f’ing WORST.
My daughter is in Maui as we speak with her cousins. Her cousin’s best friend, just got in huge trouble for sneaking out and having sex. She’s 14 or 15. That friend has been grounded and cut off from everyone by her parents. It’s been really hard on my niece. So my kid is acting as a distraction/therapy for her cousin.
Both my daughter and my niece are on the more immature end. Not naive, just happy to still be a kid. They’re not into the whore photo shoots for tik tok. Not boy crazy. Etc. gonna keep it like that for as long as possible.
You need anything, call.
I would imagine he's pretty mad. If my daughter were consistently lying to me, I'd be pissed. A little scared, too? In this situation, probably. But plenty mad.I don't get this?