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Who knows how much you make? (1 Viewer)

shadyridr

shadyridr

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My BIL loves telling everyone how much he makes. Of course, everytime he says it its higher than the last time and he also likes to complain that he hasnt gotten a raise in years so not sure how thats possible. I never discuss my salary with anyone except my wife and my mom when she was alive. I just started telling my brother about some recent salary increases and bonuses I got because I was excited and wanted to share the good news with someone besides the wife. Also, I got a very large bonus this year and my wife told my in-laws who then proceeded to tell my SIL (the BIL wife). I was none too pleased.

 
It seems taboo to talk about salary for whatever reason. People at work know the range I land in. My wife should know the exact number, but probably doesn't. Given the first sentence of this post, no one else knows, but I don't keep it a secret. It just doesn't come up :shrug:

 
My dad, who is my employer. Nobody else. My wife knows a general figure which is not quite accurate. That's it.

I imagine my friends and outside family think I earn less than I do, but we don't ever discuss it. I have one friend who asks from time to time but I never answer.

 
To be honest, I don't even know how much it is until I do my taxes. I have a ballpark though. I think just my wife knows that. And this message board.

 
Just the wife, and I don't think she knows the exact amount, just a range. Some years bonuses are better or worse, so she doesn't know. I know around what she makes, same way.

Brings up another point. After 401k decisions and other withholdings, don't a lot of people "make" around the same ballparks? Like 50K, 80K, 120K, 180K. Who cares if its 88 or 115?

What's a "brag-worthy" number? 150+?

 
Wife only. My bil is a cop and loves to talk about his salary and OT. I don't understand what the point is. Do we say congratulations on your wealth or sorry you make so little?

Some things should remain private.

 
Only my wife knows. I assume she doesn't go around telling people. I was brought up that it's just not one of those things you discuss with people. I also don't discuss religion or politics for the most part.

 
My dad knows since he's my employer.. i'd gather my mom knows

My wife is so clueless about the money that i think she probably has a ballpark idea but doesn't know for sure... she just knows that according to me we're on the verge of going broke and thus should spend as little as possible and preferably none.

Bragging about yearly income is stupid.... bragging about 401k balances or net worths? that I'll participate in.

 
My wife knows.. Otherwise just the bank( mortgage through them) and now, because we are buying a new car, the local car dealership/Ford.. No one else needs to know.. :bye:

 
Dentist said:
My dad knows since he's my employer.. i'd gather my mom knows

My wife is so clueless about the money that i think she probably has a ballpark idea but doesn't know for sure... she just knows that according to me we're on the verge of going broke and thus should spend as little as possible and preferably none.

Bragging about yearly income is stupid.... bragging about 401k balances or net worths? that I'll participate in.
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Right, like what number is going to "impress" people? Probably why only the BIL types seem to discuss it.

 
the moops said:
how do spouses not know what each other make?
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I was defining the question as a yearly amount. I get paid by a bi-weekly base salary plus fee sharing (paid quarterly which varies) and other bonuses. And I have a second part-time job.

My wife knows what the bi-weekly pay is because she sees the direct deposit.

 
Grace Under Pressure said:
Dentist said:
My dad knows since he's my employer.. i'd gather my mom knows

My wife is so clueless about the money that i think she probably has a ballpark idea but doesn't know for sure... she just knows that according to me we're on the verge of going broke and thus should spend as little as possible and preferably none.

Bragging about yearly income is stupid.... bragging about 401k balances or net worths? that I'll participate in.
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Right, like what number is going to "impress" people? Probably why only the BIL types seem to discuss it.
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Whenever someone asks me what I make, I always inflate it by a ton. So I'll say something like: "Last year was a down year. Only made $275k."

The looks are priceless. Mainly because I look like what I really make. :lol:

 
Yesterday, I just looked at my work's intranet site to see what my salary was. I decided when you need to look up your salary you make too much money. When I was broke, I knew what I had to the penny.

 
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the moops said:
how do spouses not know what each other make?
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My wife isn't very good with numbers. It's definitely been discussed, but she's not going to remember.

Also, it's just not that important to her. I assume she knows a general range, but I'm not sure how close she'd get. I do the taxes and we don't have any pay stubs mailed to the house. Even if we did have them mailed, she probably wouldn't care to open it. And even if she did the taxes, again, she wouldn't remember the number.

My salary and bonuses are public record so anyone who knows my name can look it up.

 
ChiefD said:
Grace Under Pressure said:
Dentist said:
My dad knows since he's my employer.. i'd gather my mom knows

My wife is so clueless about the money that i think she probably has a ballpark idea but doesn't know for sure... she just knows that according to me we're on the verge of going broke and thus should spend as little as possible and preferably none.

Bragging about yearly income is stupid.... bragging about 401k balances or net worths? that I'll participate in.
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Right, like what number is going to "impress" people? Probably why only the BIL types seem to discuss it.
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Whenever someone asks me what I make, I always inflate it by a ton. So I'll say something like: "Last year was a down year. Only made $275k."

The looks are priceless. Mainly because I look like what I really make. :lol:
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:lmao:

 
Fennis said:
Yesterday, I just looked at my work's intranet site to see what my salary was. I decided when you need to look up your salary you make too much money. When I was broke, I knew what I had to the penny.
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If we're talking down to the dollar, I don't even know my own salary. If I had to give an exact answer, I'd have to look it up.

 
The Commish said:
It seems taboo to talk about salary for whatever reason. People at work know the range I land in. My wife should know the exact number, but probably doesn't. Given the first sentence of this post, no one else knows, but I don't keep it a secret. It just doesn't come up :shrug:
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This is me.
 
The Commish said:
So, why is it so taboo to talk about salary? Genuine question.
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Not sure it is taboo as much as people don't need to know.. Could be just me and my relationship with my family that makes me keep it "In house".

Mom has mooched off me too much, Dad always complains about how short on cash he is, and sisters.. don't even go there.. :rant:

So we do our best to make sure my family has no idea what so ever how much we make.. If asked we say "Doing just good enough to get by" and leave it at that.

 
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The Commish said:
So, why is it so taboo to talk about salary? Genuine question.
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Well, if you make a lot, you might look like a braggart if you discuss your salary.

If you are on the low end, you may be embarrassed.

But everyone in the middle should be wearing it on their t-shirt.

 
The Commish said:
So, why is it so taboo to talk about salary? Genuine question.
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At work creates jealousies about what folks think they're worth. Socially the same thing but for pettier reasons.

As far as who knows my management and my wife. Though anyone who bids work around here could back into my salary pretty easily if they chose.

 
SacramentoBob said:
My employer, all of my credit card companies and Mrs. SB.
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Oh, I would have said the underwriter who processed my most recent mortgage application... but she wouldn't count my bonuses or my self-employment income, which I have reported every year since 1990, so I'll say even the underwriter doesn't have the right number.

 
So, I can go with...society is completely screwed up in it's priorities in defining value :oldunsure: I've never attached my value/worth to my salary.

 
My boss and HR know at work. My investment guy knows or has access to see what I last told him. I am not even sure myself what the number is within $1,000. My wife does not know within $5k.

 
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The Commish said:
So, why is it so taboo to talk about salary? Genuine question.
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it's one of those topics that doesn't have a right answer like with many controversial religious/political topics.

Me: I make X

You: (in the back of your head of course) "wow, i can't believe he makes that much... WTF" or "wow, he works that hard and makes that little?" it's almost never going to be: "yup, sounds about right

 
Most everyone I know has a good idea, and vice versa.

But then I run with a lot of people in my industry.

 
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