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This is a euphimism right?Or mowing his lawn?Have you considered talking to the ex-bf?
This is a euphimism right?Or mowing his lawn?Have you considered talking to the ex-bf?
Bitey little *******.Spiders don't stab, they bite.I imagine, for some reason, both parties became attached to the dog and didn't want to never see it again.Someone explained this "shared dog" thing? Is this like Woz paying for his ex's cell phone?
Strange concept for a heartless, backstabbing, itsy-bitsy-spider to understand.
Ok now you are losing me. Her ex-boyfriend was required to clean her bathroom?It's the ongoing joint cell phone plan that really gets you in trouble.
She paid for her ex-boyfriend's cell phone plan for over a year after they broke up. Oh god, am I dating Woz?!? He repaid her by cleaning her bathrooms every month. While I got some slight enjoyment that her ex was scrubbing my fecal matter from the inside the toilet bowl, I eventually told her that arrangment needed to stop, so she eventually cut him off of her plan.
Knowing Sheik? Absolutely not.This is a euphimism right?Or mowing his lawn?Have you considered talking to the ex-bf?
It was only a matter of time before he came out.It's the ongoing joint cell phone plan that really gets you in trouble.
She paid for her ex-boyfriend's cell phone plan for over a year after they broke up. Oh god, am I dating Woz?!? He repaid her by cleaning her bathrooms every month. While I got some slight enjoyment that her ex was scrubbing my fecal matter from the inside the toilet bowl, I eventually told her that arrangment needed to stop, so she eventually cut him off of her plan.
Just tell her you're not comfortable with their relationship. Most people wouldn't be, and I think any expert on the subject would say it's not healthy for her to still be friends with the guy. If she can't break off contact, I don't see how you can stay with her and not keep getting more and more annoyed.I've never looked at her phone to see what type of things she texts with her ex-boyfriend, but I would interested to see them and I could easily do so if I wanted without her knowing. But that just feels way too much like the type of thing that my crazy ex would do.Do you think I should ask her tonight if I could see the texts from her ex-boyfriend, as that might put me more at ease about the nature of their relationship? She has asked to see emails from my ex, and I have showed them to her. If she resists, that is another thing that I think would make me walk.I'm just kind of on the fence about whether I should ask to see the text messages. It's not something that I would normally do.
This needs to be a poll or a pole even, maybe.You're supposed to make a list of pros and cons of dating her and then post them here for us to decide.
I can't emphasize how wrong this is.Just tell her you're not comfortable with their relationship. Most people wouldn't be, and I think any expert on the subject would say it's not healthy for her to still be friends with the guy. If she can't break off contact, I don't see how you can stay with her and not keep getting more and more annoyed.I've never looked at her phone to see what type of things she texts with her ex-boyfriend, but I would interested to see them and I could easily do so if I wanted without her knowing. But that just feels way too much like the type of thing that my crazy ex would do.Do you think I should ask her tonight if I could see the texts from her ex-boyfriend, as that might put me more at ease about the nature of their relationship? She has asked to see emails from my ex, and I have showed them to her. If she resists, that is another thing that I think would make me walk.I'm just kind of on the fence about whether I should ask to see the text messages. It's not something that I would normally do.
Wha??!?I really don't even have a problem if they want to grab lunch together on rare occasions. But I think that I should draw a line saying that I don't think it is appropriate for them to have dinner together
They take the dog to dinner with them?Or they didn't have a nasty break up and just misses the damn dog?She may not be sleeping with him, but he definitely wants to. No other reason for him to put in that time and effort.
Denver is a pretty outdoorsy city. I wonder if they have cafes that allow you to dine with your dog outside?They take the dog to dinner with them?Or they didn't have a nasty break up and just misses the damn dog?She may not be sleeping with him, but he definitely wants to. No other reason for him to put in that time and effort.
Millenials confuse me with some of their weird ####, but I've learned to just let it be.Yeah a chick with joint custody of a dog is reasonable.
WTF?She paid for her ex-boyfriend's cell phone plan for over a year after they broke up. Oh god, am I dating Woz?!? He repaid her by cleaning her bathrooms every month. While I got some slight enjoyment knowing that her ex was scrubbing my fecal matter from the inside the toilet bowl, I eventually told her that arrangment needed to stop, so she eventually cut him off of her plan.It's the ongoing joint cell phone plan that really gets you in trouble.
