Now that the holidays are over I can take some time to update the FFA on how things went.
First, her family: The stepfather was arrested Christmas Eve for participating in a drug ring that supplied meth to prison inmates. This was happening in the grandmother's house where Padme lived until January 2017, and where her half-sister still lives.
The mother got out of jail two weeks before Christmas. Christmas Eve, Padme went to see mom at grandma's house 2 doors down from us (not the same grandmother in the paragraph above.) While she was there, Mom went to the bathroom, injected heroin, and passed out on the floor. Padme came back to our house in tears, understandably.
So, Christmas Eve was not looking good for Padme but we soldiered on. We set out cookies for Santa and read
The Night Before Christmas like we always do on Christmas Eve. Then Padme wanted to do karaoke. She has a karaoke machine, and a disc of Christmas songs for it. So that's what we did. It was fun and silly, and it completely raised her spirits. She went from sullen and quiet to happy and excited within the 45 minutes it took for us to get through the karaoke disc.
Christmas went really well. In the morning we opened presents from us and Santa. I got an Xbox One for the family, and all the kids were excited about that. Then we went to my sister's house for my family's Christmas celebration.
Padme had never met my family before, but everything went great. My sister has a daughter a few years younger, and they spent a couple hours making Slime together. If you have kids you may know what that means; If you don't, I won't even try to explain because I don't really get it either. Point is, Padme made a new friend and enjoyed meeting my side of the family.
At bedtime Christmas night I asked her if she had a good Christmas. She told me it was amazing and kissed me on the cheek
The day after Christmas the kids wanted to go to Gamestop because they had gotten gift cards. Between the three of them they had $105. So, at Gamestop all used games are buy 2 get 1 free. The three kids spent over an hour deciding what to get, but in the end they all pooled their money and ended up getting 9 games. Funny thing is, most of the games they picked were Xbox 360, not Xbox One games. I asked why they were getting 360 games and the answer was "because they're cheaper, and we can get more!" Duh, dad.
Padme is a big fan of Call of Duty, and she's gotten my boys into it now, too. I've even played it with her a couple times. Video games sure have changed since the Mario/Zelda days! I felt like an old man trying to keep up with her.
New Year's Eve Padme wanted to go to a sleepover party with a friend of hers from before she came to live with us, but my wife and I didn't allow it. She was not happy with us, but I made our own party at my house. We had pizza, sandwiches, cocktail shrimp, chips, candy.... It was a pretty great family party, if I do say so myself. Plus, an old friend from Tennessee had unexpectedly come up to Ohio and when she came to the door Padme was beside herself with joy. So a good New Year's Eve was had by all. The kids didn't go to sleep at all until about 6 AM.
My wife and I met with the attorney last week about getting custody. Paperwork will be filed this week. Attorney said that the judge may want to meet with the grandparents who have custody now, since they've only had her a year and why are they giving her up? It's an odd situation but shouldn't be difficult to overcome.
So all in all, Padme is adjusting well. She's very resilient, as shown by the roller coaster of emotions she went through with her mom on Christmas Eve. There have been a few arguments between her and my youngest son, but the way I see it is that that means they're seeing each other more as siblings than as friends, and siblings are expected to fight. So in away, maybe that's a good sign (?)
More than once, my wife or I have asked her if she's happy being with us instead of her grandparents, and she's always given a definitive "Yes" as an answer.
So... So far, so good!