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For better or for worsemake me look like the bad guy. The guys wife gained weight, deal with it.
For better or for worsemake me look like the bad guy. The guys wife gained weight, deal with it.
you laugh, but I even tried "learning to like it". Big isn't the problem it's the shape. Huge belly just hanging thereEh...just start jacking it to BBW and midget porn. After a few months of that, your mind will be reconditioned to accept your wife for who she is. Then join a swingers club.
nothing major. Which is why I feel like a POS that it is such a problemneed an invaded? update big time!
Vegasman, you seem like a good dude. Hope it works out. You said that your wife is generally great. Any other areas besides weight where you're really unhappy?
she hates it, and has "given up" but what makes me mad is that she never really tried. Not even more than a month of exercise. How do you give up something you never really started?Vegasman, how does your wife feel about her weight? Going from 100 to 200 is a big jump, she has to look at pictures from a decade ago and feel upset seeing how much she has gained, no? Has she just completely given up?
Absolutely fair to say. Maybe I do have it all wrong. As I have said, it makes me feel like a POS that I feel this way.A lot of men would trade their ##### of a wife for one who's overweight but "generally great." You got it all wrong, Vegas.need an invaded? update big time!
Vegasman, you seem like a good dude. Hope it works out. You said that your wife is generally great. Any other areas besides weight where you're really unhappy?
Eessh.you laugh, but I even tried "learning to like it". Big isn't the problem it's the shape. Huge belly just hanging thereEh...just start jacking it to BBW and midget porn. After a few months of that, your mind will be reconditioned to accept your wife for who she is. Then join a swingers club.
I struggled with those feelings for a long time too. I'm pretty much over them now. It doesn't make you a bad person that this has basically ruined the way you feel about your wife. It doesn't make you shallow either. Physical attractiveness should be a major component of a marriage. That's sorta what distinguishes a spouse from a friend.Absolutely fair to say. Maybe I do have it all wrong. As I have said, it makes me feel like a POS that I feel this way.A lot of men would trade their ##### of a wife for one who's overweight but "generally great." You got it all wrong, Vegas.need an invaded? update big time!
Vegasman, you seem like a good dude. Hope it works out. You said that your wife is generally great. Any other areas besides weight where you're really unhappy?
5'0"I can't even imagine what 200 looks like on a girl that was 100 before. Have to think even if she loses it she's looking at skin removal.
What is she like 5-4?
Good god5'0"I can't even imagine what 200 looks like on a girl that was 100 before. Have to think even if she loses it she's looking at skin removal.
What is she like 5-4?
I don't think it needed to be statedGood god5'0"I can't even imagine what 200 looks like on a girl that was 100 before. Have to think even if she loses it she's looking at skin removal.
What is she like 5-4?
You've never seen anyone 5' 200? There are way, way fatter people out there than this. Why is this surprising?5-0 200. Thats at the range where you are looking at most 5-10 more years anyways. That's basically near death.
Sort of calling b.s. here. That's damn near impossible unless eating was her job.
Also for sure a candidate for wls.
right?You've never seen anyone 5' 200? There are way, way fatter people out there than this. Why is this surprising?5-0 200. Thats at the range where you are looking at most 5-10 more years anyways. That's basically near death.
Sort of calling b.s. here. That's damn near impossible unless eating was her job.
Also for sure a candidate for wls.
BOTH!?? OH COME ON!My wife has put on 10lbs in the 5 years we've been married and feels crappy about it; I feel crappy about the 20lbs I've been on. We're both looking forward to getting healthier and making some lifestyle changes to get back down to our fighting weight. I can't even fathom someone in the relationship putting on 100lbs and everyone having to be OK with that.
I think he's talking about going +100 on a 5'0" frame?right?You've never seen anyone 5' 200? There are way, way fatter people out there than this. Why is this surprising?5-0 200. Thats at the range where you are looking at most 5-10 more years anyways. That's basically near death.
Sort of calling b.s. here. That's damn near impossible unless eating was her job.
Also for sure a candidate for wls.
Go to any latino community and you have this all over.....wearing spandex....green spandex.....with a visible thong
Going from 5' 100 to 5' 200 is a gigantic jump.You've never seen anyone 5' 200? There are way, way fatter people out there than this. Why is this surprising?5-0 200. Thats at the range where you are looking at most 5-10 more years anyways. That's basically near death.
Sort of calling b.s. here. That's damn near impossible unless eating was her job.
Also for sure a candidate for wls.
BOTH!?? OH COME ON!My wife has put on 10lbs in the 5 years we've been married and feels crappy about it; I feel crappy about the 20lbs I've been on. We're both looking forward to getting healthier and making some lifestyle changes to get back down to our fighting weight. I can't even fathom someone in the relationship putting on 100lbs and everyone having to be OK with that.
Well you don't commonly see adults double their height, so I'm not sure why the 5' matters here.Going from 5' 100 to 5' 200 is a gigantic jump.You've never seen anyone 5' 200? There are way, way fatter people out there than this. Why is this surprising?5-0 200. Thats at the range where you are looking at most 5-10 more years anyways. That's basically near death.
Sort of calling b.s. here. That's damn near impossible unless eating was her job.
Also for sure a candidate for wls.
I hope you never reproducemake me look like the bad guy. The guys wife gained weight, deal with it.
Dude you need to kind of, you know, #### off here.5-0 200. Thats at the range where you are looking at most 5-10 more years anyways. That's basically near death.
Sort of calling b.s. here. That's damn near impossible unless eating was her job.
Also for sure a candidate for wls.