Yeah, that is how he paid her back for paying his cell phone. He has some kind of low-level retail job working at REI, so I guess he preferred to pay his bills with manual labor rather than actual money if possible. The upside of that arrangement is that I can always accurately refer to him as "the toilet cleaning #####."Ok now you are losing me. Her ex-boyfriend was required to clean her bathroom?It's the ongoing joint cell phone plan that really gets you in trouble.
She paid for her ex-boyfriend's cell phone plan for over a year after they broke up. Oh god, am I dating Woz?!? He repaid her by cleaning her bathrooms every month. While I got some slight enjoyment that her ex was scrubbing my fecal matter from the inside the toilet bowl, I eventually told her that arrangment needed to stop, so she eventually cut him off of her plan.
Thats actually not a bad idea. Act alpha and let this dude know you don't give a ####. Don't be a beta #####.actually that's a great idea. next time the GF brings up the dinner date with this schmuck, ask if she minds if you tag along. if she puts up a fit, cancels it, or reschedules it to a time you're unavailable then that's a pretty big red flag.
I feel like there is a difference between having a mid-day lunch at a restaurant and having dinner over at her place. I suppose it just seems less likely to lead to something inappropriate.Wha??!?I really don't even have a problem if they want to grab lunch together on rare occasions. But I think that I should draw a line saying that I don't think it is appropriate for them to have dinner together
How do you feel about breakfast? Midafternoon snacks? WTF does the type of meal matter here?
Cornerstones of a healthy relationship right here IMO.It's the ongoing joint cell phone plan that really gets you in trouble.
She paid for her ex-boyfriend's cell phone plan for over a year after they broke up. Oh god, am I dating Woz?!? He repaid her by cleaning her bathrooms every month. While I got some slight enjoyment knowing that her ex was scrubbing my fecal matter from the inside the toilet bowl, I eventually told her that arrangment needed to stop, so she eventually cut him off of her plan.
I'm not getting this either. "They have a dog together.." It's not a kid, it's a dog.What is this joint custody of dogs with the ex thing? Is this common, or as common as you two each seem to make it. One person gets the pet and the other gets a new one. Ongoing custody exchanges with the ex seem insane to me, but perhaps I just lack the sensitivity to see going through that headache.
Don't act alpha. Be alpha. And don't wait for her to plan the next outing with him and ask if you can "tag along"Thats actually not a bad idea. Act alpha and let this dude know you don't give a ####. Don't be a beta #####.actually that's a great idea. next time the GF brings up the dinner date with this schmuck, ask if she minds if you tag along. if she puts up a fit, cancels it, or reschedules it to a time you're unavailable then that's a pretty big red flag.
I'm not sure a single person, his gf included, is "totally shocked" he isn't ok with this.lmao so they aren't dinner dates at restaurants. he comes over to her place and "eats dinner". prior to this they had been dating for 6 years.
and the GF is totally shocked that you aren't ok with this, as are some idiots on this forum.
hilarious
That really doesn't make sense. If they are close enough to have sex it's going to happen eventually, whether it's over lunch or over dinner. It's really just a product of frequency of contact.I feel like there is a difference between having a mid-day lunch at a restaurant and having dinner over at her place. I suppose it just seems less likely to lead to something inappropriate.Wha??!?I really don't even have a problem if they want to grab lunch together on rare occasions. But I think that I should draw a line saying that I don't think it is appropriate for them to have dinner together
How do you feel about breakfast? Midafternoon snacks? WTF does the type of meal matter here?
If they're going to have sex, demanding that they cease all contact is probably more likely to march them down that path than allowing her some trust and freedom...That really doesn't make sense. If they are close enough to have sex it's going to happen eventually, whether it's over lunch or over dinner. It's really just a product of frequency of contact.I feel like there is a difference between having a mid-day lunch at a restaurant and having dinner over at her place. I suppose it just seems less likely to lead to something inappropriate.Wha??!?I really don't even have a problem if they want to grab lunch together on rare occasions. But I think that I should draw a line saying that I don't think it is appropriate for them to have dinner together
How do you feel about breakfast? Midafternoon snacks? WTF does the type of meal matter here?
