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[Kuz]

I'm still confused at your situation.. If she is 17 years old isn't she on the High School Team.. If she is good enough on that team then she could make a D2 or D3 Team.. What does the Summer Travel team really matter at this point..

 

[belljr]

I'm still confused at your situation.. If she is 17 years old isn't she on the High School Team.. If she is good enough on that team then she could make a D2 or D3 Team.. What does the Summer Travel team really matter at this point..

Colleges recruit from fall/summer club teams here, not high school 

Eta: I mean doing well in HS won't hurt but they show up to tournaments mostly.

 

[belljr]

Theres no difference. They both take years of practice. Its not exactly easy throwing strikes from 60 ft away. And you have to learn something beyond a fastball if you want to pitch well. 

Ok. So you understand we can't just take anyone on the team and have them pitch.  

You asked why can't we just make anyone a pitcher. 

 

[Kuz]

Gotcha.. Good luck to you & your daughter

 

[jobarules]

Ok. So you understand we can't just take anyone on the team and have them pitch.  

You asked why can't we just make anyone a pitcher. 

I didnt realize how old she was.

 

[belljr]

Took kid to big organization tryout tonight.  3 teams made her offers.   It's 40 minutes away.  I'm going to have to be a #### and talk with the coach/buddy

 

[acarey50]

Took kid to big organization tryout tonight.  3 teams made her offers.   It's 40 minutes away.  I'm going to have to be a #### and talk with the coach/buddy

Honestly, with the way you've described the situation, if he has any issue with it, he's the &@#$. You are doing what is best for your kid, that is your #1 job. To not do that would be to do a disservice to your kid.

 

[Jaysus]

Took kid to big organization tryout tonight.  3 teams made her offers.   It's 40 minutes away.  I'm going to have to be a #### and talk with the coach/buddy

Nice! What are her thoughts on those teams?

 

[belljr]

Nice! What are her thoughts on those teams?

I should have did what my gut said 3 weeks ago and did this first.   She loved all the coaches.  I personally know one of them, it's why I took her there.  The other coach loved her but I told her I know the the one coach but I need to talk with her. The coach I know said the other  are a good fit too but I'd feel like a #### not going with the girl I know lol 

Her heart wants to stay her head knows it's the right thing

 

[Hot Diggity Dog]

I should have did what my gut said 3 weeks ago and did this first.   She loved all the coaches.  I personally know one of them, it's why I took her there.  The other coach loved her but I told her I know the the one coach but I need to talk with her. The coach I know said the other  are a good fit too but I'd feel like a #### not going with the girl I know lol 

Her heart wants to stay her head knows it's the right thing

It sounds like you ultimately did the right thing.  If you weren't getting pitchers to show up for your tryouts it is unlikely two or three are going to show up at later tryouts and be competitive.  As you know it will be a long season without good ones.  Just be glad you had as much time together as a team that you did.  It is a hard thing to do.

 

[jobarules]

Took kid to big organization tryout tonight.  3 teams made her offers.   It's 40 minutes away.  I'm going to have to be a #### and talk with the coach/buddy

As a coach "do whats best for the kid" has always been my motto. Its not about him. Thats not why I coach.

 

[belljr]

Well as expected now I have my buddy and head of the organization telling me it will be fine.  It looks like the team is not blowing up but might not be good. I think I need to still bail

 

[playin4beer]

Good pitchers are hard to find..  Most are the daughter of the head coach because of how much work it takes (on both ends)   A good pitcher can pretty much take her pick of what team she wants to play for..  No matter how good the rest of the team is, if you don't have a bullet in the circle, go looking for a team that has one or it's going to be long season..

 

[Kuz]

I guess I only have boys that play baseball but I really don't understand any of this.. If you're good then you're good.. Why do you need a pitcher to help out.. She's 17 years old.. Let her handle what she wants to do.. I played Collegiate tennis but my parents were making my decisions when I was 17 years old..

