gianmarco
Footballguy
Exactly. I posted quickly while leaving work, but that's true (not just for running but for anything).Correct with a caveat - at some point the light may turn on without notice. 7th grade cross country was just going through the motions with as little effort as possible for me. I wanted to play football, but an injury caused doc's not to clear me so I was just trying to stay in shape for basketball. On long run days coach would send us out for 45 minutes on the trails and we'd go 3 mins out on the trail then bushwhack to our friends house beside the park then return 40 minutes later. Sometimes I'd try on race day and other times I wouldn't. I was usually between 5th and 7th on the team and was comfortable there. Then the first day of track practice in spring we were tasked with two half mile repeats on pavement in a different park. But now I was in shape from basketball. I finished the first one to some puzzled looks from our coaches. Ten I turned around and realized I was about 30-45 seconds in front of everyone - 8th grader's included. Now with expectations set on myself I put forth focused effort on #2 and did it again. And that carried forward from there.
tl;dr - stay positive and keep him active, sprinkle in some competitive spirit commentary on occasion but it may be beneficial to not do it during the actual running. If he wants to compete then he will. It'll be on his own timeline though.
My son has some decent soccer skills. Great footwork and speed when he wants. But, for years, he never had that fire or desire to work hard. He never made runs without the ball. To clarify, he'd make the runs, but at like 80-90% effort so it never really mattered.
This year, for whatever reason, he finally started putting in the effort and the work. Scored 5 goals over 4 games (mostly from a MF position) and started loving it. No explanation as to what happened other than it did. Part of it, I'm sure, was he started running cross country as well and the increased fitness made it easier for him. But either way, it didn't matter what I said or his coaches said or anything...it had to come from him and one day it just did.
So just let him have fun with it to whatever extent that is. There's a fine line between giving a little push and making him hate it. At the same time, there's a fine line between stepping back and letting kids decide they want to give up. Ah, the joys......