I was simply stating doubling from 100 to 200 is a big jump and surprising, I can see someone's frustration from this.Well you don't commonly see adults double their height, so I'm not sure why the 5' matters here.Going from 5' 100 to 5' 200 is a gigantic jump.You've never seen anyone 5' 200? There are way, way fatter people out there than this. Why is this surprising?5-0 200. Thats at the range where you are looking at most 5-10 more years anyways. That's basically near death.
Sort of calling b.s. here. That's damn near impossible unless eating was her job.
Also for sure a candidate for wls.
You do see people put on 100lbs. And you see 200lb guys end up at 400lbs. A woman going from 100 to 200lbs doesn't stun me; I'm not about to call BS!!!! on it. Is it alarming, and does it suck? Of course. But it doesn't strike me as that improbable. That's all I'm saying.
There are a lot of women that look like this out there - http://www.mybodygallery.com/photos-37134-body-shape.htm?StartAt=7#.VnwV2v6FOBU. I can easily see the jump from 100 to 200.Going from 5' 100 to 5' 200 is a gigantic jump.You've never seen anyone 5' 200? There are way, way fatter people out there than this. Why is this surprising?5-0 200. Thats at the range where you are looking at most 5-10 more years anyways. That's basically near death.
Sort of calling b.s. here. That's damn near impossible unless eating was her job.
Also for sure a candidate for wls.
His post is about him, not her.she is who she is. i don't get it?Wow does this strike home. I am late to the party but so much of what has been said in this thread is dead on for me. Married 15 years, wife is generally great. But she has gained 100 pounds, and most of it early in after our first child. And has made no effort to take it off.
We have exercised, eaten healthy etc. Wr have talked about it. No sex in a year, but I am OK with that. I have no attraction anymore.
But what sucks is being trapped. I don't want her sexually. But I Cannot have anyone else. Twice in my life I had chances with other women. And almost took them. But didn't. And fessed up about them. And it's a hard trap.
We have had the talks. I started drinking. A lot at one point. It was easier and it is 100% true that alcohol eases the pain. I now down to 2-3 a day.
I promised to get my drinking under control if she got her weight under control. I did my part. She didn't.
I live in a town where all the men have skinny wives. But me. And I am jealous and bitter about that. Because I had it and lost it through no fault of my own.
I feel like a POS for feeling this way since she is a homemaker, cooks everyday and does her "part." Why can't I accept that she is fat and live with it?
Don't know. But every day is a grind. Every day I am happy to get to bed without losing it. To make it to 11pm so i cam wolf down my two or three drinks and fall off to aleep. I am here for my two kids, and will be 60 when my youngest is 21.
The only thing that makes it easier is knowing my kids will see me everyday. The wisdom of my decision aside (and I know many stay for the kids and many don't), deep down I know it is partly a lack of courage.
It's fear. Fear of being soaked financially. Fear of losing my kids. Fear that having fessed up to having a shot with someone else who was stunningly gorgeous but not taking it will be used against me. Fear of dying alone.
This was a great thread. Thanks for listening
Let's say she had 15% bf at 100. And you can assume that stayed and she added another 100 pounds of pure fat. That has her at 55-60% fat. Once you push past 50% (which is damn hard to do as a woman) your end of life clock starts ticking hard. Your liver or your heart or both start to fail.Dude you need to kind of, you know, #### off here.5-0 200. Thats at the range where you are looking at most 5-10 more years anyways. That's basically near death.
Sort of calling b.s. here. That's damn near impossible unless eating was her job.
Also for sure a candidate for wls.
20 pounds? we need to at least double that, don't we?; I feel crappy about the 20lbs I've been on.
Sounds like your wife is putting in effort, congrats - Enjoy the holiday!Things have improved a lot but even with her losing a lot of weight we still have a long way to go.
Culdeus - you are totally full of #### here and have no idea what you are talking about. Clearly you live in some kind of bubble where Walmart and Big Lots don't exist. I can go to the store right now and see more than 10 women that are 200+ and 5'0-5'2".Let's say she had 15% bf at 100. And you can assume that stayed and she added another 100 pounds of pure fat. That has her at 55-60% fat. Once you push past 50% (which is damn hard to do as a woman) your end of life clock starts ticking hard. Your liver or your heart or both start to fail.Dude you need to kind of, you know, #### off here.5-0 200. Thats at the range where you are looking at most 5-10 more years anyways. That's basically near death.
Sort of calling b.s. here. That's damn near impossible unless eating was her job.
Also for sure a candidate for wls.
I just don't think it's possible for someone to go that far off the rails. Either she's not really 200 and more like 175 or this whole thing is fishy.
I mean Otis would need to be in the 420 range to be roughly equal here.
Thanks, she really has made a lot of changes. Hope you have a great holiday too.Sounds like your wife is putting in effort, congrats - Enjoy the holiday!Things have improved a lot but even with her losing a lot of weight we still have a long way to go.
oh come on, if your statement were true half of the mid west would be dead. He was probably off on the starting weight of 100 lbs but there are many women in that weight range that are not suffering liver shut down.Let's say she had 15% bf at 100. And you can assume that stayed and she added another 100 pounds of pure fat. That has her at 55-60% fat. Once you push past 50% (which is damn hard to do as a woman) your end of life clock starts ticking hard. Your liver or your heart or both start to fail.I just don't think it's possible for someone to go that far off the rails. Either she's not really 200 and more like 175 or this whole thing is fishy.Dude you need to kind of, you know, #### off here.5-0 200. Thats at the range where you are looking at most 5-10 more years anyways. That's basically near death.
Sort of calling b.s. here. That's damn near impossible unless eating was her job.
Also for sure a candidate for wls.
I mean Otis would need to be in the 420 range to be roughly equal here.