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I have been debating since the weekend to post about this, but decided to do it. Mental health has such a stigma and I am guilty of not being as informed as I should have. Anyway if anyone has some experience with this please respond or DM me as I am at a real crossroads.
Bare with me as this may ramble...
My oldest was Diagnosed with Bipolar 1 almost 2 years ago when she was 18. She has battled depression through her teens and had began cutting herself at 13. She has always lived with her mom and step father (who are good people and we are working together to help our daughter. When she graduated HS she went off to college but didnt make through 1st semester. she went into a deep depression and dropped out. she expressed to a school councilor that she was having suicidal thoughts and they called us. We got her back to her moms and tried to get her into a facility but she refused to go and then late one night she left her moms house and showed up on my doorstep ( her mom and I live a couple hours apart.) The next day I and my wife took her to a local therapist who did an evaluation and deem she didnt need to go into hospital but could use intense daily counselling which we did for about a month then went to 2 days a week and then 1 day a week which it has been ever since. In the meantime she was given Vraylar for her disorder. And for the last year and a half it was been working well. She still had momnets of depression and moments of mania but the seemed to be less severe. She was able to get and keep a job for last year and recently she has expressed interest in moving into an apartment with a girl she works with
. I have noticed she has been a little manic the last month with all the classic symptoms, not eating much, very little sleep, tons of energy etc. But things took a very bad turn last friday.
Out of the blue she announces to my wife and I that she is psychic and can see the future and how we are all going to die. She tells us that a war is coming and she is going to be a warrior and change the world. And then she went to work... or so we thought. She actually drove to meet a guy she met online who from my understanding has been feeding into her mania and delusions. anyway she kept in contact with me and I tried all weekend to get her to come home. and I wasn't until Monday that did(with the help of her friend that she wanted to move in with)
When we got her home I disabled her car which is in my name.( I carry the insurance and will NOT be giving it back to her any time soon). so she couldn't leave again and we talked her into admitting herself to the hospital yesterday morning. she did they evaluated her and then put her in their pysch unit. Because of COVID she cant have visitors so I am left to communicate by phone with her. I spoke with her last night and she was very agitated and this morning she hung up on me after she said she was going to check herself out. I called the social worker who said the Dr would have to make that determination and if he deems her not a threat then he will. I want her stay and get the help she needs and on the right drugs to get her out of this manic psychosis.
I guess what I am asking is what can we of parents of an adult with mental illness do to help her? My wife and! have an 11 year old in our house as well and my wife does not want our oldest to return without being properly medicated and on what we hope will be a road to recovery. I (unfortunately) have to agree with her. Her mother has a 16 year old and a 12 year old in her house and feel the same. I dont want to give up on my daughter but dont know what to do.
please advice
Bare with me as this may ramble...
My oldest was Diagnosed with Bipolar 1 almost 2 years ago when she was 18. She has battled depression through her teens and had began cutting herself at 13. She has always lived with her mom and step father (who are good people and we are working together to help our daughter. When she graduated HS she went off to college but didnt make through 1st semester. she went into a deep depression and dropped out. she expressed to a school councilor that she was having suicidal thoughts and they called us. We got her back to her moms and tried to get her into a facility but she refused to go and then late one night she left her moms house and showed up on my doorstep ( her mom and I live a couple hours apart.) The next day I and my wife took her to a local therapist who did an evaluation and deem she didnt need to go into hospital but could use intense daily counselling which we did for about a month then went to 2 days a week and then 1 day a week which it has been ever since. In the meantime she was given Vraylar for her disorder. And for the last year and a half it was been working well. She still had momnets of depression and moments of mania but the seemed to be less severe. She was able to get and keep a job for last year and recently she has expressed interest in moving into an apartment with a girl she works with
. I have noticed she has been a little manic the last month with all the classic symptoms, not eating much, very little sleep, tons of energy etc. But things took a very bad turn last friday.
Out of the blue she announces to my wife and I that she is psychic and can see the future and how we are all going to die. She tells us that a war is coming and she is going to be a warrior and change the world. And then she went to work... or so we thought. She actually drove to meet a guy she met online who from my understanding has been feeding into her mania and delusions. anyway she kept in contact with me and I tried all weekend to get her to come home. and I wasn't until Monday that did(with the help of her friend that she wanted to move in with)
When we got her home I disabled her car which is in my name.( I carry the insurance and will NOT be giving it back to her any time soon). so she couldn't leave again and we talked her into admitting herself to the hospital yesterday morning. she did they evaluated her and then put her in their pysch unit. Because of COVID she cant have visitors so I am left to communicate by phone with her. I spoke with her last night and she was very agitated and this morning she hung up on me after she said she was going to check herself out. I called the social worker who said the Dr would have to make that determination and if he deems her not a threat then he will. I want her stay and get the help she needs and on the right drugs to get her out of this manic psychosis.
I guess what I am asking is what can we of parents of an adult with mental illness do to help her? My wife and! have an 11 year old in our house as well and my wife does not want our oldest to return without being properly medicated and on what we hope will be a road to recovery. I (unfortunately) have to agree with her. Her mother has a 16 year old and a 12 year old in her house and feel the same. I dont want to give up on my daughter but dont know what to do.
please advice