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How many times have you tried with Chlomid? I think we gave it three months before we moved on to the AI procedures.Been trying for 8 months.Very frustrating times. On last cycle of Chlomid this month, then its on to something else.
This is the 3rd month. IIRC, that's the most times you can take it. She said the next step is some sort of shot or somethingHow many times have you tried with Chlomid? I think we gave it three months before we moved on to the AI procedures.Been trying for 8 months.
Problem is that she had a miscarriage (like a day or two after we found out she was pregnant....so very early on) she hasn't ovulated at all (at least the tests say that)
Yeah, that looks like the route we are headed also.
took us 4 years. it sucks. take a break for a while or it may consume you.Been trying for 8 months.
So you've been having non-stop sex for the last 8 months and you consider that frustrating? I hate you.Been trying for 8 months.Very frustrating times.
WTH?!?
I'm not sure you're getting the concept here...So you've been having non-stop sex for the last 8 months and you consider that frustrating? I hate you.Been trying for 8 months.Very frustrating times.
That's our story too, though it was only four years. My wife's older though, so we didn't need as much time to make up our mind. We've adopted and it's been great. For anyone considering that route, when they put that baby in your arms, and when (s)he starts to recognize you and smile at you as mom or dad, it makes no difference where they came from.
Agreed. I have a 4 month old adopted boy. Makes no difference whose genes he has.That's our story too, though it was only four years. My wife's older though, so we didn't need as much time to make up our mind. We've adopted and it's been great. For anyone considering that route, when they put that baby in your arms, and when (s)he starts to recognize you and smile at you as mom or dad, it makes no difference where they came from.
Agreed. I have a 4 month old adopted boy. Makes no difference whose genes he has.That's our story too, though it was only four years. My wife's older though, so we didn't need as much time to make up our mind. We've adopted and it's been great. For anyone considering that route, when they put that baby in your arms, and when (s)he starts to recognize you and smile at you as mom or dad, it makes no difference where they came from.
Check out the pic in my profile for an example of what I'm talking about. It's awesome.Cute tigger. Bottom line...Daddy is daddy. The baby doesnt inately know its parents. Daddy is the one getting up at 3:00am.Plus the added benefit of adopting...My son now has a chance to be an athlete. If he has my genes he has no chance that. Im shooting for a left handed middle releiver.Agreed. I have a 4 month old adopted boy. Makes no difference whose genes he has.That's our story too, though it was only four years. My wife's older though, so we didn't need as much time to make up our mind. We've adopted and it's been great. For anyone considering that route, when they put that baby in your arms, and when (s)he starts to recognize you and smile at you as mom or dad, it makes no difference where they came from.
took us 4 years. it sucks. take a break for a while or it may consume you.Been trying for 8 months.
We tried for 3 years, had one miscarriage, my wife went on Clomid, fought to the point of almost separating... disheartening. Stopped trying for a couple of months. We went in to see her OB/GYN, Dr. Dingaling, who did an ultrasound and proclaimed that "there's no sense in trying this month because the eggs are too small" or something like that. Went home, fooled around, no pressure, just did it for the fun of it. He was wrong... my son is now 8. 
I swear, the best thing you can do is relax, as difficult as it may be to do. Good luck to you. 
day at the TF household. 
sorry man, I know it sucks. Wish there was more I could say.Anotherday at the TF household.So Mrs. TF while a very laid back wife, she is worrysome by nature....throw in the fact that the only thing she ever wants in life is to be a mom makes it really tough....add on the stress of work and trying to hit year end numbers....and we've got the stress trifecta.Any ideas out there? While, I would love to be in the spot to tell her that she can quit her job; we're just not there yet. I'm hoping that once she hits her contest at work, stuff will start to ease up...and she loves the holidays....so maybe that will be good....but I'm racking my brain thinking of things to help her out and am coming up empty.
Might not want to bet on this. Family holidays can be rough for people going through this. Good luck.
yeah i know that...but it's not like there are a bunch of babies running around in either of our families...so I think we're ok. And both families know what's going on, so they won't be constantly prying. That being said, maybe I'm just being optomistic.Thanks for the responses
My stuff isn't the issue, but thanks for the offer
Tests could lie, a real test would be the only way to know for sure.
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yeah, but Mrs. TF doesn't know how to relax....serioulsy.
If you start down the adoption path she will relax. Through adoption you ALWAYS get a baby in the end. theres no IF so theres no worry. then often while waiting for a baby through adoption women get pregnant. If so you put the adoption on hold and you can always come back to it later.
something to think about...thanks
I know people mean well when they say stuff like this, but frankly it gets annoying. How many times do you think an infertile couple has heard this? I know there are stories of how couples have conceived after adoption, but its not "inevitable" it will happen. From someone that's been there, it always sounded like, "Hey guys you know what you're doing wrong, blah blah blah." We heard this for 5 years straight, from all the outside well-wishers as well as tons of other "helpful hints". Finally you just say "yes, I have heard that, thanks!"