Seems a bit odd but I could be wrong

 

[belljr]

I guess I only have boys that play baseball but I really don't understand any of this.. If you're good then you're good.. Why do you need a pitcher to help out.. She's 17 years old.. Let her handle what she wants to do.. I played Collegiate tennis but my parents were making my decisions when I was 17 years old..

Seems a bit odd but I could be wrong

What part is we only have 6 kids currently on the team and none of them are pitchers is hard to understand?   The big issue was I've been at tryouts and seen how he has not handled this very well. Our season starts in ~ 3 weeks.  Tryouts are drying up so I had to decide to rides this out for 2 more weeks and hope for the best?   Have your sons played on a baseball team that fielded no pitching?

I was committed to the team but when your team has zero pitchers its not much of team, I mean literally none    

  And shes 15 

 

[Kuz]

Sorry - I guess I didn't understand everything.. I didn't know you only had 6 players with no pitchers.. With that said.. I completely agree that you should explore other options.. I thought she was 17 & not 15..

Sorry & good luck to you

 

[parrot]

Theres no difference. They both take years of practice. Its not exactly easy throwing strikes from 60 ft away. And you have to learn something beyond a fastball if you want to pitch well. 

I'm a softball pitching coach.  There's a huge difference.  In baseball everyone throws overhand all the time, so they're already half-way there mechanically.  In softball no one throws underhand except the pitcher.  Even kids who have played for years generally how no grasp of even the basics of softball pitching.  A softball pitcher has to has other pitches as well, but just learning to throw a moderately competent fastball is a major undertaking.

 

[Thorpe]

I'd have your daughter make the decision with your input.  She is old enough.

 

[belljr]

Well apparently the team folded today. I know I'm partially responsible for this but even with all good intentions, this was not handled properly by the HC, imo.  I feel bad for the other 4 kids but it should have happened a week ago imo

 

[Jaysus]

Well apparently the team folded today. I know I'm partially responsible for this but even with all good intentions, this was not handled properly by the HC, imo.  I feel bad for the other 4 kids but it should have happened a week ago imo

It is good that you went with your gut and got ahead of it.  Best of luck this season!  Will you just be dadding it on the new team, or will you still help coach?

 

[belljr]

It is good that you went with your gut and got ahead of it.  Best of luck this season!  Will you just be dadding it on the new team, or will you still help coach?

Most likely just dadding.   Which will be weird. I'll help out if needed in practice but most likely just dadding

 

[Jaysus]

Most likely just dadding.   Which will be weird. I'll help out if needed in practice but most likely just dadding

It is wierd... I started doing that last fall, and I am still not used to it. 

 

[Gally]

Most likely just dadding.   Which will be weird. I'll help out if needed in practice but most likely just dadding

It is wierd... I started doing that last fall, and I am still not used to it. 

I found it easiest to go down one of the lines and away from the other parents.  Listening to most of the other parents talk about the game will drive you batty.

 

[acarey50]

I found it easiest to go down one of the lines and away from the other parents.  Listening to most of the other parents talk about the game will drive you batty.

 100% this. For the basketball teams that I don't coach (ie my sons high school team), I still usually either am able to sit on the bench or I sit on my own - the parents are some of my best friends, but I want to enjoy the game, not spend it fielding questions about why a certain kid is playing more or why is the coach doing something or the general gossipy nature of the sidelines. I'd like to be able to sit and watch the game in peace.

Same with soccer (where I am just a dad) - I like to just sit and enjoy the game - my son is a goalkeeper - so for many portions of the game, he is not actively involved so I am truly able to just enjoy the game without as much of an emotional reaction - but those instances down by our goal are intense.

 

[Jaysus]

I found it easiest to go down one of the lines and away from the other parents.  Listening to most of the other parents talk about the game will drive you batty.

The baseline on the outfield corner closest to the parking lot has become my huckleberry