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Who knows hundreds of couples? Really? Hundreds?
Have 5 kids, coach 4 sports, and own a local business and get back to me.Who knows hundreds of couples? Really? Hundreds?
Free Life Advice:I'm in the idc about 90% of decisions camp. My wife insists that I do care and she's wants my input. I tell her what I think will help her make the quickest decision. Do I really care what color the kids' bathroom wall is painted? Not a bit.
You’ll have to ask her that for me as I can’t figure it out. But hey, at least I’ve come to not like them…But two dogs is one thing. Cocker spaniels? Why? The better dogs got taken?FWIW, wife wanted 6 kids. I wanted 2.Wife wanted 2 cocker spaniels, I wanted 0 cocker spaniels, so we compromised and got 2 cocker spaniels….obviously, you know how I voted…
At least cocker spaniels don’t go to college.
Yet another decision left to me tonight. See my wife suffers from the hot flashes and she said if I didn't turn on the AC there's a good chance I would die in my sleep. So I decided to turn the AC on.She decides when/if we have sex. Everything else is up to me.![]()
They’re the ones stacking menus.How many such people do you know? I've literally never met such a person, that I know of at least.This is a great point. I completely agree with this sentiment.I'm typically not friends with guys like that. Type A guys that feel like they need to make all decisions are usually, in my experience, huge ******** and not somebody I want to spend time with.
Huh. 80s wife posting on his acct?My wife and I equal. Certain decisions he has more sway
Or am I gay? nttawwtHuh. 80s wife posting on his acct?My wife and I equal. Certain decisions he has more sway![]()
Add that ultimately she ignores my input and goes with the first choice...Free Life Advice:I'm in the idc about 90% of decisions camp. My wife insists that I do care and she's wants my input. I tell her what I think will help her make the quickest decision. Do I really care what color the kids' bathroom wall is painted? Not a bit.
"No" to the first choice. "Yes" to the second choice.
It makes it look like you care.
Sadly, my wife caught on....
Congrats on the good news? Pregnant?Or am I gay? nttawwtHuh. 80s wife posting on his acct?My wife and I equal. Certain decisions he has more sway![]()
Or I had a very busy 4 days of job hunting and celebrated seemingly excellent news with some wine at dinner and was doing a poor job typing.
Better, on the verge of a 40% raise.Congrats on the good news? Pregnant?Or am I gay? nttawwtHuh. 80s wife posting on his acct?My wife and I equal. Certain decisions he has more sway![]()
Or I had a very busy 4 days of job hunting and celebrated seemingly excellent news with some wine at dinner and was doing a poor job typing.
If that were the case and this were such a dumb question, then why is the distribution of people casting actual votes split 50%/22%/28%?Might as well ask if water is wet @Anarchy99
Folks...when people say to you there's no such thing as a dumb question, I suggest you reflect on this thread and tell them they are incorrect.
If that were the case and this were such a dumb question, then why is the distribution of people casting actual votes split 50%/22%/28%?Might as well ask if water is wet @Anarchy99
Folks...when people say to you there's no such thing as a dumb question, I suggest you reflect on this thread and tell them they are incorrect.
Sorry you don't have any friends, nerd.Who knows hundreds of couples? Really? Hundreds?
I feel like hundreds of couples is a lot! Knowing them to the point you’re intimately aware who makes the decisions in the household?Sorry you don't have any friends, nerd.Who knows hundreds of couples? Really? Hundreds?
Let me explain the method behind the madness. Did I formally survey each couple and distribute a questionnaire and tabulate the responses? Of course not. But there is something to be said about deductive reasoning to draw more of a preponderance of the evidence style conclusion. Let's go over some examples . . .I feel like hundreds of couples is a lot! Knowing them to the point you’re intimately aware who makes the decisions in the household?Sorry you don't have any friends, nerd.Who knows hundreds of couples? Really? Hundreds?
Yeah I think that's natural, especially early on and when dating. I mean, sure I'm willing to go watch Love Actually with your annoying friends and then pay for dinner at a restaurant I don't really like because you're willing to try X in the bedroom tonight and that's all I'll be thinking about the entire time. But, as a now married guy for over 11 years where honestly my wife's libido is higher than mine and nothing is "new," I defer to her on the small things because I truly don't care.This is going to sound crude but others
have alluded to it. I think a lot of guys care more about getting laid than they do the place they eat so they acquiesce on many small things to ensure they have the best chance possible of that happening. I realize this doesn’t apply 100% but I think it’s a reality for a lot of men.