You're right. Conceiving while in teh adoption process is not inevitable. But you know what is ineveitable? getting a baby and becoming a parent. When you go down the adoption path there is a light at the end of the tunnel. You dont know how long the tunnel is but it is inevitable that at the end, they give you a baby (mine took 9 months domestically). At some point the question should be "Is not having a family an option?" if the answer is no, then adoption is a good path, not because one might get pregnant, but because one WILL get a baby.I know people mean well when they say stuff like this, but frankly it gets annoying. How many times do you think an infertile couple has heard this? I know there are stories of how couples have conceived after adoption, but its not "inevitable" it will happen. From someone that's been there, it always sounded like, "Hey guys you know what you're doing wrong, blah blah blah." We heard this for 5 years straight, from all the outside well-wishers as well as tons of other "helpful hints". Finally you just say "yes, I have heard that, thanks!"
If you're infertile, all the timing and temperature taking and whatever is not going to help. My point was simply that worrying in itself can be a cause of not getting pregnant. Also been there. Thanks for caring.I know people mean well when they say stuff like this, but frankly it gets annoying. How many times do you think an infertile couple has heard this? I know there are stories of how couples have conceived after adoption, but its not "inevitable" it will happen. From someone that's been there, it always sounded like, "Hey guys you know what you're doing wrong, blah blah blah." We heard this for 5 years straight, from all the outside well-wishers as well as tons of other "helpful hints". Finally you just say "yes, I have heard that, thanks!"
I think all he's trying to say is that everyone hears that relaxation is the key...but it's not that easy to flip the on/off relax switch especially when struggling with something as big as trying to have a baby. Your original post made it seem like it was easy for anyone just to stop worrying and "not try". I'm not saying that's what you meant to say, but that's how it came across.If you're infertile, all the timing and temperature taking and whatever is not going to help. My point was simply that worrying in itself can be a cause of not getting pregnant. Also been there. Thanks for caring.I know people mean well when they say stuff like this, but frankly it gets annoying. How many times do you think an infertile couple has heard this? I know there are stories of how couples have conceived after adoption, but its not "inevitable" it will happen. From someone that's been there, it always sounded like, "Hey guys you know what you're doing wrong, blah blah blah." We heard this for 5 years straight, from all the outside well-wishers as well as tons of other "helpful hints". Finally you just say "yes, I have heard that, thanks!"
I went through 5 years of trying. When I found a lump on my neck that the doctor thought was cancer, getting pregnant was the furthest thing from my mind. I had surgery to remove the lump. I was pregnant. It was a mixed blessing at the time...I had tried so long to get pregnant and then it happened at pretty much an inopportune time. Everything turned out fine but it was a very difficult pregnancy/year. I didn't say stop caring, just find a way to put your mind elsewhere for a bit. Best of luck.I think all he's trying to say is that everyone hears that relaxation is the key...but it's not that easy to flip the on/off relax switch especially when struggling with something as big as trying to have a baby. Your original post made it seem like it was easy for anyone just to stop worrying and "not try". I'm not saying that's what you meant to say, but that's how it came across.If you're infertile, all the timing and temperature taking and whatever is not going to help. My point was simply that worrying in itself can be a cause of not getting pregnant. Also been there. Thanks for caring.I know people mean well when they say stuff like this, but frankly it gets annoying. How many times do you think an infertile couple has heard this? I know there are stories of how couples have conceived after adoption, but its not "inevitable" it will happen. From someone that's been there, it always sounded like, "Hey guys you know what you're doing wrong, blah blah blah." We heard this for 5 years straight, from all the outside well-wishers as well as tons of other "helpful hints". Finally you just say "yes, I have heard that, thanks!"
It doesn't get annoying, it gets EXTREMELY annoying. My wife would about go completely nuts when people would say stuff like this after a while... but that doesn't mean it isn't completely accurate. We were just very careful about who we talked to about it, and made it clear to most that it wasn't a subject we were prepared to discuss. Early is right on the money with her statement - the trick is making it happen, which at best is extremely difficult to consciously achieve.I know people mean well when they say stuff like this, but frankly it gets annoying. How many times do you think an infertile couple has heard this? I know there are stories of how couples have conceived after adoption, but its not "inevitable" it will happen. From someone that's been there, it always sounded like, "Hey guys you know what you're doing wrong, blah blah blah." We heard this for 5 years straight, from all the outside well-wishers as well as tons of other "helpful hints". Finally you just say "yes, I have heard that, thanks!"
The major things are always what services are offered, their success rates and financing.Having gone through it before, I'd want to know what their standard protocol is, and how flexible they are in its application. For example, we went through one fertility center that wanted my wife to try a particular number of months on Clomid and then 3 IUI's before attempting IVF. We both thought that it was a waste of time given our history, but they insisted. It basically wasted a year and caused us a ton of stress before we switched.I'd also ask them what sort of informational programs they have--the place where we ended up doing the IVF was great...not only a class on the process, but instruction on the medication and how to give the shots (my wife didn't like injecting herself, so I had to give her two shots a day).
If you're doing IVF, you also want to know their position on how many embryos should be implanted, and their explanation of why. Same with 3-day versus 5-day incubation. These are issues that are more preferences of particular doctors or fertility centers, and some made more sense then others. Some countries don't allow multiple embryos to be implanted, and their success rates aren't all that different. Some US fertility centers will do up to 5 embryos at a time. Then you may be faced with whether you're going to reduce the number. Seems awfully tough, after trying so hard to conceive, to then make a decision to get rid of a viable embryo.
5 Weeks.
... although the no ovulation needs to be understood, if not solved.
... although the no ovulation needs to be understood, if not solved.
... although the no ovulation needs to be understood, if not solved.
