Little bit of a difference between giving someone $10 because they make you feel guilty for your success and feeling obligated to give someone an old fashioned because you just want to get away from a rich, powerful, naked elite athlete, you're in a room alone with without suffering even worse.
This is true, fair point. But I wasn't trying to equate the two. I was saying that, across the board, when you're dealing with a crime of force, if the alleged victim
volunteers to do the thing that he is accusing the alleged perpetrator of
forcing him to do, then a crime didn't take place. If the alleged victim felt threatened, that changes everything, but it should have to be
reasonable to feel threatened. Being on a boat is not being threatened. Being near a big person is not being threatened. Many other things are threats, but those aren't. If you're on the boat and the person says "Where are you going to go? Look around you. It's just ocean," now there's definitely an implied, almost overt, threat. If you're next to the big person and he says "I'm a grown man, I'm an NFL quarterback, what are you going to do?" now we have an implied threat.
Maybe a better example is, I'm walking at night in a part of town I shouldn't be, and a rough looking man covered in tattoos steps out of an alley, comes right up to me, and says "Hey man, you got $10?" I don't want trouble, so I give him $10. Did he steal my money? No. I gave him $10.
ETA: I swear I'm really not trying to drag this on. I just like things to be clear.
First off let me tell you how much I appreciate such a well reasoned response. In 2022 on message boards I typically default to assuming a troll is on the other end and, clearly you are not that. I respect that a lot, thank you.
But you're also clearly insane

jk
You seem to be setting the bar at overtly stated threats of violence and that is a very limited framework.
Being isolated, smaller, weaker, less powerful etc. Are understood power dynamics that don't need to be stated?l. Have you never been intimidated by anyone, without them saying a word?
Do you think JJ Watt couldn't make you very afraid without saying a darn word? Unless you're TJ Watt or a Navy SEAL, I doubt it.
Deshaun didn't have to say a word. He was already understood to be rich, influentially more powerful (my Twitter feed is bigger than yours), and physically more powerful.
When that guy gets an obvious erection and steers your hand towards his B-Hole you sincerely and traumatically, in hyper-fast time, with your brain on overdrive (if you've ever been truly against the wall, maybe when you almost crashed your car, you'd know what this feels like) have to make a potentially life altering decision. Do you say "No" and risk the potential wrath of this powerful individual and all the consequences that involves? Or do you suffer the lesser indignity in the hope that is all you will have to suffer?
In that moment she doesn't know about Tony Buzbee, 24 other accusers etc. She's alone with this guy and simply trying not to get violently raped.
I sincerely believe that violent rape was never in Deshaun's mind but there is no way that those women could know that in the moment. Deshaun probably didn't recognize the implied threat either, like Dennis clearly did, but that's because he's an entitled idiot who has likely never faced a consequence in his entire life. That's not good enough for me and it shouldn't be good enough for any of us.
No, I'm playing the "Ignorance isn't an excuse" card her, and justifiably so.
I sincerely hope his forced, unwilling therapy eventually sinks in because I do also believe that people can change and earn second chances.
IMO Deshaun hasn't earned his second chance, yet.