Yeah I think that's natural, especially early on and when dating. I mean, sure I'm willing to go watch Love Actually with your annoying friends and then pay for dinner at a restaurant I don't really like because you're willing to try X in the bedroom tonight and that's all I'll be thinking about the entire time. But, as a now married guy for over 11 years where honestly my wife's libido is higher than mine and nothing is "new," I defer to her on the small things because I truly don't care.This is going to sound crude but others
have alluded to it. I think a lot of guys care more about getting laid than they do the place they eat so they acquiesce on many small things to ensure they have the best chance possible of that happening. I realize this doesn’t apply 100% but I think it’s a reality for a lot of men.
*OG Woz on this board would be so mad if he read this.
I remember Otis positing on this board like 15 years ago that there are some nights he'd simply rather just go to sleep. I recall responding that I thought that was crazy and at the time I genuinely thought he was. Sadly, I now get it as most nights I'm so mentally tired from work and the stressors of the day that I'd rather just go to sleep.Yeah I think that's natural, especially early on and when dating. I mean, sure I'm willing to go watch Love Actually with your annoying friends and then pay for dinner at a restaurant I don't really like because you're willing to try X in the bedroom tonight and that's all I'll be thinking about the entire time. But, as a now married guy for over 11 years where honestly my wife's libido is higher than mine and nothing is "new," I defer to her on the small things because I truly don't care.This is going to sound crude but others
have alluded to it. I think a lot of guys care more about getting laid than they do the place they eat so they acquiesce on many small things to ensure they have the best chance possible of that happening. I realize this doesn’t apply 100% but I think it’s a reality for a lot of men.
*OG Woz on this board would be so mad if he read this.
If my wife’s libido was higher than mine we’d never leave the house.
I remember Otis positing on this board like 15 years ago that there are some nights he'd simply rather just go to sleep. I recall responding that I thought that was crazy and at the time I genuinely thought he was. Sadly, I now get it as most nights I'm so mentally tired from work and the stressors of the day that I'd rather just go to sleep.Yeah I think that's natural, especially early on and when dating. I mean, sure I'm willing to go watch Love Actually with your annoying friends and then pay for dinner at a restaurant I don't really like because you're willing to try X in the bedroom tonight and that's all I'll be thinking about the entire time. But, as a now married guy for over 11 years where honestly my wife's libido is higher than mine and nothing is "new," I defer to her on the small things because I truly don't care.This is going to sound crude but others
have alluded to it. I think a lot of guys care more about getting laid than they do the place they eat so they acquiesce on many small things to ensure they have the best chance possible of that happening. I realize this doesn’t apply 100% but I think it’s a reality for a lot of men.
*OG Woz on this board would be so mad if he read this.
If my wife’s libido was higher than mine we’d never leave the house.![]()
Yeah I always thought that's how I'd be and I was until my work hours shot up and we adopted the third and fourth kid.I remember Otis positing on this board like 15 years ago that there are some nights he'd simply rather just go to sleep. I recall responding that I thought that was crazy and at the time I genuinely thought he was. Sadly, I now get it as most nights I'm so mentally tired from work and the stressors of the day that I'd rather just go to sleep.Yeah I think that's natural, especially early on and when dating. I mean, sure I'm willing to go watch Love Actually with your annoying friends and then pay for dinner at a restaurant I don't really like because you're willing to try X in the bedroom tonight and that's all I'll be thinking about the entire time. But, as a now married guy for over 11 years where honestly my wife's libido is higher than mine and nothing is "new," I defer to her on the small things because I truly don't care.This is going to sound crude but others
have alluded to it. I think a lot of guys care more about getting laid than they do the place they eat so they acquiesce on many small things to ensure they have the best chance possible of that happening. I realize this doesn’t apply 100% but I think it’s a reality for a lot of men.
*OG Woz on this board would be so mad if he read this.
If my wife’s libido was higher than mine we’d never leave the house.![]()
I get it and does happen to me very, very rarely but at almost 50 I'm still ready to go daily/multiple times a day most of the time still.
My linkLove this thread. We're psychotic, so here's what we do:
1. Every year we list all the categories of things we need to do in our life, around Thanksgiving. Ranges from auto to laundry to healthcare (this year we'll add all the child related tasks for the first time at our little summit) and so on.
2. We independently list who we think is in charge and who should be in charge of every category
3. We compare notes. Everything we agree on gets locked and assigned, and then we discuss what's left. It's a funny mix of things neither one of us want to be in charge of and things both of us want to be in charge of. We divvy those up, generally using a mix of who is best suited and who cares most.
On ad hoc stuff, decisions tend to be made by the person who cares more.
Equity-wise, I'd say we're 50/50. Volume-wise, I think I've managed to get it set up where I make fewer bigger decisions and she has to deal with more of the little crap probably 60/40. That's not always fair to her, but also there are more little things IDGAF about and she does.