At the end of dinner, pull out a video camera and let him know you are totally cool with him still working her over, you would just like to film it...Don't act alpha. Be alpha. And don't wait for her to plan the next outing with him and ask if you can "tag along"Thats actually not a bad idea. Act alpha and let this dude know you don't give a ####. Don't be a beta #####.actually that's a great idea. next time the GF brings up the dinner date with this schmuck, ask if she minds if you tag along. if she puts up a fit, cancels it, or reschedules it to a time you're unavailable then that's a pretty big red flag.
Suggest it outright to your girlfriend. Plan a double date.
And then, when you go...don't act possessive or threatening. Get this...just go, have fun...laugh.
That will really show em.
There's 100% a difference between going to lunch with a girl vs dinner.That really doesn't make sense. If they are close enough to have sex it's going to happen eventually, whether it's over lunch or over dinner. It's really just a product of frequency of contact.I feel like there is a difference between having a mid-day lunch at a restaurant and having dinner over at her place. I suppose it just seems less likely to lead to something inappropriate.Wha??!?I really don't even have a problem if they want to grab lunch together on rare occasions. But I think that I should draw a line saying that I don't think it is appropriate for them to have dinner together
How do you feel about breakfast? Midafternoon snacks? WTF does the type of meal matter here?
A lot of people say this, but we both love our dogs as if they were our children. We both entered the relationship in a similar situation with dogs that we had for 7-8 years with our exes. I have been really struggling with trying to decide whether I should continue trying to see my dog because it offers my insane ex an opportunity to cause additional conflict in my life and she willing uses those opportunities to do so. I'm still on the fence about it, but right now I think that being able to spend time with my dog for a weekend outweighs the downside of having to briefly see my crazy ex to pick him up. Some people who really love their dogs understand, but a lot of people don't.I'm not getting this either. "They have a dog together.." It's not a kid, it's a dog.What is this joint custody of dogs with the ex thing? Is this common, or as common as you two each seem to make it. One person gets the pet and the other gets a new one. Ongoing custody exchanges with the ex seem insane to me, but perhaps I just lack the sensitivity to see going through that headache.
Where did I say he should demand they cease all contact?If they're going to have sex, demanding that they cease all contact is probably more likely to march them down that path than allowing her some trust and freedom...That really doesn't make sense. If they are close enough to have sex it's going to happen eventually, whether it's over lunch or over dinner. It's really just a product of frequency of contact.I feel like there is a difference between having a mid-day lunch at a restaurant and having dinner over at her place. I suppose it just seems less likely to lead to something inappropriate.Wha??!?I really don't even have a problem if they want to grab lunch together on rare occasions. But I think that I should draw a line saying that I don't think it is appropriate for them to have dinner together
How do you feel about breakfast? Midafternoon snacks? WTF does the type of meal matter here?
So they break up. They've got this cell phone plan and now, he has absolutely no money. There's no way that he can pay her. So the judge decrees that he becomes her butler.Ok now you are losing me. Her ex-boyfriend was required to clean her bathroom?It's the ongoing joint cell phone plan that really gets you in trouble.
She paid for her ex-boyfriend's cell phone plan for over a year after they broke up. Oh god, am I dating Woz?!? He repaid her by cleaning her bathrooms every month. While I got some slight enjoyment that her ex was scrubbing my fecal matter from the inside the toilet bowl, I eventually told her that arrangment needed to stop, so she eventually cut him off of her plan.
There's 100% a difference between going to lunch with a girl vs dinner.After dinner you get drinks, after drinks you go back to their place.That really doesn't make sense. If they are close enough to have sex it's going to happen eventually, whether it's over lunch or over dinner. It's really just a product of frequency of contact.I feel like there is a difference between having a mid-day lunch at a restaurant and having dinner over at her place. I suppose it just seems less likely to lead to something inappropriate.Wha??!?I really don't even have a problem if they want to grab lunch together on rare occasions. But I think that I should draw a line saying that I don't think it is appropriate for them to have dinner together
How do you feel about breakfast? Midafternoon snacks? WTF does the type of meal matter here?
After lunch you typically go your separate ways.
