Otis > any difference in the neighborhoods? Does one have more kids for your kids to play with growing up?
Also, it feels like you're saying your only choices are to stay or buy this other house... I don't know what the market is like there, but what are the chances that another house in the area goes up for sale in the next 6 months? I'd have to think pretty good?
I guess what I'm saying is from what you wrote, it sounds like the right move might be to move... but maybe not to that one other spot you're looking at.
Good questions. Yes, your right, we aren't limited to this specific house. We are expecting lots more to hit the market in the next couple months. The neighborhood is as good as ours. Frankly, neither has a ton of little kids running around, but people out here do "play dates" and classes and crap like that where you go over to people's houses. A new house, regardless of which we buy, would have more flat land, and thus more area for kids to run around.
But these are all different neighborhoods in the same town. We won't leave this town.
Of course there is the issue of having to sell before we buy. So while we are casually looking at houses now to see what we can get, our area is tough to get into due to demand even at the higher price points we would look at. So if we found something tomorrow, unless they would take a contingency (they won't), we still couldn't buy it. I've thought about bridge loans or something like that, but they probably wont work. So we would have to sell and then hope something we like comes available, or else rent. Bottom line is if we do move, I'd like to do it just once more and not again later. We have two terrors now and plan to try for 1-2 more which is why a house with lots of space and bedrooms is appealing to me (would be great to have a spare also as an office and guest room).
I would miss some of the really unique things I love about our house, but more and more it's seeming like moving is the better option.
I do have some concern that the bigger mortgage (like double) will force me to keep a high paying but high pressure job longer in life, but if I can eek out 10 years at my current salary level, we should be able to pay off even the higher priced house, or most of it, in that time frame. Taxes are high, but if that's all we had to pay to live there on a monthly basis after that, it would be a sweet deal. So I don't want to get in over my head and be housepoor, but knock wood I've had the same job for 15 years and it has been stable and I'm doing well enough in it, that I think I should be ok. Worst case scenario the floor falls out from under us and we have to move. Not the end of the world I guess.
But there is no middle ground by us. Homes are crazy expensive, and based on all wet have seen, we have to spend more than double what we paid diet our current home to get s significant upgrade. Otherwise in this market if you won't spend that, it's a lateral move.
Just a tough decision. And now I'm rambling.