What degree of contact should I assume you implied is appropriate?Where did I say he should demand they cease all contact?If they're going to have sex, demanding that they cease all contact is probably more likely to march them down that path than allowing her some trust and freedom...That really doesn't make sense. If they are close enough to have sex it's going to happen eventually, whether it's over lunch or over dinner. It's really just a product of frequency of contact.I feel like there is a difference between having a mid-day lunch at a restaurant and having dinner over at her place. I suppose it just seems less likely to lead to something inappropriate.Wha??!?I really don't even have a problem if they want to grab lunch together on rare occasions. But I think that I should draw a line saying that I don't think it is appropriate for them to have dinner together
How do you feel about breakfast? Midafternoon snacks? WTF does the type of meal matter here?
They actually do go hiking together with their dog sometimes, but no camping. I better not get Man in the Yellow Hat'd in a trailhead bathroom.Do they go camping together?
Certainly not my GF.I thought the weirdest thing about this thread was that people who aren't married are buying dogs together, and then have vistiation schedules after they break up. But, the ex cleaning the bathroom in exchange for cell service takes the cake. First of all, who wants a guy cleaning their bathroom?
That's up to them. I'm just pointing out that the differentiation is silly. I wouldn't focus at all on the type of contact really. If I were in his position I would just ask that it be less frequent.It's not about setting up rules. No good can come of that. It's about expressing that it bothers him and asking her to take it seriously.What degree of contact should I assume you implied is appropriate?You find OP's distinction between lunch and dinner laughable. Annual Christmas card? Bi-weekly nod and smiles at the local grocery store? Fist bumps when exchanging the dog custody? What's your tolerance level and how would you communicate that to your girlfriend?Where did I say he should demand they cease all contact?If they're going to have sex, demanding that they cease all contact is probably more likely to march them down that path than allowing her some trust and freedom...That really doesn't make sense. If they are close enough to have sex it's going to happen eventually, whether it's over lunch or over dinner. It's really just a product of frequency of contact.I feel like there is a difference between having a mid-day lunch at a restaurant and having dinner over at her place. I suppose it just seems less likely to lead to something inappropriate.Wha??!?I really don't even have a problem if they want to grab lunch together on rare occasions. But I think that I should draw a line saying that I don't think it is appropriate for them to have dinner together
How do you feel about breakfast? Midafternoon snacks? WTF does the type of meal matter here?
How would you feel if she was this close to a guy but he was not her ex? And if it was a girl (not her ex either, but in my imagination she's smoking hot and they experimented together a few times)?I would bet any amount of money that she has not had sex with him since we started dating. She's just not the type of person to lie or cheat. She's probably the most honest and principled person I've ever met. I, of course, knew that the FFA response would be mostly "she's still banging him!", but that has never been my concern at all. I've never accused her of having sex with him or anything like that. I just don't really think it is healthy for our relationship to have him continue to be so involved in her life, even in a completely non-sexual manner.She could be telling the truth. And girls don't like guys who are insecure. A little jealously is flattering from time to time, but flat out not trusting or being insecure comes off as unattractive to most women.
...doodle do...And if you do, I guarantee she will be at this house that night and he will be in her pants faster than you can say Labradoodle.
Not sure I have ever understood the whole get angry/have a talk with the other person when you have a problem with your partner's cheating or other actions.Such a new millennium response. First thing you need to ask is what you want from her long term. If she's not marriage material then this guy is picking up some of the BF load for you. Good for him. If you want her long term, you have to get this guy into a violent game of racket ball or some ####. Punch him after he cheats at 8 ball. Take the fight to him bromigo.I know the ex-boyfriend. He seems like a nice enough guy. But if I am going to handle this situation, then I am going to handle it through my girlfriend, not the ex-boyfriend.Have you considered talking to the ex-bf?
Uhh..She paid for her ex-boyfriend's cell phone plan for over a year after they broke up. Oh god, am I dating Woz?!? He repaid her by cleaning her bathrooms every month. While I got some slight enjoyment knowing that her ex was scrubbing my fecal matter from the inside the toilet bowl, I eventually told her that arrangment needed to stop, so she eventually cut him off of her plan.It's the ongoing joint cell phone plan that really gets you in trouble.
This would be even funnier if the board nazis didn't delete the confessions thread and make this such an inside jokeYou should take them both out to a very crowded, very dark haunted house.